Long distance relationships

Long-distance relationships mean that you aren’t living with your partner because you are in different places. This means you can’t see each other often.

If you live in Nairobi and your partner lives in Lagos, for example, you're in a long-distance relationship.

Relationships can go long distance for many reasons. It could be because your partner has found a new job in a different city or country or because you've started studying at a university far from home.

Today, long-distance relationships are becoming more common because of modern forms of communication. Emails, chats, video chats, and social media make it much easier for people to stay in touch. You can even have sex on the internet with your partner to keep the spark alive while you're apart.

Before you go long-distance, it might be a good idea to think about how your relationship will change. For one thing, there’ll be long stretches with no kissing, holding hands, or sex. You won't get to see and talk to each other in person for long periods of time.

If you can, try it for a while and see how it works out before you make a serious commitment.

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Long distance love used to work for mi but now it block mi trust

Hello Rovines, Long distance relationships can be challenging to manage but if both partners are committed to making it work they can make it work overcoming the various challenges. Check out the following article for more tips;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

Many issues arise in long distance buh it good for people who commit themselves to each other and being faithful for they will endure there love fore

Thank you for your contribution Julius.

Pls always communicate regularly to your partner. U will win

Thank you for your contribution Nicholas.

I also agree with communicating regularly,, keep you in touch

Thank you for your contribution Seyra.

Long distance relationship.. became had for since unfaithfulness begun..no one tend to trust one onother .I think it's had way.

Hi Collins, sorry about that. A long distance relationship can be challenging to make work especially where there is little communication and trust issues. If partners are however, committed to each other and their relationship, they can make the relationship work. Check out the following article on how to make it work;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

I like making friendship

We wish you well. That is a good quality.

Can someone fall in love in a app??And 2 start a serious relationship even if it will be a long distance relationship

Hi Khadija, People meet in different spaces and go on to have great relationships. Long distance relationships can however be challenging to manage, but if the two partners are committed that can make it work. They would need to communicate frequently, plan to visit each other from time to time and have a clear future they are working toward together since they can't be n a long distance relationship forever. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/types-of-relationships https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

Definitely like right now am dating an indian lady whom have never meet but we always keep in touch,share pictures and videos and we have taken it to an extent of introducing each other to our families

Thank you Tony for your contribution and we do wish you the very best.

Khadija as long as you know what you want and ready for any challenges, then you believe me it's possible.

Thank you Wycliffe for your contribution.

Yes

Thank you Juma for reading our article. Keep reading.

As long as u are trustworthy wiz ur partner

Thank you for your feedback Ssali. Trust is essential for any relationship.

Uganda

Hi Marry, what about Uganda?

African

Hey, what about African?

I need are white man

Hi, Unfortunately we are not a dating service and so we cannot help you meet some. We wish you well.

Iam also in a long distance relationship and.i can say it only needs trust and commitment for things to work out for who normally don't know what happens with our partners in our absence

Thank you for sharing your experience with us Tony.

She just texted and it's over between us. No explanation, we have been in a long distance relationship what should I do?

Hi Kefa, we are so sorry about this. Keeping a long distance relationship alive can be challenging, it is not possible to tell what could have happened. You can try reach out to get to know what led to this relationship and perhaps for you to have closure. You need to be alive to the fact that she may not be willing to talk about what happened and why she made this decision. If this is what happens, all you will have to accept this though difficult and begin you journey of moving on. Break ups are tough but life does and has to move on even after a breakup. Remember this was not your fault but a choice she made without giving you a chance to address the issues. Check out this article on more tips on how to cope with a break up;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/coping-with-a-break-up

I need a beauntyfull woman who gona love me if is white partner or black

Hey Omar, We are not a dating service and for this reason we cannot help you meet someone. We do wish you well though.

I love sex so much,do i have any problem?

Hi Spenser, There is nothing wrong with loving sex. It may only be a challenge if one is spending lots of time on sex to the point that they are unable to focus on other important responsibilities including school or work.

No..you are only romantic

We appreciate you contribution Peris,

Hi,I have been dating a high school student for 1 year currently a candidate bt she has never allowed me to have a kiss with her,what can be the problem

Hi Denis, perhaps she just does not want to or she does not feel it is the right time just yet. Lastly she could also be putting her focus on her studies at this point.

Am in a long distance relationship but I have a feeling that my boyfriend is cheating, how can I deal with this please help because am getting worried

Hi Yvonne. Making a long distance relationship work can be a challenge. There is however no way to know for sure if your partner is cheating on you. The best thing to do is try to communicate with your partner. Be honest with them about your suspicions and your feelings along with your fears. I know this can be scary to bring it up but try to just tell them why you suspect something is wrong and not just accuse them to be a cheater. Generally if we hold on to our thoughts you might take things the wrong way believe something without knowing if it is real or not. We wish you well.

This is the disadvantage of being in a distance relationship if you are not yet ready to face the challenges, if you are sure he is not faithful why are you still concentrating on him? Open your eyes and see well.

We appreciate your contribution Wycliffe.

am in a long distance relationship,am in Nairobi Kenya my partner is in Europe Belgium we met on dating site,we love each other but sometimes he so difficult to understand him,he can stay for 3-4 days without taking to me, for no reason,if i ask him if there is any problem he will say no, we have been dating for 6month know,we are meeting on November, please advise me what to do because am giving up on him.but at the sometime ifeels like I can't stay without him,we have never had sex on the phone cause i told him i don't like it he told me it's ok,he respects me alot but we always exchange our photos, please help me what to do and confused

Hello Estherwilly, Long distance relationships can be challenging to manage but communication is one of the essential elements that help to strengthen the relationship. At this stage of your relationship, it is important to share with your partner what your expectations are of him including what you would like interms of communication. It may improve your communication if he know what you want or expect. Also, remember communication takes two and you can also initiate communication when he hasn't. Even a text counts. We wish you well.

I think long distance relationshisp is more better when the couples trust each other. I also experience long distance relatiinshisp but I miss elot. But infct we have love for each other... Thanks my dia frdz

We agree Geoffrey, trust is essential for a relationship to work. Relationships are build on trust. Thank you for your contribution.

Am in a long distance relationship and we always keep it sparkling..my advice is,ladies dont wait for the guy to call or text you take responsibility in your relationship and be a helper...for us we trust each other so we gat no worries apart from just missing each others presence....but he loves me and i love him more despite the distance