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Fertility and infertility

Fertility is a word to describe whether someone is capable of making a child. For a woman this refers to the health of your eggs and ability to get and stay pregnant.

For men, fertility refers to whether your sperm is healthy and potent. Most healthy people who want to get pregnant can.

Only when a woman ovulates during her menstrual cycle is there an unfertilised egg waiting for a sperm cell. Once an egg comes into contact with sperm, it becomes fertilised and attaches itself to the womb. This starts the conception process and you become pregnant.

If you have sex before you ovulate, sperm can hang around for days in your fallopian tube waiting for an egg to pop out. If you have sex after you ovulate, the egg will be ready and wait for the sperm to arrive.
But remember, having sex only at other times of the month is not a reliable way to avoid getting pregnant!

Fertile and most fertile

What’s the difference between being ‘fertile’ and being ‘most fertile’? If you’re fertile, it means you’re able to get pregnant – you’ve reached puberty and your ovaries are working properly. You’re most fertile around the time of ovulation, so you’re most likely to get pregnant if you have sex at this time.

Ovulation roulette

You can get pregnant from the first time you ovulate, so even before you have your first period. On the other hand, just because you’ve started your periods doesn’t mean you can get pregnant.

In the first year you have your periods, an egg might only be released one in five times. By the time you’ve been having periods for six years, an egg will be released nine out of ten times.

But remember, if you don’t want to get pregnant, don’t play ovulation roulette – use contraception.

Less fertile

As you get older, especially over the age of about 30, you tend to become less fertile, and eventually, you stop ovulating and having periods. On average, women are able to get pregnant between the ages of 15 and 49.

Fertility and weight

If you’re too big or too thin it can affect your chances of getting pregnant.
To get a rough idea of whether your weight could be affecting your fertility, you can work out your BMI.

BMI the complicated way
Your BMI is your weight (in kilos) divided by your height (in meters) squared. So if you weigh 72 kilograms and your height is 1.72 metres, your BMI is 72 divided by 1.72 x 1.72 = 24.9.

BMI the easy way
All that arithmetic sounds too much like hard work? Don’t worry, just go to an online BMI calculator like this one and it will do the maths for you!

Your BMI is considered to be ‘normal’ if it’s between 18.5 and 25 – though this is only a rough guide.

If your BMI is lower than about 18.5 or higher than about 28, you could be less fertile. So it’s important to eat as healthy and varied a diet as you can, and try to get your weight closer to the ‘normal’ range.

Fertility testing

So you’ve been patiently trying to get pregnant for 18 months or more. And you and your partner have tried all the tips. But you’re still not pregnant.

You might want to start trying to find out if there’s some medical problem that’s stopping you getting pregnant.
The easiest place to start is with the man. Men often assume that it’s the woman who’s got the fertility problem if she’s having trouble getting pregnant. But it’s just as likely to be the man.

For men, it’s pretty easy to have your sperm tested to see if you’re producing enough healthy sperm. For women it takes more trouble and detective work, involving a variety of tests. So usually it makes sense to start fertility testing with the man.

Tests for men

Fertility testing for men is pretty straightforward. You need to provide a sample of sperm, and they’ll check it out for you in the lab. When you visit your health professional for a fertility test, first of all, he may well want to ask you some pretty personal questions about your sex life, and also examine your genitals. Then he’ll send off a sample of your sperm to have it analysed.

Of course, you might want to say no to any embarrassing examinations and just provide a sperm sample. Though be grateful, it wouldn’t be an option for your partner to skip uncomfortable and intimate examinations!

Providing a sperm sample

You usually provide a sperm sample just by masturbating and squirting the sperm into a clean container. And if you don’t have to travel too far to the clinic, you may well be able to produce the sample at home.

If for religious reasons you object to masturbating, you can collect the sperm in a special condom when you have intercourse. And if also for religious reasons you don’t want to use a condom, you can always prick a hole in it first.

The result

The lab will give a report on how much sperm is in your semen, and how many of them are healthy – whether they can ‘swim’ well and are able to fertilise an egg.

You may find you have plenty of healthy sperm, so at least you know the problem doesn’t lie with you. But it could also be that you have relatively few healthy sperm, which makes it harder for you to get your partner pregnant.

The best thing then is to make sure you follow all the fertility tips for men – like not smoking or drinking, and keeping your testicles cool. If there are no sperm at all, then you can get medical help to find out what’s causing the problem, and see if something can be done about it.

Home testing

If you really want to avoid any embarrassment, you can now get home kits to test your sperm. These kits aren’t as reliable as a proper test in a lab. They only tell you how much sperm there are in your semen, but not how healthy they are. You can order a kit online for about $ 30 plus postage.

Tests for women

Fertility testing for women is more complicated than it is for men, basically just because there are more different reasons you could be having trouble getting pregnant. This means you might need to have various different tests.

They could include:

  • A cervical mucus test, to see if sperm can survive in the mucus at the neck of your womb.
  • An ultrasound scan to check your womb and ovaries.
  • Hormone tests to check your levels of the hormones involved in getting pregnant.
  • An X-ray of your womb and fallopian tubes to see if there is a blockage. First, some dye is injected through your cervix.
  • A hysteroscopy, when a flexible tube like a tiny telescope is inserted through the cervix to look inside the womb.

Home testing

You can also buy a home fertility test for women. This measures the level of the FSH hormone in your body, which can show how likely it is that you’ll be able to get pregnant. The test indicates how many eggs you have left in your ovaries, but it’s not necessarily very accurate.
 

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Recent Comments (132)

  1. I need fertility drugs
    I need fertility drugs

    1. (No subject)
      Hello Robert,

      What makes you feel you need fertility drugs?

      You may need to visit a specialist for them to find out what exactly is the issue is after which they will be able to recommend or prescribe what steps or drugs you need to take if any.

    2. I need fertility drug
      I need fertility drug

      1. Hi Ngesa, What makes you…
        Hi Ngesa, What makes you feel you need fertility drugs? You need to visit a medical centre for tests and a prescription for such drugs if the test will indicate you need them.

    1. (No subject)
      We are glad that you found this information helpful Abigail.

  2. Can masturbation cause…
    Can masturbation cause infertility

  3. I need to know if my hubby…
    I need to know if my hubby read to make me pregnant coz he does not even care or want to be party of the action help.

    1. (No subject)
      Hello Sherlin,

      Have you talked about having children with your husband?

      What action does he not want to be party to?

      You may need to talk about having children and whether this is the right time for you both to have children. Having children is big decision and you have to think about this decision and agree on how to proceed. We wish you well.

  4. I am 31 yrs old, i have been…
    I am 31 yrs old, i have been sexually active sinve 18. I have never even been pregnant. I have been trying seriously for 9 yrs and nothing. I am so miserable

    1. Hey, …
      Hey,

      First, you are not alone in this and for this reason you are not worthless. You can still get pregnant and go on to be a great mother.
      We are so sorry about this and we can imagine the frustration and distress this has caused you and perhaps your partner. There is no correlation between when one starts to have sex and whether they will get pregnant in the future. It is important you seek the services of a specialist specifically a Gynaecologist so they can help determine what could be going on and prescribe a solution for you. We wish you well.

  5. I need to be educate more. …
    I need to be educate more. Thank u

    1. Hey Precious, Feel free to…
      Hey Precious, Feel free to ask any question and we shall be more than glad to respond to you.

      1. What make a man to be weak…
        What make a man to be weak after first around of sex that he fine it difficult to got hes second time

        1. Hi Gift, it’s completely…
          Hi Gift, it’s completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so one should just try to work with their own body. If one is really hoping to have more sex, then it helps to take this time to recharge and focus on ones partner. This is a good time to focus on their partner and give them pleasure.

  6. So interesting am learning a…
    So interesting am learning a lot. Thanks team #lovematters.

    1. We are glad that this…
      We are glad that this information is useful to you.

  7. I need fertility drugs
    I need fertility drugs

    1. Hi Omondi, What makes you…
      Hi Omondi, What makes you feel you need fertility drugs? You need to visit a medical centre for tests and a prescription for such drugs if the test will indicate you need them.

  8. I have been using 3months…
    I have been using 3months injection of family planning for 2 years and i stopped so that I can conceived. Now it’s 2 years again. How do i do?

  9. Hallo shagazi my period was…
    Hallo shagazi my period was on 19th Oct 2017 .. I did sex on date 1,2,3 and 4 which are my fertile day but still this month got period which is is so light what might be the problem

    1. Hi, It is likely that you…
      Hi, It is likely that you could be pregnant but to be sure do get a pregnancy test.

  10. Hi,am one month pregnant but…
    Hi,am one month pregnant but the problem am having is too much headache every now and then,what could be the problem and how can I do away with it

    1. Hi Tally, Headache is one of…
      Hi Tally, Headache is one of the signs that you are pregnant. You can consider you using over the counter pain killers to manage the frequent headaches.

  11. Am Maggy,how can I trap…
    Am Maggy,how can I trap pregnancy despite having irregular periods? Please help me

    1. Hi Maggy, Even with an…
      Hi Maggy, Even with an irregular cycle one usually ovulates mid-cycle. Ovulation is the process where the egg is released from the ovary to fallopian tubes and during this process a woman is most fertile. Some of the signs include change of texture in vaginal fluids, increased desire for sex, bloated abdomen among other. Check out this article:- https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/female-body/menstruation

  12. Cn one get pregnant after…
    Cn one get pregnant after

    b done B.T.L.pliz help.

  13. One can’t get pregnant after…
    One can’t get pregnant after a BTL. It is also permanent birth control method but the procedure can be reversed in some cases.

  14. what do I do to get pregnant…
    what do I do to get pregnant. I have stopped using contraceptive but still no result. please help.

      1. What makes some one fine it…
        What makes some one fine it difficult to have sex after the first around?

        1. Hi Gift, it’s completely…
          Hi Gift, it’s completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so one should just try to work with their own body. If one is really hoping to have more sex, then it helps to take this time to recharge and focus on ones partner. This is a good time to focus on their partner and give them pleasure.

  15. consiquences of masturbation…
    consiquences of masturbation,if any ,PLZ

  16. Ilost my kid in 2o16 but…
    Ilost my kid in 2o16 but upto now have failed to concieve i dnt knw wat the prob z pliz help

    1. Hey SXSX, what can we do for…
      Hey SXSX, what can we do for you?

  17. If you have sex after one…
    If you have sex after one wicked can a woman gets pregnant or not.

    1. Hi Ojok, if you have sex…
      Hi Ojok, if you have sex with a woman who is fertile she is likely to get pregnant even if it was once or one weekend.

  18. When using epill for a long…
    When using epill for a long time can it cause infertility or failure to get pregnant in future?

  19. What me medicine can I use…
    What me medicine can I use to increase fertility

    1. Hey, what makes you feel you…

      Hey, what makes you feel you need fertility medication? I suggest you visit a medical centre for further advice including whether you will need any medication to improve fertility.

  20. I stopped using the Depo…
    I stopped using the Depo Provera injections about 1 year ago and I have not been able to get pregnant, why am I not getting pregnant?

    1. Hey Liz, this can be…

      Hey Liz, this can be frustrating. One of the expected disadvantage is that one won’t be able to immediately get pregnant when they stop using the injection; it may take around ten months for one to get back to your normal fertility. It is not possible to tell how long this will take for you, but going with this this maybe the time your fertility is getting back to normal and so you could get pregnant. Check out the following articles for additional information;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/shot

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  21. We have been trying to get…
    We have been trying to get pregnant but it has not worked for the last one year since I got married. What could be the problem?

  22. how long does it take for a…
    how long does it take for a man to form enou
    gh sperms

  23. We got married in Dec of…
    We got married in Dec of last year and we have been trying to get pregnant ever since with no success. I have never used any family planning drugs and I have never had an abortion. What other reason could be delaying me from getting pregnant. Please help, my husband really wants me to get pg.

    1. Hello, the key to getting…

      Hello, the key to getting pregnant is getting to know when it is you are ovulating since this is the time you are most fertile hence most likely to get pregnant. Since it has been less than 12 months of trying, it should only be an issues of concern and at which point you need to consult a Specialist, if it has been longer than 12 months. Check out the following articles for more tips;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/menstruation

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  24. I got married to my wife…
    I got married to my wife about 2 years ago we have no children as of yet I am now getting much pressure from my home to bring the first born. We have tried but in vain. What can be the problem, where can we go for help?

  25. Hey Tom, if you have been…

    Hey Tom, if you have been trying to get a child for longer than 12 months, it is important that you now consult a Specialist. The Specialist Gynecologist will be able to carry out tests as appropriate and then advice you on the next what to do. If you don”t know any Specialist you can go to in your location, it may help to visit a government run health facility, they will be able to refer you to one if there isn’t any at the facility. We do wish you all the best. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  26. We have been trying to get…
    We have been trying to get pregnant for 9 months but I am yet to get pregnant. I am not sure what my husband thinks about this since he wanted me to get pregnant soon after marriage. Now, I overused the P2 when I was younger could this be the reason why I am not getting pregnant? What should I do?

    1. Hey Val, it may take upto…

      Hey Val, it may take upto one year for one to get pregnant. This means you are still within the expected period of time. There is evidence that the use of P2 stops one from getting pregnant in the future. However, if after one year you are still not pregnant, it will be important to visit a Specialist who will conduct tests and advice you and your partner. Check out this article;-  https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts We wish you well.

  27. I use depo before i ever had…
    I use depo before i ever had a child I am not pregnant after trying for close to 7 months now. My menstruation is regular. What are some of the reasons that can make this happen?

    1. Hi Marrianne, using Depo as…

      Hi Marrianne, using Depo as a birth control method will not have an effect or stop you from getting pregnant when you stop using it. One disadvantage is that one won’t be able to immediately get pregnant when they stop using Depo; it may take around ten months to get back to normal fertility. This means the immediate following 10 months after one has stopped using Depo they may not be able to get pregnant. If you just stopped using it then this is expected. On the other hand, even in normal circumstances it may take upto one year to get pregnant. You are still within time, if after an year of trying you still don’t get pregnant it will time to seek the services of a specialist. Check out this article for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  28. What medicine an I take to…
    What medicine an I take to increase my fertility? I want to be pregnant, I have been trying for 5 months with no success, pls help..?

    1. If you have tried to get…

      If you have tried to get pregnant for more than a year without success, it is important you discuss this with a doctor or a pregnancy or fertility specialist. Usually a Gynecologist will help or atleast refer to a Specialist. This will help identify any problems and help you and your partner find ways that might make it easier to get pregnant including whether or not you should use any fertility medicines. Check out the following article for additional tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  29. How can I know for sure…
    How can I know for sure which are my safe days?

    1. Hey Max, Safe days are one…

      Hey Max, Safe days are one of the most unreliable ways to prevent pregnancy, and we really don’t recommend it at all.   When your safe days are really depends on the length of your cycle. Technically speaking, the first seven days before and after your period, as well as the time of your period, are relatively safe. But, if you have a shorter cycle (shorter than 28 days), or an irregular one, this will vary. Also keep in mind that sperm can survive for up to five days and longer inside the body- so even if you have sex on a ‘safe’ day, you can still get pregnant, because the sperm survived until your ovulation date. So you see, it’s a very inaccurate. And lastly, of course this won’t protect you from STDs. Only condoms will. So we really recommend a more reliable method. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/menstruation

  30. Hi I have low sperm count…
    Hi I have low sperm count and it turns immediately when I remove my dick ,,,what can be the problem

    1. Hi George, what do you mean…

      Hi George, what do you mean by ‘it turns’? I suggest you visit a health centre for a check up, where you will also be advised on what steps or treatment to take.  

  31. We have been trying to get…
    We have been trying to get pregnant from April without success. Where can I get the fertility tests?

    1. Hi Jean, it may take upto 12…

      Hi Jean, it may take upto 12 months to get pregnant, this means you are still within what is normal time to get pregnant. Gynecologists usually provide comprehensive reproductive health services and they will be able to advice on what treatment or tests one may need. Have a look at the following article for more tips to increase your chances of getting pregnant;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  32. Hi, I want to confirm if I…
    Hi, I want to confirm if I can impregnate my wife. Have been in a marriage for 1year and there is no signs what can be the problem…?

      1. Thanks for the advice…
        Thanks for the advice…

        1. You are welcome Wycliffe. 

          You are welcome Wycliffe. 

          1. What is the problem when you…
            What is the problem when you see a tiny bubbles in your sperms

          2. Hi Nickson, 

            Gas bubbles in…

            Hi Nickson, 

            Gas bubbles in semen are not semen normal as they can be a sign of inflammation in the seminal vesicles called seminal vesiculitis.  However, there are other causes, see a healthcare provider for tests and treatment. 

  33. Hi,first I had a miscarriage…
    Hi,first I had a miscarriage, two months later the gynaecologist recommended I use clomid and I have used them this was the second cycle now,am expecting my menses on 14th this month,no sign of pregnancy nor menses am just feeling my body confused. What d problem.thnkx in advance

    1. Hi Eva, sorry about this. I…

      Hi Eva, sorry about this. I suggest you talk to your Gynecologist for purposes of followup. We wish you well. 

  34. I want to have a son, I have…
    I want to have a son, I have 2 Dora’s. How?

    1. Hi Fransisca, I suggest you…

      Hi Fransisca, I suggest you speak to your Gynecologist or Midwife for further advice. All the best. 

  35. Which FP method should I use…
    Which FP method should I use after I give birth? I am due in 4 weeks.

  36. what medicine can I take to…
    what medicine can I take to increase fertility? I am a man I want to marry soon.

    1. Hello Ssembewa, what makes…

      Hello Ssembewa, what makes you feel,you need to take fertility treatment? If you have concerns, I suggest you visit a health facility and a health professional will be able to advice you. 

  37. If I ejaculate too fast can…
    If I ejaculate too fast can I impregnate someone?

  38. Can overusing P2 have a…
    Can overusing P2 have a negative effect on a woman’s fertility?

    1. Dear Linet, safe days are…

      Dear Linet, safe days are one of the most unreliable ways to prevent pregnancy, and we really don’t recommend it at all. When your safe days are really depends on the length of your cycle. Technically speaking, the first seven days before and after your period, as well as the time of your period, are relatively safe. But, if you have a shorter cycle (shorter than 28 days), or an irregular one, this will vary. Also keep in mind that sperm can survive for up to five days and longer inside the body- so even if you have sex on a ‘safe’ day, you can still get pregnant, because the sperm survived until your ovulation date. So you see, it’s a very inaccurate. And lastly, of course this won’t protect you from STDs. Only condoms will. So we really recommend a more reliable method. Check out the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/safe-days-pros-and-cons

  39. Can you point me to a…
    Can you point me to a fertility specialist, we have been working on baby number 1 for 2 years without any success. Please let me know where I can get specialized services in Nairobi.

  40. Is there a fertility clinic…
    Is there a fertility clinic you can refer me too for fertility services?

    1. Hi Carol, a good place to…

      Hi Carol, a good place to begin is by seeing a Specialist Gynecologist who will be able to refer you should you need specialized services beyond what they are able to offer. Visit a specialist who will further advice.

  41. For women is the kit found…
    For women is the kit found on chemist or hospitals and Wats the name of the kit

    1. Hi there, you can find the…

      Hi there, you can find the kits at a chemist. I suggest you visit your preferred chemist to get to know what brands are available or those you can choose from. 

  42. How can I make sure my sperm…
    How can I make sure my sperm healthy?

  43. What can I do to keep my…
    What can I do to keep my sperm healthy?

  44. I am in my late 20s I have…
    I am in my late 20s I have trying to have a child for 8 months now what should I do?

    1. Hi Emily, it can actually…

      Hi Emily, it can actually take upto to 12 months for one to get pregnant. Since, you have been trying for less the the 12 months I suggest you keep trying. However, if after the 12 months you are still not pregnant, it will be important that you seek the services of a specialist. Have a look at the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  45. How do women increase…
    How do women increase fertility?

    1. Hey Rose, lifestyle choices…

      Hey Rose, lifestyle choices can help improve ones fertility. These include cutting the use of drugs which include smoking and drinking alcohol, keeping the right body weight, regularly exercising and getting enough rest. It maybe useful to speak to once health care provider or midwife for further advice when one is getting ready to conceive. Have a look at the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  46. Hi. Where can I get the…
    Hi. Where can I get the fertility test for home?

    1. Hi Joan, you could try…

      Hi Joan, you could try checking online stores.

  47. I took pills for abortion 7…
    I took pills for abortion 7 years ago, since then I’ve never been pregnant again, will I ever get pregnant again?

  48. iv been in marriage for…
    iv been in marriage for close to 10 years now with no kids.Im under immense pressure within myself,at 33 no signs.I visited a fertility clinic,had my semen tested and was told im ok.my partner though shes not comefortable visiting a fertility clinic,however,of late im noticing strange issues with my sex life:premature ejaculation normally the first round,ifi were to comeback I would last longer but a feeling of dry orgasm even though when I look after ejaculation,semen comes out of my partners birth canal.what do I do since if im ith e process of getting another partner to bare me kids cozi see no hope with the first one?
    I am 33,she is 35!

    1. Hello Job, it is normal to…

      Hello Job, it is normal to sometimes experience premature ejaculation in the first round usually because of the excitement. Do you think it is better to have another person bare children for you as opposed to convincing your partner to get help from a specialist? Have you considered what this choice will mean to your partner and marriage? You may want to consider talking with your parting to your about seeking the services and advice of a specialist before making a final decision especially if you are thinking of getting someone different. Have a look at the following articles for more information;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/what-to-do-when-you-cant-get-pregnant

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

  49. How do I know when I will…
    How do I know when I will ovulate next if my period started on the 1st of November?

  50. Can you make someone…
    Can you make someone pregnant for the first time you have sex and only one round..thanks

  51. Hello Kenneth, thank you for…

    Hello Kenneth, thank you for reaching out to us. You can indeed make a person pregnant even if you have sex just the one time.

  52. Does 20% of sperm well…
    Does 20% of sperm well enough to fertilize an egg?

    1. Hello Jatau, thank you for…

      Hello Jatau, thank you for reaching out and asking a great question. The male ejaculate produces over 250 million sperm. Even if you were to take 20% of that figure, you would still be capable of producing 50 million sperms at minimum. Sure your chances of conceiving are lower but you are still fertile enough to become a father some day, it just requires more effort from your end. For more information on the same, follow these links which are sure to give you solid advice on how to become a happy father some day soon 🙂 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/male-fertility-problems-top-five-facts

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/eight-tips-to-keep-your-sperm-healthy

  53. Hi I tested a sperm and its…
    Hi I tested a sperm and its 20%.
    1. Is that low sperm?
    2. Is the 20% too low to get a woman pregnant?
    3. If too low what is the way out?
    Thanks.

  54. Does a thick sperm…
    Does a thick sperm determines a healthy semen, or does it also determines a fertile sperm

    1. Hello Roys, thick semen…

      Hello Roys, thick semen usually results from a higher than normal concentration of sperm in a typical volume of semen but this is normal and no need for concern. High sperm concentration often indicates that you’re more likely to impregnate a female partner. Thick semen is also less likely to drip out of the vagina. This increases you and your partner’s chance of conception hnece, yes, your fertility is higher. If there are any other symptoms aside from thickness such as odour you may need to consult a medical professional but otherwise, you are good to go!

       

  55. AM 29 YRS, I AV BEEN MARRED…
    AM 29 YRS, I AV BEEN MARRED FOR 3 YEARS & MY WIFE HAS NOT YET GOTTEN A BABY.WHENEVER SHE GETS PREGNANT, IT WOULD NOT LAST 5 MONTHS.SHE WILL GET MISCARRIED.I ALSO DRINK TOO MUCH.WHAT IS THE PROBLEM?PLZ HELP

    1. Hello Johny, thank you so…

      Hello Johny, thank you so much for reaching out to us and we are so sorry you are going through a difficult time. Experiencing multiple miscarriages can cause a toll on anyone, emotionally, physically, psychologically, and even spiritually. Because this has happened before, the best thing to do is for both of you to go consult a doctor and find out what the issues may be as there could be an underlying medical problem. Secondly, we are glad that you are aware of your drinking habit and therefore, its highly recommended that you reduce on your alcohol consumption, not only to increase your fertility and overall health but to also prepare you to have a clearer mindset when you become the amazing father we know you will be. Lastly, we also highly recommend that you and your partner visit a counsellor to help alleviate whatever stress may have accumulated as a result of the miscarriages as stress can play a big negative role in foetal development during pregnancy. Everything will be okay buddy. Hang in there, you both got this! Have a lovely week ahead and stay safe!

  56. What’s is the colour of…
    What’s is the colour of healthy sperm

    1. Hi Daniel, thank you for…

      Hi Daniel, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. Semen is normally a whitish-gray color. Changes in semen color might be temporary and harmless or a sign of an underlying condition that requires further evaluation. Why do you ask?

  57. When I have intercourse with…
    When I have intercourse with my wife…after how long do the signs of pregnancy appears

  58. Hi Daniel, thank you for…

    Hi Daniel, thank you for asking a great question. Finding out you’re pregnant can be a joy or a nightmare, depending on your situation. If you’re pregnant by accident or your partner is, what next? In this section, you can find out what your options are and learn what happens to the body during pregnancy. https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy 

    We hope the information helps and feel free to reach out and ask any more questions should the need arise, we are here for you. Have a wonderful weekend ahead and stay safe!

  59. 4 months of unprotected sex…
    4 months of unprotected sex but no pregnancy.didn’t use any contraceptives and periods have become irregular for the 4 monts..help

    1. Hey Aggy, thank you for…

      Hey Aggy, thank you for getting in touch and we are so sorry you are going through a hard time. Getting pregnant can be difficult at times for various reasons but do not despair, we are here for you. Please click here to find out more about what you to do: 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/what-to-do-when-you-cant-get-pregnant

      We hope this information helps. Please feel free to get in touch with us in case you have any more questions and have a lovely week ahead!

    1. Thank you so much for your…

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