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Why are men so obsessed with penis size?

And: what exactly is a big penis? Does big translate to good in bed? Is it wrong to want it to be bigger? Let’s see if we can answer these questions!

Nigeria is generally a conservative country. And most young people have been taught to not question things too closely. The idea is just to accept most things and move on, especially when it related to sex.

A lot of Nigerian women are in sexually frustrating marriages and instead look to their children for fulfilment. Some have never even experienced an orgasm.

Not talking about sex is bad. This mindset is gradually changing with the younger generation. They are more curious, ask more questions, demand more answers.
One of these deep questions is how the size of a guy’s penis affects the way he performs in bed and what chics tend to prefer. For young people who grew up in a conservative environment, the mere thought of talking about something this… personal is weird, but it doesn’t stop them from wondering about it anyway.

Let us hear what some young folks have to say about this issue.

Big D, big O
A lot of girls find it difficult to reach the ‘promised land’ during sex through penetrative sex alone, which makes them want to go for the big dick guy who supposedly has a better shot at getting them to the big O.
On the part of the guys, this female preference makes them scramble to get bigger. Like, what guy doesn’t like it when a female screams ‘zaddy’ in bed? It does a lot for the male ego.

Miriam
It’s how you use it
Big D, big O? Nah. This school of thought is erroneous and has messed up the things that should be prioritized when it comes to satisfying sex.

According to me, it is not about the size, but more about how good the guy is with what he has.

But alas! Some ladies believe otherwise and men tend to act based on what the fairer sex believes.

Tolani
Size isn’t revelant
I think size is not relevant in sex, at least not as relevant as the skill with which the penis is wielded. I think Nigerian guys are obsessed with size because it is believed to be a slight on their manhood if a girl comments unfavorably about the size of their penis.

On the other hand, this issue is relative: girls tend to judge these things by past experiences. Penises are compared to what they have seen before, not necessarily by any medical standard.

Philipp

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Big penis can hurt
I’m a medical doctor. Men are obsessed with bigger dicks the same way women want tighter vaginas. They are just psychological fears of being not good enough, passed down over the years.
But the same way a guy with huge muscles or deep pockets is seen as an alpha male is the same way guys with bigger dicks are seen as alpha males. Porn videos are not helping matters either.

In reality, big dicks are usually uncomfortable for women.

Abiodun

So, it seems that the size of a guy’s penis does not matter so much as how he uses it during sex. I believe a lot of people know this, but it does not stop girls from shaming guys with supposedly small dicks. And it doesn’t stop guys from going to extremes, some quite unhealthy and dangerous, to get their members to increase in size.

This seems to be an issue of the mind, the way we have been conditioned to think.
It starts inside and if we can change that, we could affect changes outwardly. Ladies, give that shy guy with the supposedly tiny penis a chance, he might surprise you. And guys, do not harm yourself just so you can impress a girl with the size of your package, be proud of what you have and learn to use it well instead.

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