Premature ejaculation: top five facts
Premature ejaculation (PE) is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions among men. PE is bad news for everyone involved.
What is premature ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation (PE) is when a man orgasms uncontrollably, either before or shortly after sexual stimulation begins and sometimes with little or no physical contact.
With premature ejaculation, the orgasm – lovemaking’s golden moment – becomes an unwanted, unwilled visitor who spoils the sexual experience and leaves both partners unsatisfied. PE is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions among males, affecting nearly every man at some point in his life.
What causes premature ejaculation?
PE may result from both physical and psychological problems, though it is usually difficult to find a clearly discernable cause. PE is most often the scourge of the young and inexperienced, men who tend to cum prematurely because of the nervousness they feel about how well they will perform. With experience and age men usually learn how to control (to some extent) ejaculation, but this isn’t always the case.
Other psychological factors that can cause PE include: a religious background in which sex is stigmatised, work-related stress and anxiety, guilt, depression, or past sexual trauma. Physical causes may include: an oversensitive glans penis (the top part of the penis), hormonal problems, past injuries, drug side-effects or neurological disease. In some cases, PE is simply caused by disinterest, or lack of attraction, for a sexual partner.What can you do?
In many cases, PE declines as a man accumulates sexual experience and gains control over his ejaculation, much as children eventually gain control over their bladder during toilet training. Using relaxation or distraction techniques during sex can help delay orgasm, but the best way to gain mastery over ejaculation is by identifying the sensations that signal an approaching orgasm and communicating with your partner to tone down stimulation for a while.
Using a condom or numbing creams and gels, which reduce sensation, is another option. You could also experiment with different positions, or speak to your doctor about medications that may help treat PE.Premature ejaculation isn’t good for either partner
There’s no doubt about it: premature ejaculation is bad news for your sex life. If a man is always worried about ejaculating too soon, it’s going to be difficult for him to relax and fully enjoy the lovemaking experience. But his partner is also left unsatisfied, especially if the man is so focused on delaying ejaculation that he ignores his partner’s sexual needs. For them, not only does the party end right after it starts, but they also might feel neglected if all of their lover’s attention is devoted to delaying ejaculation. As a result, both parties are left unsatisfied, and if this goes on long enough the couple may begin to avoid lovemaking, and even intimacy in general.
Men are not the only ones
According to a recent study in Portugal – the first and only study on female PE – it’s not only men who find themselves ejaculating prematurely. A recent survey of women in Portugal found that 40 per cent of those surveyed occasionally orgasm faster than they intend to during sex, while about 3 per cent met the criteria for being described as having a PE dysfunction.
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Recent Comments (95)
do groundnuts have any help
do groundnuts have any help on matters to do wth sex?
Groundnuts are a good source
Groundnuts are a good source of proteins which our body needs for different activities including sex.
can one hav sex 4 almost an
can one hav sex 4 almost an hour
Yes David, two people can
Yes David, two people can have sex as long as they want and are able to.
How to stop musturbation
How to stop musturbation
Hi Kaki,
Hi Kaki,
you just need to make sure you believe you an stop.
Reduce the number of times you masturbate systematically until you are able to stop completely. This might take time so you also need to be patient.
thax admin but i want u to
thax admin but i want u to tell mi about the merits and de-merits of having daily masturbation
Hi Jeff,
Hi Jeff,
research has shown that it can help relieve stress, lift your mood up and give you good health. Unless one is addicted to masturbation, which is rare. There are no negative effects to it. Read some more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
noooo the negative part is
noooo the negative part is that you lose strong erections as normal
Hi Daniello that is just a
Hi Daniello that is just a myth.
Thanks alot.
Thanks alot.
You are welcome Milton.
You are welcome Milton.
whenever i go through sexual
whenever i go through sexual intercours i olways ejacklates very fast what could be the problem
Hi Okiror,
Hi Okiror,
It sounds as though you have premature ejaculation. Read this article and it will help answer your question https://lovematters.co.ke/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts .
does it mean that ejaculation
does it mean that ejaculation is wat brings sexual pleasure? what i ejaculate after Penetration and i prolong the sex duration?
Hi Benxon,
Hi Benxon,
Read this article on premature ejaculation to have a better understanding about it https://lovematters.co.ke/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts .
I have been murstubating for
I have been murstubating for ten years now and I come to know that my erection don’t go hard during sex with my wife am now using Viagra…will they harm me in future?pliz help..
Hi Jaras all drugs have side
Hi Jaras all drugs have side effects and therefore its best to always see a doctor before using to avoid wrong use of them.
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gud wrk
Thanks Liks 🙂 .
Thanks Liks 🙂 .
Thanks Liks 🙂 .
Thanks Liks 🙂 .
thank you so much, i was one
thank you so much, i was one of the victims
You are welcome Anthony.
You are welcome Anthony.
how can i hav a big penis my
how can i hav a big penis my is 3inch please help
Check out these two articles
Check out these two articles they will help answer tour question. https://lovematters.co.ke/news/penis-size-myths-busted .
https://lovematters.co.ke/news/six-myths-about-increasing-penis-size .
How can i know that my
How can i know that my partner is unsatisfied after a sexual intercourse?
Hi Patrick, you could always
Hi Patrick, you could always ask them. Communication helps a lot in any relationship.
my penis keeps on decreasing
my penis keeps on decreasing these days I don’t no the root cause help
Hi Micheal, the penis does
Hi Micheal, the penis does not decrease in size. Only when the body is increasing in size and it may make the penis look smaller.
Masturbation will increase
Masturbation will increase the time of intercouse because one learns to control their physical stimulation, try it. It has no harm at all. But if and when you have a partner, have as much sex as you can.
Thank you Pattman for your
Thank you Pattman for your support and input. We appreciate.
Sometimes not long after sex
Sometimes not long after sex i ejaculate i try to stop but it cant, i used to start doing sex without a condom then when i was about to ejaculate the stop to insert a condom now when i do it its like my partner gets cold adn does not feel sexually aroused as before, what can i do
Hi Pitso, you can try to use
Hi Pitso, you can try to use masturbation as a way of practicing how to hold your ejaculation.
Can a lady get pregnant with
Can a lady get pregnant with PE
Yes Herbert, a lady can get
Yes Herbert, a lady can get pregnant as long as there is ejaculation.
Do popcorn hove something to
Do popcorn hove something to do about sex
In what capacity? There
In what capacity? There nutrition value or?
wat can idu 2 bcm prgnant
wat can idu 2 bcm prgnant
Hi Matha check out this
Hi Matha check out this article and find out https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/getting-pregnant .
I exprience PE while having
I exprience PE while having sex and immediately thereafter, erection completely failed. What was the problem?
Hi Bulalo, it normally takes
Hi Bulalo, it normally takes time for one to regain an erection after ejaculation. There is nothing wrong with that.
So even if i go for a half
So even if i go for a half ashort and am done that is premature plz help me
What is it that you consider
What is it that you consider to be half a short?
I mean when am doing sex with
I mean when am doing sex with my pertner idont even finish the first round am done..which madicine availabe can i use to regain my sex power
Hi Shem check out this
Hi Shem check out this article on premature ejaculation and find out more.
how can you knw if your
how can you knw if your partner is cheating on you or is having sex else where what are the tips..?
Hi Fancy, check out this
Hi Fancy, check out this article and find out.
am always masturbating almost
am always masturbating almost every night and I love it but some times I get scared coz doctors say it’s bad
Hi Travis , there is nothing
Hi Travis , there is nothing wrong with masturbation especially when you can control when you want to stop. Being addicted is the only down side to it.
Is there any treatment or
Is there any treatment or medicine for PE
Yes Shem, there is treatment
Yes Shem, there is treatment for PE but its has to be given by a doctor after doing a diagnosis. Read some more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts .
Sur i have gone through this
Sur i have gone through this study can i get any madicine or treatment icant do musturbation …thankyou
Hi Shem, check out this
Hi Shem, check out this article to learn all about it https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
I do take a longer tyme b4 I
I do take a longer tyme b4 I enjaculate untill even my girl do complains that I don’t love her and she tells me that mine is excess that she gets tired before I ejaculate ,Is it normal,!??
Hi Mert. it is not common
Hi Mert. it is not common with most men but it is normal. You need to talk with your partner and find out ways of pleasing you that won’t hurt her like helping you masturbate of being gentle with her.
My boyfriend wants to have
My boyfriend wants to have sex with me but I am not ready until marriage,what should I do because I love him so much?
Hi Nina, you should stick to
Hi Nina, you should stick to your values. If he loves you genuinely he will wait. Relationships are about much more than just sex.
How long should good sex
How long should good sex activity take? Without using drugs.
Hi there check out this
Hi there check out this article to learn more on love making https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/making-love .
Can addiction to masturbation
Can addiction to masturbation decreases body wait n PEa
Masturbation cannot reduce
Masturbation cannot reduce one’s body weight Brownie.
one xpirience PE if he took
one xpirience PE if he took long for next intercourse, especialy patners meetn after long period
HI Oscar that is a
HI Oscar that is a possibility but its not true to all people.
Your tips are nice ones.But,.
Your tips are nice ones.But,… I aso have experienced a few down falls as far as PE applies.Some times I can ejaculate my wife for over an hour and end up not finishing the game,the ‘cork’ flattens and even get tired as if I’m done.What can I do?
Hi,
Hi,
That sounds more like a psychological issue. You need to try and concentrate more on your partner and the pleasure during sex. It helps.
Fact: if you drink your
Fact: if you drink your fathers ejaculate you will cure premature ejaculations.
Hi Loco,
Hi Loco,
Which research backs ups what you are saying?
Is there any food you can
Is there any food you can consume to curb PE
Hi John,
Hi John,
PE is mostly psychological and its felt with as such. Some times it can be physically and a doctor can prescribe medication. But having a good healthy balanced diet always helps in improving all body functions.
if a man/boy has dat problem…
if a man/boy has dat problem,his girl frd won’t run away frm him?
Hi there, sex is an…
Hi there, sex is an important part of a relationship and so this can happen but people are also drawn to each for other reasons. They can therefore agree to work on this problem together. Check out a few things that one can do to address premature ejaculation;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
Growing I masturbated alot…
Growing I masturbated alot more than 3 times a day some times 5 or more times. I am now married and I no longer masturbate but my wife is not pregnant and we have been trying for more than 1 year now. The lack of a child is now putting pressure on both of us but we have not decided how to handle the issue. Has the many years of masturbation left me infertile? Please help.
Hi Job, first masturbation…
Hi Job, first masturbation doesn’t lead to infertility regardless of how long a person has been doing it. This is just a myth. If a person’s reproductive organs are health, they will continue to produce sperm. On the other hand however, if you have been trying to get pregnant for longer than a year, it is important that you seek the services of a Specialist Gynecologist. They will be able to carry out tests as necessary and advice you and your partner on what to do. We wish you well, have a look at the following articles for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted
https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts
IS THERE ANY MEDICINE FOR…
IS THERE ANY MEDICINE FOR THIS PREMATURE EJACULATION?
Hey, it is important to…
Hey, it is important to think about what could be causing the Premature Ejaculation before considering possible treatment of steps to address it. This is because it is caused by a number of issues including psychological issues.Have a look at the following for more information on some of the things one can do to address it;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
Is masturbating a crime…
Is masturbating a crime please ?
Hey Triple E, masturbation…
Hey Triple E, masturbation is not a crime. Also, masturbation has no medical effect. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-your-burning-questions-answered
admin please how do i stop…
admin please how do i stop watching porn?
Hi Dwayne, it is important…
Hi Dwayne, it is important to find out what is the root cause of the addiction and then clean up your environment. Remove anything that leads you back to porn. It is also important that you try and fill up your leisure time with more productive activities which may include spending time with your friends. Have a look at the following article for additional tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/porn/porn-addiction-what-you-can-do-about-it
When I have sex, I cum…
When I have sex, I cum within 3 minute and my girlfriend don’t like it… what can I do
Hi Kelvin, you are…
Hi Kelvin, you are experiencing premature ejaculation and this can be addressed by afew things. Check out the following article for tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
Please which drug is safe…
Please which drug is safe for PE.
Hello Iceking, treatment for…
Hello Iceking, treatment for PE is depended on what is causing it, drugs are not the solution in all instances. Some of the causes can be psychological while others maybe physiological. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
what are the effects of not…
what are the effects of not making love for a long time?
Hello Nash, thank you for…
Hello Nash, thank you for your question. Studies have shown that people who do not have regular sex suffer anxiety and stress, and also a bad memory. Regular sex also helps boost the immune system. Studies have also found that in men people who have less sex are more likely to get prostate cancer.
I have never had sex since I…
I have never had sex since I was born,could that be the reason for my small dick?
But still,I have been masturbating,could it be the reason for my small dick?
Hello Malachi, thank you for…
Hello Malachi, thank you for your question. There is no evidence that having regular sex has an effect on your penis size. This article has some great information on penis size myths.
https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/penis-size-myths-busted
At which age does ur penis…
At which age does ur penis stop growing?
Hello Malachi, typically the…
Hello Malachi, typically the penis will be fully developed by the time they are 21.
What are some of the pill…
What are some of the pill can I take to help me with PE that don’t have severe side effects
Hi Jeff! Thank you for…
Hi Jeff! Thank you for reaching out to us. We’re afraid treating PE is not as simple as just taking a pill. In order to treat it correctly, now must first understand why it is happening. Premature Ejaculation is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.
There are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis.
In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.
The following articles provide more information;-
https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
I have done it more than…
I have done it more than 5year and now i want to stop
Hello Brian, thank you for…
Hello Brian, thank you for reaching out to us. If you are absolutely sure you want to stop, you should know that it will not be easy. This is because sex leads to the release of endorphins which is better known as the pleasure hormone. Second, masturbation has now become part of your arousal template which is the total amount of thoughts, activities, stimuli, smells etc. that arouse a person sexually.
To stop masturbating, you will need to identify the things that lead you to masturbate like seeing something, or just boredom. Also, when you get the urge to masturbate occupy yourself with another activity.
Please note that it could take you 21 days to 6 months to work on this and it might not work. If you are really committed, try and find a counselor or a therapist to help you through. Good luck!
Hey,,how. Can one control…
Hey,,how. Can one control abnormal errections,??!
Hello Denni, there are three…
Hello Denni, there are three types of erections. psychogenic, – are caused by what a person sees or imagines. reflexogenic,- come as a result of being touched or physically stimulated and nocturnal erections that happen at night because of interactions between hormones and the central nervous system. What you are experiencing is a mixture of psychogenic and reflexogenic erections. In both cases, you need to identify the triggers and avoid them. When relationships are new, it is natural that you will have an intense physical attraction to each other and want to express that sexually. Another way of avoiding these erections is to try and change focus, take deep breaths, try and calm down, and maybe shift your standing or sitting position.