Premature ejaculation: do’s and don’ts
If you find yourself climaxing just as the party gets started,here are some tips on how to overcome premature ejaculation..
Eat healthy
Studies have shown that men and women who are mostly vegetarian have more endurance and last much longer in bed than non-vegetarians. They have more stamina due to the nutrients they are getting from a healthy diet of fruits and veggies. Particularly sex-friendly fruits include bananas, strawberries and amla.
Exercise
Exercise improves blood flow in general, and that includes to the genital region! Certain yoga asanas like the cobra pose can help, as can pelvic floor exercises, or ‘Kegels‘.
Pay attention to your body
One of the most common ways to keep yourself from ejaculating too soon is to monitor your excitement, and then, before you orgasm, stop all stimulation until you’ve got yourself under control again. Practising this technique helps you gain some control over your orgasm response. Pay attention to your sensations. If you’re about to cum, slow down. Slow way down, or stop altogether; give yourself a breather before starting again.
Fancy a squeeze
When you’re about to climax, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response.
Use de-sensitisers
Applying a topical spray to your penis can lessen sensation and help you gain control of ejaculation. Get the amount of desensitisation just right so that it won’t affect your partner and won’t cause issues with remaining stiff – this takes a little practice, but could do wonders for those who have difficulties with the other tips.
Distract yourself
If you find yourself getting too excited too soon, try distracting yourself by thinking of something unrelated to sex. Temporarily diverting your attention can help you to relax and last longer. You could also pull out and switch positions. Switching around your bodies gives you some time to regain vigour and also allows you to explore new positions.
Skip foreplay
Studies have shown that those who partake in a little foreplay action before sex make love far longer than those who don’t. Devoting more time to foreplay will not only extend your lovemaking sessions, but will add more excitement to the whole ordeal. Furthermore, when you help them to orgasm first, using whatever technique they most enjoy, you’ll feel a lot less pressure to last long yourself.
Forget to wear a condom
Condoms tend to decrease pleasure and sensitivity during sex, but that may be a good thing if you’re trying to last longer! Many manufacturers make extra-thick condoms that serve well as desensitisers, plus you’ll be protected from STDs and unwanted pregnancy.
Smoke or drink alcohol
Smoking lessens blood flow to the penis and can leave you limp, while alcohol consumption prior to sex is a common cause of erectile dysfunction.
Stress yourself out
Premature ejaculation is often as much mental as it is physical. So relax, be positive, and approach sex with confidence and self-respect. Fear and self-doubt may create a self-fulfilling prophecy. The less stressed you are, the more control you will gain over how long you last.
Forget to practise with yourself
Masturbation or self-stimulation is a great way to help build stamina and keep yourself from ejaculating too soon. Forget the naysayers – masturbation is natural and healthy and can help you familiarise yourself with your body, allowing you to recognise when you’re getting too excited and need to slow down before it’s too late.
Underestimate the power of love
Men tend to get overexcited and self-conscious their first time with a new partner, and that anxiety can lead to bad performance. Being in a loving, monogamous relationship, however, is a great way to boost your performance in bed, as the closer you feel to your partner the more comfortable and confident you will feel during sex.
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No, masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life.
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Hi Simon, we appreciate your contribution however, what you have mentioned are just myths. There is no scientific proof to this. Masturbation can be a great and safe way to explore ones sexuality. If one has a weak erection or are unable to sustain an erection, there could be other underlying causes including psychological and physical issues. One may need to consult a health care provider for further advice. Have a look at this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted
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What if it addicts someone to an extend he assumes his partner especially in bed????
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If you are no…
Hi Brianl,
If you are no longer interested in sex with your partner and prefer to masturbate instead, it is important to have an open and honest with your partner about how you can make your sex life better. It could be that you do not get as much pleasure from sex so its good to explore ways of improving your self-life.
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Hi Peter,
it’s a myth that masturbation causes premature ejaculation, but indeed, if you only masturbate, it can take some time to get used to having sex as opposed to masturbation.
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Hi Koech,
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Doesn’t the article answer this question, Prince? Or are we not getting you?
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Tonny,
Tonny,
there is unfortunately no effective way to do this. But why do you think your penis needs to be bigger?
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squeezing underneath the dick n relaxing ur butt helps alot too.Also changing positions.
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sex position can also lead to
sex position can also lead to premature ejaculation so finding a position less exciting helps
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Job,
Job,
masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life. The only disadvantage can be that, if you are used to masturbation only, it might take you a while to get used to the different sensations during sex.
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Why do you want to stop
Why do you want to stop masturbating? How often do you do it?
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You should always try non-medical ways first, and please do not take anything without a doctor’s approval!
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when is the time to see a doctor??
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please give us a brief about masturbation…
Javan,
Javan,
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We have plenty of information on it, used the search box to find lots of articles.
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How kan one masturbate???
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Let us know how it goes, Easy!
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so can pumpkins do good for sex life?
Living and eating healthily
Living and eating healthily can definitely do good for your sex life. That doesn’t mean you should start eating nothing but pumpkin.
For a good sex life, you need to be healthy, reasonably fit, and what’s even more important, you need to talk to your partner, and find out what she likes and dislikes, And vice versa.
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wht r the safe days??,
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Safe days are very unreliable, Virginia. During a regular, 28-day cycle, the first 7 days after your menstruation and the 7 days before have a lower risk of pregnancy. However, this depends on the cycle regularity and length, and on how long your partner’s sperm can survive. So, unless you are willing to have a baby soon, you are better off choosing another birth control method.
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No, that’s a myth.
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I lyk this but does it mean if u are not used to sex u will definitely ejaculate earlier what is your advice .. should I get used b4 I marry cx the last tyme I had sex I ejaculated within 30 sec after penetrating n a felt embarrassed that’s is last yr until nkaboeka I son even desire sex untill to date.
Josee,
Josee,
it’s quite normal to ejaculate quickly when you haven’t had sex in a while.
Try masturbating beforehand- that should take the first urge away.
Thanks for the tips
Thanks for the tips
You are very welcome!
You are very welcome!
I’m married and am feeling
I’m married and am feeling like am not performing very wel in bed coz i’m an addict of masterbation. After doing the normal sex with my wife, some sperms remain in the urethra such that i have to squeez them out….is this normal or am sick?
Safari,
Safari,
fisrtly, masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life. What makes you think you are addicted to it?
And what makes you think you don’t perform well in bed? Have you talked about this with your wife? Have you talked about both your needs and wishes?
And lastly, yes, it’s normal for some sperm to remain in the urethra after ejaculation. You don’t have to worry about it; it would come out the next time you urinate anyway.
Hi i broke my gf virginity
Hi i broke my gf virginity early last year but still to date when i fuck her she expérience pain…plz what mghty b thé rezon or i didnt break well?
Hi i broke my gf virginity
Hi i broke my gf virginity early last year but still to date when i fuck her she expérience pain…plz what mghty b thé rezon or i didnt break well?
Javan,
Javan,
is she very wet and aroused? How much attention do you pay to her clitoris?
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How long does a normal man,or
How long does a normal man,or just tell us the average time a man takes to ejaculate.i know we are different n it depends on many factors but with factors kept constant atleast we are of the same species n there should an average time i believe.Is there any research that has been done on this?
Between 5 and 45 minutes.
Between 5 and 45 minutes.
I have problem no erection
I have problem no erection after sex one shot what might b the problem with me please help
That’s totally normal. After
That’s totally normal. After sex, your body goes through the refractory period. That means it needs time to recover and have another erection. This period can last anywhere from a few minutes to hours.
does musterbation affect
does musterbation affect penis growth
and what makes penis to be big and strong
Khadar,
Khadar,
do, it does not.
And, there is nothing you can really do to affect the size of a penis.
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I saw an Opportunity some where on this page yesterday, am i late or i can still apply ?
For the moderator job? sorry,
For the moderator job? sorry, that has been filled.
I always come first and cant
I always come first and cant continue any more what can i do ?
DP,
DP,
This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.
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Thanks this is great
Thanks!
Thanks!
What causes low sexual
What causes low sexual apetite?
It can be caused by many
It can be caused by many things. Can you give us some more information?
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The more I read your comments guys I always get something new
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does smorking affect p.e?
does smorking affect p.e?
It’s possible, yes.
It’s possible, yes.
Hi. Thanks that is helpful.
Hi. Thanks that is helpful. But how can i stop masturbation plz i am addicted
Could you explain why you
Could you explain why you think you are addicted? How often do you do it.
great work.keep it up.before
great work.keep it up.before i got married i used to go three,four or five rounds but now i only do one and go to deep slumber.could i be having a problem?assist
That sounds very normal,
That sounds very normal, Philip. Your body needs time to recover after a round, and once you start getting a bit older, things take longer.
Is it true oral sex has some
Is it true oral sex has some effects? like licking develops prostrate cancer on men?
As long as both partners are
As long as both partners are healthy, there is nothing you have to worry about.
Yes, there have been some cases of throat cancer. Have a look here:
https://lovematters.co.ke/news/female-desire-and-michael-douglass-throat
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Great n helpful clinic to be.
Thank you Leenox
Thank you Leenox
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Great job,kp t up..
Thanks Dave
Thanks Dave
i masturbate every day.does
i masturbate every day.does it hv any negative effect on my sexual life?
There are no negative effects
There are no negative effects of masturbating everyday. Get more information here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted
dr. is there any benefit of
dr. is there any benefit of having uncut foreskin wen playing sex?
Hi Charles there is no
Hi Charles there is no scientific research that shows the benefits of the foreskin during sex over uncircumcised penis.
Thanks for tips
Thanks for tips
You are welcome Josephat
You are welcome Josephat
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nyc tips
Thanks
Thanks
is it normal to have a large
is it normal to have a large dick when erect and very small when its relaxed?
Yes John that is absolutely
Yes John that is absolutely normal!
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Sorry Chronixx but we can’t
Sorry Chronixx but we can’t help you with that.
Mastubation is good when you
Mastubation is good when you do it not quiet often but if regularly….i have not yet had sex but because of mastubation only thoughts about sex can make me to ejaculate and when after urinating some of the urine still comes out without me noticing it. so dont say mastubation is harmless
Hi Felix, how were you harmed
Hi Felix, how were you harmed from masturbation?
I’ve this problem of PE and I
I’ve this problem of PE and I’ve been following your advice and try to overcome this PE with masturbation, the way you guys explain what to do but still can’t manege so what else can I do. plz I really need help
Hi Mk what have you tried and
Hi Mk what have you tried and what has not worked so far?
where can i get those
where can i get those desensitisers/ viagra help me pliz
Hi Edie, you can get the
Hi Edie, you can get the desensitizer in all major pharmacies but it would be best to get prescription for the Viagra from a doctor.
wat are some of the
wat are some of the techniques in foreplay to make her orgasm incase i can’t last longer.
and secondly, ma balls pain alot after a strong erect wat could be the problem, is it normal?
Hi Manozi, here are some tips
Hi Manozi, here are some tips that can help you with the foreplay https://lovematters.co.ke/news/foreplay-dos-and-donts . The testicles can be pretty sensitive if not handle well. But if if one has persistent pain its always advisable to visit a doctor.
That was a good tips soo
That was a good tips soo helpful
Thank you Simo for the
Thank you Simo for the positive feedback.
where do i get vmax? does it
where do i get vmax? does it really add penis size.
Hi Felix, there is no
Hi Felix, there is no medication that has been proven to increase penis size. Red some more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/penis-enlargement-doesnt-work.
I do have erection
I do have erection dysfunctional problem plz any suggestions and I used to smoke a lot and I quit about 4 months ago
Hi Vicky if its persistent
Hi Vicky if its persistent you could seek medical attention for support.
hi, i alwayz go once 4
hi, i alwayz go once 4 sex not 4 more than 30mins, wat can i do 2 last 4 long and satisfy her enough ?
Hi Ramos, how long do you
Hi Ramos, how long do you want to last because 30 minutes is long by most people slandered ?
I have a problem since I cnt
I have a problem since I cnt stay away from ma gal for one week without feeling the sexual desire .he can I help that
Hi Bran, that is normal there
Hi Bran, that is normal there is nothing wrong with having sexual desires for your partner.
before having sex I usually
before having sex I usually erect high and hard when she touches my penis, but when I ware a condom ready for sex it weakens to a point of unable to have sex,,,what’s is the problem with this now? please advice!
Hi pinchez, it all in your
Hi pinchez, it all in your mind. What changes when you wear the condom? Read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/condom-every-dick .
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You are most welcome.
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Thanks, glad you like it.
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Any drugs. That ken hlp to stp P.E.some body adviced me to take revive. Bt i need to be sure
Kindly don’t take any
Kindly don’t take any medication not prescribed directly to you by a doctor or a qualified medical personnel.
Kindly I need your advice,I
Kindly I need your advice,I used to have steamy sex all night with my woman my dick erecting few minutes after ejaculation but I can’t nowdays and it changed when my partner went to work away,my dick can erect but when I want to sex it weakens and can sleep until morning and can’t last longer too..I went to hospital few months ago and lab tests confirmed fungal infections,could that be the reason? .because It took me long to go hospital until I urinated purse and had difficult
Hi Rashid,
Hi Rashid,
Yes having an infection could interfere with your normal sexual activity.
thanks for everything.hi how
thanks for everything.hi how long do i have to take befor ejaculation for t to be normal?
There is no standard time set
There is no standard time set when one should ejaculate. The most important thing is that both you and your partner get satisfaction and are happy with your sex life.
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Great job. kp t up
Thank you Wanjax.
Thank you Wanjax.
which topical sprays are…
which topical sprays are these and where can one find them?
Hi Kelvin, As mentioned in…
Hi Kelvin, As mentioned in the article they lessen sensation and help you gain control of ejaculation. You can find them at a pharmacy.
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I like this keep it up
You are welcome Abincha, and…
You are welcome Abincha, and we will.
Ican mesturbetion cause low…
Ican mesturbetion cause low speam
Hi Ken, masturbation doesn’t…
Hi Ken, masturbation doesn’t cause low sperm count or even infertility. As long as ones reproductive organs are healthy, the body will keep producing sperms. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted
It’s helpful thanks
It’s helpful thanks
You are welcome Fanuel.
You are welcome Fanuel.
am not understanding…
am not understanding masturbation atall.
Hi Marko, what exactly don’t…
Hi Marko, what exactly don’t you understand? In the menatime check out this article for more information on masturbation;-https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-going-solo
actually as u say that if…
actually as u say that if some one become used to masturbation,it can take for him good times to becomes used to other sensation during sex.Now my question is,if that person stop masturbation he can take how long to become used to sensation of sex as opposed to masturbation?.
Marko, I am not able to tell…
Marko, I am not able to tell how long it can take since people are different.
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Thank For Dat Advise
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You are welcome Polycap.
You are welcome Polycap.
You are welcome Polycap.
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Thank you Wesonga, keep reading.
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Thank you Dave for the feedback. Keep reading.
Masterbation also helps even…
Masterbation also helps even if you are alone?
This is true. Thank you for…
This is true. Thank you for your contribution.
Thank you for the info,…
Thank you for the info, atleast now I know what to do.
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You are welcome.
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I have learn a lot
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We are glad Yvonne.
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We are glad to know that you found this useful. You are welcome Kay.
I found this helpful. Thank…
I found this helpful. Thank you
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Hey Bidex, we are glad.
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Nice one
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You are welcome, Olusegun.
There are some men who can…
There are some men who can last Up to 30 minutes without getting tired, and does it mean that they took drugs
Hi Bath, do you mean the…
Hi Bath, do you mean the person ejaculates after 30 minutes or they get physically exhausted after the 30 minutes? While the amount of time spent having sex is important, it also important to consider the quality sex. One should only takes drugs if they are prescribed by a professional health provider. There afew things one can do to last longer during sex. Have a look at this article for some tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
I want to last up to 30…
I want to last up to 30 minutes with hard erection
Hi Batholome, there are a…
Hi Batholome, there are a few things you can do to last longer during sex. Good sex however a balance between quality and quantity. It helps to talk with ones partner to get to know what they like and enjoy during sex. Do have a look at the following article for tips on lasting long;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
I get distracted easily and…
I get distracted easily and my penis gets soft immediately even inside.
Hey Mykael, premature…
Hey Mykael, premature ejaculation means that you get very excited too soon during sex. You can use the tips in the article above to learn how to better control your ejaculation and last longer. This will take practice and time, be patient with yourself. Additionally, have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
I learnt that masturbation…
I learnt that masturbation is not good atol
Hi Son, from a scientific…
Hi Son, from a scientific point of view, there is nothing wrong with it, infact one can explore their own sexuality in this safe way. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted
It’s really helpful
It’s really helpful
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We are glad Jayde.
It is really a great and…
It is really a great and useful piece of information. I’m glad that you
shared this useful information with us. Please keep us up to
date like this. Thanks for sharing.
You are welcome Steve.
You are welcome Steve.
I cum fast when I’m having…
I cum fast when I’m having sex between 1 or 2 minutes
Hey Princed, you seem to be…
Hey Princed, you seem to be experiencing premature ejaculation. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Controlling your ejaculation and lasting long is something you can learn to do. Have a look at this article for some tips on how to address premature ejaculation;-
https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
Which desensitizer can I use?
Which desensitizer can I use?
Hi Oliver, do check with…
Hi Oliver, do check with your local pharmacy to see what they have available.
Anytime I start thrusting…
Anytime I start thrusting.. It will be like I should cum instantly. Though I fight it always but most times it beats me to it. Wot can I do.
This is a very good question…
This is a very good question and a very common one as well. So, do not worry, you are not alone. There are some remedies that could help you last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation, you should go see doctor.
One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until you almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response.This should be repeated many times.
Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. You could also masturbate before having sex.
Thank you for the tips, very…
Thank you for the tips, very educative. The more one goes the comments, the more new things one learns. Keep up the good work. Bless
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Please I always have this…
Please I always have this problem, any time a stand with a girl without even mention anything sex, my penis will just stand erect something this particular thing always disgrace me in public. what will be the cause of this. And how do I solve it.
Hi Bethel, thank you for…
Hi Bethel, thank you for reaching out and we are sorry you are going through a hard time but please do not feel ashamed of your body. Many men have a problem erecting their penises, leave alone keeping them erected so for one, you should be proud. The reason your penis erects randomly is associated with your strong sex drive, sensitivity to physical stimulation (as you walk or otherwise) and because you are a young strong man. One trick that most men use when their penises become erect in public situations is called the “Seat Belt Technique” whereby once hard, simply tuck your penis into the elastic strap above your boxers/underwear or belt. It completely eradicates the obvious protrusion that would cause any embarrassing situation and because the penis is strapped to your belt or boxer/ underwear elastic band, it will cut off blood supply to your genitals and your erection will fade quickly! The trick here is to ensure that when you adjust your erect penis, you do so discreetly so as to not draw attention to yourself as this would bring you more unwanted embarrassment. Hope this advice helps, stay safe and have a wonderful week ahead!
Thank you for your advice
Thank you for your advice
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Hello Jared Junior, you are most welcome and we are always pleased to help.
Very helpful and educative.
Very helpful and educative.
Hey Sam, thank you for…
Hey Sam, thank you for getting in touch and sharing your positive feedback. We are glad that we are able to provide informative advice.
Please help , my dick is…
Please help , my dick is very strong but when ever I want perpetrat I feel cool and I have arrived, I will then discover that I have drop. I seriously need help because am about to lose some one.
Hello Oche, thank you for…
Hello Oche, thank you for getting in touch and we are very sorry you are going through a difficult time at the moment but please do not stress yourself out too much. What you are going through is completely normal and happens to a lot of men all the time.
What you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety, or even stress. The anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.
There are a few things you can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity of the penis.
In the long term one can ensure they eat healthily and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.
The following articles provide more information;-
https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
Love Matters Team.
l have never had sex before…
l have never had sex before cause am fearing I might not sastify my partner well during my first date cause I only take 2 minutes to ejaculate during mastubation. please what can I do
Hi, while sex is really…
Hi, while sex is really great and is a fantastic way of expressing intimacy, or just feeling good. You should have sex when you are fully ready. Have sex that is consensual and that will assure pleasure for everyone involved.
What you must know is that you will not be great at it the first time! You might not be too good the second time. The more you engage in it, the better you get and the better you understand your body and the bodies of the people you have sex with.
All in all, you are not the first to do it, and you won’t be the last so don’t be scared! This article has more information on the issue.
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/virginity/first-time-sex-dos-and-donts
Hi doctor, thank you very…
Hi doctor, thank you very much.
I cum very small sperms ist a problem,? and how can I increase them? And still is there a medicine or treatment for PE cos I have tried exercise eating healthy but still cum very fast even before the party starts?
Please help me Doctor
Hello, you may feel like it…
Hello, you may feel like it is a lot but remember that typically the amount of ejaculate is typically just a tablespoon full. However, if this is causing you a lot of concern set an appointment with a medical practitioner for proper diagnosis and advice on the way forward.
What are the common remedies…
What are the common remedies that you can use to boost your sex life without negative side effects. I mean the one that make you last long in bed
Hi Yahya,
There are many…
Hi Yahya,
There are many remedies that are suggested but one of the most important thing is that you are in sync with your partner. This means understanding what their needs are and them understanding your needs. In turn, both of you can work towards meeting each others’ needs. Spend time talking about what you both like and dislike and listen! Read this article to get more tips on how to last long in bed: I want my erections to stay harder for longer! On the other hand, if you are worried that you ejaculate too soon, you could be having erectile problems, in which case you need to talk to a doctor. Read this article to know if you have erectile dysfunction: 4 signs you have erectile dysfunction . If you have experienced these signs, visit a doctor for further analysis and treatment.
How do one strengthen curved…
How do one strengthen curved penis,and wat causes the shape?
Hi Willy,
It is normal and…
Hi Willy,
It is normal and okay for the penis to be slightly curved when it’s erect. But if you have a more significant bend/curve in your penis, which may cause you pain or difficulty having sex, see your doctor since this can sometimes be symptoms of Peyronie’s disease. Learn more about a curved penis here: My penis is bent!
I waited my girlfriend at my…
I waited my girlfriend at my place & she, I hoped to have sex with her, Definitely I laid on bed my back flat & she be on top of my body. The action started as she uplifts herself up&down to my penis inside HER *VAGINA*
Unfortunately; in 1-2 seconds, I EJACULATED MUCH MUCH MUCH MUCH MUCH White thing, # sticky semen!
-What could be the solution for this?
-Have never spent 10minutes in sex with out ejaculation even if 2 round^
– I always get so tired too quickly,in seconds I feel no energy & why?
DOCTORS NEED ASSISTANCE FOR REAL! Thnx
Hi Kalyango,
It seems that…
Hi Kalyango,
It seems that you may be suffering from erectile problems. Visit a hospital for tests and treatment. In the meantime, read this article to learn more about what you are going through: 4 signs you have erectile dysfunction.