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Sexual health for women: top facts

By Anonymous October 24, 06:00 am
Sex is great, but it can be difficult to figure out how to make it safe, especially if you are a lesbian, bi, or queer woman.
Catch the flow

If you are unsure about a partner’s sexual health status, try to prevent the exchange of bodily fluids like vaginal fluids and blood. These are the main way to transfer infections and diseases.
To avoid contact, you can use dental dams during anal play and oral sex. Also, please make sure you don't share sex toys or at least wash them before and after sharing.

Cut your nails

Well, this one is more of a basic hygiene pointer. It’s important to have your fingernails trimmed so you don’t hurt your partner while fingering. Long nails can cause injury to the delicate walls of the vagina and increase the risk of infections.

And pain: you only want your partner to let out pleasure-filled screams, right?

Mark your territory

While it might feel good to share things like sex toys (dildos, vibrators) with your partner, it is best to have some boundaries here.
Ideally, everyone should have their own toys to decrease the risk of passing on infections. If they must be shared, make sure that the toy is thoroughly washed with soap and water before and after each time it's used.

Never compromise on health and check-ups

The best way to ensure good sexual health is to know your body. This way, you are more likely to spot if there are any unnatural changes: like an itchy pubic area, smelly or differently coloured vaginal discharge, and so on.

It is good to consult the gynaecologist whenever you feel something is even slightly off.

But, even if there are no health issues, periodic check-ups at the gynaecologist should be done. Try to shed the fear of being judged and go ahead to talk honestly. Ask around for references to non-judgemental gynaecologists, beforehand though.

Do you have questions about your health and healthy sex? Head to our discussion board today, our moderators are there to help.

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Comments

Is the itching accompanied with pain, smelly discharge, or pain while urinating, if it’s, it could be an indication of a infection which you may need to seek medical attention. If it is only itching you may want to observe for sometime and if your require further information you can seek medical advice. 

Hello Janet, vagina self cleans therefore cleaning it with other things like soap and antiseptic can upset the natural balance of bacteria and actually make you more likely to get yeast (fungal) infections. It can also be a cause of itching and irritation or pain during intercourse. If you do choose to wash with soap, use a gentle one without strong perfumes. You can also use warm water only to wash your inner labia and inside your vagina.

There are many different causes for dryness, from being dehydrated to hormonal imbalances.Using lubricants can be a great short-term solution. But you should also see a healthcare provider to get to the bottom of the problem if it happens over longer periods of time. Women generally also take longer than men to get aroused, so having more and longer foreplay and waiting until both partners are aroused may also help with dryness. Check out this article https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-women

my galfriend is alway coplain about me releasing faster before her get satistifed what can i do?and a time me want to continue the pains will not erect anymore help me..

Hi Ronni, what you are experiencing is known as premature ejaculation which can be caused by a number of reasons including fear, performance anxiety, stress. In younger men it could be as a result of sexual experience; as one gains more experience they also gain better control of their ejaculation. The following are tips on how you can overcome premature ejaculation;- You could begin by regular exercises, eat healthy - avoid lots of processed foods, relax during sex by taking short breaks and deep breaths. You can also distract yourself by thinking about non sexual things. Always begin with foreplay, you will find that your partner does enjoy an extended foreplay session. 

Secondly, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where the penis cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. Check out the following article for more information;- 

https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

Hi Ronny, a girl gets wet when aroused. You may need to spend time in foreplay to get your girlfriend aroused for her to get wet before intercourse. Talk with your girlfriend to get to know what get her aroused, this way she will get aroused and wet before intercourse. You can also consider using lubricants to supplement. Check out the following article;- 

https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/foreplay-dos-and-donts

https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/lubricant-top-five-facts

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