Safe sex is sexy
People sometimes complain that using condoms reduces their sexual sensation. Well, here are some tips to make things wetter, because wetter is better!
If you’re planning to use lubricant, make sure it’s water-based. Oil-based lubricant can damage latex condoms, leaving you vulnerable to sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.
Flesh to flesh?
Before putting on your or his condom, put a bit of water-based lubricant inside it. The squishy lubricant will create a flesh-to-flesh sensation. Don’t use too much though, or the condom could slip off.
A tasty mouthful
Add flavour based lubricant on the outside of the condom to make oral sex tastier.
Why is wetter better?
Plenty of lubrication reduces the risks of small tears that can be the result of too much friction while having sex. These tiny tears around the vagina or the anus provide openings for all kinds of STDs. So, lubrication makes sex not just more fun, but also safer!
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Hw can l knw my save days if
Hw can l knw my save days if my periods are regular. HYwac
Safe days begin from the
Safe days begin from the onset of the periods until the 10th day. and 3days after ovulation. But the truth is they are not the best birth control method since one can still get pregnant at any time of the month. It therefore important for one to consider other methods of birth control.
Count from the day you show…
Count from the day you show blood up to 14th day , subtract 3days from 14 days and also Add 3 days to 14th day.
(11,12,13,14,15,16,17) of ur cycle are unsafe the rest are safe
Thank you for this…
Thank you for this information 🙂
Hiyo mafuta ya condom iko b
Hiyo mafuta ya condom iko b
Hi Kayla, ina nini?
Hi Kayla, ina nini?
i love sexy ladies
i love sexy ladies
Hi Justus,
Sexy ladies…
Hi Justus,
Sexy ladies rock!
is it true that if you start
is it true that if you start taking family planning pills you may bleed for long,pls help
Hi Winnie that is not
Hi Winnie that is not entirely true for most women. Read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/what-suits-me .
Hi,na Kama unatumia shindano…
Hi,na Kama unatumia shindano y three month
Hi Winnie, shindano ya every…
Hi Winnie, shindano ya every three months itasaidia kuzuia kupata mimba lakini haitazuia magonjwa ya zinaa au Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). Condom tu ndio inazuia STIs na mimba. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/shot
I wan 2 no de ryt
I wan 2 no de ryt contraception 2 use 2 prevent pregnancy
,pls help
Hi there,
Hi there,
Check out this article to find out https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/birth-control .
So nice
So nice
We appreciate your feedback…
We appreciate your feedback Faizo.
When the mood is not good
When the mood is not good
Hi Patrick, what about a bad…
Hi Patrick, what about a bad mood?
Poa
Poa
Thank you for your…
Thank you for your contribution Shariff.
Tunawezaa
Tunawezaa
Mike, tunaweza?
Mike, tunaweza?
Cool try it
Cool try it
Thank you for your…
Thank you for your contribution Joyce.
Wonderful
Wonderful
Thank you for the feedback…
Thank you for the feedback Phyllis.
Thanks for the information…
Thanks for the information. Hope for the best
Thank you for the feedback…
Thank you for the feedback Mercy. We do wish you well.
I lyk it,will try it
I lyk it,will try it
We wish you well Evah, it is…
We wish you well Evah, it is always better to be safe.
really helpful problem is s…
really helpful problem is s.t.d’s,,ur guiding b blessed
Hey Joel,…
Hey Joel,
Thank you for the feedback. What exactly is the issue/problem with STIs?STDs?
If you suspect you could be having an STD the right thing to do is seek treatment at a medical centre. Check out the following article for more information.
https://lovematters.co.ke/safe-sex/stds-stis
Think
Think
Thank you for your…
Thank you for your contribution Tadeo.
It’s good.
It’s good.
We appreciate the feedback…
We appreciate the feedback Kyesswa.
ave get sths thanks
ave get sths thanks
Thank you for the feedback…
Thank you for the feedback Aggy.
We usually have oral sex…
We usually have oral sex with my girlfriend whereby i lick her vagina. Can i get infected with an STI?
Hi There, Yes unprotected…
Hi There, Yes unprotected oral sex can cause one to get infected with an STI. It is important to use protection if you are uncertain of your partners status or whether or not they could be infected with an STI. You can use dental dam-a piece of latex to cover the vagina. Check out the following article for what is safe and what’s not;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/sti-prevention/staying-safe
Is dry sex safe?
Is dry sex safe?
Hey Naomi, dry sex can be…
Hey Naomi, dry sex can be painful and it can also lead to small tears inside the vagina or anus which expose one to Sexually Transmitted Infection. It is advisable to use lubrication like KY Jelly which makes penetration easier and pleasurable for both partners. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/dry-sex-women-at-pains-to-please
Nice….
Nice….
Keep reading our articles…
Keep reading our articles Anita for more informative and enlightening information.
how do dry sex come about?
how do dry sex come about?
Hi there, it may happen when…
Hi there, it may happen when partners have intercourse or vaginal sex and the vagina is not sufficiently lubricated before penetration. Sex when the vagina is not lubricated is dry sex and this can cause discomfort or pain for the female partner. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/dry-sex-women-at-pains-to-please
My girlfriend is not that…
My girlfriend is not that sweart and she dont get wet easier
Hi Elias, sex is better when…
Hi Elias, sex is better when partners talk to each other about it including during sex. Find a good time and talk with your partner about what you want during sex, it just might be she doesn’t know what you like or how you like it. Also, getting wet is usually the result of arousal. Again, you need to talk to your partner and get to know what gets her aroused especially because what arouses one person may not arouse another. You can also consider using lubrication which can be purchased at a pharmacy. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/foreplay-dos-and-donts
why is it so that when I…
why is it so that when I meet with my partner I can’t wet myself? I found him complaining that i was not in bed psychogicaly may I was thinking of something else….I can’t understand because I had missed him for sometime and yet I can’t wet myself.
Hi Zippie, getting wet is…
Hi Zippie, getting wet is the result of getting aroused. It helps to get to know what gets you aroused and then share this information with your partner. You could also consider using artificial lubricants which can be purchased at the pharmacy. Remember, arousal is an important part of enjoying sex for both partners. Have a look at the following articles;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/foreplay-turning-up-the-heat
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/lubricant-top-five-facts
I am fear i sleep with some1…
I am fear i sleep with some1 without condom
Hi Jeff, having sex without…
Hi Jeff, having sex without a condom can expose one to Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). If you feel you were expose to the risk of getting infected with an STI including HIV, wait for 14 days and then get test to see if you were infected or not. https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/sti-prevention/staying-safe
How can I romance my girl to…
How can I romance my girl to make her ready for sex?
Hey Ian, do you mean how do…
Hey Ian, do you mean how do you get your partner aroused and ready for sex? This is known as foreplay and it is an important part of great sex particularly for girls. Foreplay plays an important part in get your partner aroused and ready for sex. It includes activating such as hugging, kissing, caressing, undressing among other activities. Check out the following;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/foreplay-turning-up-the-heat
sex
sex
Hey Rasii, what about sex?
Hey Rasii, what about sex?
What makes condom to burst…
What makes condom to burst when you are having sex?
Hey Caleb, a condom will…
Hey Caleb, a condom will break or burst during sex when it is not used correct. For instance if one uses an expired condom or uses more than one condom at the same time. It is important to follow the instruction for use to ensure a condom works well. When a condom breaks during sex, it should be replaced immediately if one wishes to continue with sex. Have a look at the following article for directions of use;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/condom
Youth should just abstain…
Youth should just abstain makes things easy for everyone.
Hey Tosh, indeed abstaining…
Hey Tosh, indeed abstaining is the best way to prevent Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) and unplanned pregnancy. In the event, however, one is unable to abstain, they should consider using condoms every time they have sex to keep them safe and lower the risk of getting STIs.
Are condoms 100%?
Are condoms 100%?
Hi, condom like other…
Hi, condom like other methods have a failure rate because of the human element. However, using condoms help to reduce the chances of one getting infected with a Sexually Transmitted Infection or get an unplanned pregnancy. Have a look at this article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/condom
I suspect my husband is…
I suspect my husband is cheating. I have no proof but now I want to start using condoms. I know he will not agree so I want to use the female condoms where do I get them?
Hey Lizz, there is no way to…
Hey Lizz, there is no way to tell for sure if your partner is cheating but if you have any concerns consider talking about it with your husband. It is important that you try not to accuse him a cheater but rather raise your concerns with them to get to know what could be going on. You can check for the female condom at your local pharmacy and also at government health centre where you might get them for free. Lastly, to use the condom successfully, you will need to talk about this decision with your partner, when both of you are involved the chances of success are higher. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/talking-about-condoms-dos-and-donts
My boyfriend says he is too…
My boyfriend says he is too big for condoms he says thy always burst when he uses them. I am forced to always take EC when we have sex?
Hey Tabby, condoms are…
Hey Tabby, condoms are designed to fit various sizes of penises. However, condoms that are sold come in different sizes. You partner can check out the different sizes to see what is comfortable.
How can one prevent…
How can one prevent premature ejaculation.
Hi Alfred, a good place to…
Hi Alfred, a good place to start is to find out what is causing Premature Ejaculation. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or even work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as one gets older and gain more experience, they also become better at controlling their ejaculation. There are a few other things one can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
I had sex on my 10th day, my…
I had sex on my 10th day, my period cycle is 28 but my lP came earlier,25.is there by any chance of me getting pregnant.
Hey Lydia, if you have…
Hey Lydia, if you have already seen you period then it means you are not pregnant. If you want to get pregnant, you will have to keep trying. Have a look at the following article for additional tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/what-to-expect
THANKS
THANKS
You are welcome Opeyemi.
You are welcome Opeyemi.
Does reading erotics on net…
Does reading erotics on net reduce female libido and can it delay her from getting wet during sex
Hello Frank, thank you for…
Hello Frank, thank you for reaching out to us. Erotica just like porn can be fun, inspiring, and a real turn-on. It should not have any effect on her ability to be aroused but can affect what she expects sexually and how she would like to experience eroticism.
Sex
Sex
Hi, what about it?
Hi, what about it?
Is it possible for me to get…
Is it possible for me to get pregnant Cus I had an unprotected sex 3 days after my period….
Hello Adebimpe, thank you…
Hello Adebimpe, thank you for your question. When your fertile days really depends on the length of your cycle. Technically speaking, the first seven days before and after your period, as well as the time of your period, are relatively infertile. But, if you have a shorter cycle (shorter than 28 days), or an irregular one, this will vary. Also keep in mind that sperm can survive for up to five days and longer inside the body- so even if you have sex on an infertile day, you can still get pregnant, because the sperm survived until your ovulation date. So you see, this method could be quite inaccurate.
Y do i feel pains when…
Y do i feel pains when having sex
Hi Bright, it is common for…
Hi Bright, it is common for women to feel pain during sex and it is usually caused by a condition where the muscles of the pelvis floor contract making penetration quite painful. This condition is called vaginismus. The condition may occur from time to time, it may begin to occur later in life, it may occur in certain situations, or it may happen throughout one’s life.
The level of pain may also vary from mild to severe and from short term to long term. Vaginismus may be so severe that even wearing a tampon or going for a gynecological exam is too painful
Vaginismus could be triggered by many issues both psychological, emotional, and physical. These include fear or anxiety, trauma like rape or abuse, infections, menopause, inadequate foreplay, surgery to the area, or even as a side effect to medication.
Vaginismus is usually treated through a combination of physical and emotional exercises. If you feel that you may be going through this, have a conversation with your doctor.
How do i use the female…
How do i use the female condom
Hello Bright, first, check…
Hello Bright, first, check the expiration date on the package, and then open it. The condom usually comes already lubricated. Get into a comfortable position like standing with one foot on a chair, lying down, or squatting.
Squeeze together the sides of the inner ring at the closed end of the condom and slide it in like a tampon. Push the inner ring into your vagina as far as it can go, up to your cervix. Please make sure the condom isn’t twisted. Pull out your finger and let the outer ring hang about an inch outside the vagina. During sex hold, the condom open as the penis is going in to make sure it doesn’t slip to the side between the condom and your vagina.
The condoms also come with visual instructions to help you.
MY parther love sex nd i…
MY parther love sex nd i don’t love sex and him so much . what can i do ,
Hi Tonia The answer to all…
Hi Tonia The answer to all this, of course, is for a couple to talk about it. Because if you and your partner can understand how each other’s sex drive is varying, what’s a turn on and what isn’t, then things will definitely improve. Plus, your arousal isn’t only driven by your libido, but also by how close you and your partner feel towards one another. So if you aren’t feeling emotionally intimate, for example, because you’ve been having a fight, then you and your partner need to discuss how to get close again.
This article has more information that should be f help.
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/libido-differences-matching-sex-drives
have learnt something thanks
have learnt something thanks
Hi Lucy, we are so glad that…
Hi Lucy, we are so glad that we are able to help you make informed decisions with the information we have. Please feel free to go through the rest of our site for more information and do not hesitate to reach out to us in case you have questions regarding, love, sex, and relationships. Have a wonderful weekend and stay safe!
What are the effects of stay…
What are the effects of stay long without having sex?
Hi James,
There are no…
Hi James,
There are no known side effects of abstinence. There is no ‘right’,amount of sex to have.
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Hi Mike, you’re welcome!…
Hi Mike, you’re welcome! Keep it here for more informative content!
I have been dating a lady…
I have been dating a lady for two years now las week was a out first time spending sexually and she told me after sex that she was born with HIV …but she promissed me that she had undetectable virus load meaning i cant get it ..is it true that am safe …just curious to know …please help
Hi Sheldon,
First, it is…
Hi Sheldon,
First, it is true that if she has an undetectable viral load, she cannot transmit HIV to you. On the other hand, since you do not know her, the best way to confirm her claims is through tests. It’s best that both of you go to the nearest health facility for tests of her viral load. This test will measure how many particles of HIV there are in a small sample of her blood. This will help you know whether you are okay or you should start taking treatment to prevent the spread of the virus.