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Four signs you have erectile dysfunction

Worried about erectile dysfunction? Here are some signs to find out if you’ve got problems in the erection department.

No, having erectile dysfunction (ED) doesn’t mean you’re less manly – it’s linked to specific physical and psychological causes. Every man has erection problems at some point in his life, but if the problem persists over a longer period of time then it may be a sign that you have more serious problems.

Watch out for these signs:​​

  1. You can’t get a hard -on

    It’s not unusual for a man’s penis to not function from time to time, but a frequent inability to get an erection could be a sign of ED or other more serious medical problems. If you get an erection in some situations (while you’re masturbating, for example) but not in others (when naked in front of your partner), then the problem is probably psychological. If you are unable to get an erection under any circumstances, then it’s likely the result of a physical issue.

  2. The inability to maintain an erection 

    Okay, say you can get an erection during foreplay with your partner, and your performance is great for the first half of the game, but as you go along, your erection begins to deflate. We’re not talking about coming too soon – that’s an ejaculation problem. We’re talking about being unable to keep an erect penis until you orgasm. If you can’t, then something is going wrong during the process of your penis filling up with blood and hardening. Bad news – you may have ED.

  3. Painful hard-on for over four hours

    These erections, called a ‘priapism,’ are usually painful and can happen even when you don’t want to have sex. Priapisms happen when too much blood flows into the penis, or the blood in the penis is not able to effectively drain out. Such unwanted erections could result in you not having erections in the future because of permanent tissue damage. So get medical treatment as soon as possible. 

  4. Curved or painful erection that makes sex difficult

    Of course, penises come in different shapes and sizes and it’s not uncommon to have a curved erection. But some men get erections so bent that it causes them pain or makes sex impossible. Such a curved erection may be a sign of Peyronie’s disease, which is caused by scar tissue forming along the length of the penis and results in warped, painful erections. Although the condition usually goes away on its own, if it is causing you anxiety or preventing successful sexual intercourse, you should see a doctor.

    Make sure that you use the signs mentioned above as a guide to seeking medical attention. Only a trained doctor can provide clarity about the best steps ahead.


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Recent Comments (91)

  1. thats great thnx 4 sharin
    thats great thnx 4 sharin also av tha same problem atimes i goes flat 4 sometime , n again when aving sex i find ma sex deflated n endup not release help thnx

  2. Losing erection when using
    Losing erection when using condom and not able to keep erecting untill point of orgasm

    1. Hi Martin, whats your
      Hi Martin, whats your question?

  3. Is it healthy to masturbate
    Is it healthy to masturbate with a girl withouth having sex?

    1. Yes BOB, it is normally
      Yes BOB, it is normally called foreplay, and there is nothing wrong with that. It helps make sex more enjoyable.

  4. can a girl accept to have sex
    can a girl accept to have sex with a guy with a penis lightly curved it has no pain is it normal

  5. Can Ed be treated permanently
    Can Ed be treated permanently. For example you get an erection during fore play but later u lose it. What could b d cause n remedy.

  6. What of fast lossing election
    What of fast lossing election?

  7. I dont take long in the game
    I dont take long in the game

  8. Its refusing to erect early
    Its refusing to erect early night,but comes up after some sleep,but still not strong…its fully strong in the morning..whats the problem.?

  9. what is the type of food
    what is the type of food which I might eat to make my penis strong and increase organisms in performing sex? good evening guys

    1. Hi Yakuned, eating a well
      Hi Yakuned, eating a well healthy balanced diet helps in keeping one healthy and strong for all body function.

  10. really need your advice since
    really need your advice since I do perform well in the first round but immediately I organsm I feel so much pain to my dick for several hours for it to cool down

    1. Hi Lucky, do you experience
      Hi Lucky, do you experience this pain every time you have sex? if so you should consider visiting a doctor for a check up.

  11. how can one improve when he
    how can one improve when he has ED that is sychologicaly related

  12. I have a problem while
    I have a problem while urinating…..but I went to a doctor to seek medication but he told me that….i have infection then he treated me….but it has never stop……and sometimes I often realizing sperm any how!!!!!! Please help me get rid of this!!!!!

    1. Hi Shad, you should go back
      Hi Shad, you should go back to the hospital for further assistance to help eliminate your issue.

  13. f i ejaculate, my tummy aches
    f i ejaculate, my tummy aches and makes abnormal sounds kruukruuh, also my tummy aches all the tym.

    1. Hi Lewy, you should probably
      Hi Lewy, you should probably visit a doctor and have that checked out.

  14. is it good to masturbate
    is it good to masturbate everyday ?

  15. Can ED be treated…? Pliz
    Can ED be treated…? Pliz help

  16. what happens to the tissue
    what happens to the tissue holding the sheath of my penis after some time?

    1. HI Simon, there is nothing
      HI Simon, there is nothing that changes.

  17. when I want to play sex I
    when I want to play sex I erect well but immediately I put a condom it sleeps immediately,bt when I remove I erect normal,what may be the problem?

  18. My penis is small and am
    My penis is small and am worried of it ,its circumference is almost 10cm,
    And length about 15cm while erect .Is this a problem ? Otherwise I have never been involved in sex since I was born .please nelp

  19. so wat are the slns to
    so wat are the slns to erectile problems

  20. My penis erect abnormally.
    My penis erect abnormally. What causes that

    1. What do you mean when you say
      What do you mean when you say the erection is abnormal?

  21. Which effect may I get from
    Which effect may I get from muster beting

  22. I have 22years old but my
    I have 22years old but my problems is i musturbet every day before sleeping and morning any problem?

    1. Hi Ibrah, there is nothing
      Hi Ibrah, there is nothing wrong with that. Masturbation is a normal part of human sexuality.

  23. ierected when we started
    ierected when we started romance wth agirl,sh opened her legs but my penis slept and didnot stand at all.

    1. Hi Harris sounds as though
      Hi Harris sounds as though you are suffering from sexual anxiety. You need to relax the next time, and the best way to do that is though talking to your partner.

  24. Excessive masturbation causes
    Excessive masturbation causes erectile dysfunction. What is the cure for erectile dysfunction because even after trying to recover from addiction to masturbation, I still find it hard to maintain an erection and premature ejaculation.

    1. (No subject)
      Hi BMK,

      What you are dealing with is Premature ejaculation and not Erectile Dysfunction. With ED one looses an erection without an ejaculation. Part of the reason for premature ejaculation is a lack of sexual experience which means with experience one gets better at controlling their ejaculation. Also, try relaxing during sex to address fear or anxiety. Check out the following article for more information:-


    2. How can recover from the…
      How can recover from the situation?

      1. Hey Louis, there are a…

        Hey Louis, there are a number of things you can to try address the issue. It is also important you communicate with your partner and let them know what is going on. The options range from natural remedies to having to see a doctor for treatment since most of the causes are physical. Check out the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do

  25. I can’t last long with my
    I can’t last long with my gal but when I sleep wit another gal I last for long and long! What cud be ?

    1. (No subject)
      Hi Ben,

      Perhaps you are really in-love with your gal that she gets you very excite very fast. You may need to relax during sex to better control you ejaculation. Try distracting yourself with other no sexual thoughts, you can also take short breaks during intercourse. Check out the following article for more information:-

  26. Is there a way of treating
    Is there a way of treating ED other than the natural foods I hears of?

    1. (No subject)
      Hi Jake,

      You can visit a medical centre so that you can advised on what other treatment options are available for you.

  27. When I do sex to my
    When I do sex to my girlfriend the first 2min sperm are coming help please

    1. (No subject)
      Hi Abdullahi,

      This is referred to as Premature Ejaculation which is caused by a number of reasons including sexual inexperience or psychological issues like fear, anxiety or stress. As you gain experience you will lean how to control your ejaculation. You can also try relax during sex and also distract yourself by thinking about other none sexual things. Check out the following articles for more tips:-


  28. Is there any effect in the…
    Is there any effect in the organ when working in a chiller and freezer for sooo long

  29. am addicted to musturbation…
    am addicted to musturbation I HV tried to stop BT am unable

    1. Hey Sam, you may want to be…
      Hey Sam, you may want to be gin by thinking about what is triggering or leading to the masturbation, then try avoid that trigger. For some people it maybe Porn and to address the masturbation thy begin by avoiding watching porn. What is the trigger in your case? Replace that activity with another more productive activity including fill up you leisure time with fun activities like your hobbies. Take one day at a time, you may not be able to achieve the change you desire in a day but you can make progress daily. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/i-am-addicted-to-porn-and-masturbation

  30. what is foreplay?.And my…
    what is foreplay?.And my problems is when am with my girl friend,i erect but soft for action later i release some fluids and i can not erect again.Am meaning i can not even fuck first round.Help me please!!!.

    1. Hi Marko, Foreplay is…

      Hi Marko, Foreplay is everything that gets you in the mood for sexual intercourse. These can include kissing, flirting, hugging, caressing among others other than sexual intercourse or penetration.

      You seem to be experiencing premature ejaculation which in younger men is caused by a lack of experience in sex. When one gains more experience they also become better at controlling their ejaculation. After you ejaculate you may loose your erection and it takes sometime, which differs from person to person, before you can gain another erection. This time when you can’t get an erection is known as Refractory Period. Check out these article for more information;-



  31. Is excessive musterbation…
    Is excessive musterbation have effect on the size of the penis…. Please help!

  32. am having problem with…
    am having problem with erection sometimes i erect and the other time i dont ,and i finished so quickly why?

    1. Hey Simon, it is normal for…

      Hey Simon, it is normal for a man to have erection problems sometimes but when this problems happen all the time it may mean one has erectile dysfunction in which case they need to consult a doctor for further advice. On the other hand, when you finish or ejaculate too soon it means you are experiencing premature ejaculation. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article for more information on how your partner can try manage this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  33. There is no need to panic…
    There is no need to panic. One can easily overcome erectile dysfunction.

  34. Hi,for some days now am…
    Hi,for some days now am having difficulties having sex with my partner, I put my mind for the excise and when ready, I go off what might be the problem, because I can see it is prolonging?

    1. Hello Edward, if you are…

      Hello Edward, if you are unable to get an erection or maintain one each time you try to have sex, you could be experiencing erectile dysfunction. While it is normal for a man to fail to get an erection or maintain one at a certain point of their life, when this happens all the time it is important that they seek medical advice. The causes range from psychological issues to physical or medical issues. The cause will determine the right treatment. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-top-five-facts

  35. Hey i am having a problem…
    Hey i am having a problem with not feeling sensation when having sex what could be wrong.

    1. Hey Jeremy, the reason may…

      Hey Jeremy, the reason may be psychological or physical. If one is not sufficiently aroused, which also means they may not have an erection, will lead to no sensation. Some underlying issues like nerve damage may also cause a lack of sensation. If this is something that has been happening for a long time it is important that you consult your health care provider who will help determine the cause and advice you on how to address it. 

  36. Please can erectile…
    Please can erectile dysfunction get worst with time

    1. Hello Williams, erectile…

      Hello Williams, erectile dysfucntion does get worse with time. The older you get the harder it is to get and maintain an erection. The good news is that there are great drugs in the market that help remedy the situation. Kindly see a medical practitioner to get a comprehensive diagnosis.

  37. I have a small penis like…
    I have a small penis like that of a primary two boy yet am 25 years old, what can I do???? Thanks

  38. Y is my penis size when…
    Y is my penis size when mustarbating is different from it’s original erectile size when having sex? please help

  39. Hello Anonymous, thank you…

    Hello Anonymous, thank you for reaching out and asking a wonderful question. Biologically, your penis is the same size when fully erect whether you are masturbating or engaged in sexual intercourse. If you feel that they are different sizes, it is probably a state of mind that you are in or you may be less aroused than when masturbating. Do you feel that you are less sexually aroused during sexual intercourse than when you masturbate? 

  40. Mine is inability to…
    Mine is inability to maintain an erection, it started about a month ago. I get an erection during foreplay with my partner, but starts going soft when I’m try to penetrate. Please help. Thanks

  41. Hello Zayyan, Thank you so…

    Hello Zayyan, Thank you so much for reaching out and opening up to us. What you are describing is known as Erectile dysfunction (ED) which is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Do not worry though, occasional ED isn’t uncommon. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED, however, can be a sign of health problems. It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a medical or psychological professional depending on what you believe might be the root cause. Please check out the link to this article for more information:

  42. I used hair remover cream on…
    I used hair remover cream on my private parts and it has affected erection. Is there any remedy?

  43. Unable to sustain an…
    Unable to sustain an election.is there any medication?

    1. This is a very good question…

      This is a very good question and a very common one as well. So, do not worry, you are not alone. There are some remedies that could help you last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation, you should go see a doctor.
      One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until you almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop, and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response. This should be repeated many times.
      Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. You could also masturbate before having sex.

  44. i am okay thanks for your…
    i am okay thanks for your help

    1. We are always pleased to…

      We are always pleased to help 🙂

  45. Hello, I’d really be glad to…
    Hello, I’d really be glad to visit you for a discussion on my problem, and consequently help me with medication. How or where can I get your facility in Kenya please?

  46. Hello Jay, thank you for…

    Hello Jay, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. At the moment, most of our work is done online, and therefore, do not yet have an official facility that you can visit just yet but we are working on it. At the moment, please feel free to reach out to us with any of your issues and medical queries and we will be able to assist here! Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

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