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Is my partner a virgin?

Many people think that you can tell whether someone is a virgin or not. However, this is a myth. The only way to know if someone is a virgin is by asking them!

If you do not trust their answer, then you might have bigger relationship problems. Trust is a key factor to a healthy and happy relationship.


‘You can tell from a woman’s hymen whether she’s a virgin or not.’
Not even an experienced doctor can tell for sure if a woman is a virgin by looking at her hymen or vagina.

‘A man can feel if a woman is still a virgin.’
Men who say they can feel if a woman is a virgin don’t know what they’re talking about. If a doctor can hardly ever tell for sure whether a woman is a virgin or not, there’s no way a man could really be able to feel it.
During sex, a man can tell if a woman is tense. If a woman is nervous or scared, she unconsciously tenses her vagina. This makes the opening of the vagina feel tight.

How can I prove I’m a virgin?

You can't really. Even for experienced doctors, it can be impossible to tell for sure whether or not a woman has had a penis in her vagina. But sometimes, for one reason or another, a woman’s prospective in-laws doubt that she’s a virgin. And some doctors don’t even mind selling ‘virginity certificates’. But while those certificates can save some trouble, they aren't proof that someone is a virgin.

Did you learn something new?


Hi Eric, 

So sorry to hear about that. It could be that you have erectile problems. Read this article to learn about signs of an erectile problem: 4 signs of erectile dysfunction also read this one about the steps you can take: What to do if you have erectile dysfunction

In the end, you need to visit a doctor for tests and treatment. Hoping you can get the help you need for a fulfilling sex life.  

Hi Yvonne, First not all ladies will feel pain during the first time they have intercourse, one because they hymen which is the thick skin covering part of the vaginal opening may already have been stretched and also if she has been well prepared meaning the vagina is wet enough and she is relaxed, it makes penetration is easier and enjoyable for both partners. Many ladies will be ready to have sex again on the same occasion meaning they are able to move past what was the pain but if one is uncomfortable it is best to wait until they feel ready. Check the following article for more information;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/virginity/busting-the-hymen-myth
Hi Effie, You would have to rely on what he tells you. You cant tell any other way, infact even for a woman you really can't tell i she is a virgin not even a doctor might.
Kelvin Kariukim
Thu, 01/11/2018 - 12:46 am
Hi Shiks, virginity is considered broken or lost when one breaks the hymen through penetration by the penis. However the Hymen which is a thin membrane inside the vagina can be broken through different ways like, vigorous exercise, bike riding, swimming among other ways. Find out some more here https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/virginity/female-virginity-top-five-facts .
Mon, 02/26/2018 - 07:43 pm
John, you really can't if your partner is a virgin other than them telling you, especially because not all women/girls will bleed the first time they have sex. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/virginity/busting-the-hymen-myth
Hello Barlen, from a purely medical standpoint, however, sex during menstruation is completely normal. It even has a lot of benefits for both partners. It does not affect any effects to the penis. Check out this article for more: https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/female-body/sex-during-your-period-top-five-facts
Hey Shan, Masturbation is one of the safest, easiest forms of sex. It's about getting to know your body and your likes and dislikes. Read this article for more information:https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-top-five-facts-part-1
Hi Micky, pain can be caused by a number of things including a lack of or insufficient foreplay or the sex position. Have a look at the following articles for somethings you can do to address this;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/painful-sex-time-to-listen-up https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms

Hi Sarah, Different people define virginity differently. The common definition is however has to do with whether a person has had vaginal intercourse or not. This then means if one has not had vaginal intercourse, then they are still a virgin. Have a look at this article for additional information;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/virginity/female-virginity-top-five-facts 

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