Young woman whispering a secret behind her hand

Kinda sorta safe-ish days

By Jess Friday, March 22, 2019 - 06:00
'Safe days' – the time frame of your cycle when you won't get pregnant, even if you have unprotected sex. At least in theory...

My period was late.

Delayed period

I wasn’t too worried yet though. It was only four days late. I had a pretty regular cycle but every so often, my hormones would go crazy and delay my period. I hadn’t been one of those girls who could automatically figure out her cycle length. In fact, each period had been a surprise for the first decade that I had them. I literally had the same reaction every month. I’d have a horrible three days where I’d eat my weight in dessert and snap at friends constantly. Then I’d be minding my own business in the middle of the day and suddenly feel the telltale sudden discharge. I’d make a dash for the closest bathroom, and as always, there was a bloody spot on my panties.

“No wonder I was so annoyed and bloated! Ugh, my period is here!”

This happened every month without fail.

Cycle tracking

After ten years of this charade, I decided to take control of my menstrual life and downloaded a period tracking app. This was extremely helpful to know when to brace myself with tampons and painkillers, but it also taught me something else that I didn’t know at the time. Safe Days. I learnt that these were the days in your period cycle that you couldn’t get pregnant. I was in my early twenties and sexually active and found this information intriguing. I mean, I was having protected sex, but there had been slipups which had led to me taking the morning-after pill. I thought it would be nice to have two weeks a month that that wouldn’t be a concern.
Yes, sexually transmitted diseases were a thing that was equally important to prevent but I was young and stupid. What can I say?

No risk during your period?

So yes, back to my period. Seven days had now gone by and I started to do an analysis of my sexual activities in the past month. I had only had unprotected sex one time. Once. And I had been on my period, so I never took a morning-after pill.

My period tracker had clearly said that during my menstruation, I was definitely not fertile and could not get pregnant.

Three more weeks passed.

I was now extremely tense; my period had never been over a month late. At that point, I started browsing the Internet searching for facts around getting pregnant whilst on one's period. That’s when I learnt that although unlikely, it was dependent on a woman’s ovulation; the length of time sperm can live in one's vagina and a number of other factors that could lead to pregnancy.

Panic and uncertainty

I immediately began to panic. Why in the world was I having unprotected sex anyway? Was it really worth the stress and potential baby in my womb? I couldn’t imagine having this conversation with my parents. I didn’t even like the potential father anymore and was planning to break up with him. The only thing left to do was to go to the hospital for a pregnancy test. I wasn’t even trying to take an at-home test since at that point I was fairly certain I’d conceived a period baby and needed a doctor’s confirmation.

Five hours later, I learnt that I wasn’t pregnant.

Thank goodness.

Natural family planning isn’t as sure as one may think. The terms and conditions that may apply are endless. So the only natural family planning I’ve upheld since is: naturally taking my birth control pills and naturally ensuring my partners always have a condom ready.

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Hey there, as you may have noticed from the above article, safe days are one of the most unreliable ways to prevent pregnancy. When your safe days are really depends on the length of your cycle. Technically speaking, the first seven days before and after your period, as well as the time of your period, are relatively safe. But, if you have a shorter cycle (shorter than 28 days), or an irregular one, this will vary. Also keep in mind that sperm can survive for up to five days and longer inside the body - so even if you have sex on a 'safe' day, you can still get pregnant, because the sperm survived until your ovulation date. So you see, it's a very inaccurate. And lastly, of course this won't protect you from STDs. Only condoms will. So we really recommend a more reliable method. Have a look at the following article for additional information;-

Hey Jackie, what are your reasons for not liking the condom? The condom is a great option since it helps prevent both unplanned pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Infections which other methods will not prevent. There are however other methods to choose from, think about how important it is for you to not get pregnant as you consider an appropriate method for you. Check out the following article for additional information;-

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