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Wet dreams: are they normal?

I experience wet dreams at night and emit in my pants. Then, the following morning I wake up, I shower and start my day. Will there be any problem?

First of all, wet dreams are entirely normal. Also called ‘nocturnal emissions’, they usually happen during dreams about sex. Sometimes you’ll wake up from a wet dream, other times you’ll just sleep right through it.

Some guys have wet dreams several times a week. Others only have a couple in their entire lives. They usually start sometime during puberty, and gradually get less as you get older. And although you may feel embarrassed or even guilty about having them, you can’t stop them from happening.

Actually, there is one thing that can reduce your chance of having a wet dream: masturbation. The more often you masturbate, the fewer wet dreams you’ll have. And just for the record, masturbating doesn’t do you any harm either.

So while it’s annoying having to clean up afterwards, wet dreams are just a normal part of development.

Most people think that only guys have wet dreams, but actually, something like 40 per cent of women also have ‘wet dreams’ at some point in their lives. Their vaginas become wet, and they can have highly intense orgasms. And just like men’s wet dreams, they’re normal and nothing to worry about!

Your brain might even censor your sexual dreams! Especially if you grew up being told that talking about sex is somehow wrong.

Which means you might not think that your dreams are sexual, because your brain’s masking the sexual symbols. So if you remember dreaming about tunnels, it could really be about vaginas. Whereas a woman who remembers dreaming about cigars or chimneys was really dreaming about penises! Or if you’ve had a wet dream and all you can remember were rolling hillsides, then your brain may have been censored a dream about breasts.

Now what about the stains on your clothing? Dirty or stained clothes quickly attract microorganisms, so re-wearing dirty clothes can lead to skin infections or irritation. They can also cause unpleasant odour – which other people will notice more than you. So you should change and wash your clothing regularly. Especially as if you let the stain remain unwashed for a while, it’s going to be much more difficult to remove it completely.

So it’s probably best to change your clothes, and then wash them as soon as you can. Or if you prefer, you could sleep naked, or in some sort of loose nightwear, so that your day clothes stay clean.


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Recent Comments (22)

  1. Is it a sin to have a wet…
    Is it a sin to have a wet dream if you are a Christian?

    1. Its normal to have wet dream…
      Its normal to have wet dream not a sin br it will depend with your thought of your mind for example you may dream of somebody’s wife or husband I think way you can make a sin according bible

      1. Thank you Joni, remember one…
        Thank you Joni, remember one can have wet dreams even when they are not having a dream about sex.

  2. Its a mental problem and a…
    Its a mental problem and a spiritual one,as a christian,it is a sin…

    1. Hi Davies, We appreciate…
      Hi Davies, We appreciate your contribution however this is a normal part of growing up. Remember they are wet dreams, happening when one is asleep and have no control over this. Sin would have to be what a person chooses to do consciously. Thank you for your contribution.

  3. haaaa guys wet dream is…
    haaaa guys wet dream is something normal let’s not talk over it… But something sinful, unlawful, my friends is MURSTABATION…….. that’s a criminal offence.

    1. Thank you Kelvin for your…
      Thank you Kelvin for your contribution. Depending with a person religious beliefs masturbation maybe sinful but it is certain not legally unlawful or criminal.

    2. Better lock me up and throw…
      Better lock me up and throw away the keys forever then lol

      1. Hi Wankatron, 

        Better lock…

        Hi Wankatron, 

        Better lock you up than have a wet dream? Let’s talk about what you have in mind. 

         

  4. In the world of Spirit, set…
    In the world of Spirit, set dreams are not normal. You have sex with evil spirits, I used to have wet dreams and enjoyed them so much but after being taken through several teachings I started praying over it and and spirits started manifesting themselves until I chased them and now it’s 3years with out single wet dream

    1. Hi Steven, we appreciate…
      Hi Steven, we appreciate your contribution though this is just part of growing up.

  5. Why is that whenever I…
    Why is that whenever I romance a gal I ejaculate en I feel stressed

    1. Hi Deno, it means you get…

      Hi Deno, it means you get sexually exited too quickly otherwise known as premature ejaculation. This is usually caused by a lack of experience in sex in young men. It may also be as a result stress, anxiety or fear. As the young man gains experience in sex, they become better at controlling their ejaculation. One can also take short breaks during sex or foreplay when they feel the sensation to ejaculation to try and calm down. Check out this article with additional tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  6. Kindly give the quotation of…
    Kindly give the quotation of the bible that say masturbation is a sin because i doubt if its there

    1. Hello Humphreys, I have no…

      Hello Humphreys, I have no biblical quote to give you but some religious organisation do not approve of masturbation. 

  7. wet dream is not a sin…
    wet dream is not a sin itself, but it may be a devi’sl tool as well. I believe we all know that there are evil dreams and those from the Lord, so its better for one to know who they are and react in the way that suits them best!!!

    1. We appreciate your…

      We appreciate your contribution. Indeed, there is nothing evil about wet dreams, this is just a normal part of growing up.

  8. Ive never had a wet dream in…
    Ive never had a wet dream in my life? Is this unusual or rare? Is it because I masturbate alllll the time?

    1. Hi WristFlicker, 

      It is…

      Hi WristFlicker, 

      It is totally normal not to have wet dreams. Not all men get wet dreams. Also, not that masturbation is perfectly healthy and is not known to affect ability to have wet dreams. 

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