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Using sex toys: do’s and don’ts

Sex toys can be a welcome break from the monotony of a regular sex-life. Here’s our rundown of the things you should keep in mind when using toys.

  • Pay attention to the toy material

    While rubber and PVC toys are the cheapest, they tend to be risky because their pores allow for bacteria to breed when not properly sterilised. Silicon and glass toys, being non-porous, tend to be safer. Glass toys are getting popular because they are easy to wash as well and can be readily heated or cooled for some extra effects.

  • Wash before use and re-use

    Toys are fun but they may easily spread infections during sharing or re-use. This can be avoided by a few simple measures like washing the toy thoroughly before and after use with antibacterial soap and water, sterilising and using a condom on the toy, if possible.

  • Beware of the phthalates

    Different kinds of sex toys come with different amounts of phthalates – softening materials (with rubbery smells). It has been found to be potentially carcinogenic and harmful to reproductive health. So, before buying your sex toy, make sure you check for the phthalate content on the packaging.

  • Choose the right lube

    Toys are often used for penetration. Thus, it’s always advisable to have a lubricant handy to make the fun smoother. But choosing the right lube is as important as choosing the right sex toy. When using silicone toys, it’s best to stick to water-based lubes as silicone lubes can cause damage to silicone toys.

  • Go for a toy with a single vibrating range

    Vibrators are fun sex toys. But it’s important to know just how much vibration your body enjoys. It’s best to go for vibrators with a broad range of vibration modes so that you can tone it up or down.

  • Share it with anyone

    Sharing sex toys with others (even using it on the partner’s genitals after having used it on your own or vice versa) can be a gateway to acquiring an STI.

    Mindless sharing can be especially risky during casual flings and one-night stands. So, remember, clean before you share and share not if you trust not!

  • Ignore the width

    It’s important to be mindful of the width of your sex toy. Especially if it’s a butt-plug or a dildo that is going to be used for anal sex. Uncomfortably high widths may cause bleeding/other discomfort to the anus or to any other part for that matter. Discuss what you feel is a safe size, and test it out a bit.

  • Be afraid to think out-of-the-box

    Not all sex toys are sold in special and secret shops. Some of them maybe lying around right in your very house. Be inventive! But not too inventive at the same time, not everything is a sex object and the human body is the biggest sex object you have already.

    Do you have more tips to share on using sex toys? Share your comments below or write to us on Facebook. If you have a question, please visit our discussion forum.

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Recent Comments (10)

  1. Why going to that extend of…
    Why going to that extend of using toys,yet reasoning men are their for sex pleasure?.God was not mad to create aman/awoman!

    1. Hey Soera, These help to…
      Hey Soera, These help to spice things up alittle based on peoples preferences.

    2. well, its not all about a…
      well, its not all about a man or a woman its about pleasure.
      Everyone is based to their own opinion we learn to respect that.

  2. Men are many why not test…
    Men are many why not test and try both short and tallest

    1. Hi Lunar, What do you mean…
      Hi Lunar, What do you mean by tying short and tallest?

  3. How many times does one…
    How many times does one ejaculate during sex?

  4. Ma man cant go for even 2…
    Ma man cant go for even 2 minutes so i try atoy

    1. Hi Mary, 

      A toy is…

      Hi Mary, 

      A toy is definitely a great way to spice up your sex life if your man is not satisfying you as you’d like. You can also introduce him to toys and see whether he is happy to join the party! On the other hand, if he comes too soon, maybe in less than a minute, he could be suffering from erectile problems and may need to visit a doctor for treatment. 

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