His orgasms
When a man gets really turned on, he can have an orgasm – in other words, he can come, or climax.
When you’re aroused:
- You get an erection – your penis goes hard and gets bigger
- A clear fluid called pre-ejaculate comes out of the end of your penis
- Your breathing speeds up and you may even make noises
- Your pupils (the dark centre in your eyes) get bigger
Arousal often leads to an orgasm.
What happens when a man has an orgasm?
When a man gets really turned on, he can have an orgasm – in other words, he can come, or climax.
When you have an orgasm, your muscles contract and you ejaculate – a yellowish-white liquid comes out of your penis. Men often discover orgasms themselves when they start masturbating.
When a man comes while having intercourse, he usually stops moving back and forth. At this point, it’s usually too sensitive to move. After an orgasm, the head of the penis – the glans – becomes very sensitive. It can be very uncomfortable if you touch it.
Women, on the other hand, often enjoy it if the movement goes on for a little while after they’ve had an orgasm.
Sensitive spots
Your entire body is one big sensitive spot! But it feels particularly nice when certain parts of your body are touched – these are called erogenous zones. In men, it’s the penis and testicles, especially the head of the penis. But your neck, arms, chest, and buttocks are also sensitive.
Too fast?
Sometimes a man can reach orgasm too quickly during intercourse. This can be frustrating for you, and leave the woman feeling disappointed and unsatisfied. Both of you might feel that it was all over too soon.
Here are some tips to delay reaching a climax:
- Take a short break
- Switch your attention to other parts of your body
- Think about something other than sex
- Withdraw your penis from the vagina for a little while
- Squeeze the base of your penis underneath with your fingers
Another orgasm?
A man can’t have another orgasm straight away. A woman can – around 10 to 15 seconds after an orgasm her clitoris returns to its normal state.
Keeping in step
Do you find that you come more quickly than she does? That’s perfectly normal. Most men reach orgasm more quickly and easily than women.
A couple of tips to help keep in step with each other:
- Take time to build up your lovemaking. And ask your partner what she likes.
- Put her at ease so she can just let go and enjoy you touching her without always caressing you too. Show her that you also find it really arousing to see her enjoying your caresses.
Simultaneous orgasms
Did you both have an orgasm at the same time? You’ve been lucky! Usually, it’s not so easy to have a simultaneous orgasm. When you come, you’re usually thinking about yourself and not your partner.
If you manage to come at the same time it’s nice, but it can also be exciting to come one after the other. Then you can pay more attention to your partner and enjoy seeing them have an orgasm.
Afterplay
It’s nice to enjoy cuddling, caressing, and talking after making love. Afterplay is often particularly important for women.
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https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/sex-the-ins-and-outs-of-intercourse
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex
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Hi there, what you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
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https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-top-five-facts
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I recently started dating…
I recently started dating thi guy who is not circumcised never had one. He always cums so fast I end frustrated during sex? Is that happening because he is not circumcised?
Hey, the head of a…
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https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/circumcision
https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
I usually ejaculate…
I usually ejaculate immediately my girl touch my penis when we are still kissing why?
Hi there, What you…
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I have a problem every time…
I have a problem every time I have sex I don’t release or by chance I release after 40 minutes. What might be the problem. Help me get a solution.
Hi, what you are…
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Do women also ejaculate when a man ejaculates during sex?
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I musturbate more than once…
I musturbate more than once a day will it make me infertile when I want to get a child?
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How can I control my…
How can I control my ejaculation cos I always finish quickly
Hi Marvin, what you…
Hi Marvin, what you seem to be experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation. It means you usually get sexually excited too soon. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or even work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as one gets older and gain more experience, they also become better at controlling their ejaculation. There are a few other things one can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
I usually feel pain every…
I usually feel pain every time I get an erectioni can’t even have sex. Why does this happen?
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Dear Author, so sorry about this. Painful erections can be a sign erectile dysfunction especially if the pain is accompanied by other symptoms like in ability to get or maintain an erection. It is important that you seek the services of health provider who will be able to advice. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/four-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction
After ejaculation my penis…
After ejaculation my penis falls and yet my partner wants more. It refuses to get up for almost one hour why?
Dear Robbie, it is…
Dear Robbie, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where the penis cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.
My sperm is very light and…
My sperm is very light and it change color after sometime. How can I know if it is healthy?
Hi Freddy, you can’t really…
Hi Freddy, you can’t really tell if your sperm is healthy by just look at your semen. Semen should however be a sticky white liquid and this is what contains millions of tiny sperm cells. When exposes to light and over time it changes in color and texture. Have a look at the following articles for additional information;-
https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/ejaculation
https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/eight-tips-to-keep-your-sperm-healthy
I get erection when I…
I get erection when I romance with my girlfriend but my penis falls and sperm come out without entering hr vagina why? Is this sickness?
Hey Kionga, you seem to be…
Hey Kionga, you seem to be experiencing premature ejaculation. Premature Ejaculation is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. There are a few things he can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
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My boyfriend doesn’t orgasm…
My boyfriend doesn’t orgasm when he uses a condom sometimes his erection will go until he removes condom and we have sex without and then he will release. Is this normal or he is faking to have sex without condom? I fear diseases and pregnancy.
Hey Judy, I can’t tell if…
Hey Judy, I can’t tell if you he is faking but having unprotected sex exposes one to the risk of getting infected with a Sexually Transmitted Infection and unplanned pregnancy. If you are not certain about the status of your boyfriend and do not wish to get pregnant then using a condom each time you have sex will help ensure you are safe and that you prevent unplanned pregnancy. Also, while ejaculation maybe the goal during sex, partners can still enjoy sex without an orgasm. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/does-sex-feel-better-without-a-condom
Can’t wait to try this…
Can’t wait to try this awesome new tips with my man
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REALLY INTERESTING I LOVE IT
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WHAT MAKES MY HEART BEATS SO…
WHAT MAKES MY HEART BEATS SO FAST WHEN A MAN TOUCHES ME IS IT NORMAL
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Hello Precious, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. It is completely normal for your heart to beat fast when a man touches you. This is because mentally, the chemicals being released into your brain called endorphins are being released that make you feel aroused, excited, shy, and maybe nervous but again, this is completely normal dear.
Am 7 wks pregnant and my man…
Am 7 wks pregnant and my man is taking short time this is leaving me unsatisfied,after talking to him he says am too hot that awezi vumilia and he can’t control it plis help.
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Hi Sue, thank you for reaching out to us and we are sorry you are going through a hard time.
What he is experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety, or even stress. The anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men, it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.
There are a few things one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity of the penis.
In the long term, one can ensure they eat healthily and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.
The following articles provide more information;-
https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
Love Matters Team.
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Really motivating
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How can a lady know…
How can a lady know amerelease orgasm
Hi Edwinah,
When a woman…
Hi Edwinah,
When a woman has an orgasm, she has involuntary responses such as increased heartbeat, breathing may increase, curling of the toes or fingers, and moaning. Of course, different women will have different signs when having an orgasm.
Can masturbation cause…
Can masturbation cause infertility?
Hi Nathan,
No…
Hi Nathan,
No. Masturbation does not cause infertility.