Bacterial vaginosis
Bacterial vaginosis (BV) generally affects women. It’s when the normal balance of bacteria in the vagina is disrupted by an increase of more ‘harmful’ bacteria.
BV isn’t actually an STD. But having sex can increase your chance of getting it. As well, BV increases your risk of getting HIV if you have unprotected sex with someone who’s HIV infected. This is why it’s included in the STD section.
How do you get bacterial vaginosis?
You can get bacterial vaginosis from activities that disrupt the vagina’s natural balance of bacteria. One such activity is having sex. But there are other activities that increase your risk of getting it.
These activities include:
- Using a harsh soap
- Douching
- Leaving a tampon in for too long
- Using particular contraceptives, such as a diaphragm
- Having a new sex partner or multiple partners
You cannot get BV from toilet seats, swimming pools, or bedding.
How can you protect yourself against bacterial vaginosis?
We’ve much to learn about bacterial vaginosis and how to prevent it.
What we do know is BV is associated with behaviours that disrupt the balance of vaginal bacteria.
So to prevent BV you could try to:
- Avoid harsh soap and vaginal douches
- Wash with clean water and pH neutral soap
- Use sanitary pads instead of tampons
- Avoid using contraceptives like diaphragms
- Limit your number of sex partners
However, even if you do all this, it’s still possible to get bacterial vaginosis.
What are the signs that you’ve got bacterial vaginosis?
Most women with bacterial vaginosis, or BV, have no symptoms. This is because for most women, it’s a harmless bacterial overgrowth. However, for some women, this overgrowth produces unpleasant symptoms.
Bacterial vaginosis symptoms can include:
- Creamy white or grey vaginal discharge
- Strong vaginal odour sometimes smelling of rotten fish
- Pain when you urinate
- Itching around the outside of the vagina
- Redness and swelling of labia and the outside of the vagina
You can find photo examples of abnormal bacterial vaginosis discharge here.
What happens if you don’t do anything about bacterial vaginosis?
If you do nothing about bacterial vaginosis, in itself it shouldn’t usually cause you any serious health problems.
Untreated BV becomes a problem if you have unprotected sex with someone who’s HIV positive. It then increases your risk of getting HIV. And if you have unprotected sex with someone infected with genital herpes, gonorrhoea, or Chlamydia, having untreated BV increases your risk of getting these STDS too.
How do you get tested for bacterial vaginosis?
A doctor or health care provider can examine you for signs of bacterial vaginosis. Sometimes a sample can be taken using a swab and tested for it in a lab.
How do you get rid of bacterial vaginosis?
If you’ve got bacterial vaginosis, it can sometimes clear up on its own. However, if it doesn’t, it’s curable with antibiotics.
A doctor will prescribe you antibiotics, possibly metronidazole or clindamycin. While you’re on the medication don’t drink alcohol because it can stop the antibiotics working properly, and give you unpleasant side effects like nausea. During this time, you must also stop having sex because it can stimulate BV to develop again.
loosing virginity is oneself
loosing virginity is oneself control,by either having sex once amonth or avoiding several & diffren size of penis penetrating through agirl’ vergina.this can improve one’s virginity.
am not virginity and got a
am not virginity and got a boy who need a virgin girl so what should i do?
Salmum, let me ask, why does
Salmum, let me ask, why does he need a virgin?
Because He is a virgin too.
Because He is a virgin too.
Because He is a virgin too.
Because He is a virgin too.
Being a virgin doesn’t mean
Being a virgin doesn’t mean you only can have sex with another virgin!
Is he a virgin too
Is he a virgin too
loosing virginity is oneself
loosing virginity is oneself control,by either having sex once amonth or avoiding several & diffren size of penis penetrating through agirl’ vergina.this can improve one’s virginity.
Hi Justin,
Hi Justin,
what do you mean by ‘improving one’s virginity’?
hi
hi
pls i feel so guilty that i lost my virginity wen i was young now i have a fiance and have always told him that am virgin how do i do it first to try go it back.
pls help me out i want to feel how it feels to loose virginity
Hi Shifrah,
Hi Shifrah,
well, you can’t get your virginity back. Being a virgin means not having had sex before, and you did, so you aren’t a virgin anymore. It’s unfortunate you didn’t tell your fiance the truth. But many men (and women) think virginity is important, so we understand why you did it.
We suggest you just relax about it. It will be the first time with your fiance. And that is really special.
Being a virgin is so
Being a virgin is so important because God said it in bible dat we should not have sex with with our boyfriend or girlfriend untill dey are married couples my grandmother always tell me dat why are nowadays boys and girls are always in hunger for sex if you hv patient enough you will hv sex with your future wife/husband as how many times as you want infact one day you will surely say you are tired of having sex
There is time for everything in this world just be patient and wait for your time
WEST VG IS WAT WIL B WETHE BY
WEST VG IS WAT WIL B WETHE BY USING MAN OR NOT JUST ET WEL TO BULT UA BODY NO TEK U AS UNVG
Hae just tighten ur pussy
Hae just tighten ur pussy svreem harder when he fucks you mmmmh make sure u gv him when u having ur periods so as u shade some bloood try that
Hi Boniface, thanks for your
Hi Boniface, thanks for your input. Not everyone bleeds during first time sex. Read here to find out more about virginity https://lovematters.co.ke/news/virginity-myths-busted
Hi Shifrah, sorry for the
Hi Shifrah, sorry for the guilt trip that you are going through. Virginity is surrounded by many myths and once you get to understand it it will remove most if not all your worries. Read this and find out more https://lovematters.co.ke/news/virginity-myths-busted
Had sex like twice before one
Had sex like twice before one start her period like age 7-9yrs, does it mean d person s still a virgin. Or if d person later have sex @ d age of 26yrs will she call herself virgin.
Hi there,
Hi there,
first things first: having sex at the age of 7-9 is illegal. Children of this age cannot give consent, as they don’t understand the concept and consequences of sex. Not to mention that their bodies aren’t ready yet. So please, please, please don’t ever consider this!
Secondly, virginity has nothing to do with age. Being a virgin means that a person hasn’t had intercourse yet. Yet again, different people have different opinions on what virginity means. Some would consider people who had oral or anal sex only virgins, others wouldn’t. Others only consider consensual sex as having had sex.
wel as far as you have
wel as far as you have already had a sex, you are no longer a virgi
thanks big for ua xmt advces
thanks big for ua xmt advces
You are welcome!
You are welcome!
Hi
Hi
if someone musturbate will he be still vargin?
Hi Babu,
Hi Babu,
usually, people consider intercourse as the point where people lose their virginity. But some probably would say people who masturbate are no longer virgins. It’s really up to you to decide what virginity means to you?
My bf he is a vargin,and I’m
My bf he is a vargin,and I’m not a vargin help me
Hi Sarah,
Hi Sarah,
that’s not a problem, really.
What do you need help with?
use herbal medicine to reduce
use herbal medicine to reduce the size of your vagina
hence he will feel that you are virgin
Emily,
Emily,
you need to be very careful with is. We don’t advise to use anything that hasn’t been recommended by a doctor.
Hw does it feel to loose
Hw does it feel to loose virginity wth the wrong person
Hi Lovelyn,
Hi Lovelyn,
most likely, you will only realize later that the person wasn’t right for you. Then you might have some regrets.
is it must 2 fil dat pain we
is it must 2 fil dat pain we u r a virgin
Hi Ninah,
Hi Ninah,
no, you don’t necessarily feel pain.
Especially if you are very aroused and your partner is gentle, chances are it won’t be very painful.
No, always have a safer sex
No, always have a safer sex and you will not get the pain
Actually, Nyeko, pain isn’t
Actually, Nyeko, pain isn’t necessarily related to the sex being safe or not. Pain is often caused by the want not being wet and aroused enough, or she is not relaxed, or the man is too rough.
How do i go abt breaking ma
How do i go abt breaking ma gal…coz we av been tryng bt in vain i…
Moha,
Moha,
there is no need to ‘break’ anything, and certainly not with force.
Have a look at these articles, they might help you
have a look at these articles, they might help you:
http://lovematters.co.ke/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts
http://lovematters.co.ke/resource/sex-first-time
During the reed dance in
During the reed dance in Swaziland, the girls are checked for virginity. They show them going before an old lady and lying down with their legs open. So how do these old ladies make sure that the girl is still a virgin?
Sida,
Sida,
unless the old ladies know something we don’t, there is no way of telling if a girl has had sex before, as the hymen can get damaged during other activities, such as sports or using a tampon.
Always i want make sex my
Always i want make sex my girl frnd are virgin she afraid what can i do
Hi there,
Hi there,
why is she afraid? Of pain, or is it something else, like not wanting to have sex before getting married?
Am also one of those u r stll
Am also one of those u r stll vergns,am stll afraid of brkn it coz a dnt wana get hurt jst bcz of duin sex evntho a realy wsh to do it,plz hlp me?
Hi Nelson,
Hi Nelson,
as a man, the chance of feeling any pain is very, very low.
am vere glad to hear tht,u r
am vere glad to hear tht,u r realy nice ppl
Hi Nelson,
Hi Nelson,
we are so glad to hear that!
i have not had sex in 2yrs
i have not had sex in 2yrs will it hurt the day i decide to have sex and is my vagina tight?
Hi Lolo,
Hi Lolo,
as long as you are really wet and aroused, you should be fine!
hi …we al know that sex b4
hi …we al know that sex b4 marriage iz fobbiden…dnt try plz
Hi Cindey,
Hi Cindey,
we believe everybody needs to make that decision for themselves.
We think sex should be safe, pleasurable and consensual.
hi I didn’t like sex why? am
hi I didn’t like sex why? am not man indeed
Hi Paul,
Hi Paul,
what is it you don’t enjoy?
Iz it wrng 4 2 virgins havng
Iz it wrng 4 2 virgins havng sex 4 tha first tym daz it make sense?
Hi Dindy,
Hi Dindy,
no, that’s totally okay!
Iz it true that havin the 1st
Iz it true that havin the 1st sex or rather takin ones virginity 4 the 1st tym,wil u get pregnant??
Hi Valentyn,
Hi Valentyn,
it’s possible to get pregnant the first time you have sex, unless you use contraception.
am confused
am confused
By what, Claraaa?
By what, Claraaa?
If ur brkd ua virgnty can u
If ur brkd ua virgnty can u b able 2 walk
Hi Liz,
Hi Liz,
yes, absolutely!
There is the myth that virginity needs to be broken. But in fact, the more gentle your partner is, the more painfree and pleasureable it will be.
That said, it’s possible to feel a bit stiff afterwards.
If ur brkd ua virgnty can u
If ur brkd ua virgnty can u b able 2 walk
Can u b pregnat wen ua brkd
Can u b pregnat wen ua brkd ua virgnty
Absolutely, Antonia.
Absolutely, Antonia.
am a gel of 20yrs but am
am a gel of 20yrs but am afraid of losing my varginity….becus am afraid of the pains….what should i do
Tope,
Tope,
If you are aroused, wet and relaxed and your partner is gentle, you have nothing to worry about!
my bf wants us 2 have 3
my bf wants us 2 have 3 shorts the tym he wil be breaking me is it possible
Ninnah,
Ninnah,
it won’t harm you, but a few things concern me.
First of all, he won’t need to break anything. In fact, the more gentle he is, the better.
Secondly, sex should be about communication, and about what the two people want. So, planning three times in the first night seems very odd. You should both see how you feel, and plan how to take it from there.
Not to mention that good sex is about quality, not quantity.
Lastly, make sure your boyfriend understands that many women need to have their clitoris stimulated to get satisfied, and that the in-and-out movement of sex alone won’t do much for their satisfaction.
iz it true that a person
iz it true that a person will not forget the one to whom he / she lose vrgnity 2?
Hey there,
Hey there,
well, I don’t think there is any research on this, but chances are that you will indeed always remember your first time, just like you are likely to remember the first time you drive a car, your first job, etc. If something is special to you, and you do it for the first time, chances are you will remember it.
I’m in searh of virgin gal,
I’m in searh of virgin gal, will breasts prove any thing?
Charles,
Charles,
firstly, who are you searching for a virgin girl? Why do you think that matters?
And no, there is no way to tell whether a woman is a virgin or not other than asking her and believing her answer.
ae av avirgin girlfriend xo
ae av avirgin girlfriend xo ae need the tips of hw 2 break avirgin gal
Allan,
Allan,
have a look here: http://lovematters.co.ke/resource/sex-first-time
is it possible 2 use condom
is it possible 2 use condom on the first day
Hey Ninnah,
Hey Ninnah,
yes, absolutely! Condoms will protect you from unwanted pregnancies and STDs, whether it’s your first time or your 100th time.
I had sex for less than five
I had sex for less than five minutes does it mean i have loose my virginity
Yes sex is one of the ways of
Yes sex is one of the ways of loosing one’s virginity the time you had it for is not a factor.
I had sex for less than five
I had sex for less than five minutes does it mean i have loose my virginity
Hi Lynne,
Hi Lynne,
as long as the penis entered the vagina, however brief it was, you are no longer a virgin.
Hi,alwaiz many men do
Hi,alwaiz many men do musterbate.what are effects of musterbating?
Hi Wicky,
Hi Wicky,
for us, masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life. It has no negative side effects.
Positive side effects are getting to know your body, feeling more relaxed and sexually satisfied.
I will keep myself till my
I will keep myself till my wedding nite,,,,may God help me
Good luck, Olayemi.
Good luck, Olayemi.
is it a must for one to bleed
is it a must for one to bleed so as to b considered a virgin……..anywe thenx for educating us yo just gr8
Joy,
Joy,
no, it’s not a must. A virgin is a person who hasn’t had penile-vaginal intercourse yet. However, many people put a lot of emphasis on a thin piece of skin on the entrance to the vagina, the hymen. And when the hymen tears, it can indeed bleed. But, often the hymen is already stretched or torn during exercise or other movements.
what of the men whow hav
what of the men whow hav mustabated……
should they call themself a virgin….???
It all depends on your
It all depends on your definition of virginity.
Most people think of virginity as not having had intercourse, so someone who has only masturbated would indeed still be a virgin.
pliz i first had my jigantic
pliz i first had my jigantic X who brocke my virginity and now i hav a firnce who is sleem he dosnt fit in my virginer and i lov him so much.wht can i do 2 satisfy him
Lenna,
Lenna,
why do you think he doesn’t he fit in your vagina? Have you tried and it didn’t work?
Make sure you are very aroused and that he is very gentle. Try to use some extra lubricant.
is it good to have sex before
is it good to have sex before marriage?
Peter,
Peter,
ah, now that’s a very good question.
The answer will depend on who you ask- some people will you shouldn’t consider it at all, others say you shouldn’t get married without having sex beforehand.
It’s up to you and your partner to decide what you want. Consider your options together, and make a decision based on that.
how many times will you
how many times will you attempt to break the virginity of a girl
Robs,
Robs,
once a woman has had a penis in her vagina, she is no longer a virgin.
To make sure it will work, make sure she is very aroused and very wet, and that you are very gentle.
many women real bleed wen
many women real bleed wen their hv sex in de firxt tym……Most of dem…
We are not sure about most,
We are not sure about most, but some certainly due.
Often, the hymen is already stretched or torn, which can happen during exercise, a fall or even using tampons, and then they might not bleed.
But it’s absolutely certain to say that not all women bleed!
my galfreind tells to wait 4
my galfreind tells to wait 4 sex till marriage
Marks,
Marks,
and how do you fell about this?
uv really educated me on this
uv really educated me on this issue n thanks for that, bt I have a qn that goes……am a virgin at 22 for the fear ov loosing it to the wrong person n moreover before marriage, will it b complicated loosing it at a later age, azin lyk waiting till marriage
Amor,
Amor,
no, there is absolutely no difference between loosing your virginity earlier or later.
Hi is masturbation bad..?
Hi is masturbation bad..?
Benox,
Benox,
masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life. It doesn’t have any negative side effects.
a man who hav marstabated
a man who hav marstabated en havent hav sex.should he consider been virgin
Jack,
Jack,
generally, people who haven’t had vaginal-penile intercourse are considered virgins.
iz t true tht e 1st person tu
iz t true tht e 1st person tu break ur virginty will owez luv u nomatter hw he myt pretend aslng u wud hab created a bond
One thing is for sure- you
One thing is for sure- you will always remember your first time.
As for loving your partner- that will differ for everyone (me, for example- hoping to never see this person again!)
am still a virgin buh one of
am still a virgin buh one of ma friends told me that that is beeng stupid in a way and that this days men dont like virgins.is it true?
Monique,
Monique,
don’t worry about it, at all! Don’t worry about ‘men’ in general. Give yourself as much time as you need, and wait for someone who is special. And if you are in a relationship, and love each other, it won’t matter if you’ve had sex yet or not.
Am not a virgin an no one at
Am not a virgin an no one at ma home no about it I got a man wants to marry me but hi want a girl who is virgin what can I do an am afraid my mom to know that am not virgin
Dear Hafsun,
Dear Hafsun,
unfortunately, there is no way to turn back time and make you a virgin again. You have slept with someone, and you can’t undo that.
On the other hand, there is no way of knowing if someone is a virgin. It’s a myth that all women bleed or that you can see it somehow.
Though we definitely don’t recommend lying to anyone, honesty is always the best way to go.
am a virgin nd usualy often
am a virgin nd usualy often imagne maself hvng sex wid ma ex bf lyk evry nyt iz t normal
That’s totally fine, Cate,
That’s totally fine, Cate, don’t worry about it at all!
hey..am a virgin yet each day
hey..am a virgin yet each day i imagne maself havng sex wid ma ex bf each tym am i rily owky….
Nothing wrong with that,
Nothing wrong with that, Maggie!
hey… am a virgin bt i
hey… am a virgin bt i usualy imagne maself havng sex wid ma ex each tym… it has become an obsesión nd am rily disturbed pliz help
There is nothing wrong about
There is nothing wrong about fantasizing about your ex.
Pls sister pray abt it he is
Pls sister pray abt it he is cm as spritual husband so u need to pray
Why does this virginity hut
Why does this virginity hut many boys?
What do you mean, James?
What do you mean, James?
My girl complains pain
My girl complains pain whnever on bed, she is wet ad I gentle. What’s the problem? Thanks
Morris,
Morris,
have a look at this article: https://lovematters.co.ke/news/sex-hurts-help
wat can i do to av sex with
wat can i do to av sex with mi girlfriend she a vergin
Junior,
Junior,
have you discussed this with her?
if a boy iz alwyz mstrbtin
if a boy iz alwyz mstrbtin wat do u thnk iz d prblm
There is no problem.
There is no problem. Masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life.
is it possible to marrie a
is it possible to marrie a 46years lady when yua 50, ca yu get baby?
It is possibly to marry, yes,
It is possibly to marry, yes, but chances of a baby will be low.
My guy is gentle and quite
My guy is gentle and quite patient. We are stil in the proces ov brakin my virginity and each time he muvz an inch deeper it gets painful and i stop em. He gets out ov me just as i say atoke. But each time i do that i feel its like am hrtin hz feelings. Wat ken i do? The pain is wan thng that usualy becomz unbareble. I wnt em to feel gud. Wat shld i do so that i dnt feel much pain?
Yuvian,
Yuvian,
firstly, make sure you are relaxing. By being stressed and afraid about the pain, you are clenching your muscles, making your vagina even tighter. Take deep breaths, and make sure your partner pays lots of attention to your clitoris, maybe even give you an orgasm before he enters.
Secondly, you need to be fully aroused and wet, otherwise, things will always be painful.
And lastly, why don’t you try a position where you are in charge of the penetration, like you on top?
I am scard,since i av been
I am scard,since i av been readin dis al dat comes 2 my mind z i wil try an get disflowerd bt nw wots scares me z if u av ur first sex u wil b pregnant.yeyeye i cnt get dat out of my memory.i wil stay lyk dis as a virgin til 2yrs more.ANY advice 4 me?
Hey Daniella,
Hey Daniella,
that’s easy to settle- look into birth control methods! Pick one you like and use it as intended, and your changes of getting pregnant will be very, very low
What about if someone had sex
What about if someone had sex once and by the age of 16 then lives till 24year, can she recover her virginity?
Nyson,
Nyson,
sorry, but that’s not possible. A virgin is someone who hasn’t had sex yet- so even if it’s been twenty years since you last had sex, you still won’t be a virgin.
But its easy to be decieved?
But its easy to be decieved? Thanx for help
Nyson,
Nyson,
even experienced doctors can’t usually tell if a girl is a virgin or not.
That said, you don’t want to be in a relationship that is based on dishonesty, do you?
Hi there am a Virgin girl and
Hi there am a Virgin girl and i want to try love making huw shld i gp through
Glado,
Glado,
firstly, find a partner you trust, spend some time with them and then decide if you want to have sex with him.
how does one feel when
how does one feel when in the mood of sexual action.
Flag,
Flag,
aroused! For a man, this might mean an erection, for a woman, vaginal wetness. But every person feels different.
I gav birth n thy usd
I gav birth n thy usd razoblade to xpand th.
Bt fl th doctors shud zv done smthng afta th cuttn n thy neva xo fl i dnt sartisfy ma man or h dasnt enjoy wat shud i do?
Liz,
Liz,
have you tried Kegel exercises?
https://lovematters.co.ke/search/site/kegel
Hae…
Hae…
Is it true that men dnt like virgin gals..
Beth,
Beth,
that really depends on the man, I guess!
Hai
Hai
I want to commend on the part of virginity, i hv a girl we stayed with her for the lst six yrs , lst mnth we had a proposal to dox with her she was truely virgin she nevr felt any pain rathr than she was enjoiying ma mmmmm bt a problem it took tym for ma penies to penetrate in bt she nvr felt any pains.
Great, well done!
Great, well done!
is it must one to bleed wen
is it must one to bleed wen broken her virginity
is it must to bleed after
is it must to bleed after being broken her virginity
No, absolutely not. That’s a
No, absolutely not. That’s a huge myth.
I had sex while i was like n
I had sex while i was like n klas 1 bt nw i hv a byfrnd nd we are plning 4 sex,he knows am not a vrgin bt to tell de truth i dont knw all dos procedures hw can i hlp ma self b4 de d-dai reach..??pliz help
Hey Marrion,
Hey Marrion,
check out our ‘Making Love’ section for handy information. https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/making-love
Can man b a vgn…?
Can man b a vgn…?
Yep, absolutely. A person who
Yep, absolutely. A person who hasn’t had sex yet is considered a virgin- regardless of gender.
i have a gal bt she fears to
i have a gal bt she fears to have sex thou i can c her nakdnss upto lickng it what cn b tha problm
Jared,
Jared,
have you talked to her about this? What does she say?
ma galfwend is a vrgn en wen
ma galfwend is a vrgn en wen am.wth her ifeel tu av sex en she refuses bh he meks mi mustabate plz help
Lawi,
Lawi,
there is nothing wrong with masturbating when you can’t have sex.
Mastubation is dstustive is
Mastubation is dstustive is nt good dat is sin be4 god!u ar becom husband and wife at disame time!
So loosing vrgnty u must
So loosing vrgnty u must sleep with sameone or iz ther other way to loose it
Virginity, by most people’s
Virginity, by most people’s definition, means having had penile-vaginal intercourse.
However, if you talk about the hymen, then there are other ways to loose it; that does NOT mean that someone is no longer a virgin.
may first time to have sex i
may first time to have sex i didn’t bleed what may be the problem
Patience,
Patience,
there is no problem- it’s a huge myth that every woman has to bleed the first time she has sex. Absolutely not true!
nice advces
nice advces
Thanks!
Thanks!
it is said that the first
it is said that the first time u hav sex..azin loos
ng ua virginity..we girls must
bleed..bt wen i lose mine i dint. furthermore we used condom..i do wonder why i dint bleed
Diana,
Diana,
it’s a huge myth that all women bleed- it’s absolutely not true that all virgins bleed the first time they have sex.
Unfortunately, many people still believe in this myth.
Hi,
Hi,
How do u knw if ur girlfriend z virgin
Jey,
Jey,
ask her and believe her answer. That’s the only reliable way to find out if someone is a virgin.
my girlfriend told me she was
my girlfriend told me she was virgin but when we had sex I didnt saw the sign of it what could have been the reason?
Eliud,
Eliud,
there are no visible signs. It’s a myth that you can see the hymen, that the vaginas are extra tight, or that there will be blood.
What were you looking for?
I love this!
I love this!
Great Lucy!
Great Lucy!
Thanx for the discussion.
Thanx for the discussion.
You are more than welcome,
You are more than welcome, Shanique.
plz help me,wen am in bed
plz help me,wen am in bed with my lover it xeems am doing nothing y?
Denis,
Denis,
is it because she it being in charge?
Talk to her. Tell her how you feel. And try to come up with a solution that works for both of you.
Sex is about communication as much as it is about the actual act.
hae…i am vergin bt i fear
hae…i am vergin bt i fear doing sex because of expectation of pain during intercourse plzz help.
Ramida,
Ramida,
as long as you are aroused and relaxed, and your partner is gentle, there is little you have to worry about!
that the reason I want to
that the reason I want to evade sex coz men want virgin gals yet wao ndo huibreak alarr
Thanks for sharing your
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
I hav galfriend bt I fear to
I hav galfriend bt I fear to tel her to hav sex
John,
John,
approach the subject slowly. Ask her what her thoughts are on sex before marriage, for example. And if she is okay with it, you can start hinting that you would like to start discussing things like birth control with her.
how will u know if u r a
how will u know if u r a virgin?????
Mary,
Mary,
a virgin is someone who hasn’t had penile-vaginal sex yet. And the only way to tell, whether it’s a man or a woman, is to ask the person. Even experienced doctors can’t tell most of the time.
LUZN VIRGIRTY IS NT SMTN
LUZN VIRGIRTY IS NT SMTN HUTIN BUT MAINTAIN IT SEEM TO BE VITAL AND WE SHOULD KNOW DAT VIRGINITYIS NT FOR LIFE,THINK ABOUT THEKIND OV PERSN U WANT TO LOSE YOUR VIRGINITY TO.THEN YOU GO AHEAD
Allans, thank you for your
Allans, thank you for your comment.
Thnkyou for the help
Thnkyou for the help
You are most welcome.
You are most welcome.
my g/f is 18 yrs of age i
my g/f is 18 yrs of age i love her but many men are following her asking for a relationship im very afraid of loosing her becox some of this men already stable financially while im a seniour student at university how can keep her in love for marriage
Douglas,
Douglas,
have you discussed those fears with her? What does she say?
I do appreciate the gud job
I do appreciate the gud job ur doing, congrats and keep it up!
Thank you!
Thank you!
wow dhnkx 4 ua r/ship
wow dhnkx 4 ua r/ship education √√
You are welcome, Jeff!
You are welcome, Jeff!
When 2 virgin are in
When 2 virgin are in relationship,does the relationship last long?.
That depends on the people in
That depends on the people in the relationship, not their sexual history or lack thereof.
if u break up ur virgnty u
if u break up ur virgnty u can not b able to walk
Huge myth!
Huge myth!
liz you can’t tell till it
liz you can’t tell till it happens
You will never be able to
You will never be able to know for sure, unless you ask!
AM 31YRS OLD AND HAVE NEVER
AM 31YRS OLD AND HAVE NEVER BROKE ANY VIRGIN GIRL AND I NEED ONE HOW OR WHERE CAN I GET ONE AND MARRY?0722878635
Sorry Mike, can’t help you
Sorry Mike, can’t help you with finding someone. But have a look around, check out our love and flirting tips, maybe that can help you?
i really like your page
i really like your page
Excellent! Feel free to
Excellent! Feel free to spread the word about us!
Hiii is it a must you feel
Hiii is it a must you feel that pain
am 19yrs but i scare to have sex b’coz of that pain
pliz reply
Absolutely not. A few things
Absolutely not. A few things are important: he must be very gentle. And you must be very wet and aroused, and relaxed, and then there is little risk of pain.
Is it a crime to break a 15
Is it a crime to break a 15 years old virginity??
The legal age of consent,
The legal age of consent, which means the age a person can say yes to sex, is 18, so yes, it technically is a crime.
thanks for your many many
thanks for your many many advices.
cheers friends and save sex
You are welcome Onesmus
You are welcome Onesmus
Hi,i heard that to have safe
Hi,i heard that to have safe sex use condom but what if its your first time to have sex,should one also use condom?
On my view,it doesn’t matter
On my view,it doesn’t matter whether its your first time or you have been into it.
Use condoms everytime you have sex!!!
Thanks Dave for this sound
Thanks Dave for this sound advice.
yes one should use a condom
yes one should use a condom even if its the first time to have sex, especially if you don’t know the status of your partner they could have HIV or other STI’s or you could get pregnant.
Thanks Alot U Guyz Do A Graet
Thanks Alot U Guyz Do A Graet Job
You are welcome
You are welcome
Tinking of keeping myslf
Tinking of keeping myslf virgin as a gift to my wife bt my worry is, to wat percentahe is returning the favour possible,,, just asking
Comrade keeping yourself a
Comrade keeping yourself a virgin for that special person is all that matters whether she will be a virgin or not should not worry you..
dats kul all beta protection
dats kul all beta protection
🙂
🙂
Thanx for the informative
Thanx for the informative advices,
What makes some women have tight or even xtra tight vaginas to a point where the man feels the grip while others have soo loose ones?
You are welcome Pierre. Just
You are welcome Pierre. Just like the penises have different sizes so do the vaginas. Vaginas are different and therefore some will be tight and others loose.
I’m 33yrs old n still a
I’m 33yrs old n still a virgin, i sometimes see myself jerk when I’m ovulating and probably lying down. What could be d cause? (2) I noticed I usually have a high libido, Pls what could be the cause? N what do I need to do? (3) will staying a virgin till I get married have a side effect on my system?
Hi Marygift, What you are
Hi Marygift, What you are experiencing are perfectly normal human feelings and desires. Everyone has sexual desires and its also normal to masturbate to release some of those sexual urges. It is ok to wait for marriage before sex there is no negative effect one can get from staying without sex.
I had sex wid my bf wdout
I had sex wid my bf wdout safety n i started bleeding after dat when i went for a pee. He is sure dat the sperm didnt enter the eggs but m afraid i wil get pregnant. Is dat true? Plz help…
Hi Kety, if you had
Hi Kety, if you had unprotected sex there is a chance you could got pregnant.
You would need to see a doctor about the bleeding.
sometimes wen am alone I find
sometimes wen am alone I find myself masturbating, can the action lead to infertility!!? kindly help
Hi Anil, that is just a myth.
Hi Anil, that is just a myth. Read some more about masturbation here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
Am 23yrs old and my first sex
Am 23yrs old and my first sex i had an older gal of abt 30 who was also a vargin but the problem is that now she always ask me for more and all the tyme we meet she makes me have sex till she gets orgasm.If i may ask does love&sex depend on the age
Hi Vokeez, age is not a
Hi Vokeez, age is not a factor when it comes to love and sex. As long as both of you are consenting adults there’s nothing to worry about.
am dating a curtain girl nd
am dating a curtain girl nd this z my first time to be in a relationship..she has dated 2 guys before me nd hav been trying to ask her if she had sex before but she keeps on refusing…If its true she has Done sex before, Can she tell me that? pliz help me coz she’s da one I want to marry
Hi Raban,
Hi Raban,
If you love her and intend to marry her then her past relationship should not be your concern. Whether she’s a virgin like you or not is not important. What’s important is that you love each other and want to be together.
There are risks to your
There are risks to your children.You could end up with sick or deformed babies.Sex with many or sick patnerships poisons the womb.This in turn poisons the fragile fetus.A child could have a hole in the heart or other hidden birth defects.
hye.. am a 21yrs old guy may
hye.. am a 21yrs old guy may I ask why is it that my lady cries a lot when I have sex with her even after lubricating.
Hi George does she cry
Hi George does she cry because of pleasure or pain?
how can you prove that a boy
how can you prove that a boy is virgin?
There’s no way of telling
There’s no way of telling that Chaz. same applies for girls. The only way is by asking the person.
its true drs can tell how is
its true drs can tell how is a virgin,e one who has had sex and multiporous woman
Hi Doctors can check for the
Hi Doctors can check for the hymen which is what indicates if one is a virgin, but some women do not have the hymen and others the hymen breaks because of different reasons. It therefore not possible to tell if one is a virgin or not. No doctor can tell if a man has had sex with multiple women.
hi.I had sex with a gyal but
hi.I had sex with a gyal but unfortunately
the condoms got broke and since then my penis have been aching .what is the cause and what should I do
Hi Digy, sorry that happened
Hi Digy, sorry that happened to you. When a condom breaks it means one is open to the chances of an infection. Are you having other signs like itchiness, pain while passing urine or discharge? if so you need to visit a doctor as soon as possible.
Am 25 in a relationship but
Am 25 in a relationship but he always tells me he needs space and peace I don’t remember worrying him too,he don’t want me to leave him.am confused
Hi Deel, sorry to tell you
Hi Deel, sorry to tell you this but when a person tells you they need space its normally a polite way of breaking up. I know this can be difficult but you need to start thinking about your future without him in it. Check out this article it will help you out https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/coping-break .
am 28 and hav nt penetrated a
am 28 and hav nt penetrated a girl, bt has gone throught all other forms of sexual, activities… do u think am still ok… i wan mu first experience to be grand nd nw i enf up been confused bc time has fly so soon.. whts ur advice? rhyjy
Hi Wisdom, there is nothing
Hi Wisdom, there is nothing wrong with you. Its ok to want your first time to be grand. You just have to wait until you get the right partner for you to share that with.
i married lst week and it
i married lst week and it seems my wife had a small Virginia..so how can i vaginae her pls hell
Hi Ally, first time sex can
Hi Ally, first time sex can be tricky for most people. Read this article to get the help you need https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/sex-first-time .
I have never agreed a man u
I have never agreed a man u enter his pensi inside ma vigina coz I feel me and scared of the pain.so am I stl a vigin
Hi Samarz, you don’t need to
Hi Samarz, you don’t need to be in a rush. You can wait until when you feel you ready.
Hi, I just had my first
Hi, I just had my first penetrative sex and I bled, but I didn’t feel the penis go into me. Does this mean I wasn’t properly deflowered? Did just my hymen tear? How deep should a penis go to deflower someone?
Hi Victoria , if there was
Hi Victoria , if there was penetration that caused bleeding. Check out this article https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/virginity .
Hi.. Me n my friend had a dry
Hi.. Me n my friend had a dry humping this week.. No direct intercourse took place.. But I am scared if by any chance his sperm has entered in my vagina.. Is there any possibility that I could get pregnant? I want to check if I am pregnant.. Will I have to wait till my periods come? Do pregnancy kits give accurate results? Please guide me.. I don’t want to be pregnant.. I am planning to take pills such as “Unwanted 72” if by any means its confirmed that I am pregnant.. Please let me know as soon as possible.. I really do not wish to go through all the process pf abortion.. I would be thankful to you..
Hi Sayask, chances of getting
Hi Sayask, chances of getting pregnant are low but if there was sperm penetration its still possible.
If its been less than 5 days yo can still use the E-pills to prevent pregnancy.
A pregnancy test can only show after 10 days from time of exposure.
Get more information here https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/pregnancy .
hi, was this your ”friend”
hi, was this your ”friend” or bf??
Hi,i am 20,nd about gaining
Hi,i am 20,nd about gaining admision,bt i av a guy i so much love,he jst finishd hs service dis april,d main issue is,our relationshp lacks comunicatn a lot,he doesnt cal,nd its almost a year since we startd dating,nd he hasnt cald me up to ten tyms snce then,i am d one dat makes d cal most,d more i complain to hm,d worse it gets.i dunno mayb its hs inability to get a job dats d cause or sumtin else.Sucks!
Sorry to hear about that.
Sorry to hear about that. Thanks for sharing your experience with us.
It depend with the one ua
It depend with the one ua during with bt its a little bit painful
Thanks for your input Silas.
Thanks for your input Silas.
I have a girl of 19yrs old,
I have a girl of 19yrs old, she’s still a virgin . We are working on our love life now but I treat her as a virgin?
Thanks for sharing with us
Thanks for sharing with us Chris.
I av a guy and I love him soo
I av a guy and I love him soo much dat I always fell lyk having sex wid him and nt ready to lose him.Is dat good or bad?
Hi Dora, if you love him and
Hi Dora, if you love him and he loves you and you are both ready for sex, there is nothing wrong with you making that decision.
Check out this article to learn more https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/talking-about-safe-sex-and-stds .
Hey
Hey
i hav a gal i do love her and dont trust her
wheneva i tel her about knwing our status she sends t to conventry what can i do yet i dislike using condomz.
Hi Kibler,
Hi Kibler,
You are responsible for your own health. So its important you keep protecting yourself up until you are both teste together and are given a clean bill of health.
My bf wants us to have sex..
My bf wants us to have sex…I also feel lyk doing it but my instincts restrict me coz i wana have it wen am married to him
Hi Val,
Hi Val,
You should consider following your instincts. If you feel you are not ready for sex right now then you should not do it. Wait until when you feel you are ready and comfortable for it.
Hi I got problem every time I
Hi I got problem every time I have sex with my partner hhe got hurt he now suggest I should circumsize what could be my problem plz help I’m desparate
Hi there,
Hi there,
Check out this article to find out more on what you can do https://lovematters.co.ke/news/pain-during-sex-suffering-silence .
hi,i hav a gf and she fears
hi,i hav a gf and she fears to do sex with me bcoz she is a virgn and she wixhes to do sex with me and fears that my penis can make her fill painfull what can i help her plz help me
Hi Salim, if she is ready for
Hi Salim, if she is ready for sex, you can read this article to find out about first time sex https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/sex-first-time .
My girl friend and I have
My girl friend and I have been dating for 4years now, I realized that she doesn’t care much about me having another girl though she proposed to me.how do I ,can I call it a quit , we are both virgins.
Hi Sim,
Hi Sim,
It seems like you are not sure about what’s happening in your relationship. Have you considered talking about it with her to find out what she feels about it?
Does masturbation make a
Does masturbation make a person fail to reach orgasm during sex?
No Labile, masturbation does
No Labile, masturbation does not hinder one from getting to orgasm.
Read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/masturbation .
Hii
Hii
I have a question
I met a guy around 1hr back at one place we met due to our common friend in school.
He says he loves me but he dnt let anyone know about our relationship we usually do the phone sex…not even we met after that 1st meeting.
How to know whether he seriously loves me or just having fun. As I deeply in love with him.
Please help.
Hi,
Hi,
You have only known him for an hour? You cannot love anyone in that amount of time. It means you need time to date and know each other more before you can now if he’s serious or not.
Hi, we decided to have sex
Hi, we decided to have sex with my boy friend, he realy strugle to insert his dich but it did’nt enter…and am sure the hymen was broken..am i still a virgine? Plz answer
Hi Irene,
Hi Irene,
If the hymen broke then it means you are no longer a virgin.
Read this article to find out more https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/virginity
Pls can a virgin girl feel
Pls can a virgin girl feel anything if she fingered ?
Yes Dunnie, even if one is a
Yes Dunnie, even if one is a virgin she can still feel the sexual thrill of fingering.
i was in relationship with a
i was in relationship with a guy den we had sex with her on dec 25/ 2016 den tukaachana from that day up 2 now june can i be vargin? bcoz i gate the man want 2 marry me.
Hi Villay,
Hi Villay,
Once one has penetrative sex you are no longer a virgin. Check out this article to find out more https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/virginity .
Hi I meet this beautiful girl
Hi I meet this beautiful girl on fb then we meet for real we had sex that same day and I discovered she was a Virgin cos she bleeds very well and her pussy was tight and the sex life continued till now… Should I still go ahead with her or stop. Thue she’s faithful
Hi Bobby,
Hi Bobby,
Is there something wrong with the relationship?
Im a female Cameroonian of
Im a female Cameroonian of 22yrs n i av mih 1st Guy its a yr nw bt we av neva hd sex n he luvs mih so very much n is mountx pressure on mih to av sex wid him bt im nt ready n im afraid i might lose him bcoz of dis pls help mih out
Hi,
Hi,
You should never have sex if you are not ready for it. You should not be pressured or threatened into having sex for whatever reason. You need to always remember you have all the rights over your body.
If someone loves you and cares for you they will wait until when you are ready. If not, they are not the right partner for you.
I had such signs wen I…
I had such signs wen I urinate I feel pain bt I visited the clinic and I got some medicines!
Thank you for sharing Rozzie.
Thank you for sharing Rozzie.
#Rozzie how much it cost you?
#Rozzie how much it cost you?
Brenda, you may need to…
Brenda, you may need to visit a medical centre to get your own prescription. Your situation may not be the same.
#Rozzie which medicine did…
#Rozzie which medicine did you take and how much does it cost please?
Hey Nancy, Consider visit a…
Hey Nancy, Consider visit a medical centre for your own check up and prescription. What worked for one person may not work for you.
Thanks
Thanks
You are welcome.
You are welcome.
i experience bad odour fluid…
i experience bad odour fluid,itching what kind of medicine can i buy and take
Hi Linet, please visit a…
Hi Linet, please visit a medical centre for a check up. This could be an infection. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/female-body/vaginal-discharge-top-facts
I think you shld seek…
I think you shld seek medication
Thank you for your…
Thank you for your contribution Abel.
Hi,I at times get boils and…
Hi,I at times get boils and aches alot.what might be the problem and how can I get rid of them???
Hi, If you often get boils…
Hi, If you often get boils in the same spot, gently wash the area well with soapy water every day. Antibacterial soap may help prevent boils. Always dry the area well. Do not wear tight clothing over the area. You may need to see a Doctor if the boil is on your face, near your spine, or near your anus, the boil is getting larger, you have any other lumps near the boil, especially if they hurt, you are in a lot of pain or you have a fever.
smart advises pals
smart advises pals
Thank you for the feedback…
Thank you for the feedback Faith.
Hello there can you have to…
Hello there can you have to std at the same time
Hey Shanie, yes one can have…
Hey Shanie, yes one can have two Sexually Transmitted Infections or Diseases at the same time. Hence the need to use condoms correctly and consistently to prevent such infections. Have a look at the following articles;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/stds-stis
hi can you expln to me what…
hi can you expln to me what penecilin treats thankyou
Hi Simon, Penicillin is an…
Hi Simon, Penicillin is an antibiotic that is used to treat Bacterial infections. It is however important to talk to a health care professional if you need treatment for an infection.
tell me can a men get…
tell me can a men get paptest 2?
can a paptest tell you that u hve herbes or syphils or not
Hi Simon, Pap Smear tests…
Hi Simon, Pap Smear tests are for women since they done to see if a woman has Cancer of the Cervix. Men don’t have a cervix. There are tests that specifically check for either Syphilis or Herpes. I suggest you visit a medical centre for these tests. Check out the following article for more information;-
https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/stds-stis/syphilis
https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/stds-stis/genital-herpes
Does this one affect men?
Does this one affect men?
Hi there, Bacterial…
Hi there, Bacterial vaginosis (BV) generally affects women. It’s when the normal balance of bacteria in the vagina is disrupted by an increase of more ‘harmful’ bacteria.
I’ve treated dis infection…
I’ve treated dis infection.bt de white cream particles still coms out of my vaginal,is’t normal.
Hi Joy, I suggest you speak…
Hi Joy, I suggest you speak to your health care provider for a followup and further advice.
I am a vargin but i have…
I am a vargin but i have this bacterial infection thingy which talked above in this articla.how can a virgin get that?
Hi Vargin, thank you for…
Hi Vargin, thank you for your question. The article says
“You can get bacterial vaginosis from activities that disrupt the vagina’s natural balance of bacteria. One such activity is having sex. But there are other activities that increase your risk of getting it.
These activities include: