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How can you improve sex with a condom?

The way to enjoy sex with a condom is getting plenty of variety into your lovemaking. Are condoms a damper? There are ways to maximize your pleasure.

If you just stick to straight intercourse and not much else, you’re more likely to end up wishing the rubber wasn’t there.

To put it simply, guys who get a blow-job or hand-job too are more likely to be happy about intercourse with a condom, a US study of 1875 men reported. The more ways a man is stimulated outside of intercourse itself, the more likely he is to feel good about condom sex. And giving his partner a good time through oral copulation or by hand is a pleasure booster for him too.

Comfy condoms

Men in the study kept daily diaries recording details on when they had sex, how good it was and when they used a condom. Researchers then analysed the 5249 times these men had vaginal sex with a condom what it was that made sex with a condom great – or less than great.

For one thing, the condom needs to be comfortable.

So it’s worth trying out different condoms to see what suits you best. Don’t just grab the first pack off the shelf, but experiment with different sizes and different materials to find what suits you best.

And make sure you put them on properly too for maximum pleasure.

Her pleasure

Of course, the intercourse itself matters too. The more intense it is and the longer it lasts, the more guys say they like it, researchers found. And obviously, they’re happy if they have a great orgasm.

But guys are also more likely to enjoy sex if they feel their partner is having a good time, the study found. They get lots of pleasure from giving their partner oral sex. And if intercourse is uncomfortable for her, he’ll enjoy it less.

Sex spoilers

In fact, guys are more worried about their partner’s discomfort than their own during sex with a condom. It seems the more pleasure the girl gets from sex, the better the guy will feel about the lovemaking experience.

Apart from worrying about the girl’s pleasure, problems getting hard are the second most likely sex spoiler a guy – and fretting about whether his penis is hard or wide enough.

Full package

The older a guy is, the more likely it is that he’ll enjoy vaginal sex with a condom, the study found. But that probably doesn’t really have much to do with either age or condoms, the researchers say. It’s just that older guys are more likely to be feeling comfortable in a long-term relationship, and that helps make them feel more sexually satisfied.

All in all, there are a lot more factors affecting how much a guy enjoys sex than just whether or not he wears a condom, the study concludes. Sexual pleasure is about the full package.


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    1. Thanks for sharing your
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts Ritchie.

  1. How do i find those varieties
    How do i find those varieties of condoms

    1. You can get condoms in
      You can get condoms in pharmacies, supermarkets or even retail shops.

  2. for those who does not trust
    for those who does not trust each other hence use condoms but for me i prefer 2 tel my partne not 2 west his money in de name of buyiny condoms coz i prefer 2 take de risk becose of de love i have 4r him so for me wat see is dat those dat use condomes are

    1. Thanks for sharing your
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.

  3. I fail tu erect wherever I
    I fail tu erect wherever I use condom..

  4. it’s nt emust tw uz a condom
    it’s nt emust tw uz a condom so lng az yuw lv smone,dtz ol”

    1. Thanks for sharing. Its good
      Thanks for sharing. Its good to note that condoms are also used as a form of contraceptive apart from preventing infections.

  5. condoms r for the unfaithful
    condoms r for the unfaithful or thse who aint married,i personally use them if i cheat…

    1. Hi Henry,

      Hi Henry,

      There are couples who are faithful to each other and they use condoms as a mode of contraceptive. They are meant to not only protect from infections but also prevent unintended pregnancy.

  6. Whenever i use condoms, i
    Whenever i use condoms, i take long to ejaculate or else i get off without ejaculating, so what can i do?

    1. Hi Lemi,

      Hi Lemi,

      Check out this article to find out what you can do.

  7. Jus the thought of condoms
    Jus the thought of condoms makes me dry. Can’t have sex with another man because I go live and just withdraw.

    1. Thanks for sharing your story
      Thanks for sharing your story with us Cory.

  8. i have never done sex is
    i have never done sex is there any effect?

    1. There is nothing wrong with
      There is nothing wrong with that Job. Its perfectly safe and normal.

  9. Life saver,no more regreats…
    Life saver,no more regreats,enjoyable &safe sex,even for the married couples best of all (note that all) for family planning methods.

  10. Hi Soera,…

    Hi Soera,

    Thanks for taking time to share your thoughts with us. 

  11. I don’t like condoms because…
    I don’t like condoms because they make tkae long to ejaculate…

    1. Hi Don, a condom is likely…

      Hi Don, a condom is likely to reduce sensitivity hence the delayed ejaculation. Unless the delay is making sex uncomfortable, it maybe a good thing that you are lasting alittle longer which means sex is lasting longer and you may find that your partner likes this. Remember, not using a condom may lead to an unplanned pregnancy or Sexually Transmitted Infections like HIV.  

  12. Hey,my boyfriend complain of…
    Hey,my boyfriend complain of pain when using condom,is it normal

    1. Hey Ann, what is causing the…

      Hey Ann, what is causing the pain? Is it that the he feels the condom is too tight around his penis? This can cause discomfort or pain but you can consider getting slightly large condoms to relieve the pressure on the penis. 

  13. my erection stands only for…
    my erection stands only for 2 shots even though hata nikitumia viagra shida n gani na solution n ipi

  14. Sasa Mojoh, cheki, it is…

    Sasa Mojoh, cheki, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. Usistress! Keep safe!

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