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Your most burning LGBT questions answered!

Asking questions about lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people can be difficult, especially if you don't know who to turn you. Love Matters has got you covered!
Is it illegal to be gay in Kenya?

No. The Kenyan Penal Code is very clear: what's illegal are sexual acts between consenting adults of the same sex/gender. For example, if two adult men agree to have sex with each other, the act of having sex is against the law.

It's not illegal to be gay. Or lesbian, or bisexual, or any other sexual orientation one might identify with.

Is homosexuality a Western import?

No, it's not. There are quite a few references to homosexuality from all over Africa dating back way before the first Europeans and slave traders set foot on the continent.

Homophobia, on the other hand, is a Western input. It's the British colonial laws that first started punishing behaviour that was considered 'immoral' by the Colonialists.

Do people choose to become LGBT?

No. People don't choose to be LGBT; the same way they don't choose their eye-colour or whether they are left- or right-handed.

Think about it: did you ever decide what sexual orientation you'd like best, and which would best fit you? Chances are, the answer to this question is no. And the same goes for LGBT people: just like someone just 'knows' that they are attracted to the opposite gender, another person knows that they want to love someone of the same gender (or many genders).

Do LGBT people recruit others, like young people?

Because you don't choose and can't change your sexual orientation, it's impossible to recruit someone. If you are straight, could you pretend to like someone of the same gender? Sure. But would you really be able to change all of your feelings and emotions? That's very unlikely. It's very, very unlikely someone can change your sexual orientation. Just like gay men and lesbian women can't be made straight.

Can LGBT people have loving, long-term relationships?

Of course! Just because someone identifies as LGBT doesn’t mean we know anything about the type or quality of relationships they have. No two relationships are the same, and it's up to the people in the relationship to decide what's okay and what's not. And that's the same for everyone, regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity.

Do you have any more questions about sexual orientation and gender identity and expression? Send us a message or get in touch with our forum moderators.


Hey Eli, you really can't tell for sure unless your friend confides in you. It's not a good idea to try figure out whether someone is gay based on their behaviour or even how they talk. This is usually a sensitive subject, all you can do is to be their friend and when they are ready and comfortable enough they will disclose this information. Check out the following article for more information on what you can do to be supportive to your friend;-

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