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The miracle that is vagina

By Valentine Njoroge December 30, 10:53 am
Can the vagina get back to its size after having sex? What makes the vagina become large? Are there ways to keep it smaller?

Oh wow! It’s myth-busting time! The un-aroused vagina is between 2.5 and 3 inches long. Once aroused, it stretches to about 4 inches, and any additional stretching is in response to the size of the penis. This is why we can have great sex with men who have different sized penises. So the short answer: the vagina returns to size after sex.

Let’s flex

The vagina is a muscular tube surrounded by pubococcygeal (PC) muscles that start at the tip of your spine and stretch all the way to your pelvic bone. Strengthening these muscles is done through exercises that were formulated by a doctor named Arnold Kegel. They work to strengthen the walls of your vagina and give you better control of everything that involves your pelvis: from gyrating to urination to orgasm.

There’s one simple exercise you can begin with. The next time you are urinating, stop the flow of urine. The muscles you use to do this are the PC muscles and that’s what we want to strengthen. To exercise it, simply flex for about two seconds. You should feel a tightening going from your anus down to your vagina.

Your Kegel work-out should involve a minimum of two sets of 15 repetitions three times a week. After a few weeks, you can increase the number of repetitions and the frequency of your work-out.

And during sex, you can relax these muscles as the man pulls out and flex as he pushes in – you will then both experience more friction.

No to vagina tighteners

You must stay away from those so-called 'vagina tightening' soaps and lotions. They affect the vaginal lining, sometimes drying it out so that you get little cuts during sex and thus making you more prone to infections. Kegels are really the best way to firm and tighten your vagina.

As most fathers will attest, there are few things more wondrous than the vagina – how it expands for childbirth and then later shrinks back for pleasure. This is why all men who’ve visited keep applying for another visit.

Do you have questions about the vagina? Our discussion board moderators can tell you more about this miraculous organ. 

Did you learn something new?

Hi Linet, what is it that you are missing? Is he not attentive enough, or too fast? Have you ever made suggestions to him? Some men don't really know much about women's bodies, and are grateful for some suggestions along the lines of 'honey, I really love it when you touch me here'. You can even show him! For this, of course, you need to know what you want. Have you ever masturbated to get to know your body? Also, be proactive. For example, touch your own clitoris when you are on top. It might take some courage, but that way, you will get what you need. But most important is communication - if he doesn't know what you want and need, he won't be able to give it to you. So be brave, and tell him what you want! Does this make sense?
Hi Lucy, you can do the Kegel exercises Valentine describes in the article above. Also, is your partner paying attention to your clitoris? The majority of women doesn't get an orgasm through the in-and-out movement of sex alone. Tell him what turns you on. Of course, for that, you really need to know your body and what you want. Men sometimes are a bit confused when it comes to what women need, so you need to tell him what you want, and help him learn how to satisfy you. And by the way, a bigger or thicker penis doesn't mean more satisfaction- the size of the penis is not necessarily relevant for the female orgasm. Good luck and let us know how it goes!
Fri, 10/31/2014 - 06:05 pm
Hae there...i just broke my virginity in apri...i dnt feel anythin wid my guy..wat cud b de problem...then wen i stay for long widout hvin sex...its alwyz it normal????
Hi Cheryl, not feeling anything means that you probably don't have your clitoris stimulated. The in-and-out movement of intercourse doesn't make most women orgasm, they need their clitoris stimulated. Check out more about the clitoris here: And pain is quite common, unfortunately. This article might help you:
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