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7 excuses men give to avoid wearing condom

Most men don’t like condoms thus they give lame excuses to avoid wearing them.

If having a baby or STIs is not part of your plans, you may get irritated if someone is not willing to wear a condom during sex.

In case you didn’t know, this is actually quite common. Welcome to the real world where some men are happy to skip the condom.

The only reason some men wear condoms during sex is because their partner asks them to rather than fear of the potential consequences of not using them. What a shame.  

Just like reckless driving, unsafe safe can kill.

Before I start preaching about the consequences of unsafe sex, let’s get into the business that brought you here.  

  1. Trust me

    Some men will say ‘You don’t trust me?’

    This is emotional manipulation!

    The correct answer to this should be ‘no I don’t’ but since you were raised to be a polite human, you can say ‘I do, but I would feel safer if we are both protected’.

    Sadly, some women or men will give in because they want to prove that they trust their partner. Others will do it because they feel awkward saying no to unprotected sex.

    Unless you have proof that he has tested for STDs and STIs very recently, you may want to have protected sex; some of these STIs have fewer or no symptoms. Plus, no one should make you feel bad for sticking to your rule.

  2. It doesn’t feel good with a condom

    This is probably the oldest and most used excuse. Many men admit to have tried severally.

    Unprotected sex may seem fun and  exciting but the consequences are filled with regret and pain. Choose wisely. 

    Plus, having an STI would feel much worse. So, instead of enjoying a few minutes and ending up on medications and injections for months, find ways to enjoy sex with a condom. There are many varieties of condoms that enhance pleasure e.g. the ultra-thin type.

  3. I’ll pull out


    He probably won’t. So, don’t fall for it.

    This pull-out method requires great timing and a lot of self-control. Most men are unable to pull out on time. Also remember that this method does not protect you from STDs and STIs.  

  4. I am allergic to latex

    Heh, since when?

    But to be fair, some men are allergic to latex.

    But there’s a solution for that. We also have non-latex condoms. Non-latex condoms are just as effective as latex condoms.

    So, go get yours!

  5. They are uncomfortable

    Well true, condoms can be uncomfortable.

    If a condom feels uncomfortable, the solution is to check the right size that is a better fit. You can also consider the different brands of condoms until you find the correct size. Condoms that are too small or tight may be more likely to break, and condoms that are too big may be more likely to slip off.

  6. If you’re on the pill, we are safe

    She went on the pill to prevent pregnancies.

    They have not yet invented a pill that prevents both pregnancy and STIs.  We are still waiting.

    Condoms protect you from pregnancy and STDs and STIs. So wear them.  

  7. I don’t have condom

    Well, that’s almost honest but no one should give in however aroused you are.

    He can also pretend to have forgotten to buy condoms.

    As a woman or man, you also have the responsibility to buy condoms. This should not be a man’s responsibility since you are also protecting yourself.

    Plus, you can always have sex next time, it isn’t going anywhere.

What other excuses do men give to avoid wearing condoms?

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Recent Comments (28)

    1. HI there, 

      I am glad you…

      HI there, 

      I am glad you agree with us. Keep visiting Love Matters and we appreciate when you leave a question or compliment. 

    2. Very educative.”yule…
      Very educative.”yule anakupea,pia ananipea,akikulatea ananiletea….sote tunashare” its risky.. kama akuna heri ikae.

      1. Hi Thornton, 

        Hahaha …

        Hi Thornton, 

        Hahaha ….Glad to hear you are taking precautions! Ogopa Nairobi!

          1. Ah, ako wapi?!!

            Ah, ako wapi?!!

      1. Hi there, 

        Thank you. Glad…

        Hi there, 

        Thank you. Glad you learnt something new today. Keep visiting Love Matters for more educative content. 

    3. Condoms are useless. One…
      Condoms are useless. One needs a perfect choice

      1. Hi Patrick, 

        Thank you for…

        Hi Patrick, 

        Thank you for your input. Why do you feel that condoms are useless? Condoms, when used correctly, are 98% effective at preventing STIs and unwanted pregnancies. What do you think would be a perfect choice? We are happy to discuss this with you. 

    1. Hi Omondi, 

      Glad you loved…

      Hi Omondi, 

      Glad you loved it and leant something new. Keep visiting Love Matters for more informative content and while here, don’t forget to leave us a question or compliment. 

  1. Condoms are always safe
    Condoms are always safe

    1. Hi Griffins, 

      Yes, condoms…

      Hi Griffins, 

      Yes, condoms when correctly used are 98% effective. 

  2. Condom might also burst out…
    Condom might also burst out,so better to abstain from it.

    1. Hi Joshua, 

      True, condoms…

      Hi Joshua, 

      True, condoms can burst sometimes. However, this should not stop you from having pleasurable sex. If you are careful when using condoms e.g. avoid too much friction, ensure that there’s enough lubrication, and ensure that the condom does not come into contact with something that can lead to a tear e.g. nails, rings, teeth, or other sharp edges, you should be good to go. On the other hand, if abstinence works for you, then go for it. Learn more about abstinence: Abstinence: not having sex

  3. Most times am using a condom…
    Most times am using a condom,my manhood tends to reduce, for the first round it’s ok,buh the other rounds hell comes in, the d*c weakens everytime I roll on the condom.hence making me hate the condoms.

    1. Hi Samuel, 

      It could be…

      Hi Samuel, 

      It could be that you are allergic to latex. Common signs of latex allergy include itchiness, redness, or swelling after using a condom. If you’re concerned you might have a latex allergy, see your doctor. The doctor will do tests to find out if you have an allergy and propose solutions. 

  4. My manhood tends to reduce…
    My manhood tends to reduce when I mostly use a condom and makes me loose the sex moral

    1. Hi Peter, 

      Some men…

      Hi Peter, 

      Some men experience erection and morale issues due to condoms. Some of the causes may be allergy to latex, condoms not put on correctly or don’t fit well. It could be that you are using a smaller sized condom and that is why you feel that the penis reduces in size when you wear it. It may be important to see a medical professional, who can guide you on the correct use of condoms and also advise on best condom material for you. Read this article about a man with a similar problem: My boyfriend loses erection with condom

  5. I like that piece where I…
    I like that piece where I heard a guy says am Allergic to latex’… But it’s wise n safe to use n esp if the two aren’t legally married ?

    1. Hi Abel, 

      Thank you for…

      Hi Abel, 

      Thank you for your contribution. Yes, some men claim to be allergic to latex to avoid using a condom while others are really allergic. The best thing about this is that there are other condom options that are not made of latex. Condom use is important especially when people are not in a monogamous relationship or if they wish to prevent pregnancy. 

  6. Condom or no condom I…
    Condom or no condom I believe in being genuine

  7. Am always not comfortable…
    Am always not comfortable with them

    1. Well, an STI is not…

      Well, an STI is not comfortable either!

  8. Ilove this page it’s so…
    Ilove this page it’s so educative

  9. Learnt that Kuna latex free…
    Learnt that Kuna latex free condoms

  10. The author “forgot” to mention that “pulling out” method does not prevent pregnancy

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