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Signs you have compulsive sexual behavior

Do you have sexual fantasies, urges, or behaviors that you find hard to control? It could be compulsive sexual behavior.

You’ve probably heard of someone who has difficulty controlling their sexual behavior or you have experienced this yourself. Let’s talk about this behavior that is often characterized by having multiple sexual partners, paying for sex, addictive masturbation, addiction to pornography among other excessive sexual thoughts, urges, and fantasies.

What is compulsive sexual behavior? 

You have Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Disorder (CSBD) if you experience anxiety and distress as a result of failure to control sexual urges or impulses. 

Compulsive sexual behavior is sometimes called hypersexuality, hypersexuality disorder, or sexual addiction

The causes of this disorder are not known. 

CSBD sometimes leads to self-esteem issues, it can ruin your relationship with other people including friends, and even risk losing your work or career among other aspects of your life.

5 signs you may be struggling with CSBD

  • You spend a lot of time thinking about sex and find it difficult to manage your thoughts.
  • Sexual activities are increasingly becoming a core part of your life.
  • You don’t or care little about the consequences of your sexual actions (i.e. exposure to STI, missed class, work or opportunity, or unintended pregnancy)
  • You view sex as the only mode of relaxation
  • You masturbate to the point of causing harm, discomfort, or during inappropriate times or places.

Prevention and treatment

This depends on the extent of the addiction or disorder.

  • Treatment can be self-initiated such as limiting your access to sexual content (i.e. pornographic videos) and avoiding situations where you'll be tempted to engage in risky sexual practices.,
  • Seeking mental health support from a professional psychologist or psychiatrist (some interventions include administering medication).

Important note:

Compulsive sexual behavior can affect anyone, it’s not a boy's or men’s problem. Knowing the warning signs is important.

Sex is pleasurable and shouldn’t be harmful to your health or social wellbeing.

Do you have any questions about CSBD or would like to share your experience? Talk to us. 

Did you learn something new?

Comments

Hi Maq, 

If the bundles do not affect your budget for other items, then you are alright. On the other hand, if you find yourself using money intended for other purposes so that you can watch porn, like say, you had saved some money for shopping and you use all of it on bundles so that you can watch porn? If you go broke just so that you can watch porn, it is time to think carefully about your habit since it may be affecting your finances. 

Clinton
Fri, 09/03/2021 - 11:47 pm
I can't last more than 3 days without sex.Failure to have sex for one week always makes my self esteem to go down and I feel week confused Unhappy and hopeless and My penis start to erect carelessly each time I see a beautiful lady.

Hi Clinton, 

It's okay to even have sex every day. The issue is that when you do not have it, you start to feel confused and unhappy, which is not good. Perhaps you can sit down and think about why sex validates you and gives you confidence. Are you using sex as a coping mechanism for a bigger problem? If you are not able to think through this alone, talk to someone you can trust like a friend or counselor or sex therapist. They should help you resolve this issue. 

Hi Chacha, 

Well, there are several things you can do. First, avoid things that make you want to masturbate. This could be certain music or pornography. Second, ensure that you are busy doing other things including work, schoolwork, hanging out with friends, taking a walk, cooking, etc. Ensure that these things or environments do not tempt you to masturbate. Train your mind to focus on other things other than masturbation. If you are having trouble stopping, talk to a sex therapist or counselor. Good luck!

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Tue, 09/07/2021 - 08:12 pm
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