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Alphonce Omondi

In love with a lesbian

There’s a girl I love. I want her in my life but she doesn’t want that because she is a year older and a lesbian. We go out to lunch, dinner… Please, I need your help!

Rejection hurts

Aaaawww honey, I am so sorry. The pain of unrequited love is singular and unique. You waffle between adoration for the apple of your eye, and anger laced with a desire to hurt her as she is hurting you through her constant affectionate-meal-eating rejection. You live in a state of semi-horniness when you are around her waiting for her to touch you, and you watch like a hawk for any indication that she might love you too. It is a version of hell made just for you by you.

Because we all love attention and adoration this woman might even flirt with you to keep you and your googly eyes around. We can all be very mean and cruel.

She’s not interested in sex with you

You have to choose to be kind to yourself and that starts by accepting what is happening, instead of what you dream or wish would happen. She is a lesbian and this means she does not have sex with men, nor does she desire to. You say she doesn’t want to be with you ‘simply because’ and I wish you would listen to your own words. It is simple: lesbians do not date men. She also does not date people who are younger than her.

You cannot become a woman, nor can you age a year or two just to be with her.

Have some distance

She claims to be your friend so how about you tell her how you feel and ask her to support you in changing your relationship. You should create some distance between you for a few months. Hang out with different people, have sex and share meals with others… and get over her in the process.

In a few months, or a year you might find that you can hang out with her and reshape your relationship in a new way.

Sorry, this will hurt like hell… Losing a friend and someone you love is never easy. But remember, you are strong and this too shall pass.

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Recent Comments (19)

  1. in my lf i ever meant with
    in my lf i ever meant with any woo i can feel’i got admire a wife of other what it a matter i need help’

    1. Kimo,

      do you mean you always like people who are already in relationships?

  2. Lesbian I Heard Stories About
    Lesbian I Heard Stories About Them Is That,they Dated With others Ladies Of Their Age…Lo! My View Is That Onces A Lesbian Always A Lesbian.

    1. We agree- sexual orientation
      We agree- sexual orientation can’t be changed or impacted in any way.

  3. what could be the problem of
    what could be the problem of early satisfaction in man during sex

  4. We need to study things
    We need to study things before moving on cause this is not relatoinship but its now relationshit

    1. Why do you think that, George
      Why do you think that, George?

  5. am in love with a guy whom we
    am in love with a guy whom we met on facebook he claims that he love me too but the problem is he never talk about anything serious. What do i do? is he still loves his ex.

    1. Joyce,

      how do you know that he still loves his ex?

  6. leave the relationship
    leave the relationship laibian is always reminds alaibian don’t need to even to stress ur self be free

    1. Thanks for your comment,
      Thanks for your comment, Triza.

  7. It may be a waste of time to
    It may be a waste of time to fall in love with a lesbian

    1. If you are heterosexual, then
      If you are heterosexual, then you are right indeed.

  8. Love Matters, your advice is
    Love Matters, your advice is stupid. Valentine Njoroge, you can love someone without needing to be in their pants. Be happy and content you have a awesome friend in your life to share some meals with.

    1. Hi,


      No one disapproves that Grod. The article shows one has the freedom of choice. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. We appreciate your input.

  9. Hey Paul, what do you mean?

    Hey Paul, what do you mean?

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