Sexless relationships
If you haven’t had sex with your partner in months or even years, you may be in a sexless relationship. Read up on all the myths here!
Couples in sexless marriages never have sex
It can be tough to pin-point what exactly is defined as a sexless relationship. Some experts say it’s less than 10 times a year. Some sexless couples would consider themselves lucky with 10 times a year! So it really depends on the couple to figure out if their relationship is sexless or not.
There is no intimacy
Not having sex doesn’t mean there is no intimacy in a relationship anymore. A couple can still cuddle, kiss, hold hands, sleep next to each other. Not having sex doesn’t mean you have stopped caring for and/or loving each other.
It only happens to long-term couples
This doesn’t only happen after decades of marriage or just to older people. People are in relationships for different reasons. Great sex isn’t always one of them. A couple may or may not have had satisfying sex in the beginning of their relationship. Or over the years, sex may also have become a secondary or tertiary priority.
It’s mostly women who have low libido
Myth. The truth is, it’s rarely one person’s fault that sex isn’t happening in a relationship. It’s normal for partners to have different libidos. However, women are not always the reason for no sex.
One of the partners must be cheating
It’s easy to assume that if a couple isn’t having sex, one of them must be getting their needs met elsewhere. That’s definitely not the case. However, there is a risk of a partner becoming unfaithful if the issues of sexless marriage aren’t addressed openly.
A sexless relationship doesn’t equal to a failed relationship
We are made to believe a good relationship or marriage means wild and passionate sex all the time. That’s not the reality of most relationships though. But it does mean that couples in sexless marriages often feel like they have failed. That’s not true though. You can still have a loving, caring relationship without sex.
Getting sexual desire back is virtually impossible
Thankfully, that’s also a myth. Usually, there is an underlying cause for lack of sex. Stress, medical problems, pregnancy or other relationship issues. If you can work through those issues as a couple and overcome them, you might end up with a stronger and healthier relationship in the end.
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distance relationship or low
distance relationship or low libido ar the causes of sexless relationship or marriage
Thanks for your input David.
Thanks for your input David.
I have been sexless with my …
I have been sexless with my partner coz he has been having sex outside of marrige and i don,t know what to
do
Hey Rose, Your partner broke…
Hey Rose, Your partner broke the rules he cheated on you, this was not your fault. It is however important for you and your partner talk about this and find a solution and way forward. It appears for the moment you may have chosen not to deal with the issues. You can address what is going on in your relationship by talking about this. The intention should not be to judge or condemn but to find a way forward that ensures you are not stuck in the past. All the best. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/breaking-up/guide-to-recovery-for-the-cheated
Am in marriage for ten years…
Am in marriage for ten years I have two children, in one year am having sleepless night coz my husband does not tach me or have sex with me am confined I don’t know what to do please help me.
Hi Jassy, I can imagine the…
Hi Jassy, I can imagine the frustration this is causing you. Have you talked to your partner about this? Talking about this can help you and your partner identify the underlying issues that could be causing the low sex drive in your partner. Find a good time and talk about this.
for me asexless relationship
for me asexless relationship cannot last, tell me, how do you share the beautiful unspoken feelings? it doesn’t work forme.
Thank you for sharing
Thank you for sharing Nakyanzijuliet.
I think a sexless
I think a sexless relationship can thrive depending on the situation at hand
Thanks Julius for sharing
Thanks Julius for sharing your thoughts.
sex is 4 suppossed be 4…
sex is 4 suppossed be 4 marriage pple
Thank you for your…
Thank you for your contribution Grace.
Am in a sexless relationship…
Am in a sexless relationship an believe the intimacy my boyfriend has for me is dying slowly been together for years but no sex but am ready for it now cause am also tired of waiting
Hi Cindy,…
Hi Cindy,
Thank you for sharing that with us.
Have you talked to your boyfriend about this? If not, this is something you should think about doing.