Getting over the disappointment of breaking up

Getting over a break-up

Going through a break-up is not easy. You are trapped in a turmoil of emotions and negativity. Read our do’s and don’ts to stay strong.

  • Accept that it is over

    The worst thing you can do after a break-up is to stubbornly believe that it is temporary and your ex will come back to you. Although that may make you feel better in the short term, this is not the solution.

    Once it is over, your ex is not likely to return. Do yourself a favour and accept that it is over. Even though this will hurt, it will also help you heal and move on.

  • Lean on your friends and family

    You’re not the first person in the world to get your heart broken. Talking about it with friends and family will make you feel better. They will also be able to give you some good advice on how to start over fresh.

    Just make sure that you don’t constantly talk about your ex for months on end. That is unhealthy.

  • Start exercising

    Exercise is the best way to channel your anger into something productive. Not only will working out make you feel better physically, it also releases endorphins which make you feel happy. You will have better tasks on hand to focus on.

  • Treat yourself well

    Just because you’re sad doesn’t mean you shouldn’t look after yourself. Eat healthy meals, spend lots of time outside, pick up an old hobby or learn a new skill. All these things will make you feel good and make you realize that life goes on, even after the most devastating heartbreak.

  • Make plans for the future

    From planning a night out with your friends to a full week of holiday, planning activities will make you feel excited about the future. New trips and activities will help you meet people and also make you realize that you can have fun without your ex!

  • Take new relationships slowly

    Once you are (and you will be!) ready to start seeing someone new, then go ahead! Just make sure you take it slowly to figure out if this is really something you want. Do not just get into a relationship because of loneliness! You need to be comfortable being single in order to make a new relationship work.

  • Delete your ex from social media

    Although you may feel like this is an immature move, it’s better than being constantly reminded of them. Social media updates might tell you how amazing their life is now that they’re single. Plus, you’ll think that they’re hooking up with that hot person in their most recent photo. They’re probably not…

  • Let yourself grieve

    Break-ups can be devastating and the best way to move on is to grieve. Whether this means eating tubs of ice-cream, watching back to back rom-coms or crying on the phone to your best friend (or all three at the same time). You need to let all the sadness out in order to let new happiness in.

  • Abuse drugs or alcohol

    Doing something crazy involving large amounts of drugs or alcohol may seem like the best way to numb the pain of your heartbreak. However, it won’t make you feel better in the long run and may lead to dangerous health conditions or even criminal charges.

  • Rebound

    You may want to rebound with someone to feel intimacy again.There is nothing wrong with that. Just remember that one night stands or short flings may feel good in the short-term, but they will not mend your broken heart.

  • Stalk your ex

    If your ex never wants to see you again, leave them alone! If you stalk them, at best, they will feel sorry for you for embarrassing yourself. At worst, they will be terrified and file a police case. Don’t get into either situation!

  • Blame yourself

    It’s easy to feel like you’re the one who caused your ex to walk away because you didn’t like their friends or you didn’t call them that one time, so on and so forth. Remember that it’s not your fault alone! Relationships are between two people and both share the responsibility when it ends.

  • Stay friends with your ex right away

    Being friends with your ex may seem like the mature thing to do but at least at the beginning, it’s best not to stay in contact. You need to concentrate on yourself and hanging out with your ex will make it difficult for you to draw the line between a friend and a lover. Plus, you don’t want to deal with that awkward moment when your ex introduces you to their new partner!


    Have you been through a sad breakup? Share your tips on how to stay strong on our discussion boardFacebook, or leave a comment.

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    Thats de best advise ever

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    2. What if ur ex ask for…
      What if ur ex ask for another chance after heartbreak

      1. It honestly depends on you…

        It honestly depends on you Anonymous. It also depends on what caused the heartbreak. Why do you ask?

  2. What if i ave achild with my
    What if i ave achild with my ex how can i avoid him?

    1. Do you have shared custody?
      Do you have shared custody?

  3. an ex could be your silent
    an ex could be your silent enemy. can never wish you good at any moment

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    Going through the same situation bt not easy thanks

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  5. I have tried to forget my ex
    I have tried to forget my ex bt all in vain. .she was my first lover n anytym we meet we enjoy to the fullest including sex tho she is married… plz help

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    iwas once heartbroken but dat stuation was’nt easy2pass thru.

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