Men can fake orgasms too
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Men can fake orgasms, too!

By Anonymous Monday, February 12, 2018 - 13:45
Many men have faked an orgasm at least once. People often assume it’s impossible for men to fake as it means pretending to ejaculate, too. So how do they do it?

Guys were asked to give away their orgasm secrets by psychologists at the University of Kansas.

Seventy-eight per cent said they have acted out an orgasm at least once.

Harder, faster… 

Men moaned, albeit less often than women, when they were faking it. They relied on body movements like thrusting harder and faster or clenching their muscles as if they were about to come.

Others simply acted like they were spent or tired. A few guys simply told their partner 'I’m coming baby, I’m coming!'

Theatrics

While it’s plausible that he can fake his O’s, can he really pretend to cum? By all accounts, it’s pretty difficult. So as a guy you’ve got to have a work-around – faking it in a condom.

I grunted and then acted spent. Then I disposed of the jimmy-hat before she could get a good look at it,' said one man.

He’s not alone. Sixteen per cent of male bluffers in the Kansas study resorted to quickly removing, discarding, or hiding their condom to cover their evidence of faking it.

The number one reason why men put on the extra theatrics is because they didn't think they'd make a climax because they were too drunk, it was taking to long, or they'd already come that day.

Other reasons given by men were that they wanted sex to end because they were tired or they didn’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings.

Sex = intercourse = orgasm

Both men and women are most likely to fake their orgasms when having sexual intercourse and not during other forms of sex. Pretenders tend to have a fixed view of sex, say the study’s authors. They think sex means intercourse, and intercourse should end in orgasms all around.
This makes them feel under pressure to climax.


Some people feel sex is always supposed to follow the same script: ‘she orgasms, then he orgasms, then sex is over’.

This makes women think they have to pretend to orgasm so their partner can take his turn to climax. Some 20 per cent of women said they bluffed it for this very reason. And a few of them passed up the real chance to come in order to fake it at the right time.

In the end, the authors point out that both men and women feel pressured to show pleasure to keep their partners happy. And it’s this cliched script for sex that keeps people faking it instead of working together for the real thing.


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Comments
Hi Susan, hm, we can kind of see where you are coming from. But on the other hand, you could also just be honest and tell him that it's not happening for you today. Or ask him to pay attention to your favorite areas. Sex is about communication- unless he knows what turns you on, he can't be blamed for you getting bored!
As for me l dnt know the sweetness of having sex, l have been faking all through,,,coz he always come straight 4 it,,,l fear sex coz to me it means pain! Please help,

Dear Lizy, sorry about this, sex should be pleasurable for both partners. It appears that you and your partner do not spend sufficient time in foreplay. It is important that you talk to your partner and let him know what your experience has been. Sex is better when partners talk about it, try find a good time and talk with your partner. Let him know what you like including spending time in foreplay and also allow him to share with you what they like. Have a look at the following articles for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/painful-sex-time-to-listen-up

Hi George, we are not quite sure what you mean... Do you mean how can you know she is faking it? First of all, ask the woman what you can do to make her have an orgasm. Very woman is different, but paying plenty of attention to the clitoris will almost guarantee some pleasure! Check out our making love section. Then, it's talking again. Ask her if she is enjoying it and if she is having orgasms. Lastly, in most women, the vagina will get tighter at the moment of orgasms. This not happening could be a sign that she is faking it. But again, asking usually works best!
Hi Kushner, have you thought of spicing up your love life with different positions, toys, styles etc.? Try to not do the same thing every time; that makes it boring!
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