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Sex toys: myths busted

By Lyandra D'souza March 11, 06:00 am
Most people hear about sex toys, but never buy one. This could be due to some of the myths floating around about them. Love Matters clears the air.
Sex toys are for losers

The general belief is that sex toys are for single people. However, couples tend to use sex toys as well in order to spice up their sexual activity. Using a sex toy doesn't mean you have a bad sex life. In fact, the use of vibrators, dildos and anal sex toys among others can help couples improve their sex lives and explore new ways of love making.

I can lose sensitivity because of sex toys

This is a general doubt women have with using vibrators and dildos. There's no real research to show that clitoral stimulation using sex toy could lead to desensitization permanently. Depending on what toy you use and how you use it, there's a chance that you might feel a bit of temporary desensitization.

I'll never reach an orgasm any other way any more

Using sex toys doesn't mean you won't be able to reach orgasm any other way. A study done in the US in the late 90s, found that 50 per cent of the women who used vibrators to reach an orgasm also masturbated in other ways. So don't worry too much about getting addicted to the vibrator, it's not a real person after all!

Sex toy means I don't need a partner

Toys can't replace having a person in bed! They can't hug or kiss you, whisper in your ear or tell you that they love you. They can't tell you a joke or listen to your stories of all that happened during the day. So, as real as the fear seems, sex toys can't replace a real human being!

My partner needing a sex toy means there's something wrong with me

Studies have actually shown that those who use sex toys often report more orgasms and greater satisfaction in their sexual relations. Sexual exploration through these toys can lead to greater arousal and more fantasies. They can also help you learn how to be a better lover as well as learn more about your own sexual responses.

Sex toys are always unsafe

You get what you pay for. While it's not necessary that you buy the most expensive toys out there, it is recommended that you stay away from the cheaper ones that do not use good quality materials or are constructed poorly. Do your research carefully before buying your toy. Check for high-quality design and material that is not likely to malfunction and harm you. Taking proper care of your toys is also important in order to prevent bacteria from building up. Keep them in a clean dry place, wash them with soap or an antibacterial cleaner and store them carefully.

Sharing sex toys can't lead to STIs

If you're planning to share your toy with someone, it's important that you use necessary protection because using a dildo or a vibrator with other people could expose you to the risk of STIs. You need to use condoms if you're sharing sex toys and replace them with fresh ones every time you swap. Once you're done, don't forget to wash the dildo or the vibrator with a suitable disinfectant.


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Did you learn something new?

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 03:21 pm
I appreciate but for me I think getting one means you are missing something. because if you have all you need in bed you can't buy one. Let us just accept that something is missing and we do something about it
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