What you need to know about sex in long-term relationships

What you need to know about sex in long-term relationships

Will my sex life be better or worse if I’m in a committed relationship? As with so many things relating to sex, there is no straight answer, unfortunately.

The good thing is: if you happen to be in a relationship with mediocre sex, there are things you can do. Check out the facts!​​​​

  1. Half the people are not satisfied with their sex lives

    The bad news first: about half the people in committed relationships aren’t satisfied with their sex lives, a study found. Almost all the men, and most women, wanted to have sex more often.

    But there is good news, too. There is a trick to keep on getting lots of action in the bedroom! Being motivated to meet your partner’s sexual needs, particularly without expecting anything in return, leads to more frequent and satisfying sex, another study found.

  2. Married people have more sex than singles

    There is also good news: married couples have more sex, and more varied sex, than singles. Somewhere between a quarter and half of married people have sex several times a week. Compared that to the 61 per cent of singles who haven’t had sex in the past year!

    But there are also downsides, this study found. If the sex life gets less exciting, or the amount of sex you have goes down, it can cause serious anxiety and self-doubt.

    As always, don’t be afraid to talk to your partner when something isn’t going as planned – there might be a perfectly good explanation for it!

  3. Committed sex is better than casual sex

    More good news for those in committed relationships! You may think you are missing out on steamy adventures with strangers, but research shows that sex in committed relationships and marriages is actually better than casual sex.

    That’s particularly true for women, who are twice as likely to have orgasms in committed relationships, compared to casual hook-ups. One of the reasons for that could be that they feel more comfortable asking their partner for what they need and want in bed to get satisfaction.

  4. Sticking to a traditional chore division, best for your sex life

    Having a more traditional division of household chores, with men taking care of the ‘tough’ jobs like gardening or maintenance work and women doing the dishes and laundry, might be good for your sex life, a study found. So if you tend to be annoyed that your (male) partner doesn’t help you out in the kitchen, rethink – it might mean that you do have a better sex life!

    By the way, would you like to guess how many women have sex with their husband or partner to get him to help out with chores? 84 per cent.

  5. Traveling together equals better sex

    Do you feel the need to take a trip with your partner? By all means, go for it! In fact, do it often. The more you travel with your partner, the better your sex will be, a study found. Your sex life can even stay better after taking a trip together; exploring the world together can permanently improve your bedroom adventures.

    Couples who travel together also stay together longer; that might be because if it doesn’t work out when you are on vacation, you might be quicker to break up.

    And it doesn’t matter if the traveling is for business or pleasure – as long as you are away, you will rake in the benefits. So get on a bus, train, plane – it will be good for your sex life!

    Want to share more facts about sex in committed or long-term relationships? Leave your comments below or via Facebook.

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Recent Comments (18)

  1. hav bn in a rlation 4 7yrs n
    hav bn in a rlation 4 7yrs n we got married a yr ago..we lookin 4 a child n its realy taking long….what might be the problem.?or we ar used to one another.or de styles we ar using is not good or.???

    1. Brenda,

      are you making sure you have sex around the time of your ovulation, so around halfway through your cycle?

  2. I neat a dem niko bomet
    I neat a dem niko bomet

    1. Sorry, can’t help you with
      Sorry, can’t help you with that!

  3. Easy To Say We Love,
    Easy To Say We Love, Difficult Is To Show It Everyday

  4. i if we do that we’l be in a
    i if we do that we’l be in a gd side b blessed

    1. Great! Good luck, Shadu!
      Great! Good luck, Shadu!

  5. Wak wang how do you know tat
    Wak wang how do you know tat you are fertile without making one pregnant

    1. Mr. Bittok,

      Mr. Bittok,
      you can get tested for fertility.
      But why do you need to know?

  6. why do I cum faster…. wanna
    why do I cum faster…. wanna last my Cummings

    1. Hi Rogers,

      Hi Rogers,

      It sounds like you are coming earlier than you would like, this often happens to young men who don’t have a lot of sexual experience because they get very aroused very easily.

      With more sexually experienced men, it might be due to psychological problems, like fear, stress or depression.
      Generally though go slow, enjoy the buildup of touching and caressing each other. Make time for oral sex during your physical interactions.

      Take time focusing on your partner as well as yourself. Communicate together about what feels nice, what doesn’t and what you would like to try together. Experiment, explore and try new things!

      Make sure to use lots of lube and switch up the fun. Even if you do orgasm you can take some time to have oral sex with your partner until your body is ready to go again. Change positions and mix it up.

      Some people say condoms help them last longer, while others may use cock rings (just make sure it is the right size and not too tight!).

      Generally just remember that sex is more than just penetration and there are lots of ways to enjoy each other.

      If you are finding that you really cannot maintain an erection then it might be time to see a doctor. There are some medical conditions that can affect your performance but would need to be looked by a professional.

      You can also keep masturbating, however challenge yourself to last longer. Go slow, feel the way your body changes when you are getting closer to climax. Tease yourself, find tricks that help you delay the finish.

  7. av a gal wum i booted her
    av a gal wum i booted her last month bt she stil kols m en says tht she realy lavs m despite av anatha gal so wat shuld i do to stop that gal?

    1. Hi Tim,

      Hi Tim,

      You should simply ignore her and move on with your life. No one can force you to be in a relationship with them. Just be frank with her and don’t string her a long in any way.

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