It can be tough to pin-point what exactly is defined as a sexless relationship. Some experts say it’s less than 10 times a year. Some sexless couples would consider themselves lucky with 10 times a year! So it really depends on the couple to figure out if their relationship is sexless or not.
Not having sex doesn’t mean there is no intimacy in a relationship anymore. A couple can still cuddle, kiss, hold hands, sleep next to each other. Not having sex doesn’t mean you have stopped caring for and/or loving each other.
This doesn’t only happen after decades of marriage or just to older people. People are in relationships for different reasons. Great sex isn’t always one of them. A couple may or may not have had satisfying sex in the beginning of their relationship. Or over the years, sex may also have become a secondary or tertiary priority.
Myth. The truth is, it’s rarely one person’s fault that sex isn’t happening in a relationship. It’s normal for partners to have different libidos. However, women are not always the reason for no sex.
It’s easy to assume that if a couple isn’t having sex, one of them must be getting their needs met elsewhere. That’s definitely not the case. However, there is a risk of a partner becoming unfaithful if the issues of sexless marriage aren’t addressed openly.
We are made to believe a good relationship or marriage means wild and passionate sex all the time. That’s not the reality of most relationships though. But it does mean that couples in sexless marriages often feel like they have failed. That’s not true though. You can still have a loving, caring relationship without sex.
Thankfully, that’s also a myth. Usually, there is an underlying cause for lack of sex. Stress, medical problems, pregnancy or other relationship issues. If you can work through those issues as a couple and overcome them, you might end up with a stronger and healthier relationship in the end.