Pregnancy: top five facts
If you have unprotected sex, there is a chance that you’ll get pregnant. But how can you increase those chances? What do you need to take care of and keep healthy once you find out you’re expecting?
Pregnant or not?
If you’ve had unprotected sex, missed a pill or had a condom burst and you don’t want to be pregnant, make sure that you get your hands on emergency contraception within 72 hours. If your next period is normal, you’re not pregnant.
If you want to have a baby, on the other hand, it’s time to wait and see if the pregnancy test is positive and you don’t menstruate! By the way, more than half of all women trying to get pregnant do so within the first six months after they stop using birth control.
Increase your chances
If you’re trying to have a baby, there are several things you can do to increase your chances. Having lots of sex is obviously a good start! Your chances will be even better if you have sex when you’re ovulating, so some calculations might be in order (check out our period FAQs).
Also, a healthy lifestyle will help. Stay away from cigarettes, alcohol and drugs and eat well. Women who are over- or underweight may have trouble conceiving. But the men can help to, by keeping their testicles cool! This will help with the sperm production.
Have regular check-ups
You’re pregnant? Congratulations! Keep some things in mind though. You need to take good care of your body now, eat well and get a lot of rest.
Taking folic acid supplements during the first three months of pregnancy, or special vitamins for pregnant women, can help prevent your baby from being born with abnormalities like spina bifida. You should actually start taking folic acid when you start trying to get pregnant. Once you are pregnant, it’s hard to get enough of it from a balanced diet alone, so the supplements are a good option.
Also, you should see your health care provider regularly. This way, complications can be discovered early. This could save your and your baby’s life!
Fertility testing
You’ve been trying to have a baby for a long time and you’re still not pregnant? Then it may be time to for you and your partner to think about fertility testing. If there is a problem, there may be medical treatments that can help you conceive.
It’s easiest to test a man’s fertility, so that’s a good place to start. It just takes a simple sperm test. There are even home testing kits for sperm, but they tend to be less reliable and won’t tell you as much as a lab test. Fertility-testing on women is trickier and requires more invasive tests.
Remember that if one of you has fertility problems, it’s just about as likely to be the man as the woman.
Age issues
All around the world, women these days are waiting until they’re older to have their first child. Compared to just thirty years ago, women have their first baby are on average five years later.
Usually, the ability to have children stops after menopause. But with medical advances, it’s now even possible for women over 50 to get pregnant. However, the risk of complications is much higher then.
The oldest woman ever to give birth was an elderly Indian lady. At an age where most women are grandparents, she gave birth to her first child, a daughter. She was 70 years old!
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Recent Comments (180)
i will be grateful if for
i will be grateful if for along time have bee struggling to get failled but now it is true i will thank God for that gift of a child
Hi Thomas,
Hi Thomas,
congratulations! Good luck with the baby!
why should i panic coz even
why should i panic coz even wen i waz impregnating her i waz couragious so ned to bear the risk and enjoy the out come
Hi Eddy,
Hi Eddy,
glad that you are happy with the pregnancy!
i did unprotected sex last
i did unprotected sex last month after one week of menstruation period and am i don’t know weather am pregnant t since am expecting my period at this date and have not seen . am so worried because i don’t want to be pregnant . advice
Hi Milly,
Hi Milly,
if you had sex one week after your period, you had sex in a period that’s pretty safe concerning pregnancy. Sometimes, stress and other factors can cause your period to be late. For your peace of mind, go to a pharmacy and get yourself a pregnancy test. But please, from now on: use a condom!
i missed my periods last
i missed my periods last month and i did a test and it turned positive.after 3 weeks i started abdominal pains and bleeding.i went and did a scan only to find out there was no pregnancy seen.i was given antibiotics.the bleeding never stopped so i went to a private doctor and he cleaned me but to date am still bleeding and yesterday a small rigid thing came out.kindly advice and what was that thing?
Dear Samiah,
Dear Samiah,
please go see the doctor again. It is hard to make a judgement from far, and a medical professional will be able to help you far better.
It sounds sound a bit like you had a miscarriage, but again, this is only a speculation from far. Please make an appointment with a doctor to make sure everything is good and you are healthy.
ok,thank you,am so scared.
ok,thank you,am so scared.
we did unprotected sex and I
we did unprotected sex and I conceived but aft telling my bfie he said he isn’t ready for the baby now am bearing the burden alone since he said he will never be concerned about it. It is now 6 months and have never communicated with him. Advice
Hi Nancy,
Hi Nancy,
I am really sorry to break the bad news, but it looks like your bf wants nothing to do with the baby.
So you’ll try to have to make the best of the situation. It will undoubtedly be very hard, and you will need support, so I hope you have a family and friends who support you. Don’t give up!
Good luck!
could you please advice when
could you please advice when is the write time to have sex so that you can conceive a baby boy. i have a cycle of 21days still let me know for both 21 & 28 days.
Hi luv,
Hi luv,
are you asking for the best time to conceive a baby or to conceive a baby boy? We can tell you that the best time to conceive is the time between 7 days after your last cycle and 7 days before your next cycle, with a 28 day cycle.
As for the baby boy- there are no sure ways. It’s all down to biology.
Yes
Yes
at the moment we are having
at the moment we are having serious sex with my baibe and she wants us to conceive twins so how am i suppose to go about it
Dear Walter,
Dear Walter,
there is no sure way to can get twins however many times or styles of sex you have. It all comes down to biology.
i also would want to know whe
i also would want to know whe you guys offer relationship counselling because we are still a young couple
Hi Walter,
Hi Walter,
we don’t offer one-on-one or one-on-two counseling. However, you can find lots of information and tips on successful relationships on our website! Have a look on the left hand side, e.g. under ‘love&relationships’.
i missed ma mp 2mths ago ,n
i missed ma mp 2mths ago ,n wen ma hbby cme after 1mth we enjoyed each other.Bt what shoked me i had spotng bleedng is it normal?
Hi Liz,
Hi Liz,
please take a pregnancy test, you can get them at the chemist.
Spotting can be normal in the early stages of pregnancy. But missing your period can also happen every once in a while.
So if you want to find out whether or not you are pregnant- take a test.
Hi ave a boyfi who is ineed
Hi ave a boyfi who is ineed of a baby but for mi i find is not the right time for mi pliz advice
Hi Katha,
Hi Katha,
having babies, like everything else in relationships, is about communication. He wants one, you are not ready. Why does he want one, why are you not ready? Have you talked about this? Can you reach a compromise, say you will start trying a year from now?
Talking is the only way to get over issues in your relationship. You need to be honest and trust each other.
I want to know which are safe
I want to know which are safe days of having sex to avoid pregancy without protection while my partner circles 21 and 28 days.
Hi Macho Man,
Hi Macho Man,
you can find more information about the menstrual cycle and safe days in this section of our resources.
https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/menstrual-cycle#section-4
But please be aware: having unprotected sex on ‘safe days’ is a very unreliable method. So if you don’t mind babies, use this method. If you prefer not becoming a daddy anytime soon, look into other, more reliable birth control method. You can find more information in our resources.
I don’t know if you have specific reasons why you don’t want to use birth control. And I am assuming that both of you have been tested for all STDs. Just remember that you should be having sex responsibly. And you have to live with the consequences if anything happens.
Hey am a mum to a 5yr old boy
Hey am a mum to a 5yr old boy ave been on the iucd for almost 4yrs but removed it 5mnths ago and i have not been able to conceive. i keep an updated calendar electronic n always knw wen am abt to ovulate bt all in vain,,, myt i b having a problem??
Hi Shizy,
Hi Shizy,
which IUD were you on? The Copper-T or the hormonal IUD?
Either way, it can take some time to become pregnant. Maybe it has to do with your previous birth control, maybe it doesn’t. Keep calculating and trying. If you haven’t been able to conceive a year after you started, you can think about seeing a doctor. But for now- relax!
I had a galfwnd who left me n
I had a galfwnd who left me n got married 2 another man on the basis that she was prgntd by that man bt we have met many times n there are no signs of pregnancy since she told me she was 3 mnths preg.i still love yet she is married. what sh’d i do.
Hi Nick,
Hi Nick,
I am not sure what you are asking. Are you asking if it’s possible she lied to you about the pregnancy? Maybe. Women don’t start showing until five or even six months of pregnancy. Before that, you can hide it pretty well, if you want to.
As for the fact that you still love her- I am sorry, she has made her decision and married another man. And you should respect that. Getting over your lost love will take some time, but you will get over her at some point. Good luck!
Hey, i had sex wid my guy a
Hey, i had sex wid my guy a week after my periods and used emergency pills but i haven’t received my periods yet it is 24 days after making love. I had symptoms for the period and even received a pimple that comes always before my period but i haven’t received the periods yet. Am scared, please advice.
Hi Joab,
Hi Joab,
honey, relax. And take a pregnancy test.
Chances are, you are not pregnant. Emergency birth control pills are known to mess with your cycle, so don’t worry too much. And, having sex seven days after your period and taking an e-pill should still be pretty safe, so it’s absolutely possible that you aren’t pregnant.
But just to be on the safe side, go to the chemist and get a pregnancy test, to give you, hopefully, some peach of mind.
Good luck!
hi,i hav a cycle of 19-20
hi,i hav a cycle of 19-20 days.on which days should i be ovulating?
Hi Wanjiru,
Hi Wanjiru,
you can read all about the menstrual-cycle on our website.
Check this link:
https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/menstrual-cycle#section-4
I always have severe
I always have severe abdominal pain b4 nd durin ma periods,have had sex wit ma bf severally nd even durin ovulation but have nva got pregnant.i hrd someone say tat u cant conceive if u normally have cramps,is it really true?????
Hi Kathryn,
Hi Kathryn,
no, it’s not true!
Cramps have nothing to do with conceiving.
Relax and keep trying!
hi……wen is the best time
hi……wen is the best time to have sex wen one has a cycle of 21 and 28 days to avoid pregnancy….
Hi Jojo,
Hi Jojo,
with a 28 day cycle, the first 7 days after your period and the last 7 days before your period are the safest days.
Using safe days as a form of contraception is highly unreliable though. And it won’t protect you from STDs, so you might want to consider another form of birth control.
Hi,4 me am around 3mnths
Hi,4 me am around 3mnths prgnt n am nt aving appettite anythng i eat i start blackening hrt n also stomach ache at night.whch foods am i supposed to eat.also no change in my stomach whetha am having a baby in ma womb wat are the signs
Hi Shie,
Hi Shie,
first, you will not start showing that you are pregnant until you are about 5 months pregnant, so nothing to worry about.
About the foods: it’s normal to not have an appetite and not wanting to eat. Find something you like, something bland maybe. Dry bread, yoghurt or maziwa lala, bananas or some soup. Or even taking tea with milk and sugar or milkshakes and smoothies. Of course it’s best to eat healthy, but sometimes it can be difficult to eat properly when you feel nauseous and queasy.
Hata sahizi wangu ana mimba
Hata sahizi wangu ana mimba ya 2 months,nina furaha nyingi sana..Hata nyumbani sikuhizi mimi ufika mapema angalao kuskiza kama mtoi ameanza kucheza tumboni..Furaha nayo?..Donge!..hehe
Ni mapema, lakini kwa kawaida
Ni mapema, lakini kwa kawaida ni vizuri mtoto anaruka ama anacheza tumboni.
I started my july mp around
I started my july mp around 15th and am expecting my next period btw 8th& 9th.I had unprotected sex on 26&27 could there be any possibility to get pregnant?
Hi Shantel,
Hi Shantel,
yes, there is a possibility you could be pregnant. Wait until the 10th/11th and if you don’t have your period by then, take a pregnancy test.
Hi,my gf tells me that she
Hi,my gf tells me that she hates condoms and birth controls methods. We usually have sex during her safedays coz we dont want pregnancy at this moment. Am getting concerned abt this coz am not looking foward to be a dad so soon. Av consulted her to turn on birth controls method but she just said she does not like them. Please advice.
Hi Martin,
Hi Martin,
thank you so much for your question! This is a question we get a lot, but usually from girls. So I’m happy to hear it from a guy.
I understand your concerns- natural birth control methods, so for example only having sex on safe says are not very safe. An unwanted pregnancy is not unlikely. Your girlfriend says she doesn’t like birth control. I can understand that a woman doesn’t want to take hormones, but she could for example get a hormone-free copper IUD or a diaphragm. As for condoms, some people (usually men), complain that there is not enough sensation. Sensation can be better with using Latex-free condoms and using some warming lubrication with them (you can get both at major supermarkets and pharmacies).
You need to talk to your girlfriend again- tell her you are concerned and that you don’t want to have unprotected anymore. You are being a responsible and respectful young man- she should be happy with that!
By the way, I hope you were both tested for STDs and HIV before you started having sex!
Hi, I am impressed with the
Hi, I am impressed with the way you are helping people. We’ve been trying to have a baby with my boyfriend for about three months now and i have not been lucky to conceive. There was a time he was sick and the doctor said that he has got less blood in his body. It’s been more than a year since we started being intimate and i used to take emergency pills i think every month meaning for a whole year i used them. Could be that I am the one with the problem or is it him?
Hi Ann,
Hi Ann,
thanks so much!
Three months is very little time to try to conceive. Allow a year for it to happen.
Taking lots of emergency pills can have an effect on your hormonal system though, and it might take some extra time to get back on a normal cycle.
So right now, there is no problem. Relax and have lots of sex around your most fertile days!
Good luck!
Bt i wonder at dr age of 70 a
Bt i wonder at dr age of 70 a woman can bear a child tat iz right.wn a woman iz above 45 she doesnt menstrate coz menopause imeanza already how comes convince 2 understand
Hi Amenda,
Hi Amenda,
you are right, after a woman has gone through menopause, it’s very unlikely for her to have a baby through natural ways. Menopause usually occurs somewhere between 40 and 50. The 70-year old Indian lady got pregnant through IVF, in-vitro fertilization.
Thanx xo much.
Thanx xo much.
Thank you for the advice. I
Thank you for the advice. I will certainly follow it.
You are most welcome!
You are most welcome!
Wen I use condoms i it feels
Wen I use condoms i it feels itchy and usually scratch myself for about 2 days. What might b the prblm. I dont want to continue using epills on my lover because she has low blood count and she had been on medication for seven yrs ie she uses blood boosters
Hi Yaclet,
Hi Yaclet,
It might be a latex allergy, though they are usually rare.
Try using latex-free condoms (you can get them at pharmacies and major supermarkets) and see if that helps.
If not, it might be a good idea to see a doctor.
As for the e-pills: they should only be used in case of emergency, so it’s a good thing you two want to stop using them!
Hi,my frnd iam iam the boy
Hi,my frnd iam iam the boy frnd of a certain girl, she likes to have leisure and esteem and i don’t want to hve sex with until later,so having with that practices can i able to abstain sex or it is nt possible. Advice
Hi Nuurlis,
Hi Nuurlis,
being in a relationship were one partner wants sex and the other one doesn’t will be difficult in the long run.
And whether you can abstain sex is up to you. Some people find it difficult, others easy. Masturbation also helps with keeping up the abstinence.
is there any other way i can
is there any other way i can use t avoid pregnancy wthout usin condon or emergency contrcept.thnks
Hi Moha,
Hi Moha,
sure, there are plenty of birth control methods out there. Check our section on birth control, and you’ll find information on the pill, IUDs, injectables, etc.
Please ask if you have any questions!
hie, i,m a guy 26 yrs ad i,m
hie, i,m a guy 26 yrs ad i,m married with one bby boy,now i,m not working in the country,ad i hve gf who i love so much,she use to tel me that she want a bby bt for me i,m not ready coz i lve my wife ad i dnt to marry a second wife,i also love ths girl ad the fact is she know that i hve a wife ad she know her very well,what can i do?
Hi there,
Hi there,
you need to make a decision.
You are cheating on your wife, which is very dishonest. How would you feel if she was cheating on you?
Having a mpango wa kando seems to be very common these days. But in the end, it’s bound to go wrong. If your wife finds out, she won’t be very happy, to say the least. And having your girlfriend know your wife doesn’t make things easier.
So please, think about your situation, and try to imagine what it would be like to be either of your ladies, and base your decision on that.
hie, i,m a guy 26 yrs ad i,m
hie, i,m a guy 26 yrs ad i,m married with one bby boy,now i,m not working in the country,ad i hve gf who i love so much,she use to tel me that she want a bby bt for me i,m not ready coz i lve my wife ad i dnt to marry a second wife,i also love ths girl ad the fact is she know that i hve a wife ad she know her very well,what can i do?
hie, i,m a guy 26 yrs ad i,m
hie, i,m a guy 26 yrs ad i,m married with one bby boy,now i,m not working in the country,ad i hve gf who i love so much,she use to tel me that she want a bby bt for me i,m not ready coz i lve my wife ad i dnt to marry a second wife,i also love ths girl ad the fact is she know that i hve a wife ad she know her very well,what can i do?
hie, i,m a guy 26 yrs ad i,m
hie, i,m a guy 26 yrs ad i,m married with one bby boy,now i,m not working in the country,ad i hve gf who i love so much,she use to tel me that she want a bby bt for me i,m not ready coz i lve my wife ad i dnt to marry a second wife,i also love ths girl ad the fact is she know that i hve a wife ad she know her very well,what can i do?
Im almost two months pregnant
Im almost two months pregnant and I feel like my tummy is already showing. Is it possible for a baby bump to show this early?
Hi Sonia,
Hi Sonia,
that is rather early. Are you going for check-ups with the doctor?
But, the hormones from your pregnancy could be to blame. But just to be on the safe side, mention it on your next visit to the doctor’s.
Hi…a few weeks ago we had
Hi…a few weeks ago we had sex a couple of times.we used condoms twice then we later had unprotected sex twice… Is there a likelihood that she might get pregnant? and still could there be any signs of gtng HIV?
Hi Joe,
Hi Joe,
absolutely, if you had unprotected sex, there is the chance of pregnancy. Get your girl a pregnancy test from the chemist, and see what the situation is.
Also, having unprotected sex puts you at risk of HIV. Please do get tested three months after the unprotected sex and then again after three months to make sure you were not exposed.
Today is on 12th;no periods
Today is on 12th;no periods seen i assume am pregnant now my question is(1)suppose the pregnancy is tested positive when am i supposed to start the clinic?is it immediately or after some months? (2)can i conclude that i am 17days pregnant?
Hi Shantell,
Hi Shantell,
take a test first to confirm. A test will only show you the true results after your period was supposed to start. I’m saying this because 17 days after unprotected sex seems a bit early to confirm pregnancy.
As for check-ups, most doctors recommend having your first as soon as you suspect you are pregnant.
Is bleeding normal at 7month
Is bleeding normal at 7month pregnancy.
Hi Kaleb,
Hi Kaleb,
some bleeding or spotting can be normal, but please talk to the doctor just to be on the safe side!
hey am 6months pregnant with
hey am 6months pregnant with a baby boy..i have this backache that sometime its soo painful what could bethe cause..also i was late in starting my folic acid and started on my second tremister could this affect my baby
Hi Shil,
Hi Shil,
it’s recommended to take folic acid even before you start trying to get pregnant, as it’s most important during the first stages of pregnancy. But, seeing that you know it’s a boy, I’m assuming you had ultrasounds and check-ups, and everything seems okay, so don’t worry about it too much!
As for the backache: it’s normal, but very annoying. The hormones make your tendons and ligaments laxer, so that later on, the baby can be pushed out with less pain. To work on your backache, train your lower back muscles. You can ask your doctor for some easy and mild exercises or see a physiotherapist.
hi, i had unprotected sex
hi, i had unprotected sex with ma bf and the next day i had periods so it is still possible that am pregnant,
Hi Bby gak,
Hi Bby gak,
it’s unlikely you are pregnant.
In case your next period is late, please take a pregnancy test just to be sure. And don’t rely on unprotected sex if you don’t want to be pregnant.
Am pregnant n 4 9th month but
Am pregnant n 4 9th month but inafika time tumbo inakua ngumu na miguu zimefura do l have aproblem
Hi Rose,
Hi Rose,
the belly getting hard and legs swelling are quite normal late in pregnancy.
Just to be safe, mention it to your doctor at your next check-up!
Good luck with your baby!
hae.i concieved after taking
hae.i concieved after taking epills.are there possible complications or effect on the child? thnx
Hi Sue,
Hi Sue,
you can relax. The e-pill will not have harmed your child in any way!
av had unprotected sex two
av had unprotected sex two tyms in two weeks…
my cycle that of 21&28 are my chances high of becoming pregnant
Hi Winnilisa,
Hi Winnilisa,
with two incidents of unprotected sex in two weeks, your chances of pregnancy are higher. I don’t know if you are late with your period already, but in any case, wait until you are a few days late (if at all), and then take a pregnancy test.
And please remember to use birth control in the future, also to protect yourself from STDs.
Hi..i had periods on date 4
Hi..i had periods on date 4-6th aug and had sex on date 7th and date 9th aug
can i get pregnant?
Hi Sharon,
Hi Sharon,
having unprotected sex this close after your period means that your chances of getting pregnant are low. Nevertheless, if your next period is late, take a pregnancy test.
Also, keep some condoms handy, or a morning-after pill, so that you don’t have to have unprotected sex anymore!
thanx for advicing pple ad
thanx for advicing pple ad wen l ave a problem l wil always click here
how many emergency
how many emergency contraceptive pills should a woman take in a year?
Hi Yvonne,
Hi Yvonne,
ideally, the emergency pills should only be taken in case of emergency. It shouldn’t be used as a normal birth control method, because it exposes the body to very high hormones doses and that’s not very healthy.
That said, there is no real maximum number of pills you can take in a year.
But please, have a look at our birth control section and see if you can find a more suitable option. Also remember that the e-pill won’t protect you from STDs.
I think am upnormal, am
I think am upnormal, am almost 23 yrs but my MP ar not constant, kuna tym nachukua mda wa miezi mitano bila kureceive, nikienda hosy naambiwa climate ikichange inaweza sababisha, for the last three months hv bn having unpotected sex because i want to conceive lakini hakuna dalili ya kupata mimba,hw wil i know if am fertile or not?
Hi Lovender Lenny,
Hi Lovender Lenny,
please relax! Dont worry about not conceiving for three months. It can take up to a year to conceive, in some cases even longer.
But with your history of irregular periods, it might be a good idea to talk to a doctor about improving your chances of conception! But don’t worry, stressing won’t help with conception!
Good luck!
I was in love wth ths bf of
I was in love wth ths bf of mine then he promsed me he will marry me. he even told me to get a child for hm i gt prgnt in may then unfortunat i had a miscourage he decided we try again and he got me prgnt again now am 3months prgnt wen i told hm about it he startd behavn weird and we lost commncatn by each day he is just thea and he doesnt bother to gve me even a call wat should i do???
Hi Viola,
Hi Viola,
give him some time, but eventually, the two of you need to talk. You are starting a family together and you need to resolve any issues there are. Ask him if he is afraid, or if he is otherwise stressed in his life. Don’t pressure him, be understanding and be there for him. Good luck!
hi,does having sex during
hi,does having sex during safe days rly work 4 every1?i had sex a day afta i had had my periods n got pregnant.
Hi Marie,
Hi Marie,
so called ‘natural family planning methods’, like only having sex on your safe days is a very unreliable method of birth control, so no, we don’t really recommend it for everyone. It also means that you have to know your body and your periods every well, and for them to be regular.
That said, getting pregnant from having sex the day after your period is also somewhat unusual…
thnx very much i already took
thnx very much i already took a pregnancy test and it was positive..
Hi Shantel,
Hi Shantel,
good, it’s always better to make sure 🙂
Am 2 mnths pg and i bleeded
Am 2 mnths pg and i bleeded 2wks ago n went scan n said bby ws ok bt 2 days ago i had again abdominal pain following day i went to hoc n thy cant tel me y it happened or gve me medication plz plz am worried what can i do ma bby to b born ok bila shida
Hi Aggy,
Hi Aggy,
first of all, some bleeding can be normal.
That said, being pregnant, especially the first time, can be a pretty terrifying experience, because you can be constantly afraid something is happening to the baby. But just try to relax, go for your schedule appointments and try not to stress too much! Sometimes things don’t happen they way we want them to happen. But relax, and you and your baby should be just fine. Good luck!
My gal,delayed her periods by
My gal,delayed her periods by 12days after we were having on n off unprotectd sex.wat culd b tha problem n can sm1 conceive and experience her 1 periods after conception?
Hi Denrah,
Hi Denrah,
it is possible to experience some bleeding and spotting even after conception.
As to why her period was 12 days late, that could have multiple reasons, like stress or anxiety or hormonal changes.
Next time, please use condoms or other birth control methods consistently to avoid pregnancy if you are not ready for it.
hi, i had my periodz frm 6th
hi, i had my periodz frm 6th to 9th of aug and med luv with my bf on 11th n 12th of aug without protection i woz xo worried tht i cud b pregnant bur exactly 1wk afta that is 16th of aug periodz came afresh wot cud b d matter plz advice.
Hi Precious,
Hi Precious,
first of all: please use condoms or other protection methods consistently from now on. That avoids the panic and worry.
You had sex within the relatively safe period, but it is possible that you are pregnant. The ‘period’ could have been spotting or something similar. If it happens again, please see a doctor. And if your next period is late, please take a pregnancy test.
Hey,i had a pregnant of one
Hey,i had a pregnant of one month, bt whn it ws three month i had cramps and thn i bleeded once n it stopped.aftr one week we had sum argument with by lv,i started bleeding again and da pain was 2 much,i consulted a doctor,bt da pain thing is he told me its a miscarige and it ws 2 be tarminated wht cld b da problem?
Dear Jackine,
Dear Jackine,
I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage.
You are not alone though- about 10-20% of known pregnancies end in miscarriages.
Many things can cause it, such as infections, uterine problems, some medication and so on. So please don’t blame yourself, unfortunately, sometimes things just happen.
thanks for advice….i enjoy
thanks for advice….i enjoy motherhood so much…i have a dota 1yr n a half
Hi Carey,
Hi Carey,
congratulations! Enjoy your time with your daughter!
I alwys have severe abdominal
I alwys have severe abdominal pain during ma periods what shuld i do advice.
Hi Ludwina,
Hi Ludwina,
check our resources, under Her body, in the menstruation menu, you’ll find some tips!
https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/period-pains#section-2
can you get pregnant 10 days
can you get pregnant 10 days before your period?
Hi Winnie,
Hi Winnie,
yes, it is possible to get pregnant if you have unprotected sex 10 days before your period, but this also depends on the length of your cycle.
hae….i hav undergone two
hae….i hav undergone two miscarriages within one year….what might be the cause??
Hi Merrijoy,
Hi Merrijoy,
sorry to hear that.
Miscarriages can have several causes, and in general, 10-20% of all known pregnancies end in miscarriages. Two in one year sounds more than coincidental though.
I would suggest you discuss this with your doctor, he or she knows you better and can give you specific advice.
You can read more on our website as well:
https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/when-things-go-wrong
Had sex wth my boyfie 8dys
Had sex wth my boyfie 8dys afta my cycle. Was supposed to receive my next cycle on 2nd or 3rd and now it’s 18th. I havent had a pregnancy test bt am having some nausea and my breasts are having pains around th nipples. Could it be that am pregnant or something?
Hi Esther,
Hi Esther,
please take a pregnancy test- only then you’ll know for sure.
hae,…how much does t cost 4
hae,…how much does t cost 4 1 2 av da non hormonal family planning and does t av any side effects….?
Hi Fay,
Hi Fay,
there are different options for non-hormonal birth control: condoms, copper-IUDs, diaphragms and so on. You can read more on them in our birth control section.
The costs depend on the methods, but the most cost-effective and generally effective in the long run are copper-IUDS. You can use them for up to 10 years. On average, they are about Ksh 800, plus doctor fees (they need to be inserted by a healthcare professional), but the prices can vary a lot, depending on where you go.
Hey,i hv a bf who nver
Hey,i hv a bf who nver trusted me jst cz i denayd 2 b pregnat cz am stl a student at k.u.4 the lst 1mnth i hvnt gne 4 m.p ths the 2nd tyme nw yt we hv bn hvng sex unsafe day.advice 2 do abt it.
Hi Katsy,
Hi Katsy,
first of all, take a pregnancy test to make sure you are or are not pregnant.
Then, you need to talk to your boyfriend- he needs to trust you and you need to talk about what both of you want.
Thirdly, please start using protection on a regular basis if you don’t want to be pregnant. You can read about your choices in our birth control section.
I used emergency pills but
I used emergency pills but found out am pregnant dont know what to do,to make matters worse i feel nauseous the wholeday what do i do?
Hi Fiona,
Hi Fiona,
sorry to hear the emergency pills didn’t work.
Now you have to decide- what do you want to do with the baby? Consider your options, talk to your partner (if you have one) and base your decision on that.
The nausea is normal, unfortunately. Some ginger tea may help, and mild food in small portions.
am marred, have one kid i
am marred, have one kid i dont feel like having more but i dont wantto go on using contraceptives coz my friends say i look older than my real age coz i am using this contraceptives am confused
Hi Belynda,
Hi Belynda,
unfortunately you haven’t told us which contraceptive you are on- I’m assuming it’s a hormonal one.
So maybe the copper-IUD is an idea for you? It’s a so-called long-acting reversible non-hormonal family planning method. That’s a mouthful, but what it means is that it protects you very effectively from pregnancy for up to ten years, it doesn’t use hormones and if you decide you do want another child, it’s possible.
Why don’t you get in contact with Family Health Options Kenya or another Family Planning specialist, they can give you lots of information and advice on what would work for you!
hi am five months pregnant
hi am five months pregnant and am having abdiminol pain is it normal??
Hi Carol,
Hi Carol,
some abdominal pain is normal during pregnancy.
If it persists, gets worse or is accompanied by spotting, cramps, nausea or other symptoms, please see your doctor as soon as possible!
kim
kim
Hi my bf has a problem of
Hi my bf has a problem of loosing his erection when he puts on a condom.wat could be the problem
Hi Rose,
Hi Rose,
this can happen to lots of guys.
Putting on a condom can be a bit of a mood killer.
Why don’t you try putting it on? You can do it as part of foreplay, play with his penis and roll over the condom. Or put it on with your mouth.
Good luck!
Hae, some people say dat if u
Hae, some people say dat if u use pills b4 u give birth 2 any kid it cn lead 2 barreness is it tru.
Hi Tinah,
Hi Tinah,
no it’s not true. Birth control pills do not affect your fertility.
Tanx alot 4 ur advises,i
Tanx alot 4 ur advises,i thank God am now pregnant.Ma bf is also proud abt it.Tanx one more!
Hi Kathryn,
Hi Kathryn,
congratulations! Enjoy your pregnancy. Under ‘pregnancy’ in our resource section, you can find some tips you might find helpful.
Hi last week I lost a
Hi last week I lost a pregnancy of three month old,i started bleeding n aving pain in ma abdomen pain n I went to hosy n they removed it,they took a scan n showed that the baby was outside the uterus n it was not fully formed a baby,i want to know why,n hw I can avoid it to happed in ma next pg,also wat is the right tyme for me to conceive n the best contraceptive to use before I get pg?
Dear Lynne,
Dear Lynne,
sorry to hear about that.
What you had is called an ‘ectopic pregnancy’, and it can be life-threatening if not caught early.
There are many reasons why this can happen, smoking and douching for example, or having pelvic inflammatory disease or an IUD while pregnant. And sometimes, it just happens. So please don’t beat yourself up over it, it’s not your fault it happened!
About the right time to conceive and birth control method, please talk to your doctor about it. He or she knows your case and your history much better and can help you make healthy decisions.
hi is it true that p2 some
hi is it true that p2 some times dsnt work ad one can still bcome pg aftr takin?
Hi Ruth,
Hi Ruth,
yes, it’s true.
Emergency pills are most effective the faster you take them after unprotected sex, but if the egg is already fertilized, they won’t do anything, and one will get pregnant.
The most effective form of birth control is the copper-t IUD. Even five days after sex, it’s still 99% effective. And it will protect from pregnancy for up to 10 years afterwards.
Hae is it true that 4 a ladys
Hae is it true that 4 a ladys first pregnancy the baby matures at eight month? Hazn can gve birth at 8 months
Hi Sharon,
Hi Sharon,
in general, most babies that are born at eight months will survive, but it depends on the individual baby of course. Even better, on average, 90% of the babies born after 27 weeks will survive.
hi,u said tht getting
hi,u said tht getting pregnant from having sex a day after my period is somehow unusual,my queition is how n could i b having a problem?
Hi Marie,
Hi Marie,
it’s unusual, but not unheard of.
Getting pregnant depends on your cycle as well as the sperm. Sperm can survive inside the body for a few days, and if you have a really short cycle, it is possible that you got pregnant. Also, are you sure it was a normal period, or could it have been spotting?
So I don’t think you are having a problem, but it’s still unusual. Every body is different, and that’s why safe days and natural family planning methods are so unreliable.
Hi,since I had a baby with my
Hi,since I had a baby with my girlfriend;I hv lost my love for her.This was after receiving threats frm her parents…there after I was forced to marry her..pls advise
Hi there,
Hi there,
this is a really difficult situation.
Why did you lose your love for her? And have you talked to her about this? Without doubt, she will be hurt, but maybe the two of you can try to find a solution together to make your marriage work.
hi,am worried that i have
hi,am worried that i have missed my mences this month of which i had unprotected sex last month,where i took contraceptive pills immediately after some days i took a pregnancy test which was negative…am confused if i may b pregnant and i do not know,am really worried please advice me what to do
Hi Sherry Emmah,
Hi Sherry Emmah,
take another pregnancy test. It takes about three weeks for there to be enough pregnancy hormones in your urine for the test to pick them up, so if you took it too close to the unprotected sex, it might have not been reliable. Good luck!
hi ,am pregnant but I dont
hi ,am pregnant but I dont know how old is it coz I had missed ma mp be4 I tested +ve.How can l know when to give birth or how old is it.pliz help am confused
Hi Joy,
Hi Joy,
it’s best to ask your doctor at your next prenatal check-up about this. From the size and development of the fetus, the due date can be calculated. Enjoy your pregnancy!
Hi Valentine, am HIV posive &
Hi Valentine, am HIV posive & am expectant is there any chance dat the baby wil be neg
Hi Kezy Rachel,
Hi Kezy Rachel,
yes, there is! In fact, the chance is very good that your baby will be negative, if you are still early in your pregnancy. You need to make sure that you are in medical care and that your doctors know about your status. Then, all precautions can be taken to make sure that the baby is negative. But, please keep in mind that even though all precautions are taken, there is no 100% way of making sure that the baby is negative. Go talk to your doctor as soon as possible, and explain your situation. That’s the best you can do. Good luck!
am 3mnths pg ad hv bn having
am 3mnths pg ad hv bn having prblm n my private parts ad i evn hv wounds,hv visited several hospitals bt its al n vain. cn this affct my bby?Plz advice
Hi Carol, I’m sorry to hear
Hi Carol, I’m sorry to hear about your problems. Unfortunately, from afar, it’s very difficult to judge what your causes for your issues are. I can only advise you to keep seeing doctors, until someone finds out what it is. I know this is not a satisfying answer, but unfortunately, it’s all we can do. Good luck and let us know how things go!
hi! i geard that using the
hi! i geard that using the same type of family planing tablets may cause fibroids. tell me is it true or possible
Hi John,
Hi John,
fibroids are very common, Fibroids are usually genetic. Thankfully, they are almost always harmless.
Taking the pill might make them grow a little bigger, because they are very susceptible to hormones. However, fibroids are not a contraindication for birth control pills. If a woman is worried about the possible growth, she should talk to her doctor. There are also non-hormonal birth control methods, like the copper-T IUD, that shouldn’t affect the fibroids at all. Does this help?
ok. so it doesnt have to do
ok. so it doesnt have to do anything with having many sexual partners or infection. In other words what causes it?
Hi John,
Hi John,
somewhere between 20 and 80 percent of women will have fibroids at some time in their lives, but many won’t even notice it, according to scientific studies.
The real underlying reasons are still not certain. Most scientists and doctors believe they are inherited. They seems to be occur more often in bigger and obese women, which could have to do with hormonal changes.
I hope this helps, let us know if you have any more questions.
i have been in a relationship
i have been in a relationship for four months now n we love each other but the guy wants a baby
Hi Winnie,
Hi Winnie,
and what about you- do you want a baby?
Im unity n i think might be
Im unity n i think might be prgnt coz im wetting n my urine coloure changed into white plz hlp.
Hi Unity,
Hi Unity,
those aren’t really signs of pregnancy. Nevertheless, if you have reason to think you are pregnant, take a pregnancy test. And no matter what the outcome of the test may be, please go see a doctor to make sure everything is okay!
hae idid sex a
hae idid sex a
Hi there,
Hi there,
sorry, we aren’t quite sure what you mean. Could you explain please?
can awoman give abirth,then
can awoman give abirth,then nxt month she can conveive again & give birth?
Hi Kennedy,
Hi Kennedy,
it is possible to conceive a month after giving birth. It’s unlikely and not advisable though. Unlikely, because especially if the lady is breastfeeding, conception is very unlikely in the first six months. Secondly, it’s nit advisable to have sex until at least six weeks after the initial conception.
hi my girlfriend always
hi my girlfriend always anakuanga na shida ya mp yani akiona leo anakaa kama 2/3 month so my worry is atakuja kukua normal n then how can I kno that she is safe in this 2-3 month
Hi Chache,
Hi Chache,
the only way you can really be sure that she is safe is by using a reliable birth control method.
Have a look here for something that might work for the two of you:
https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/birth-control
hi am merry and i have friend
hi am merry and i have friend of mine her name is lidiya she is pegnat for 6monts. the promlem is now have brekaup wit her guy so she dnt have any famiy here she just seficrin alot plz i need adivce?
Hi Merry,
Hi Merry,
oh no, that’s a terrible situation.
All she can do at this point is being strong, and trying to find ways to support herself. It will be very difficult for her, but maybe she can also rely on friends to help support her for a while?
Missin periods for 4 months.
Missin periods for 4 months..is it normal?
Wambui,
Wambui,
have you had unprotected sex? If yes, then take a pregnancy test. If not, it could be due to stress, or illness, or other bodily changes. Are you eating well? Are you exercising too much?
If there is no change soon, please go see a doctor.
I need your advice,I had
I need your advice,I had unprotected sex with my bfd after that I used emergency pills but I still got pregnany,so y did it happen n does it have any side effect to ma baby?
Hi Joyce,
Hi Joyce,
the e-pills are only effective if the egg hasn’t been fertilized yet. So if you took them too late, then they won’t protect you from pregnancy.
But don’t worry, they don’t harm your baby at all.
I used to have intrrcouse on
I used to have intrrcouse on my safe days one day it happened n I got pg n I wasn’t ready for it the min I told my man about it I was instantly dumped. I suffered so much through out my pg. I never imgned somebody I had lived with for three years could do that to me but am a single mum of a very beautiful baby gal. For the men who are appreciating there wives pg God bless you.
Thanks for sharing your story
Thanks for sharing your story, Shiku!
i had unprotected sex last
i had unprotected sex last year after just finished form four and the worst thing is that i had no idea that that man was a newly married i had no job but i kept the child she is a little angel and a joy in my life just wanna advice ladies if it happens to u keep that innocent angel seeing her everyday makes me happy
Thank you for sharing your
Thank you for sharing your story, Nancy, and all the best to you and your angel!
Hy. nimeoa 2yrs bck. na
Hy. nimeoa 2yrs bck. na sijapata mtoi wat can i do plz
Hey,
Hey,
are you making sure you are having sex around the time of your ovulation?
Hy nimeoa 2yrs ago na bado
Hy nimeoa 2yrs ago na bado sijapata mtoi wat can i do plz
what are some of the hormone
what are some of the hormone free birth control methods n how do they work?
Hi Judie,
Hi Judie,
condoms are the most common, and they work as a barrier. So does a diaphragm. And there is the Copper-T IUD.
Check this section for more information: http://lovematters.co.ke/resource/birth-control
Pliz advice,
Pliz advice,
Am 19 ad i feel as am preg.nt of about three month ad i hd s3x on the Fifth dei after my period ad am 50 50 to give birth because i am fearing my mom ad dad i had dhought to get an arbtion but i hv not done it pliz advice ad the one who ix rexponxible is a student ad he is form four nao d i just step out last month pliz advice
Hi Win,
Hi Win,
please go to the chemist and get a pregnancy test, so you can stop worrying about whether or not you are pregnant.
Can agal get pregnant after
Can agal get pregnant after her periods,but had s3x 1week and 2days constant before the periods she had?
Hi Geofrey, a woman can
Hi Geofrey, a woman can become pregnant at any time in her cycle. The best thing is to always use contraceptives to prevent unintended pregnancy. Read more on contraceptives here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/contraception-top-five-facts .
Plz, advise me!
Plz, advise me!
my boy frd is cheatg me on hz ex, bt wenever i ask him about it, he repugnats and asks t be forgvn z he promises tht he wont do t again.
i love him so much en even when i tell him dat am gonna leave him, he kneelz fore and cries and doesnt want me away from hiz lyf coz he wl suffer, XO WAT CAN I DO?