Woman looking happy, holding up a calendar marking her period

Period sex: yay or nay?

Some people are grossed out at the idea of having sex with a bleeding woman; while others really enjoy it. What's the deal: is period sex great or gross?

In Kenya, the jury is still out on whether or not having sex during a woman’s period is good, the same, or a no-no.
We talked to Kenyans to find out their thoughts and experiences.


Mood killer

Periods are a turn-off for me. The whole blood situation and having to be careful not to stain anything. I’d just rather not do it. During sex, I want to be wild, not careful. And that just doesn’t seem to happen when a woman is on her period.

If she isn’t cramping and asking for a massage instead of focusing on the deed, she’s getting grumpy – and that kills the mood.

Tony, 24

No oral sex, please

There was a time my man came over. It was that day when your period was kind of over, but, at this point, there may or may not be some residue left. Anyway, I hoped for the best as he went down on me – who am I to say no to cunnilingus! Unfortunately, there was still some residue and my man ended up eating it and he was disgusted.

As was I. Now I don’t take chances. No licking until my period is completely over.
Annah, 23

Embarrassed by blood

My new crush invited me for a weekend away and, although I knew my period was around the corner, I thought it was coming towards the end of the weekend rather than the beginning.
It was the first time we were sharing a room.

As we got into it that night, everything was cool until we woke up the following day and the sheets were stained.

I was mortified and we didn’t speak the whole time as we came back. He kept saying it was not a big deal, but I was too embarrassed. I stopped picking his calls and that was how a potentially good relationship went down the drain.

Rose, 30

It's natural

I don’t see the big deal about having sex during my girlfriend’s period. We just put an extra sheet on the bed and make love. When we’re done, she’ll remove it, puts in her tampon, and we will go to sleep. No big deal.

I don’t see why a natural process should interrupt our urge to have sex.

Michael, 34

Related: Can I Get Pregnant On My Period?

What are your thoughts on period sex? Yay or nay? And what has been your experience? We would love to hear in the comments below and on Facebook, Love Matters Africa and Love Matters Naija.

Did you learn something new?

Thu, 11/08/2018 - 10:01 am
One time I had sex with my girlfriend but she was in her period I ended up seeing some residue onto my penisand it was smiling badly so I can't do that again I just wait until it's over

Hi Clature, this is largely an issue of preference and it’s okay if you don’t like it or enjoy it. Medically, however, having sex during menstruation has no negative effects. In fact it can help relieve some of the period pain for your partner. Have a look at the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/sex-during-your-period-top-five-facts

Thu, 12/20/2018 - 09:25 am
No. No. No having sex with your bae while bleeding is like wearing clean clothes without showering.. I think you even have to wait for 1week after period..

Hey Jack, we appreciate your opinion. However, medically speaking, there is no negative effect associated with having sex during periods. People do choose to have or not have sex during this time for various reasons, some are principle others maybe relious beliefs. Check out the following article four additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/sex-during-your-period-top-five-facts

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