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Lesbian sex: top 5 myths

Many misconceptions float around when it comes to how lesbian women have sex. Join us as we try and tackle some of these myths!

  1. Lesbian women don’t need penetration

    The logic appears to be plain – lesbian women don’t have any need for men, so they don’t need any penetration either. This logic is bizarre, to say the least.

    The pleasure that accompanies penetration is a physiological reaction which doesn’t ask about your sexuality before making itself felt. So lesbian and straight women alike can be fond of penetration. It’s just that owing to their sexual orientation, lesbian women are more likely to derive pleasure when they’re involved in the penetrative act with a woman, which brings us to the next myth…

  2. Lesbian women cannot possibly have real (read: penetrative) sex

    While the mechanisms of two men having sex are pretty clear to a large number of people, the exact nature of lesbian sex is still a mystery to many.

    Thanks to so many misrepresentations in pop culture and pornographic movies, people assume that two women can have sex only to the point of kissing, cuddling, scissoring, and oral sex, at best.

    That’s not true! Homosexual women can use an array of sex toys (like dildos) to bring in penetration into the play without any need for a man. And of course, they have fingers they can use. Basically, they can engage in as many varieties of sexual activity as two men can, if not more, should they so choose to!

  3. Lesbian sex is low-risk when it comes to STIs

    That is a serious misconception. Many STIs like warts, HPV-2, etc. can spread through direct contact with infected genitals or broken skin and don’t need bodily fluids like blood or semen for transmission. And even in the case of STDs that spread through bodily fluids alone, lesbian sex offers many opportunities for that to happen; think vaginal discharge, menstrual blood, shared sex toys and so on.

  4. All lesbian women like it rough

    Many people like to stereotype lesbian women as ‘manlier’ and more aggressive than the average straight woman. This leads them into believing that lesbian sex is always wild, raunchy, and hardcore.

    Just for the record, lesbian women (like straight women) come in as many varieties as butterflies or candy.

    Some may like it rough, some others may go for tender. To each her own! It’s not rocket science to imagine that the same woman may like it wild at times, and may go for something gentler at others!

  5. There’s always a ‘man’ and a ‘woman’ in every act of lesbian sex

    This is a myth that surrounds all homosexual couples; especially among people who fail to understand that two people of same sex can have sex and relationships without assuming opposite gender roles! So all the stereotypes surrounding the ‘butch’ lesbian who’s hard, masculine, and the active agent in sex and the ‘femme’, who’s soft, feminine, and at the receiving end, are just that – stereotypes.

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