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Safe sex: do’s and don’ts

By Steph Haase Friday, August 16, 2013 - 10:53
Safe sex sounds a bit boring. Sex should be exciting and satisfying – but safe? Well, if you imagine the kind of stress an STD or an unwanted pregnancy will cause you, being responsible about sex seems like a small price to pay…
Do
Go Double Dutch

Going 'double Dutch' means using two forms of contraception when you’re having sex, for example, the pill and condoms. Condoms are the best way to protect yourself and your partner against STDs during intercourse, but with typical use, 14 per cent of women get pregnant when they use condoms as their only birth control method for a year. So combining condoms with another method is a surefire way of protecting yourself from STDs and unplanned pregnancy.

Talk to your partner about it

If you want to have safe sex, you need to talk to your partner. Talking about condoms and other forms of contraception may seem a bit embarrassing for you, but it's much less awkward than a pregnancy scare or itchy, painful genitals!

Also, you should talk to your partner about their sexual history: how many people did they have unprotected sex with, do they get regular check-ups and STD test and what kind of birth control do they prefer? And just as with talking about condoms, there's nothing embarrassing about being responsible and staying safe and healthy!

Know the basics about STDs

You may have heard some tales about sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Like, as long as someone looks healthy and their genitals look fine, they probably don’t have an STD. Wrong! Or if you wash your genitals before and after sex, it will stop you getting an STD. Wrong!

It helps to know some basics about STDs if you want to make the right decisions. What they are, how you can get them and how you can protect yourself from them. And know what the myths around STDs and safe sex are. That will also help you in case you have to convince your partner to use condoms.

Don't
Make condom blunders

Many things can go wrong when you use condoms, so it's important to get it right. Use a condom on a banana or a cucumber first to practice if you’ve never used one before.

Also, remember the basics: never reuse a condom – use a new one every time you have oral, vaginal or anal sex. Never use a male and female condom at the same time, they can slip. Don't use condoms that are out of date (check the date on the pack) or broken. Always hold the condom in place when you pull out the penis.

Upset the vagina

Vaginal irritation removes the normal bacteria that protect the vagina from infection. And that can increase your chances of getting an STD.

Many things can cause vaginal irritation. For example, using lots of soap or douches aren't good for the vagina.

And products that you’re supposed to put in your vagina to dry it out for ‘dry sex’ or 'vaginal tightening' will also irritate the vagina inside and make you more likely to get STDs. A dry vagina isn’t clean, it’s unhealthy.

Don’t switch between anal and vaginal intercourse without cleaning the penis or sex toy, or use a fresh condom. Some of the bacteria found in the rectum can cause irritation in the vagina.

Give up sex because you've got an STD

If you or your partner gets diagnosed with an STD, you may feel you have to stop having sex. But you don't need to. If you use a condom correctly, it will minimize the chances of passing on the STD.

Many STDs are easily treatable, but even if you get treatment, keep using condoms until you get a green light from the doctor. That's because having sex with an STD that isn’t fully cured (or reappears occasionally, like herpes), will increase your chances of getting other STDs, such as HIV.

 

These are just the basic facts. What essential facts do you think are missing? Leave a comment below or join the discussion on Facebook.

Comments
Hi,am circumcised due to cultural believes I feel a lot of pain during sexual intercourse that makes me disgusted about sex my partener complains a lot n blame me could the circumsion could be the reason why I don't like and if so who do I get assisted to have a desirable sex
Hello Ashley, So sorry that sex brings pain and not pleasure to you. It depends with how the circumcision of Female Genital Cutting was done. You may need to see a specialist who may recommend surgery to correct this. Consider visiting a Gynecologist so that you can get advice. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/female-body/fgm-and-orgasm
Anonymous
Mon, 04/08/2019 - 21:04
Most people, when it comes to sex, don’t know what they want until another person shows them. Nevertheless, the best way to discover what and how to pleasure one’s body is through experimentation.

Hi, not really. The material used in making the male condom is the same whether free or the ones sold. The ones sold may have some additions including different flavors, some are ribbed among other additions. The material, latex, however does not change. The material used for the female condom is however different. Have a look at the following article for more information;- 

https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/condom

https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/female-condom

Hey Alice, Eggs are believed to be aphrodisiacs or foods that help to increase once libido, as they are reproductive organs. This however, make not be the experience for everyone. Generally, there is not scientific proof that they work, you want to eat healthy and if you are healthy you are also likely to have a great sexual experience. The following article provides additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/aphrodisiacs-top-five-facts

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