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Can I have a healthy relationship after an abortion?

Can I have a healthy relationship after an abortion?

One of the biggest misconceptions about abortion is that men are on the sidelines during the decision-making process. Too often, society tells men that their role is limited to financial support, while women bear the emotional burden alone. This can […]

How can I support a friend considering an abortion?

How can I support a friend considering an abortion?

In Kenya alone, an estimated 500,000 abortions are performed annually—a number likely higher, given the challenges in collecting accurate data and the fact that some women may choose to carry out the procedure at home. This means there’s a strong […]

How to answer ‘What is a Condom?’ from children

How to answer ‘What is a Condom?’ from children

Naturally, your first reaction might be to say, ‘Throw that away; it’s not a balloon.’ But then comes the inevitable question. ‘But what is it?’ If this situation happens to you, are you prepared to handle it? How do you […]

Chiloba’s death let me know I’m f*cked

Chiloba’s death let me know I’m f*cked

The continued violence against the LGBTIQA community has sparked deep feelings of vulnerability, rage, and terror in me. Every news report of a vicious assault or murder in our community is very personal to me and has an impact on […]

I am gay, disabled, and jolly: Here’s my story

I am gay, disabled, and jolly: Here’s my story

This stage of my life was filled with extreme challenges. The challenges were not only physical but also mental as I was negotiating my sexual orientation. I am a gay man living in a society that often hates LGBTIQA+ people […]

8 reasons why you should teach your kids about consent

8 reasons why you should teach your kids about consent

Her dreams of acquiring an education have been disrupted not by a stranger but by someone well-known to her and her family: their houseboy! Upon interrogation, the teenager opened up that the houseboy had molested her severally and issued threats […]

How it’s like being a queer in Kenya: A Poem

How it’s like being a queer in Kenya: A Poem

I don’t know about you But I love being in the closet I love chipping in on homophobic conversations Weird right? 😃 I always make sure I put across a point or two on the same See and hear people […]

My son has low self-esteem, how can I help him?

My son has low self-esteem, how can I help him?

I know how it feels to have low self-esteem as a teenager especially in the context of sexual health and reproductive rights. I was much younger than my classmates when I started school, and I had to deal with the […]

Naogopa intimacy juu niko na penis ndogo, niko sawa?

Naogopa intimacy juu niko na penis ndogo, niko sawa?

Ni totally normal kukua concerned but pleasure is more than the size of manhood.  The size of your penis does not determine your sexual pleasure and satisfaction. Everyone is different, and it takes time to learn to be confident and […]

Is it wrong for men to wear thongs?

Is it wrong for men to wear thongs?

Fast forward to today, thongs is exclusively seen as part of women’s style. Yet, there are thongs designed specifically for men. Wearing thongs, like many aspects of fashion, is a personal choice and not inherently gender-specific. Society’s traditional norms and […]