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8 signs you’re with the right partner

How do you know if you’ve found the right partner? Lust or loneliness can cloud your judgement, so run through this checklist: eight solid signs your love is made to last.

  1. You trust each other

    You may have played games in the beginning, but when you realise you’ve found the right partner you begin to open up and allow yourself to be vulnerable. You tell your secrets. Your lives become entangled. This is a gamble, and it requires trust.

    Trust is the glue that holds relationships together. Without it, they fall apart. If you are with the right partner, trust should be the foundation on which your romantic relationship is built.

  2. You communicate

    When you’re with someone you really care about, you listen and care about what they have to say – you don’t just wait for your turn to speak. And once you’ve listened you speak, not only with your words but with your actions.

    Communication with your partner should feel open, safe, and trusting, not something daunting and to be avoided. You should feel able to approach them any time with a problem, and not be afraid to bring up important issues. You should communicate with each other out of care and concern, not judgment and criticism.

  3. You are honest with each other

    Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship, and honesty is the bricks and mortar. Partners in a loving relationship are honest with each other, not just about their past and their actions, but about their feelings and their fears.

    You need to feel secure about being honest and secure that your partner is being honest with you.

  4. You Compromise

    Every relationship has its occasional disagreements and difficulties – it’s how you respond to such situations that shows whether or not you are a good fit. A steady, loving relationship is in one in which both partners are open to making compromises.

    Couples don’t have to like the same thing all the time. From time to time, you will have to do something you aren’t particularly enthusiastic about – from watching a movie that makes you yawn to missing your big night out for your partner’s family event. Another time they’ll do the same for you. Give and take, and willingness to compromise is a sign that you’re in a healthy relationship.

    Related: 8 signs you’re with the wrong partner

  5. You express your love

    Love can be expressed in many ways, from a simple ‘I love you’ to an impromptu back rub at the end of the day. It’s easy to get so caught up in your own life that you forget about your partner’s. Loving couples make an effort to understand whatever it is their partner is going through and make them feel better about it by showing concern.

    Perhaps the easiest way to express love is by giving compliments – not false compliments, not white lies, but genuine declarations that make your loved one feel more attractive and appreciated.

  6. You help each other grow

    If your partner is considering a career change, you should support them. If your partner is trying to quit smoking, you should be by their side, ready to help. It is hurtful when someone you love takes no interest in your personal struggles.

    In a loving couple, you treat each other’s achievements as if they were your own, and inspire each other to become better people. The right partner doesn’t hinder you or drag you down but is supportive and helps you grow.

  7. You make time for each other, and also provide space

    No matter how busy you may be, your relationship should remain a major priority in your life. Spending time with your partner shouldn’t feel like a burden, but a pleasure you look forward to.

    At the same time, spending too much time with your partner can dull your relationship, and you should never be too dependent on your partner for your own happiness. Instead, allow your partner the time and space they need to explore their own unique passions, and never begrudge them the time they spend with their friends or loved ones. Maintaining a little independence from each other will help your relationship grow strong.

  8. You stick together when times are tough

    The right partner will be there beside you, whether times are good or bad. It is one of the best and clearest indicators of the way a person feels to see how they behave when you pass through a difficult situation together. If they’re not there to help you through minor turbulence now, you probably can’t depend on them to be there when times become truly difficult.

What do you think is the best sign you’re in the relationship? Leave your comment below or on Facebook: Love Matters Naija and Love Matters Kenya.

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      1. Wow! So sweet n interesting
        Wow! So sweet n interesting

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        Thats ia very true..only dissapointments follow

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  1. true facts about the
    true facts about the challenges facingp9.o
    the love.

    1. Thanks for your comment, Ayub
      Thanks for your comment, Ayub.

  2. Let your partner know how do
    Let your partner know how do you feel . Don’t use your partner as your way to get same thing, respect your partner as you respect your self.

    1. Thanks, that’s great input!
      Thanks, that’s great input!

  3. Very intereting,i love this
    Very intereting,i love this

    1. That’s great to hear!
      That’s great to hear!

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    You people made my day. You inspired my thought on relatnshp .

  5. good tips n thnkx guyz 4 ur
    good tips n thnkx guyz 4 ur information its really educating

    1. That’s great to hear.
      That’s great to hear.

  6. True. I appreciate the writer
    True. I appreciate the writer.

    1. We will pass on your praise.
      We will pass on your praise.

  7. love matters u realy hav a
    love matters u realy hav a positive impact in my lov life….greatful for this enlightment…

    1. We are very glad to hear that
      We are very glad to hear that, Jose!

  8. Thanks for teaching us,
    Thanks for teaching us, especially in the time of soul-searching

  9. Jose! you r right, thanks
    Jose! you r right, thanks alot

  10. thats great infct have learnt
    thats great infct have learnt alot from you

  11. thats great infct have learnt
    thats great infct have learnt alot from you

  12. am below 18 bt already at the
    am below 18 bt already at the university, so am i allowed to participate here?

    1. Dasan,

      Dasan,
      technically, our website is aimed at people over the age of 18.

  13. Thanx so much for yo tips
    Thanx so much for yo tips they really do help when arelationship is at its worst,,,,im really encouraged to change n and maintain certain issue in ma r/ship.

    1. That’s great, Eunice.
      That’s great, Eunice.

  14. Got it thanks to love matters
    Got it thanks to love matters na keep it up

  15. its actually true facts
    its actually true facts honesty,trust and respect is paramount in any relationship i sincerely appreciate this

    1. Cherop, we are glad to hear
      Cherop, we are glad to hear you agree.

  16. It’s quite insprering I wish
    It’s quite insprering I wish all the married people did put this tips into consideration they could be no mpango wakando and it could be there very minimal

    1. Ruth,
      we hope so, too!

      Ruth,
      we hope so, too!

  17. Its nice to hear and its also
    Its nice to hear and its also educate us haw to involve in love and treat it too. But to me I can say that a right partner is the one who will be with you whether you are in problems and happiness too because the right partner is discovered when the difficulties a rises.

    1. Thanks fot your input!
      Thanks fot your input!

  18. it is a true guide lines of a
    it is a true guide lines of a true love

    1. We are glad to hear that!
      We are glad to hear that!

  19. i av apatner who doesnt
    i av apatner who doesnt appreciate me in wateva way.he is neva ready for us to sit dwn n solv aproblem wen there is.he doesnt accept his faults.n worse he flirts with his ex n discus me with her.is that the ryt prsn

    1. Lillian,

      Lillian,
      to be honest, it does sound like he doesn’t respect and appreciate you, and then, chances are he is not.
      But we can only see your side- we don’t know what his side of the story is.

    1. We are glad to hear you agree
      We are glad to hear you agree

  20. sometimes life is fare how
    sometimes life is fare how can you live for three years with a girl without have sex…..she demands until we marry each other..she will do it

    1. Arnold,

      Arnold,
      well, you both have a choice. And being together means that you both have to make choices, and decisions, but it’s up to the two of you together to make them work.

  21. That’s all about relationship
    That’s all about relationship if those involved want to end up in marriage…..there is no shortcut….it’s a journey that you both need to travel

  22. Thnx pps gud education am
    Thnx pps gud education am strong now I know what must do or not

  23. Truely,lovers R Not Mind
    Truely,lovers R Not Mind Readers So By Opening Up ‘ll B Able 2 Go $ Thats Communicaton.Kudos 4 This.

  24. Wow ths is awesome it seems
    Wow ths is awesome it seems lyk im in e ryt track DOPE staff

  25. Wow!wow! l love this so much
    Wow!wow! l love this so much!very inspiring God bless you,and keep it up with your good work!mwaaaaaah’

  26. So inspiring. I love ua
    So inspiring. I love ua article

  27. So inspiring. I love ua
    So inspiring. I love ua article

  28. i got a girl pregnant thou i
    i got a girl pregnant thou i didn’t want it to happen but i ended up taking her as my wife and i dont love her at all.av ever dumped her and choose to live with my son but my parents said if i dump her i vacate from the peace of land they gave me to build my home..now am like in hell.advice please

    1. Eric,

      Eric,
      I think the best option would be to try to talk to your parents. You are taking responsibility for your life and your son, and they need to accept that. It might take time, and you may need someone to help you, like a family friend, or family member.

  29. am an age of23but on my face
    am an age of23but on my face ilook like somebody who has 30years what could be the problem wil I found my true love of18yrs ad all they don’t like me,

    1. Bernad,

      Bernad,
      we can’t really change our looks. You can try to take good care of your skin by using good quality creams and lotions, and maybe see a skin specialist, but I wouldn’t put too much hope to much change.

  30. i hav ths hubby tht doesnt
    i hav ths hubby tht doesnt lyk solving prblms,lyk wen we misandastand,he doesnt lyk solvng it n wen u raise th isue,he’l blame u 4evrythng.samtym i find maslf hating him

    1. Jenny,

      Jenny,
      Can you someone convince him that the way to solve problems and the solutions are his idea?

  31. am robert 24yrs and av a very
    am robert 24yrs and av a very big problem.since i was born av neva engaged in luv with ladies or rather av sex.infact am very shy,jm even wondering will i one day marry.pls help mi!

  32. if my partner does not have
    if my partner does not have time for me does it means that he still loves me

    1. Hi Aysha, someone who loves
      Hi Aysha, someone who loves you always has time for you even when the are busy.

  33. Love comes at its own time. I
    Love comes at its own time. I am in love with a man twice my age,I know people are shocked. He is not a rich man because I know that’s what you all are thinking. For more than three years we’ve been together we’ve never had sex,he is a good person,a kind person,he knows my worth,he is that kind of person who listens,tells you the truth and very realistic. I know he is the right person for me because instead of talking about sex,he is constantly talking about our future,what we will do together,finding me a job,where we will live and making sure that we both comfortable. Don’t stop for less,don’t look for money in people,don’t go for the looks,go for love.

    1. Thanks so much faith for
      Thanks so much faith for sharing your story with us.

  34. Am realy liking wht u do

    Am realy liking wht u do
    Guys
    N its such an insperation to we young people just keep it rollin up

    1. Thank you very much for the
      Thank you very much for the feedback Vegas. Spread the word to others.

  35. Im just following u for those
    Im just following u for those good adviced. But the problem is av never been to a succesfful relationship,, until av given up but another problem is that i cant forget my last relationship i keep praying to. god to let go but still i cant forget him

  36. For sure am touched because
    For sure am touched because she has been doing almost everything you have stated though i couldn’t believe that she must be right one

    1. Good to hear that Andrew. All
      Good to hear that Andrew. All the best to the both of you.

  37. I hve 2 girls frieds and they
    I hve 2 girls frieds and they love me so much, they are frm one village, what cold i do.

    1. If you intend to be with one
      If you intend to be with one you need to break up with the one you decide to break up with. If you intend to be with both of the then you need to check with them if that ok with them.

  38. I have seen alot of my faults
    I have seen alot of my faults in this article, never mind I thought myself to be a very good spouse. I will use this wisdom to make our love the more worthwhile
    😉

    1. That’s really good to hear
      That’s really good to hear Ngige. Go for it!

  39. I duff off my hut for you
    I duff off my hut for you bravo keep it up lessons well leant yMN4

    1. Thank you very much. 🙂
      Thank you very much. 🙂

  40. i really love my wife, but
    i really love my wife, but her family members don’t like me. but she loves me too and we have a kid with her, we want to stay together in our own home. what should i do in order to let her brothers leave us enjoy our marriage?

    1. I too i hv dat problem bro
      I too i hv dat problem bro btw wen she luvz u nothing can stop da marriage

      1. That’s a good thing Lucky.
        That’s a good thing Lucky.

    2. sometimes our families are
      sometimes our families are not supportive of our relationships, and there is nothing much we can do about that except put your boundaries with them when it comes to your relationship. Enjoy your relationship with our partner that is all that matters.

  41. hey guys I promised my
    hey guys I promised my girlfriend I would send her some money but she went to school without me fulfilling my promise what do I do to make it up to her i really love her

    1. You should apologies to her
      You should apologies to her for not keeping our promise and make sure you keep your promises in the future.

  42. Hello am 21yrs but am in lov
    Hello am 21yrs but am in lov with 23yrs gal, and each time she asked me for sex i got fear just becoz of my short machine, how am i going to sastify the lady for sex by my short gun?

  43. I’m in a relationship now,bug
    I’m in a relationship now,bug my guy doesn’t like calling me n I sometimes feel like he is cheating on me. He once tld me he isn’t a type who likes chatting on phone.

  44. Am in a relationship and I
    Am in a relationship and I love the girl and loves me too..now something embarrasing me is her Ex boyfriend use to call me and text me dirty sms about the girl..pliz help..thnk you

    1. Hi Godfrey kindly clarify on
      Hi Godfrey kindly clarify on your question.

  45. I got a lot of tips from you
    I got a lot of tips from you guys,,,eventho we do mess my fiancee we usually settle our difficults together but am glad you added some fantast tips to myn earlier ones..am glad

  46. Hello love matters, i hav
    Hello love matters, i hav this girlfriend of mine, w’ve spent about five yrs togather bt last tym we had adis-agreement over asatan issue in-fact it was about an STD she had according to tests taken, she tried to defend her self that she was innocent & that she din’t know about it of which i couldn’t foolishly beieve. she laiter told me this secret that her best friend had told her earlier that its not good dating one guy with this fake reason that if one of them gets mad at u, u call or hung out w’th the other for cofort. i dint take it serious as she seemed angry bt as time past i came to notice that she was very bussy dating. its now one year dawn the road since her attitude towards me started changing, she’s nolonger the other one i used to know. am in astate of confusion, feel bottled up inside, i dont know wat to do next. p’se advise.

    1. Hi Godwin, sorry that you
      Hi Godwin, sorry that you have to hear this but your girl might be unfaithful. She seems not to care about you or your relationship. You need to take time and think about what you want. Decide if this is the relationship you want to be in for the rest of your life.

  47. I love my girlfriend so much
    I love my girlfriend so much.But the problem is ,she like outting so much (clubing)

    1. If you don’t like it then you
      If you don’t like it then you should point that to her and come to an agreement.

  48. Hi,we have dated with this
    Hi,we have dated with this guy for three yrs whom we love each other so much.we are doing great we communicate and solve problems when they happen/we misunderstand each other.most of the time we talk about marriage life.he does promise that he will never cheat on me,divorce or treat me bad.am convinced with his words bt i realy fear getting married reason being,how i see most women on how they are being treated with their husbands and how their marriage life is eg my mum.WHAT SHOULD I DO..?

    1. Hi Jane, stop comparing your
      Hi Jane, stop comparing your relationship with bad marriages. There are good and successful marriages and that is what you should aspire to have. Be positive.

    1. Yes indeed it is Pruddie.
      Yes indeed it is Pruddie.

  49. I got a gal and am in love
    I got a gal and am in love with her. But the problem, she doesn’t appreciate that am faithful to her coz am in the University and she is not. what shall I do to make her love me more??

    1. Hi Andrew, if you are doing
      Hi Andrew, if you are doing right by her that’s all you should keep doing. Sooner or later she will realize what she has, and if not that will be her mistake not yours.

  50. There is dis guy who wants to
    There is dis guy who wants to date me, but he his older than me with 9yrs. We both share issues, disclose our secrets, help each oda in difficult times but we are not in relationship ad he wants to date but am considering the environment we are cus we work in d same market, I love him thou but am scared……. and each time he talks abt our coming 2geda my response is am nat ready but he always tell me we are more dan jst relationship……….. what do u think I do plz????

    1. What is holding you back
      What is holding you back Miracle? what do you think will go wrong? What do you want? Answer these questions and you will know what to do.

  51. hey i have this friend of myn
    hey i have this friend of myn we have been cool we chat we call we meet frequently its now 6 month. and allover sudden feeling came. cant stop thinking of her. she is cute. cool n understanding please help how do i open up for this without a thought its too eary. mayaao nisaidie coz if i loose this one i will numb

  52. really appreciate what “love
    really appreciate what “love matters” is doing to our society.Even though,I have a problem.I am 20 yrs n at campus n have a chic who is 19 yrs.When we get intimate,I always feel like I am not enough for her.But she keeps telling me that I satisfy her fully n as far as she is concerned,I am the best.But even after all this,I feel like sometimes she’s lying to me n feel like I sometimes don’t satisfy her.What would be your advice coz I don wanna feel this way for the rest of our lives.

    1. Hi Kev, why do you doubt her
      Hi Kev, why do you doubt her and doubt yourself?

  53. I appreciate ua advices
    I appreciate ua advices

  54. Fall in love with a young
    Fall in love with a young guy..the problem is dat..he is a Pastor and am a youth leader..and r very confusing on how to get along because of our position in the church..only texting and calling!

    1. Does your religion forbid
      Does your religion forbid love and relationships?

  55. My Gf Got Employed Afew Weeks
    My Gf Got Employed Afew Weeks Back,and Nw We Spend Days Nt Communiting Coz She Calms Shez Busy.Wt Shud I Do About It?

    1. Have to tried to talk to her
      Have to tried to talk to her about this change and how it makes you feel?

  56. Me nd my partner alwys fight
    Me nd my partner alwys fight cs she has 2 much rules we touch nd laugh whn she’s hppy whn im hppy shes alwys down she doesnt wnt 2 b touched evrytime i touch her she comes wth ano excuse shes alwys tired doesnt wnt 2 touched if i touch her its a war i feel lost we cn b hppy during the day bt whn its bed time we fight cs i cnt kiss her or touch her i tried 2 tlk 2 her abt it bt she gets furious nd tell me painfull words.

    1. Hi Sipho have you thought
      Hi Sipho have you thought that maybe she’s not ready for sex?

  57. jst met this amazing guy on
    jst met this amazing guy on facebook n we r really crazy abt èach other nw though we havnt met in person yet….how do we make this work!? never been in along distanace relationship.

  58. am dating this kind of man
    am dating this kind of man who doesn’t trust me,he alwaiz thinks that am still dating with ma ex js because he saw ma chats with him bt for really I don’t cheat on him coz I love him,,,wen we have disagreement he alwaiz talks shit abt me,he doesn’t appreciate ma efforts at all all he wants its to let me leave ma house n my job to go to his house n stay with him,,I wonder wat kind of marriage will I be into?please help.

    1. Hi Liz, you should probably
      Hi Liz, you should probably take time and think long and hard if that is the relationship you want to be in for the rest of your life. Make a decision on what you want for yourself and future life.

  59. am in a double relationship.
    am in a double relationship. chic who is my agemate and a woman who use to be my boss one time and now she is paying my university fee. am glad am in campus bt I don’t know who to love coz I value both of them in my life bt the love from the woman keeps on diminishing as she call after 2 3 days. any breakup may make me loose my university fee. don’t know what to do

    1. Hi Elvis it sounds like you
      Hi Elvis it sounds like you are with a sugar mummy. Check out this article it will help give you insight https://lovematters.co.ke/news/rise-sugar-mummies . You will need to take time and decide who you want to be with. Its vital that you stabilize your life and get things in order.

  60. hi guyz i have my garlfriend
    hi guyz i have my garlfriend en we have take long tym with out seeing each ather coz we a in holday en he told me dat wan she kamz back he want me to get her gift to show dat i have been missing her.en i have fialeb to choose wat to give her guyz hlp me
    en i want same thing she will remember en lasst for long tym

    1. Hi John,

      Hi John,

      If you do not know what to get you can ask her friends or family if you know any or even ask her for suggestions.

  61. Appreciation matters allot in
    Appreciation matters allot in a relationship cos it makes one feel that he/she has that quality that every one has & sharing love is dangerous it break love entirely cos leads to distrust.

    1. Thanks for sharing that with
      Thanks for sharing that with us we appreciate.

  62. There is this lady that
    There is this lady that disturbs me like hell, she’s already engage but just that her fiancee is living abroad.
    But the truth is that she loves me like mad, but to be honest I can’t date someone who’s engage and I don’t know how to get her out of my life, cos she keeps on calling me and disturbing me while me i’m not ready for any kind of relationship. What do I do pls

    1. Hi Samuel,

      Hi Samuel,

      No one can force you to be in a relationship with them. All you need is to cut off any communication if you feel its a nuisance. Do not lead them on if you are not interested in the relationship. Make it clear that they should keep off and move on with your life.

  63. hi, i really have big problem
    hi, i really have big problem, i had or i dont know whether to say i say i have; a girl who just reached a time en told me she has no feelings for me at all, she doesn’t communicate with me, she does even give anything a lover can share with their loved one totally nothing. Recently when she went back home; she was studying en now she is done, she told me that l give her time alone. am the only who call, text or say hi, besides since time immemorial she has never felt proud as iam to maybe make publicly known that we dating, i was the only one who used to do. I really love her en am growing througj hell without her, please help me. Does it mean she has left me for another one? Or is it true that i give her space en she will come back? she also assured me that she isn’t dating anyone. please help am very lonely en stress is made me thin every single day en am worried of my health. Sleepless nghts, weird en hurting dreams about her, en every time i remember what is going i cry over her, i have really cried asking God why this happening to me. please help me.

    1. Hi,

      Hi,

      Sorry that you are going through this Khaemba.

      This maybe difficult to hear but it sounds as though she is not interested. She has already made it clear that she does not have feelings for you and she wants space.

      It would be a good idea to take the time off to evaluate yourself and the relationship. You should also consider the fact that the relationship could be over and you might need to move on.

      All the best to you.

  64. I have this gal i met i sec
    I have this gal i met i sec school then we broke up after sec i met her again buh she has a child now she claims that she loves me now i do love her buh could she be wanting a guy to catter for her child coz i really doubt if she loves coz she still speaks with the father of the child

    1. Hi Job,

      Hi Job,

      Only time will tell. The whole process of dating is all about finding out about your partner and their feelings towards each other.

      Something important to note is that when you get into a relationship with her you also get into a relationship with the child.

  65. Hi,am in marriage for 6yrs
    Hi,am in marriage for 6yrs for the one I loved ,we had two kids,once I found her unfaithful to me,bt the incidence was solved by my elders,bt I lost the trust,I felt she is not mine anymore,since then she communicative nor does she bother me like she used when we were dating,sometimes I text her she don’t reply,a time my calls goes un answered,then the later reply is”please call me thank you”,at a certain stage I feel like withdrawing myself in this marriage,but I love my kids soo much than I feel them if I leave them with.plz help.

    1. Hi Roy,

      Hi Roy,

      It sounds as though you are not happy in the relationship and things are not working.

      You should take time to think about what you want and decide on the way forward.

  66. My case is somehow different
    My case is somehow different,d guy I was going out with suddenly start getting cozy with my colleague at my place of work.when I noticed,I was furious and I told him I don’t like it.but he didn’t budge to the extent of starting a relationship with her. Now he told me to give him time to cut off from d lady,but I don’t trust him again cos d trust dat was der has been broken.what do I do,coz I still av dis little atom of love for him.

  67. I have a boyfriend who I
    I have a boyfriend who I found all dis on but my mum doesn’t like him because her pastor said he is nt my husband what should I do?

    1. Hi Trina,

      Hi Trina,

      Relationships are about two people. Is goo when the parents approve of it but ultimately is always just about the two people in it.

      If you both love each other and want to be together then that is all that matters.

  68. Hlo been having dis issue for
    Hlo been having dis issue for a while now, am in dis relationship with dis guy at d beginning it was blissful we chat and talk d whole nite we also promised to be faithful. But lately I noticed he’s not into d relationship anymore until one day I stumbled on a chat BTW him and a lady asking her to come over to collect some money, dis guy has never helped me wen am in need but we never he needs help I go out of my way to make sure tins are in perfect condition. D tin now is I don’t trust him anymore though I have forgiven him and love dis guy so much but he seems to be acting more distant Dan usual we never I try talking about it he shoves it away. Really nid ur advice cost am confused

  69. I hate a girl we are dating
    I hate a girl we are dating but we are home for a long holiday, her phone normally is off from 8am to 6pm or till tonight, I love her but I feel that she might be cheating me with her ex at her homestead. Should I move on while it’s early?

  70. Have been in a relationship
    Have been in a relationship where sometimes I feel he doesn’t really call me ..but at d beginning he said he is not d calling type
    Sometimes am just tried let me give up..then he calls
    It has happened almost every time…I love him to call but he doesn’t like calling…he calls when he he sees is getting to 2days then he calls

    1. It s a good thing that you
      It s a good thing that you are able to talk about what you like or do not like.

      You should consider asking what method of communication he prefers in order both of you can continue having constant communication.

  71. Am 33 Yr Old, I Have A Woman
    Am 33 Yr Old, I Have A Woman Friend One Year Older Than I, She Has Shown Me Realy Love. Ready To Stand With Me In Times Of Hardship. My Relatives Are Against Her That She Is Expensive For Me, What Can I Do?

    1. Being in love is such a good
      Being in love is such a good feeling. It sounds like the two of you are doing great together.

      Others opinions are always an added advantage but ultimately relationships are about the two people in it. Whether it works or not is always up to the couple.

      All the best to both of you.

  72. I have a girlfriend &we have
    I have a girlfriend &we have stayed 4 two year know :;when I touch her 4n I always see another Man’s picture on the screen, when I stay for about 2 days & asks her she refuses that there were no picture on her 4n ,.when I complain about that last but not list she tolds me it belongs to her quzo is this a good partner?

    1. Hi Albert, that’s a difficult
      Hi Albert, that’s a difficult question to answer. You’ve been together for two years so it means you know a lot about her and its easier for you to judge whether she good for you or not. Take time and think about it and make a decision.

    2. Albert, two years is a long
      Albert, two years is a long time. If all the way she’s been like this, then it can be her nature to tell lies but if she started doing it along the way then you are wasting time. She got another man. Run

      1. Thanks for your input Victor.
        Thanks for your input Victor.

  73. I love the way you helping
    I love the way you helping out in the matters of love,.. Your work is dope n so much appreciated

    1. Thank you Ko for the
      Thank you Ko for the wonderful feedback.

  74. Dats gud l rilly love day
    Dats gud l rilly love day

  75. i think the 8 are the only…
    i think the 8 are the only points to look upto…relationships are expensive so you better look into the 8 to stay cool in that perfect rekationship

    1. (No subject)
      Hi Gaylene,

      Thank you for sharing with us.

  76. It’s the the right thing to…
    It’s the the right thing to do on a relationship between the two sides

  77. (No subject)
    Hello Diana,

    we hope that you find this information useful.

  78. Wow true thanks so much
    Wow true thanks so much

  79. I have enjoyed digesting the…
    I have enjoyed digesting the statements very intergrated, dignity is a lublicant in a union of lovers, one love team lovers

  80. Am in a confused rship …am…
    Am in a confused rship …am not sure whether am with the right person

    1. Hi Bridget, It is important…

      Hi Bridget, It is important you take sometime and think about what you want in a relationship and the kind of person you want to be with. Does the person you are with fit the kind of person you want to be with? If not, it maybe time to end the relationship. All the best. 

  81. For couples they should…
    For couples they should stick together during tough times.

    1. Thank you for the reedback.

      Thank you for the reedback.

    1. Thank you for the feedback…

      Thank you for the feedback Scholastica.

  82. If my partner does not have…
    If my partner does not have time for me does it means that he still love me

    1. Hi Jane, it is important you…
      Hi Jane, it is important you talk with your partner about spending time together. When partners don’t spend quality time together, they end up growing apart which may cause problems in their relationship. Take time to find out what could be going on, is it their current work schedule or stress, so that together you can agree on how to proceed. You can come up with a plan that will allow for spending time together. Check out this articles;-
      https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner
      https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems

  83. Thanks for the tips, but pls…
    Thanks for the tips, but pls am having serious issue with my partner, she is double dating and is really hurting me, have warned her and Mother also have warned her yet she is still doing it, I don’t know what to do….help me

    1. Hi Michael, if your partner…

      Hi Michael, if your partner is cheating on you and you have talked to her and she refuses to change, you have to make a decision as to whether you are going to accept this or whether it’s to breakup and move on. Take time and think about what you are willing to accept moving forward. If she is unwilling to change it maybe time to break up. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/knowing-when-to-break-up

  84. this is great! i need to…
    this is great! i need to work on the space cause me n my guy r too fund of each other. thanks

    1. You are welcome Debbie. We…

      You are welcome Debbie. We wish you all the best.

  85. Give urself a small break or…
    Give urself a small break or gap so as nt 2 b dull

    1. Hey Joy, thank you we…

      Hey Joy, thank you we appreciate your contribution.

  86. Thats great love the topic…
    Thats great love the topic it has realy helped me

    1. Thank you for the feedback…

      Thank you for the feedback Lilian, we are glad you found this useful.

  87. Its super cool….always…
    Its super cool….always there for each other even in prayers… N give space to each other

    1. Hello Grace, thank you, we…

      Hello Grace, thank you, we appreciate your contribution. 

  88. Love is all about supporting…
    Love is all about supporting ur partner,s vision ,n anything dat brings joy to him or her.

    1. Well said Mary, that you for…

      Well said Mary, that you for your contribution. 

    1. You are welcome Maureen, and…

      You are welcome Maureen, and we are glad you liked it. 

    1. You are welcome Angel.

      You are welcome Angel.

    1. You are very welcome.

      You are very welcome.

  89. my gilfriend say she doesnt…
    my gilfriend say she doesnt feel me anymore what should i do to make her love me again…..i do love her for real

    1. Dear Charles, so sorry about…

      Dear Charles, so sorry about this. Unfortunately, there is not much you can do to make a person love especially if they have made up their minds about breaking up. You could try and find out what exactly has led to this and see if you can together resolve the issues ad get back to have feelings for each other. If she has however made up her about this, you will have to respect her choice. We wish you all the best. 

  90. How do u know if a guy is…
    How do u know if a guy is loving even when he has not openee up and say he love you?. Sometimes he robs one of the lady finger with his whole hands

    1. Hi Faith that is a great…

      Hi Faith that is a great question! Love presents in different ways. We all have love Languages. These are ways in which we express love for our loved ones. These love languages are Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.
      Words of Affirmation are when your partner keeps telling you good things about yourself. Acts of service are when your partner does things for you like cooking and doing laundry. Receiving gifts is when your partner gives you gifts. Quality time is when your partner spends time with you deliberately. And physical touch is when your partner likes to touch you in various ways, even non-sexually.
       

  91. I learn somethings too …
    I learn somethings too
    Thanks

  92. Wow touching,I love it
    Wow touching,I love it

  93. It’s very hard to know the…
    It’s very hard to know the real one’s because everyone change when they meet new people

  94. Awesome write up..?
    Clearly…

    Awesome write up..?
    Clearly everything is true..?
    Thanks for broading my knowledge on this..?

    1. You are most welcome Shawnte…

      You are most welcome Shawnte and we are always pleased to help!

  95. What a great feeling to love…
    What a great feeling to love and to be loved back especially considering the given checkpoints. Amazing facts i agree

  96. Thank you so much for your…

    Thank you so much for your feedback Ephie! Love is the mos powerful force in the universe and we are sending loe right back to you!

  97. My challenge is this, my…
    My challenge is this, my friend lied to me about the nature of his job, when I discovered it he apologised and promise to change, but i fine it difficult to believe him.

  98. Hi Joy, thank you for…

    Hi Joy, thank you for reaching out and we are sorry you are going through a hard time. It is completely natural to feel a bit betrayed by your friend but all is not lost. Communication is an important part of any relationship. Have an open and honest conversation with your friend. Explain how their actions are affecting you and your friendship. Try not to be confrontational because that would put him on the defensive and the resulting conversation would not be productive.  Be ready to listen to his fears and feelings and respond to them as well. Have a wonderful weekend and stay safe!

  99. I once did it’s tough nowí…
    I once did it’s tough now😢
    but thanks

  100. Thank you, Anonymous for…

    Thank you, Anonymous for your feedback and we are glad we could help! Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe! 

  101. Love Matters you have helped…
    Love Matters you have helped me to make decision and now I know whether the relationship I am in in will lead to marriage or not… Thank you

    1. We are o glad to hear this…

      We are o glad to hear this and happy to be of help. Please go through the website to find other articles that you may find useful.

    1. Thank you so much for your…

      Thank you so much for your feedback Carlos, we appreciate your feedback.

  102. Nice advise thanks for…
    Nice advise thanks for encouraging us

    1. Hi Som, thank you for your…

      Hi Som, thank you for your feedback we appreciate it. Please feel free to look through our website to find other articles that you may find interesting.

  103. I am glad to hear that it’s…
    I am glad to hear that it’s so interesting,and be blessed

    1. Hi magadahlinah damaris,…

      Hi magadahlinah damaris, thank you so much for your feedback it is much appreciated. Please feel free to look through our website to find other articles that you may find interesting.

  104. Sending blessings right back…

    Sending blessings right back at you! Please feel free to go through more of our content and let us know what you think and if you have any questions, do not hesitate to reach out! Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

  105. What about men to claim to…
    What about men to claim to be so busy

    1. Hi there,

      No matter how…

      Hi there,

      No matter how busy he may be, your relationship should remain a major priority in his life. If he loves you and enjoys spending time with you, he should spare time to do so. If he does not spare time completely, it may be that he is not interested in being in a relationship with you. 

      At the same time, it is important to note that if he sets aside time but you feel that it is not enough, you should be a bit empathetic since he could be indeed busy. It is important to enjoy time apart so that you have time to yourself and him to himself. 

  106. Have learnt important lesson…
    Have learnt important lesson there

  107. Love is really not…
    Love is really not explainable nor easy to handle but through learning through others and sites like “love matters “ thank you

    1. Thank you, John, for your…

      Thank you, John, for your contribution. We appreciate you too!

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