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Alphonce Omondi

Dating for the money

Is it good to go for expensive first dates and to experience someone with money or maybe gifts? a female reader asks. Yes. But only if you are interested, answers Valentine.

What are you looking for?

I am not sure that I understand your question but it sounds to me like you are wondering if it is okay to go on expensive dates and receive gifts if you are dating someone with money. And certainly, there are gold diggers out there who are reading this article and wondering whether another type of dating actually exists and what it might look like.

Providing for your partner

Dating is an opportunity for a man to demonstrate what being with him would be like. So for a lot of human history, the man has wooed potential partners with gifts and expensive dates that show just how well he can provide.

Typically during courtship, men are on their best behaviour and many women joke that you should get all that you can from a man at this point in the relationship – because everything changes after marriage.

Only if you are interested

It is fine to allow a rich man to court you and spoil you with gifts. But please be considerate and only accept his attention, gifts, and affection if you are genuinely interested. Nobody wants to play the fool and many people have lived to regret their decision when the person who was buying the gifts realises that their affection was never welcome and they were simply being used for what they can provide.

Using another person can breed jealousy, resentment and even hatred. And my dear, people have been killed for less. It is one thing to reject another person but if you humiliate them, you might be in real danger.


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Recent Comments (30)

    1. Hi Kevin,

      Hi Kevin,
      have you been dated because of your money, or have you dated someone for their money?

        1. Alright? What do you mean…

          Alright? What do you mean then that you are a victim?

  1. i’m a victim , so many times
    i’m a victim , so many times they just collect and leave me ,they even change their numbers

    1. Ouch, pole sana, Lenin!
      Ouch, pole sana, Lenin!

    2. I feel like you don’t give…
      I feel like you don’t give it time. Give it little time to see whether or not she truly loves you.

      1. Hey Dora, we appreciate you…

        Hey Dora, we appreciate you contribution.

  2. Some do date because of…
    Some do date because of money. But not all

    1. Hey Preshy, we agree.

      Hey Preshy, we agree.

      1. Have dated but it’s…
        Have dated but it’s stressful if he leave you en he was the wan providing

        1. Hey Brendah, this can be…

          Hey Brendah, this can be challenging. It would call for changes in ones life to accommodate the new situation. 

  3. Here to date a real guy…
    Here to date a real guy ready to take care of me

    1. Hey Vivian, unfortunately we…

      Hey Vivian, unfortunately we are not a dating service and for this reason we are not able to help you meet someone. We do wish you well. 

  4. How to show love for my hubby
    How to show love for my hubby

    1. Hey Rita, it may help to…

      Hey Rita, it may help to talk to your hubby and get to know what they like and want in your relationship. This is especially important since what one person wants may not be what another person wants. Find a good time and have this conversation with your partner, include a talk about sex in this conversation. It will go along way to make the experience better for you both. Have a look at the following article for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

    1. Hello James, what can we do…

      Hello James, what can we do for you?

  5. Yes I had before.but got no…
    Yes I had before.but got no gain rather it hurt n regret.love with our heart is better than love for money it cannot last it my bad experience and i can’t never try it anymore. I need a true love

    1. Thank you for sharing your…

      Thank you for sharing your experience with us Imaobong. We wish you the best in your search and hope that you will meet your true love soon.

    1. Hey Lekpea, Sorry to say, we…

      Hey Lekpea, Sorry to say, we are not a dating service and cannot assist you in finding a partner. Best thing to do is take some time with yourself, find hobbies, practice things that you love and try to learn how to be happy with yourself. Happiness and confidence is attractive in a person and when you find yourself in a good place people will find you. As always, feel free to ask us any questions about love, sex or relationships if they come up. Best of luck.

  6. Majority of girls date foq…
    Majority of girls date foq money am a victim

    1. Hello Randy, thank you for…

      Hello Randy, thank you for reaching out and we are sorry you went through a hard time. How did that ordeal make you feel and what are you doing now to be more cautious of it?

  7. I wish to get asponser here…
    I wish to get a sponsor here

    1. Hi Johni, thank you for…

      Hi Johni, thank you for reaching out to us. Unfortunately this is not a dating site and we cannot help you in this regard.

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