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Why is my vagina dry?

Here are a few causes of vaginal dryness – and here’s what you can do to help yourself.

Vaginal dryness is a common occurrence amongst women of all ages and has various causes. You can tell if you have vaginal dryness when you feel sore or itchy in and around your vagina. You may also need to pee more than usual, or you keep getting urinary tract infections (UTIs) or experience pain during sex.

What causes it?

Vaginal dryness is normally associated with a drop in estrogen levels in women. The estrogen hormone keeps the tissue lining the vagina moist, thick, and healthy. The vagina, like the human eye, naturally lubricates itself.

As women get older, especially in their 50s, the estrogen levels drop, and that makes the vaginal lining thinner, less elastic, and drier, leaving it more susceptible to tear. Even if you are not menopausal, there are several reasons why you may be experiencing vaginal dryness.

  • Contraceptives or anti-depressant pills

    The chemical components of some contraceptives and anti-depressant pills can reduce vaginal lubrication as a side effect. This can also happen if you are taking antihistamines to combat an allergy or cold.

  • Using certain products in and around your vaginal area

    Using perfumed bathing soap, washes and douches in and around your vaginal area can cause dryness. 

    These products are made up of chemicals which may affect the perfect pH balance of your vagina and cause irritation.

  • Poor arousal during sex

    At times you may just be mentally out of sex, or your partner. Or maybe you are just bored with the routine and need to spice things up a bit to get you excited. Without proper sexual arousal, you don’t lubricate sufficiently, making sex very uncomfortable and unpleasant.

  • Change in Hormones

    When women undergo hysterectomies (removal of the uterus) or cancer treatments such as chemotherapy, or are breastfeeding, there is a natural shift in their hormones. As a result of this shift in hormones, vaginal dryness may occur.

  • Anxiety

    Your mental state plays an integral role in how your body interprets situations. So even if you may have had great foreplay and you are as fit as a fiddle, if you are stressed and worried, that will naturally affect how your body responds.

  • Menopause

    This is common for women in their 40s and 50s. It marks the end of your menstrual cycle and is generally determined when a woman has not had her menstrual cycle for 12 straight months. This is a normal biological function and is not something to really worry about. Even as the vaginal dryness may set in, there is a cure to manage the situation.

Is there a ‘cure’?

If you use perfumed soap, washes and douches in and around your vaginal area, stop using them. A simple wipe with a face towel dipped in clean warm water is sufficient to clean your vagina, no soap is required. The vagina, like we said, is like the eye, it is a self-cleaning organ. You don’t need soap to clean your insides.

The type of underwear you wear also needs to be breathable. Cotton underwear comes highly recommended because of its breathable and absorbent properties.

Enjoy more foreplay to get fully aroused for more lubrication during sex. You can also use water-based lubricants such as K-Y jelly before penetrative sex. Apply it in your vagina or on your partner’s genitalia. If symptoms persist after trying this, you need to see your gynaecologist for a complete diagnosis.


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Recent Comments (34)

  1. What is k y jelly or ky in…
    What is k y jelly or ky in full?

  2. Hello Gloria, thank you for…

    Hello Gloria, thank you for getting in touch. The origins and meaning of the brand name are unknown. Two popular myths are that:

    – it was created in Kentucky and

    – the letters represent the key ingredients used to make the lubricant.

    Other than that, we are just as clueless as you. Let us know if you do ever find out what it means, we look forward to hearing what your research finds! Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

  3. thankyou for your advice,i…
    thankyou for your advice,i never knew that i should not clean my vigina with soap

  4. what can happen if i use…
    what can happen if i use cocacola

  5. Hello Loving, thank you for…

    Hello Loving, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. Coke Douching is a terrible myth that you should not believe in. As ridiculous as it sounds, some people believe that if you lubricate, or even clean the vagina out with coca cola after having unprotected sex, you can’t get pregnant. Douching at all (let alone with a fizzy drink!) is definitely not an effective lubricant or contraceptive. Sperm are so fast that they can reach the cervix almost instantly despite your attempts to stop them.  A “Coke douche” will only yield a nasty yeast infection and irritate the sensitive vaginal walls. Hopefully none of you actually believe this myth and stick to more comfortable ways of preventing pregnancy.

  6. Is it good the way I do…
    Is it good the way I do clean my virginal part?…..I do insert my middle finger several times pouring some water

    1. Hi Grace, 

      The vagina is…

      Hi Grace, 

      The vagina is self cleaning meaning it cleans itself. What you are dong is called douching and it is risky since it can interfere with the Ph balance and this increases the risk of an infection. You can clean the vulva and outer areas but leave the inside vagina alone. To learn more, read this article: 8 things women should not put in their vagina

  7. When pissed off also…..
    When pissed off also…..

    1. Hi Rity, 

      Do you mean that…

      Hi Rity, 

      Do you mean that the vagina can become dry if someone is pissed of? We are happy to answer any questions you may have. 

  8. Why do I get dry very first…
    Why do I get dry very first. i love my man so much, we perform foreplay very well, get wet & very aroused.. bt after 20-30min it gets dry.

    1. Hi admin i have problem my…
      Hi admin i have problem my girlfriend pussy is so dry and she complained that it is paining making me to loose morale since she don’t wat me to cum in peace wat will I do please help

      1. Hi Sam, 

        Vaginal dryness is…

        Hi Sam, 

        Vaginal dryness is a common symptom during and after menopause, but it can happen at any age and for various reasons. It is often associated with a drop in estrogen levels. First, it may help to take more time in foreplay to ensure your girlfriend is well-lubricated. The second option is to use a lubricant. If these two do not help, advise her to seek medical attention because it could be a sign of a bigger problem that may require medical assistance. 

  9. What causes bad ouduor…
    What causes bad ouduor during sex?

    1. Hi david, 

      Odor during and…

      Hi david, 

      Odor during and after sex is normal especially when semen mixes with vaginal fluid. The vagina fluid will have its own smell. If the smell is a strong it could be a sign of an infection. Fishy, rotten, or foul-smelling semen or vaginal fluid isn’t normal. If you have concerns about the smell, see a doctor. If the odor is accompanied with itching, burning sensation, pain, pain during sex see a doctor immediately.  

  10. Hi Fay, 

    There are several…

    Hi Fay, 

    There are several causes of vaginal dryness as mentioned in this article. In your case, it seems that you get wet before and during sex but your vagina does not get any wetter right after having sex? That seems quite normal especially if both of you have reached orgasm. Or do you mean that the wetness that was there dries up? However, if you are worried, you may need to visit a doctor to establish if there’s a problem and what the problem could be. 

  11. What’s vaginal dounching
    What’s vaginal dounching

    1. Hi Msbanny, 

      Good question!…

      Hi Msbanny, 

      Good question! Vaginal douching is the practice of washing or cleaning the vagina with water or other mixtures of fluids. Douching is done using douches such as prepackaged mixes of water and vinegar, baking soda, or iodine. Note that this practice is not recommended because for one, the vagina is self-cleaning meaning it can clean itself and second, douching can interfere with the Ph in your vagina thus exposing you to problems such as infections and STIs. 

  12. My girlfriend is…
    My girlfriend is experiencing this

    1. Hi Mtombaji, 

      Your name…

      Hi Mtombaji, 

      Your name cracked me up! Nice one! I am glad you can get an idea of why she’s experiencing vaginal dryness. You can show her this informative article so that she can also be informed. 

  13. Wen cleaning my cookie jar I…
    Wen cleaning my cookie jar I usually insert a finger deep n scoop out some milky whitish stuff, is that a right way of cleaning the cookie jar or I should stop doing that. And what is the right way of doing it.

    1. Hi Stormi, 

      The vagina is…

      Hi Stormi, 

      The vagina is self-cleaning. You should not insert your finger when cleaning. The only thing you need to clean is the vulva or the outside of the pubic area. There’s no need to clean in there! The discharge is actually what cleans the vagina. In case you do this because your discharge has an unusual smell, it could be a sign of an infection. Read this article to learn more about what each discharge means: Is My Discharge Normal?

  14. Does the K-Y has side effects
    Does the K-Y has side effects

    1. Hi Agnettar, 

      I cannot…

      Hi Agnettar, 

      I cannot advise about the effectiveness or effects of specific brands. Talk to your pharmacists/chemist to get safe and effective recommendations. 

  15. But sometimes I must admit…
    But sometimes I must admit that when I’m anxious it gets dry,,,this sometime makes me go out of mood

    1. Hi Preciousanne, 


      Hi Preciousanne, 

      That happens. Psychological and emotional factors like anxiety and stress can also interfere with sexual desire and lead to vaginal dryness. Always try to relax and only have sex or get intimate when you are ready. 

  16. And can family planning like…
    And can family planning like implant cause the dryness?

    1. Hi Ann, 

      Yes. In some women…

      Hi Ann, 

      Yes. In some women using the implant complain of experiencing vaginal dryness. Some women may also experience vaginal inflammation, 

  17. do i have to open my big…
    do i have to open my big pussy lips to clean it?

    1. Hi Purie, 

      Yes, that’s…

      Hi Purie, 

      Yes, that’s important. The lips also called labia are prone to sweat and discharge may get stuck there. Gently cleanse around the folds, using a clean washcloth or your hands. Avoid getting water or soap inside your vagina. The vagina is self-cleaning and should be left home. 

  18. Why is it that my woman…
    Why is it that my woman doesn’t wet even after playing with her p***,she doesn’t wet at all and does FGM play a part such that those who unfortunately underwent it don’t get aroused easily ?

    1. Hi Mark, 

      It could be that…

      Hi Mark, 

      It could be that you are not playing with her in a way that makes her wet. Have an honest conversation to understand what stimulates her. You may be shocked that she knows what she likes but is afraid of telling you. It is also possible that she does not know as well. If she does not know, you can explore together until you discover what and how you can make her truly wet. Also, note that women have several sensitive spots in their bodies; these are the vulva and vagina, and certainly the clitoris. But her neck, arms, breasts, and buttocks are also sensitive. So, if playing with her vagina doesn’t work well, try other parts too! Be patient when exploring her body and soon you will learn what excites her. Happy exploration! 

  19. Why is it am having reccurent discharge not really sticky sometimes I think it not fertile lab analysis shows I have no infection

    1. That depends. Most women will experience period cramps but the degree of pain differs from woman to woman. Many will take pain medication to relieve the pain. However, if you experience excessive pain that t cannot do your everyday activities such as going to work or school, go to the hospital because it could be that you have a medical condition that is causing the pain.

    2. Hi there,
      Discharge is totally normal and you may find that the amount of discharge is more at certain times of the month than others. I.e. you may have more discharge during ovulation and periods. Normal discharge may vary from whitish and sticky to clear and watery. In many cases, it has a slight smell that is not unpleasant or foul-smelling. Well, at least lab results show that you have no infection but if you are still concerned you can go for other tests in another hospital or clinic. Read this article to learn more about discharge: Is my discharge normal?

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