3 Frequently asked questions about healthy pregnancy
When you’re pregnant, you want to do everything right so you can have a healthy baby. Here are answers to some frequently asked questions.
- I had hard sex. Could it have harmed the baby? No. You can have sex any way you like when you’re pregnant, and it won’t do the baby any harm. The baby is completely protected inside your womb. Some women find they feel more sensitive and want to have sex more when they’re pregnant. That’s fine – the happier and more relaxed you are, the healthier your pregnancy will be!
It’s true that an orgasm can sometimes trigger an early miscarriage, but it won’t be the cause. It just sets off something that was going to happen anyway.
Also, after an orgasm, your tummy might go hard and feel tight and painful. This is fine, it does no harm at all. Normally when you have an orgasm your womb contracts, but you’re not aware of it. But now you’re pregnant, it’s very obvious. It can be uncomfortable, but it’s completely harmless. It won’t cause a miscarriage or premature birth.
As the pregnancy goes on it can be uncomfortable to have intercourse with the man on top. You’ll need to find other positions, for example lying on your side with your partner behind you. Or you might just feel like having sex in other ways without having intercourse. Or not at all. Just follow your feelings.
The only times you shouldn’t have sex when you’re pregnant is if your waters have broken, if you’re bleeding, or if your midwife or obstetrician says that for a particular reason you have an increased risk of giving birth prematurely. - I got drunk – but I didn’t realize I was pregnant. Could it have harmed the baby? If you drank a lot of alcohol, smoked, got ill or took drugs before you realized you were pregnant, it’s logical you should worry. Luckily in the first two weeks, there’s hardly any contact between your body and the fertilized egg.
The exchange of blood between you and your embryo only really starts after the time you know your period is late. So if you start living healthily as soon as you realize you’re pregnant, a drinking binge the week before won’t have done any harm.
Of course, it’s possible that you might not realize you’re pregnant straight away. You might have had a little bleeding – ‘spotting’ in your underwear – and thought it was a very light period. Or you might have missed a period or two but somehow not taken on board the fact that you’re pregnant.
In this case, there’s no point worrying if anything you’ve done up to now might have harmed your baby. The important thing is to act now, and start following the tips to look after the baby inside you. - I’m on the pill and I still got pregnant. Could it have harmed the baby? So you’re on the birth control pill, or you use another hormonal contraceptive but you still got pregnant? You might worry that the contraceptive pill has harmed your baby. The good news is there’s no definite evidence that taking the pill when you’re pregnant can harm your baby – so don’t worry.
On the other hand, there’s no definite evidence that taking the pill when you’re pregnant doesn’t harm the baby. It might say in the instructions with your contraceptive pills that you shouldn’t take them when you’re pregnant.
If you think you could be pregnant, you should stop taking the pill. But remember you might not be pregnant, so if you have sex, make sure you use another kind of contraceptive.
Do you have any other questions about a healthy pregnancy? Talk to us in the comments section.
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Is there any harm to if I…
Is there any harm to if I enjaculate “inside” during my wifes pregnancy ?
Hi Joshua,…
Hi Joshua,
There no harm in you ejaculating inside your wife during her pregnancy. The semen cannot even get to the developing baby. Check out the following article for more information:-
https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/sex-during-pregnancy-top-five-facts
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Hi Enock, It is expected as an early sign of pregnancy that breast will be sore and swollen. This will however go away or reduce significantly after the first three months after her body adjusts to the changes happening.
I need help,my wife is one…
I need help,my wife is one month pregnant but is crying of abdominal pain. no bleeding, no vomiting only that pain. what could be the problem?
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Hi Francis, Lower abdominal pain is one of the early signs of pregnancy due to the stretching and growing of the uterus. She should consult a medical provider if the pain is accompanied by bleeding.
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Hi..my wife is five months pregnant and doesn’t get interested on having sex ,what could be the problem?
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Hi Johnson, Pregnancy is a time filled with many changes, both physical and emotional. There are changes in moods that shift like the wind and there may also be a number of changes with regard to sexual desire of your partner. Many pregnant women find that their sex drive fluctuates throughout the nine months of pregnancy. Sometimes the sex drive may be high or like in your case now low. It may help to talk with your partner so that you can find a balance that also accommodates the changes happening to her.
Yes my Wfe is already…
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Norah, if you notice anything unusual consult your doctor.
Am a 19yr old yetci want to…
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Hi Jacky, it is important to consider protection when you are planning to have sex with a new partner for unplanned pregnancy but also protection from Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). Only condoms can give you protection for both. If he is unwilling to wear a condom there are female condoms that you can use. Lastly, the decision to have sex is your own, only do it if you are ready and feel it is the right time. Check this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/safe-sex/sti-prevention/staying-safe
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It my fist time am missing…
It my fist time am missing my periods,this is my 26day since my last period..thou I am still having some crumps and pains around my nipples?
Hi Ninah, A missed period is…
Hi Ninah, A missed period is one of the signs of pregnancy, but the missed period could have been caused by hormonal changes, stress, eating disorders, extreme sports or exercise. Do take a pregnancy test to get to know or rule out pregnancy. Check this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/am-i-pregnant
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Am 26 weeks pregnant,but my…
Am 26 weeks pregnant,but my tummy does not grow big,this my third pregnancy,though the first two were the same,so i though this time it will change,is this normal?
Hi Irene, everyone has a…
Hi Irene, everyone has a different experience with their pregnancy however as long as the baby’s development is on track based on your Gynecologist or Midwife then there is nothing to worry about. Lastly, it sometimes takes longer for plus-size women to look obviously pregnant.
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You assumed she is plus size
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Are you talking…
Hi there,
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Am trying to get pregnant…
Am trying to get pregnant but not yet please help what can I do
Hi Mary,…
Hi Mary,
Pregnancy occurs at different times for people. There are those who try once and get pregnant immediately and there are those who try for some time, but its all normal.
If you have been trying for les than a year there is nothing to worry about. But if you have been trying for more than a year, you and your partner might want to visit a doctor for check up.
Here’s an article that can help in improving your chances https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/what-to-expect
My Wife gave birth through…
My Wife gave birth through cs Nov 2014 after abt a wk ago, she had a test and found to be pregnant…will this have any effect on her during the upcoming delivery? is 3yrs enough after cs bfore the nxt pregnancy?
I am 20yrs old and I want to…
I am 20yrs old and I want to have a child kindly advice me
Hi Michael, three years is…
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Hi Maggy, What specific advice would you like with regard to having a baby?
my wife has miss her periods…
my wife has miss her periods for two months and she has no signs of pg
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Hey,i’ve been pregnant twice…
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I’m almost in a 5 months…
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Hiim 13 weeks pregnant but…
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my wife is 5month pregnant…
my wife is 5month pregnant but her womb is too big like she is 7-8 month could this be twins and another problem is that she feels some pain on the top right side of her womb wat could be the problem
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Hi every time I make love I…
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When is the right time to…
When is the right time to stop having sex’s when pregnant? and when is the appropriate right time to resume after delivery??
Hey Veechemchom, Partners…
Hey Veechemchom, Partners can have sex during the course of the pregnancy upto and including the last trimester of the pregnancy. However, as the pregnancy goes on it can be uncomfortable to have intercourse with the man on top, for this reason partners may need to find other positions that are comfortable. The only times you shouldn’t have sex when you’re pregnant is if your waters have broken, if you’re bleeding, or if your midwife or obstetrician says that for a particular reason you have an increased risk of giving birth prematurely.
After delivery, it is important to allow some healing time since the woman’s vagina and perineum could have been injured or even surgically cut during birth. Some doctors recommend a wait period of between 4 to 6 weeks for physical healing. It may take longer for a woman to be ready to have sex again especially because of psychological issues. Also, this applies for a normal or vaginal delivery. It maybe important to seek the advice of your doctor as to when to resume sex if the birth was through a Cesarean Section which can be received during the review visit. Check out the following articles for more information;-
https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/sex-after-pregnancy-myths-and-facts
https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/sex-after-pregnancy-top-five-facts
I have missed periods for…
I have missed periods for three months what she I do,and if am pregnant when should I start going for clinics ?
Hey Dorcas, a missed period…
Hey Dorcas, a missed period is one of the early signs of pregnancy. There are other reasons that may lead to this including; change in environment, significant weight loss or weight gain, eating disorders, excessive exercises and also stress. You may want to start by getting a pregnancy test. If you are pregnant, it is important to start your Pre-natal clinics as soon as possible, so now would be a good time to start. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/being-pregnant/your-body-and-pregnancy
My boyfriend just proposed…
My boyfriend just proposed to me and he wants us to have baby but am not ready what should i do?
He’s 27yrs am 22
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Hi Pauline, the right thing…
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My gf is a month pregnant we…
My gf is a month pregnant we had a sex together after seen lots of blood what could it be
Hi Theo, there is nothing…
Hi Theo, there is nothing wrong with having sex during pregnancy however bleeding is not normal. It is important that your partner visits a medical centre for a check up. Check out the following articles for more information;-
https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/being-pregnant/your-body-and-pregnancy
https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/sex-during-pregnancy-top-five-facts
I am pregnant and I recently…
I am pregnant and I recently caught my boyfriend cheating on me with another girl. Can i use PEP for protection? I can’t resist having sex with him but i also don’t want to get infected with HIV.
Hey Doreen, have you talked…
Hey Doreen, have you talked to your partner about the cheating? Are you happy with him cheating on you? Is this the kind of relationship you want? PEP is taken by a person who feels they have been exposed to HIV but on your part you can use Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP), which are anti-HIV drugs taken by a person who feels they at a risk of HIV infection to reduce this threat. You can receive PrEP from a health facility near you. Check out this article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/sti-prevention/pre-exposure-prophylaxis-top-facts
At what pony should we stop…
At what pony should we stop have sex during pregnancy?
Hey Dona, it is completely…
Hey Dona, it is completely alright to have sex throughout your pregnancy. However, as the pregnancy goes on it can be uncomfortable to have intercourse with the man on top. You’ll need to find other positions, for example lying on your side with your partner behind you. Or you might just feel like having sex in other ways without having intercourse. Or not at all. Just follow your feelings.
The only times you shouldn’t have sex when you’re pregnant is if your waters have broken, if you’re bleeding, or if your midwife or obstetrician says that for a particular reason you have an increased risk of giving birth prematurely. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/sex-during-pregnancy-top-five-facts
I did abortion because I was…
I did abortion because I was so afraid of my parents since then I have been trying to get pregnant but I can’t see any changes
Hey Ann, it may take upto 12…
Hey Ann, it may take upto 12 months for one to get pregnant. One can still get pregnant after having an abortion. Have a look at this article on tips to increase your chances of getting pregnant;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts Additionally have a look at the following article on safe abortions;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/abortion-myths-busted
Am 19rs I was in love with…
Am 19rs I was in love with my boyfriend then after few days he asked for sex after I had sex I got pregnant but I was so confused because I Neva trusted him BT allover sudden I deicide to have abortion ppls help me I have been trying to get pregnant again I don’t know what the problem
Hey Ann, so sorry about this…
Hey Ann, so sorry about this. It may take upto 12 months for one to get pregnant. One can still get pregnant after having an abortion. Have a look at this article on tips to increase your chances of getting pregnant;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts Additionally have a look at the following article on safe abortions;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/abortion-myths-busted
How can one make his penis…
How can one make his penis bigger
Hey Vinnie, there is no real…
Hey Vinnie, there is no real way to enlarge ones penis other than surgery which also presents high risks. The different methods and products do not produce the results they promise. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/six-myths-about-increasing-penis-size
Hey LM, my wife is 6 months…
Hey LM, my wife is 6 months pregnant and she has no interest in sex, is this normal? will this affect our sex life in future?
Hello Joel, during pregnancy…
Hello Joel, during pregnancy, it is normal for both the mother and the father to experience a change in their level of sexual desire. Some will find themselves roaring with passion, others won’t. Some women may not want to have sex – believing it will harm the baby or induce labour (even when they know it won’t!) – while for others, the changing hormones will make sex irresistible. Sometimes, particularly during the first trimester, many women find themselves too tired and nauseated and uncomfortable to have sex. Meanwhile, during the second trimester, many women experience a surge of hormones (including testosterone) that can significantly boost sex drive. Later in the pregnancy, more blood flow to the pelvic region, the freedom of not having to worry about birth control and increased sensitivity of the skin, especially around the breasts and other erogenous zones, may also increase sexual desire.
Meanwhile, it’s perfectly normal for the mother’s partner to be extra aroused by all the changes occurring in her body, particularly her growing breasts!
The key to great lovemaking and intimacy during pregnancy is communication. Be open and honest with your feelings, especially if you have mixed thoughts about having sex. At the same time, encourage your partner to talk about their worries and desires, especially if there has been a noticeable change in their sexual behaviour.
All you said is true even…
All you said is true even though idint get amarriage partner here in Kenya
Hello there, thank you for…
Hello there, thank you for the feedback. Hope you will get a partner wherever you are.
Do you mean I can still have…
Do you mean I can still have sex throughout the pregnancy? My husband is very oppossed to this idea, he even thinks we should have separate room. Give me more information?
Hi Rose, yes you can still…
Hi Rose, yes you can still have sex during pregnancy. It is however important that you use positions that don’t exert pressure on your growing tummy. Find a good time and talk to your husband to get to know exactly why he is opposed to having sex during pregnancy, this way you can help him see that there is really no harm because the baby is well protected in the uterus. Have a look at the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/sex-during-pregnancy-top-five-facts
Can I do sex when am in my…
Can I do sex when am in my period
Yes you can Cate. Infact one…
Yes you can Cate. Infact one of the benefits of having sex during periods can help relieve some of the period pain. It is however important to consider protection since there is a small chance one could get pregnant. Check out the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/sex-during-your-period-top-five-facts
Can p2 cause harm tu my body
Can p2 cause harm tu my body
Hi Mary, P2 only has short…
Hi Mary, P2 only has short term effects including changing the timing of next period so that it comes early or late, breast tenderness, fatigue, headaches, abdominal pain, nausea, vomiting and dizziness. There are no long term effects of associated with emergency contraception. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/emergency-contraception
Is there any effect of…
Is there any effect of talking drugs like follic acid and iron phate
Hi Glady, the effect is a…
Hi Glady, the effect is a positive one where your baby will be healthy and develop well during pregnancy. Do discuss with your Doctor or midwife about what supplements you ought to take during this time. We wish you well in your pregnancy journey. Check out this article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/being-pregnant/your-body-and-pregnancy
Am 3 months pregnant and am…
Am 3 months pregnant and am getting fat and tired… What can I do
Hello Aggy, first,…
Hello Aggy, first, congratulations. Both of these are expected ‘side effects’ of being pregnant. As the baby grows in your womb, it takes energy and the result is that you feel tired. You also have lots of appetite, you are eating much more or more frequently. The result is that you put on a bit more weight. It is important to ensure you are eating healthy during this time, if you can eat small meals frequently as opposed to three large meals. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/being-pregnant/your-body-and-pregnancy
My pregancy made me to have…
My pregancy made me to have a low sex drive and it really affected my husband. But thinks got back to normal after I gave birth.
Thank you for sharing your…
Thank you for sharing your experience.
Is there any effect taking…
Is there any effect taking pregcare pills and follic acid at the same time
Hey Ope, Pregnacare pills…
Hey Ope, Pregnacare pills contain Folic Acid which means you may not need additional Folic pills. Do talk to your healthcare provider for further advice. All the best. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/being-pregnant/your-body-and-pregnancy
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She is the Best
Thank you for your…
Thank you for your contribution Priyanka.
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I appriciate ur love matter coz my quizs are fully answered
Thank you Hildah for the…
Thank you Hildah for the feedback and you are very welcome.
Hi,my girlfriend is 36 weeks…
Hi,my girlfriend is 36 weeks pregnant and haven’t had sex with her for long,is it accepted to have intercourse with her at this time as she’s about to deliver
Hello John, sex is generally…
Hello John, sex is generally safe at all stages unless otherwise advised by your health provider. Also, both of you need to be comfortable, and the sex position should be comfortable for your partner. Have a look at this article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/sex-during-pregnancy-top-five-facts
My wife is using pills for…
My wife is using pills for FP and am seeing disturbing him please advice
Hello Braxdan, what specific…
Hello Braxdan, what specific issues is your wife experiencing with the pill? Consider talking to your health care provider for more information and advice. Additionally, have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/the-pill
Am just three weeks pregnant…
Am just three weeks pregnant and to me am too fat what can I do to slim down
Hi Martha, I suggest you…
Hi Martha, I suggest you begin you prenatal clinics as soon as possible and then discuss this your health provider depending on what your actual weight is. You will find that during this period you are likely to put on some weight. We wish you all the best in your pregnancy journey. Check this out;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/being-pregnant/your-body-and-pregnancy
Sex has been difficult since…
Sex has been difficult since I gave birth,what can I do to address this it is affecting my marriage greatly?
Hello Susan, what exactly do…
Hello Susan, what exactly do you mean when you say it has been difficult? Sex after child birth is different and it is important to talk about it with your partner in the case where there are difficulties. One may experience pain, one may experience a low desire for sex and the baby weight may also get in the way of the experience. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/sex-after-pregnancy-top-five-facts
I have had difficulty when…
I have had difficulty when it comes to sex.every time I have a sexual intercourse with my wife she complains if itching from the sperms.I tried masterbation and the moment sperms fall on my skin there was itching at that part.what’s the problem because I thought its STI an I went for checkup but the results were negative.
Hello Charles, it is…
Hello Charles, it is possible that your partner has a rare case of allergic reaction to sperm. Do consider speaking to health care provider together with your partner to see what options you can adopt to address this. In the meantime, you can consider using condoms during sex to prevent exposure to the sperm on the part of your wife. Have a look at the following article for more information on condom use;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/condom
Im five months pregnant and …
Im five months pregnant and im feeling some pain on my left side under the stomach what might be the problem
Hi Mary, lower abdomen pain…
Hi Mary, lower abdomen pain is usually caused by your womb expanding, the ligaments stretching as your bump grows. However, if the pain is unbearable, do speak to your health care provider for further advice including what pain killers you can take.
My girl friend knew she was…
My girl friend knew she was pregnant but hid it until it was 6weeks and 6days. I am not prepared for this. How do I go about it? Thanks.
Hello Praise, the choice as…
Hello Praise, the choice as to how to address the pregnancy is one that is largely in the hands of your girlfriend. You can take with her and share your concerns but she has to make the ultimate decision of how to proceed. Find a good time, take about this. Get to know what she wants moving forward and agree on how to proceed together. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/am-i-pregnant
My woman is 6 weeks pregnant…
My woman is 6 weeks pregnant. It is detected she has intramural fibroid. What’s her chance of bringing the pregnancy to term?
Hi Ket, it is difficult to…
Hi Ket, it is difficult to determine this with certainty. I suggest that you discuss this with your doctor who will be able to advice and more importantly monitor the health of the baby and that of the mother throughout the pregnancy.
I thought I was pregnant but…
I thought I was pregnant but I am not because I am having my period. Can you have sex when you have periods?
Hello Peris, from a medical…
Hello Peris, from a medical stand point it is okay to have sex during periods, however, it is important to use protection since one can still get pregnant. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/sex-during-your-period-top-five-facts
I am in my first trimester…
I am in my first trimester and I detest sex. Will this change?
Hey Allicia, congratulations…
Hey Allicia, congratulations. Yes this may change, what you are experiencing is normal, for reason of the changes happening your body you are going to experience changes throughout this period in your sexual desire. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/sex-during-pregnancy-top-five-facts
Can I have my normal period…
Can I have my normal period with cramps and still be pregnant?
Hi Grace, no you can’t be…
Hi Grace, no you can’t be pregnant and have periods at the same time. Once you become pregnant, you stop having periods. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/am-i-pregnant
My wife is on period from…
My wife is on period from yesterday which is the best day to get pregnant plz advice
Hi there, the best time to…
Hi there, the best time to have sex with your wife for her to get pregnant, is when she is ovulating or around the time she is ovulating. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/menstruation
Greetings.. Pls my wife is…
Greetings.. Pls my wife is 4months pregnant but she do Complaine of abdominal pain and lack of apitite for food but always desiring for fluids. Pls what Could be the Cause?
Hi Nicholas, all these are…
Hi Nicholas, all these are side effects of being pregnant. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/being-pregnant/your-body-and-pregnancy Have your wife speak to her doctor or midwife on the next visit who will advice how to manage the side effects.
Am three weeks pregnant, I…
Am three weeks pregnant, I had sex with my husband. Two days later I started have a cloth like discharge. Could it be a miscarriage or sperm
Hi Vivian,
Vaginal…
Hi Vivian,
Vaginal discharge is not only harmless but a pretty crucial part of having a vagina: it helps flush out bacteria and keep your lady parts clean. However, discharge comes in many forms, so it can be hard to know whats normal. Some women who are pregnant experience a fleshy, tissue-like discharge that resembles dead skin, which can be unsettling to find.
The most common causes of discharge during pregnancy include:
Vaginal progesterone: In some cases, pregnant women need to take progesterone, which helps thicken the lining of their uterus and maintain the pregnancy. The carrier material is often not absorbed, can clump up and also look like an unusual discharge.
Biochemical pregnancy: A biochemical pregnancy refers to a very early miscarriage where a fertilized egg doesn’t implant itself properly. This type of pregnancy will show up positive on a urine pregnancy test, but an ultrasound will not be able to detect it. Miscarriage tissue can appear a tan or light pink colour. If you sees that, you should notify your doctor and save the tissue in case it’s necessary to do testing on it.”
Uterine bleeding: There can be bleeding inside the uterus that stops, but the blood that was there can clot and then be expelled days later. When it comes out, the old blood can look stringy, granular and dark. This type of discharge is relatively common, but you should still consult your doctor about any vaginal bleeding during pregnancy.
Elevated oestrogen levels: Higher levels of oestrogen and increased blood supply to the uterus and vagina produce an increasing amount of secretion during pregnancy.
Healthy vaginal discharge is usually thin, clear or milky white, and shouldn’t smell bad, If you experience any unusual discharge or vaginal bleeding, let your health care provider know immediately.
Am 6 weeks pregnant in the…
Am 6 weeks pregnant in the first week I had morning sickness and was I was not vomiting but now am vomiting is it normal
Hello Risper, thank you for…
Hello Risper, thank you for reaching out. Vomiting during pregnancy is completely normal, even after the first trimester. The nausea is caused by the pregnancy hormone HGC – the one that shows up in a pregnancy test. This does a really important job in stopping your pregnancy from ending prematurely. The unfortunate ‘side effect’ is that it can make you want to throw up. For most women who have morning sickness, the symptoms start around six weeks after their last period.
From around week 12 the sick feeling usually starts to ease off, and by week 16 it’s over because the HGC hormone has done its job and your body stops producing it.
Some women have little or no nausea in the first weeks of pregnancy. Other women hardly feel able to do anything because they feel so queasy all the time. It can help to eat little and often, and avoid having an empty stomach. For more information on what to expect during your pregnancy, click here: https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/being-pregnant/your-body-and-pregnancy
I saw my period on 9 of and…
I saw my period on 9 of and I haven’t seen it this month of march could it be that am pregnant
Hello Hannah, thank you for…
Hello Hannah, thank you for reaching out to us. There is a possibility that you are pregnant but there is also a possibility that your menstrual cycle has delayed this month. The best thing to do is go to your nearest available pharmacy and get a pregnancy test to find out for sure.
Best,
Love Matters Team.
I am worried, i don’t know…
I am worried, i don’t know if i am pregnant, is there a way to know if i am pregnant without going to the hospital
Hello Adejoke, the best way…
Hello Adejoke, the best way would be to take a Hoe Pregnancy Test. They should be available at a local pharmacy. Please note that this test is best taken two weeks after suspected exposure.
Please advise my wife is…
Please advise my wife is three to four weeks pregnant but still mestrating and she eat every minute and pee severally,pls advise
Hello Ojo, thank you for…
Hello Ojo, thank you for reaching out and we are sorry you and your wife are going through a hard time. You can’t have your menstrual period while you’re pregnant. Some women do have vaginal bleeding during pregnancy. Some even report intermittent bleeding that seems like a regular period to them. But vaginal bleeding during pregnancy is not the same thing as menstruation.
Bleeding occurs during pregnancy for various reasons, some serious and some not. Some women have light bleeding or spotting in the week before their period is due and they may mistake that for a period. It’s generally a lot lighter than a typical period and lasts just a day or two.
This spotting has been called “implantation bleeding” because of the idea that it might be caused by the fertilised egg burrowing into the blood-rich lining of the uterus. But no one knows what really causes it.
You may have spotting after a Pap smear, vaginal exam, or sex. This is because there’s more blood going to your cervix during pregnancy.
Bleeding can also be a sign of something seriously wrong, such as an infection, placental problems, miscarriage, or an ectopic pregnancy, which can be life-threatening.
If you notice bleeding while you’re pregnant, call your doctor or midwife right away, even if the bleeding has stopped. Many women who bleed a little during pregnancy deliver without complications, but you may need an evaluation to rule out a serious problem.
If you’re actively bleeding or have severe pain of any kind and can’t immediately reach your practitioner, head straight to the emergency room.
Pls i need help, what are…
Pls i need help, what are those drugs pregnancy person can take for healthier baby
Hello Asah Sunday, thank you…
Hello Asah Sunday, thank you for reaching out to us and asking a great question. Folic acid is a pregnancy superhero and is what you are referring to! Taking a prenatal vitamin with the recommended 400 micrograms (mcg) of folic acid before and during pregnancy can help prevent birth side defects of your baby’s brain and spinal cord. Take it every day and go ahead and have a bowl of fortified cereal, too. Folic acid is a man-made form of a B vitamin called folate. Folate plays an important role in the production of red blood cells and helps your baby’s neural tube develop into his/her brain and spinal cord. The best food sources of folic acid are fortified cereals. Folate is found naturally in dark green vegetables and citrus fruits.
Birth defects occur within the first 3-4 weeks of pregnancy. So it’s important to have folate in your system during those early stages when your baby’s brain and spinal cord are developing. If you talked to your doctor when you were trying to conceive, she probably told you to start taking a prenatal vitamin with folic acid. One study showed that women who took folic acid for at least a year before getting pregnant cut their chances of delivering early by 50% or more.
The CDC recommends that you start taking folic acid every day for at least a month before you become pregnant, and every day while you are pregnant. However, the CDC also recommends that all women of childbearing age take folic acid every day. So you’d be fine to start taking it even earlier.
If you picked out your own prenatal vitamin, take it to your OB once you’re pregnant to make sure it has the recommended amounts of everything you need, including folic acid. All prenatal vitamins are not the same and some may have less or more of the vitamins and minerals you need.
Best regards,
Love Matters Team!
My wife is pregnant and she…
My wife is pregnant and she’s been feeling alot of pain in her abdomen the pregnancy is one month is their any cause of alarm
Hi Richard, thank you for…
Hi Richard, thank you for reaching out to us and asking a great question. If she has been experiencing pain in her abdomen and she is pregnant, it is important to visit your doctor as soon as possible and it investigated and treated lest you risk pregnancy complications. Do not hesitate to get communicate with us for more information. Have a wonderful weekend and stay safe!
I am 20 years old and I’m…
I am 20 years old and I’m having baby fever,and my boyfriend is really okay with it but the only fear that runs in me it’s during delivery time. I love watching delivery vlogs and try to see what others pass through , Aki I’m in total fear! Kindly comfort me with your advice miss I really need to hold my baby soon ju haki this baby fever is killing me.?
Hello Essy, thank you for…
Hello Essy, thank you for reaching out to us and we are so sorry you are going through a hard time. We are happy that you and your boyfriend and ready to have a child and that you are experiencing baby fever but allow us to ask you some questions that you and your boyfriend can reflect on before making such a bold, life-changing decision.
1. Have you both completed your studies? What of having a stable income?
2. Are you both financially stable enough to bring a child into this world and fully providing for both its and your needs as a family without straining the relationship?
3. Are you both mentally and emotionally prepared to have a child together? Having a child together means starting a family together which means life long commitment together, are you both prepared for this?
If the answer to the above is no, then take your time to consider your options and do not jump into something you may not be fully prepared to handle. Like any fever, baby fever too comes and goes. Do not gratify your desires to have a child simply to alleviate your baby fever without considering the implications it will have on the future of you, your boyfriend, and the future of the child you bring into this world.
If the answer to all the above is yes, then we are glad and you have nothing to fear, the human body is a miracle of engineering and despite the vlogs you have watched, what they do not tell you is that when your body goes into labor, the same chemical that induces your contractions, known as oxytocin that is released into your bloodstream is also responsible for inducing temporary amnesia so that you do not remember the discomfort you go through during childbirth, and this is why despite going through childbirth once, mothers still experience baby fever and want to have more children.
Please advise me,I have got…
Please advise me,I have got three pregnancies at different months and all are ending to miscarriages,I have visited the doctor and no problem have been seen. What can I do? Please help me?
Hi Mary, we are very sorry…
Hi Mary, we are very sorry to hear what you have been through and understand that you may be frustrated with the situation. Have you been to a specialist doctor? We would strongly advise that you see one. It is likely to be pricey as they generally cost more and they will require you do tests however they will have a more definitive answer.
Can a woman conceive while…
Can a woman conceive while having an implant? And can she give birth while still having the Implant?
Hi Lance,
The implant is…
Hi Lance,
The implant is one of the most effective birth control methods out there — it’s more than 99% effective. On the other hand, it is possible to get pregnant if the implant was not well placed or it has moved to other organs. There is no evidence that implants will cause birth defects or harm the fetus if a woman becomes pregnant while using implants or accidentally has implants inserted when she is already pregnant. However, it is important to have it removed once you confirm that you’re pregnant.
My wife she has fibroids we…
My wife she has fibroids we will we get a child cause we are scared plz help
Hi Obed,
It is advisable…
Hi Obed,
It is advisable to visit your doctor so that it can be determined what kind of fibroids she has, their size, and where they are located in her womb. In some cases, it is perfectly safe to get pregnant and give birth with the fibroids, in other cases, they must be removed since they may interfere with the fetal development.
I,m not yet Married but it…
I,m not yet Married but it is good knew that there is some issues I may tackle when my time come. With regard I say Congrats for your Information. thank you
Hi Cleophas,
Thank you for…
Hi Cleophas,
Thank you for visiting Love Matters. I am glad you learnt something new. Even if you are not married keep reading our content since you will get tips on how to have a successful relationship.
Very educational, thank for…
Very educational, thank for your competent reply!
Hi Sir Hill,
I am glad you…
Hi Sir Hill,
I am glad you found the article educational! Keep visiting Love Matters for more educative content.
Hi. Am 3 months pregnant…
Hi. Am 3 months pregnant. There is this white and thick discharge I have been experiencing from the 1st month. It smells very bad at times and I maintain personal hygiene. What could be the problem coz it irritates me so much
Hi Judy,
This could be a…
Hi Judy,
This could be a sign of an infection. White, thick, strong-smelling discharge is often associated with a yeast infection, which can also cause itching or irritation. To know for sure, kindly see a doctor for tests and treatment.
Can a lady who is having a…
Can a lady who is having a twin pregnancy have normal delivery? Or is a must for her to undergo ceserean birth
Hi Johntez,
Yes, that’s…
Hi Johntez,
Yes, that’s possible. Some women are able to give birth to twins normally while others have to undergo a ceserean section.
What might be the cause of…
What might be the cause of the death of baby after vs?
Hi Davis,
This could be…
Hi Davis,
This could be due to many factors. It is best to talk to the doctor and understand the specific cause of the death of the child.
Hi ,my wife is 7 months…
Hi ,my wife is 7 months pregnant and foetus is increasing it’s height very first .is it OK ?
Hi Emmanuel,
This normal…
Hi Emmanuel,
This normal in the last Trimester. The fetus continues to grow in size and weight. However, if you have concerns it is best to ask the doctor during clinical visits. In the meantime, read this article to learn more about what happens at each stage of pregnancy: Pregnancy week-by-week
After my wife has given…
After my wife has given birth, for how long should I stay to have sex with her again
Hi Michael,
This depends,…
Hi Michael,
This depends, there’s no set waiting period before you can have sex again, many health care providers recommend waiting to have sex until four to six weeks after delivery. But don’t take this as a magic number! She may feel ready earlier. Or not ready at all! Whatever the reasons may be: don’t push it, give her time you need! Read this article to learn more: Top facts about sex after pregnancy
What causes back pain during…
What causes back pain during pregnancy??am only 5 months pregnant and the pain is unbearable
Hi Faith,
So sorry to hear…
Hi Faith,
So sorry to hear about your experience. Back pain during pregnancy is normal. Many factors, including hormonal changes, postural changes, weight gain, contribute to back pain during pregnancy. Things you can do to relieve this pain include regularly stretching the lower back, making postural changes, such as standing and sitting upright, so the back is straight and shoulders square, getting enough sleep, using a pillow for back support, and certain medications as prescribed by a doctor. If the pain is severe, see a doctor.
Good teachings… continue
Good teachings… continue
Hi Robert,
Thank you! I am…
Hi Robert,
Thank you! I am glad you learnt something. Keep visiting Love Matters for more informative content.
I av STI Gonorrhea can I av…
I av STI Gonorrhea can I av affect my pregnant woman if we av sex
Hi Gilbert,
Yes, you can…
Hi Gilbert,
Yes, you can infect her. Gonnorhea is a sexually transmitted infection meaning it is transmitted through unprotected sex. While protected using a condom can help protect her, condoms are not 100% effective. Th best thing to do is to seek medical treatment since if she is infected, this could as well affect your unborn child, the child can suffer from miscarriages, premature birth, and low birth weight.
I am currently pregnant how…
I am currently pregnant how will i know that there is an water bubble in my blood or baby’s bloodstream?
Hi Millie,
Did you mean…
Hi Millie,
Did you mean air bubble? If you have concerns about this, go to the hospital for tests.
I the comment very educative…
I the comment very educative. My wife is 7 weeks now , however the problem is, she vomit any time she smell anything, including onion while cooking. Am forced to prepare food in the first stage. Secondly, she complain of pain sometimes while urinating. What could be the problem?
Hi Oliver,
Vomiting during…
Hi Oliver,
Vomiting during pregnancy is normal, especially in the first trimester. With regards to pain during urination, that is not normal, it could be a sign of an infection. Advice her to visit the doctor for tests and treatment.
Is it true that a baby boy…
Is it true that a baby boy stays on the right side,and a girl on the left side
Hi Njeri,
No that is not…
Hi Njeri,
No that is not true. It is a myth.
My wife is pg and dsnt want…
My wife is pg and dsnt want sex. What can I do
Hi Jarha,
The best thing…
Hi Jarha,
The best thing to do is to respect her wishes. Some women are not interested in sex during pregnancy thus it is important to respect their wishes. Find other ways to intimacy such as cuddling, kissing, holding hands, being open about your feelings. Find other ways to connect with your partner.
Hello what about if I change…
Hello what about if I change sex position during sex with my partner when pregnant
Hi Ezra,
That’s totally…
Hi Ezra,
That’s totally fine as long as the sex position is comfortable and does not put the mother at risk of falling.
Can a pregnant woman have…
Can a pregnant woman have sex with different men with out problem ?
Hi Manut,
Yes, she can. As…
Hi Manut,
Yes, she can. As long as the sex is protected and the sex positions are comfortable and do not put her in danger of being hurt.
I lost my baby after birth…
I lost my baby after birth five months ago and am trying to get pregnant again but no avail how long does it take to get pregnant again after giving birth?
Hi Sherry,
So sorry for…
Hi Sherry,
So sorry for the loss. It is hard to tell when you will get pregnant again. In most women, periods will return 4 to 6 weeks after the miscarriage. While some women get pregnant sooner, others wait for some time. Do not worry as losing a baby shouldn’t affect your future fertility. Keep trying. Also, remember, you can still have a healthy pregnancy even if you have had a miscarriage.
My wife is 5months pregnant…
My wife is 5months pregnant but has recurring Gonorrhea.will it cause harm to the unborn baby
Hi DK,
Yes, Gonorrhea can…
Hi DK,
Yes, Gonorrhea can affect the unborn baby and the mother as it can lead to miscarriages, premature birth and low birth weight, and other problems. In some cases, the STI can be passed to the child during birth causing further complications such as blindness and joint infection. It is advisable that you go to the hospital and talk to your doctor about the issue. The doctor should provide a solution that can help protect the child and also recommend the best treatment to the mother.
well,to have sex while pregnant is normal but you didn’t mentioned when to stop 🤦🤦🤦the act until she bears
Hi Mr. Tiger,
You can have sex throughout her pregnancy as long as she’s comfortable. You cannot hurt the baby unless you’re too aggressive and as long as she’s comfortable, nothing should stop you.
My wife used p2 but still got pregnant ⁸is there any harm the unborn is exposed to.i too used viagra and energy drinks.discuss
Hi Jowi,
No. P2 is very unlikely to harm your unborn baby. Viagra and energy drinks will not affect the baby as well especially since it’s not your wife that’s consuming them. If you have fu