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Bisexual women: are they only after sex?

Some people feel that because a bi-woman is attracted to both males and females, she’ll always be up for having sex. Do you think that’s true? It’s time to find out!

Women face sexual violence and harassment around the world. And recent research found that the problem is even more severe for bisexual women. They face more sexual violence than straight or lesbian women.

Half of all bisexual women have been raped and three out of four have been sexually assaulted. These are the shocking statistics from one US research. The numbers may vary from one place in the world to the next.

Why is this? Recent research has found three main reasons. Two of these are related to the mistaken beliefs about bisexual women in many societies.

Bisexual women always want sex

There is a mistaken belief that bisexual women always want sex. The idea is spread by the media and pornography in particular. Often, women are seen kissing or fooling around with each other for the pleasure and fantasies of the men they later have sex with.

Men might get it into their heads that because a woman is attracted to both males and females, she’ll always be up for having sex. Or that she’s only interested in being with women to turn guys on.

Most men think bi women are basically their ‘playthings’ and that even if they say no, they’re actually interested in sex. This misconception about bisexual women could be a cause of sexual violence against them.

Double the pain

Bi women have to deal with stereotypes from both the straight and gay communities. These include being seen as greedy since they’re attracted to both men and women, that they’re addicted to sex, or simply not willing to commit to a relationship with one partner.

These mistaken ideas might lead the male partner of a bi woman to feel his girlfriend is intentionally making him jealous or that she’s giving him reasons not to trust her. The researchers give the example of a man who says, ‘I have to be worried about everyone’. As if because his partner is bi, she’s automatically attracted to everyone in sight.  

What can you do

If you’re a bi woman, know that these misconceptions exist and that they’re not a reflection of who you are as a person is key.

It’s also very important to be aware that mistaken ideas held by men, in particular, could make you vulnerable to sexual violence and harassment. It’s worth trying to find social support groups in your community and to sign up for rape prevention and intervention programmes.  

Of course, victims of sexual violence are not to blame, nor are they responsible. The onus is on others to question such mistaken beliefs. Awareness both within the LBT community and society as a whole is vital to changing the way bisexual women are seen.

Reference:
Johnson, N.L. & Grove, M. (2017). Why Us? Toward an Understanding of Bisexual Women’s Vulnerability for and Negative Consequences of Sexual Violence. Journal of Bisexuality.


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  1. I strongly disagree, the…
    I strongly disagree, the majority of them are only after sex. Depends on the person but it happens a lot.

    1. Hi Lol, thank you for your…

      Hi Lol, thank you for your input we appreciate it. However, you have said that they are only after sex but it also depends on the person, this is a little contradictory don’t you think?

      1. I also said that the…
        I also said that the majority are, which is the most important. People need to realize those bisexual women exist and that’s why many don’t want to be with them. No need to attack them or hate them though, just have to be careful and recognize their red flags.

    2. As a bisexual female who…
      As a bisexual female who knows many other bisexual females, i can tell you that you are incorrect. yes, it does depend on the person. but the assumption that bisexual women are always after sex is a stereotype and misconception that occurs constantly and it is a harmful one to make. when men find out a woman is bisexual, 99% of the time their response will be something about a threesome. it’s disgusting that our sexuality was fetishized and yet we are criticized for it.

      1. Hello Bisexual Female, thank…

        Hello Bisexual Female, thank you for sharing your valuable insights with us.

  2. Hi lol, thank you for…

    Hi lol, thank you for sharing your perspective and providing your input. Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

  3. Im bisexual and no I do not…
    Im bisexual and no I do not want sex all the time. I want sex with my partner and thats all. So Red Flag are so wrong and how many bisexual women have you actually had experience of to state that “the majority want sex”? So limited in your views and you don’t even realise it.

    1. Hi Ohherewego, 

      The article…

      Hi Ohherewego, 

      The article actually says that ‘There is a mistaken belief that bisexual women always want sex.’ So we are in agreement, you may have missed that part. Thank you for visiting Love Matters and for you comment. 

  4. bi women just wanna feel…
    bi women just wanna feel both part and nothing more coz I’m one of the.

    1. Hi sheryl, 

      Great! Thank…

      Hi sheryl, 

      Great! Thank you for your contribution. 

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