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John got to go home with Lydia, the hottest girl at a party. A relationship bloomed. ‘I loved her. It was great for five months. Then things turned ugly…’ In fact, things turned violent.

‘It was during Sam’s graduation party that I met Lydia. Anyone who was at that party remembers her: she was the wild girl. She was also petite and sexy and I wanted her. And I was the lucky guy who got to take her home.

‘She started to come over to my place and cook me dinner. After a long day driving people to Nyeri and back, coming home to a hot meal was exactly what I needed. I loved her. It was great for five months. Then things turned ugly as the nice hot meals faded to nagging.

‘Lydia was a finance major in University so I figured when I picked her up that she was a smart girl and her head was in the right place.

But Lydia was just weird. She would text me and when I didn’t respond she would send texts that whined about me not loving her or crap like I-am-not-good-enough-for-you. How exactly did she expect me to text her back? My job is driving passengers long distances…

‘One evening when I got home, she started yelling at the top of her lungs: ‘You don’t love me! Are you seeing another woman?’ I was so tired that I really didn’t have the energy to respond to this nonsense. As I walked to the bedroom to just lie on the bed, Lydia leapt onto my back and started beating me. She was punching and kicking and scratching. I wanted to hit her back. But I was her man so it was my job to protect her and not harm her. I shoved her off.

‘That first incident shocked me. I didn’t really know how to act around her anymore. The following day at work, she kept texting me and apologising for what she had done and said she wouldn’t do it again.

‘I tried to shake it off, but it went on and on. And then one day – not my proudest moments – I slapped her in the face. I had simply had it. But I immediately apologised. After that, she just got wilder with more scratchings and beatings. She’d jump on top of the furniture and scream at me. She would throw things at me, break things and still bring up the same nonsense of not loving her.

‘There was always an ‘unresolved’ issue with Lydia that needed to be ‘discussed’ which would end up with me bruised and scratched.

‘I can’t explain why I stayed. I loved her. Lydia eventually left me because of ‘unresolved issues’.

‘Now as a man, I feel as if I can never trust women again. My heart is hardened towards them. So right now I just sleep with slutty women who just want to be screwed.’


How can John move beyond this disastrous relationship? Do you think there’s another side of the story he’s not telling us about? Leave a comment below or join the discussion on Facebook.

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  1. There’s always two sides of
    There’s always two sides of the story.am sorry for him though.he has to realise that it aint the end of the world! There are good women out there just because one failed him doesn’t mean it will always be the case.however for now he has to heal from it after that he can try.good luck!

    1. Hi Jeliah, thank you for your
      Hi Jeliah, thank you for your comment. That’s a really good point, we can’t forget that there are two sides to every story.

  2. She was reacting that way
    She was reacting that way bcoz she loved u.

    1. Hi Winnie, that’s absolutely
      Hi Winnie, that’s absolutely possible, but should a woman (or a man) react this way, even if she (or he) is in love?

  3. he shld move on and forget
    he shld move on and forget about tha past even having tha unwanted relationships

    1. Hi Bev, Yeah, that’s probably
      Hi Bev, Yeah, that’s probably the best idea. Let’s hope he will be able to!

  4. He has to move on wit his
    He has to move on wit his life.there are better women out there,who want to b loved.he’ll get one soon

    1. Hi Tina, thank you for your
      Hi Tina, thank you for your comment. Yes, that’s probably the best way for him to go. Let’s hope he won’t be disappointed again.

  5. She was not the right woman 4
    She was not the right woman 4 u.again you should realise chochote kingaacho sio dhahabu.

    1. Hi Joram,

      Hi Joram,
      thank you for your comment!

  6. There must a room 4 dialogue
    There must a room 4 dialogue to any living and sound relationshi

    1. Hi Bony,

      Hi Bony,
      you are absolutely right!

  7. Mistakes are meant for
    Mistakes are meant for learning but she is more than worse man. Move on but be careful who you open your heart to. Only few people actually care. The rest are too nosy.

    1. Thank you for your words,
      Thank you for your words, Alves.

  8. Both of you did not
    Both of you did not understand one another’s love language.unless you understand your wife’s primary love language and she does the same then only will you live amicably in your marriage.

    1. Thanks for your thoughts,
      Thanks for your thoughts, Fazi.

  9. Dont loose hope challenges
    Dont loose hope challenges are there to strengthen ur hrt God will give you da one of ur dreams

  10. I’m really sorry John 4 what
    I’m really sorry John 4 what you went through but you should learn to move on not all women are the same

    1. Thanks Terryann for your
      Thanks Terryann for your support and input for John. Its much appreciated.

  11. John is right. He does what I
    John is right. He does what I exactly do for women ain’t enough to trust. I only trust my mom n not 100%. Keep it up John.

    1. Thanks for your input Ayiecha
      Thanks for your input Ayiecha.

  12. am also facin d same thing
    am also facin d same thing rght nw en am stark

    1. How are you stuck Chanian?
      How are you stuck Chanian?

  13. some people we meet are there
    some people we meet are there to teach us .i believe in prayers hence i will just advice you to pray and ask God to direct you into the hands of the right partner. stand up,shake off the dust and move on.stop living in the past and start making Ur future.allow they best

    1. Thanks for your input,
      Thanks for your input, support and encouragement Diana.

  14. Try move on. You will sure
    Try move on. You will sure get a woman who deserves you.

    1. Thanks for sharing your
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts Giggslize.

  15. next time don’t rush no
    next time don’t rush no regrets dia just alesson .

    1. Thanks for your input Leila.
      Thanks for your input Leila.

  16. He needs counseling session
    He needs counseling session

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