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Fertility: how do you know?

How can a man find out if he is fertile without impregnating a lady?

Check your family’s health

You can get a pretty good idea quite easily, just by looking at your own family and your health. For example, if there are no childless couples on either side of your family, no miscarriages, no genetic disorders, and lots and lots of healthy children, then the chance is high that you’re also fertile.

Even more so if your health has always been good, and you exercise regularly and eat well.
And you have wet dreams, get erections easily, and ejaculate when you masturbate.

For most men, just knowing all that is enough to stop worrying.

Take good care of yourself

But your fertility will probably be lower if you’re obese, if you smoke, or drink too much alcohol. Or wear really tight-fitting underwear. Or use anabolic steroids, marijuana, cocaine, meth, or opioids such as heroin, morphine or fentanyl.

There’s a chance you might be permanently infertile if you’ve ever had mumps. Or a serious urinary or sexually transmitted infection. Or surgery around the genital area, such as a hernia repair. Or an unsuccessfully reversed vasectomy. Or torsions of the testicles that weren’t treated soon enough. Or chemotherapy or radiotherapy.

Sperm checks

If anything like these applies to you, then you could have your sperm checked. A laboratory can measure your semen volume, total sperm count, and concentration. They can also assess your sperm’s vitality, shape and size, and their ability to swim efficiently. If those are all normal, then there’s a high probability that you’re fertile.

Causes of infertility

You could also be tested to rule out genetic disorders such as Klinefelter’s syndrome (an extra X chromosome), Kallmann syndrome (failure to start or complete puberty), testicular feminisation, testicular cancer, injuries to the testes, genital abnormalities, and pituitary tumours, for example.

But no matter how hard you try, you simply can’t be completely certain without a ‘real life test.’

Because no lab can rule out all the possible causes of infertility – some of them haven’t even been discovered yet!

Okay, I suppose that in principle a lab could fertilise an egg with your sperm in a petri dish (‘in-vitro fertilisation’, commonly abbreviated as IVF). But even if that was successful, you still couldn’t be sure that the embryo would grow successfully. Because there might be a fault in one of your genes that would prevent its development.

So ultimately there’s only one way you can be completely sure that you’re fertile: to actually have a child.


Are you worried about being fertile? Leave your questions below or on our forum. Or get in touch via Facebook. You can find us at Love Matters Naija and Kenya.

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  1. Does ozoospermia mean that I…
    Does ozoospermia mean that I can never have kids??

    1. Hi Jonathan, Azoospermia,…

      Hi Jonathan, Azoospermia, also known as no sperm count, is a male fertility issue that occurs when there is virtually no sperm in a man’s ejaculate. This does not entirely mean that one cannot have children, it all depends with the cause. Some of the causes can be treated. It helps to seek the service of health provider to determine the cause and appropriate treatment.

  2. I have been married since…
    I have been married since December last year and we have been trying to make a baby but have not. I get disappointed every month my wife sees her mensuration. What could possibly be wrong?

    1. Hey Murphy,…
      Hey Murphy,

      It could be a number of reasons. If you have be trying for between 6 months to 1 year you may want to visit a specialist who may carry out tests as necessary and prescribe treatment.

    2. I have experienced the same…
      I have experienced the same problem with my wife for olmost a year after marrying her.. But after visiting chinese herbal clini is when the situation change and currently she is pregnant.

      1. We are happy for you Khalid…
        We are happy for you Khalid and we do with you well.

      2. Have have been having…
        Have have been having unprotected sex with my girl friend for about one year now but she hasn’t conceive yet, what could be the problem…

      3. Whats the name of the…
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        1. Hey Liz, if you suspect you…

          Hey Liz, if you suspect you need fertility treatment it is important to seek the services of a Gynecologist who will be able conduct tests if appropriate and advice further if and what treatment you may need. 

      4. Khalid which chinese clinic?…
        Khalid which chinese clinic?? I need to know plz.

        1. Hey Ibrahim, you didn’t say…

          Hey Ibrahim, you didn’t say what challenge you could be experiencing. But you could also consider visiting a medical centre where you can further referred for specialised services as necessary. 

      5. Same problem for almost two…
        Same problem for almost two years now,any lead for help #Khalid

    3. Go for semen analysis ans…
      Go for semen analysis ans check if u have oligospermia. You will be give Oligo care drugs which rectifies the problem in a span of 1-3 months

      1. Thank you Stephen for your…

        Thank you Stephen for your contribution. 

    4. That should not worry you…
      That should not worry you people stay up to 5years. Sometimes it may be due to contraceptive use. Some contraceptives may affect conception immediately their use ceases.

      1. Thank you Ben for your…

        Thank you Ben for your contribution. However after 12 months of trying it maybe important for partners to consider seeking the services of a Specialist Gynecologist for further advice.

  3. Hae visit doctor for check…
    Hae visit doctor for check up

    1. Thank you Kathambi for your…
      Thank you Kathambi for your contribution.

  4. I regularly use marijuana…
    I regularly use marijuana and i suffered mumps when I was around 10 that left me partially deaf.What are my chances of being infertile.Am 20

  5. Can infertility be treated…
    Can infertility be treated and in which hospital in uganda

  6. what about quick ejaculation…
    what about quick ejaculation…. myt it be a sign of infertility… I feel it bad just the moment sm in her p**sy…..I ejaculate even before she feels the thing….

  7. I have been married since…
    I have been married since 2015 and we have been tying to make a baby but have not. what could possibly be wrong? please help

  8. Please can masturbation…
    Please can masturbation cause infertility in men?

  9. Sometimes afterwhen…
    Sometimes afterwhen urinating I feel some burning sensation (uncomfortable in urethra) or after ejaculating when I pee I feel it…???

    1. Hi Dan, this could be an…
      Hi Dan, this could be an infection perhaps a Sexually Transmitted Infection. It may help to get tested to find out what could be causing the pain.

  10. Need help want to get…
    Need help want to get pregnant not the normal one by donated sperm

    1. Caroline, Talk to your…
      Caroline, Talk to your Gynecologist who will be able to give you options depending with where you are located.

  11. Any by chance can I get a…
    Any by chance can I get a sperm dorna

    1. Caroline, Talk to your…
      Caroline, Talk to your Gynecologist who will be able to direct you to a facility you can have this done safely.

  12. is it possible for a…
    is it possible for a chryptochondria person to be fertile?

    1. Hi Gabriel, You are…
      Hi Gabriel, You are referring to Hypochondria which is an abnormal anxiety about one’s health, especially with an unwarranted fear that one has a serious disease despite assurances from health care providers. This is largely psychological and yes it can affect a person’s ability to get pregnant. Since there are treatment options for this, it maybe a good idea to start by treating the Hypochondria before deciding to get pregnant. We do wish you well.

  13. Can poor diet and lack of…
    Can poor diet and lack of exercise and working in a smoky room for long prevent a woman from getting pregnant?

  14. What ar the causes of over/…
    What ar the causes of over/ excess murstabation can it result to infertility or azoospermia ????

  15. Does it mean anyone who has…
    Does it mean anyone who has suffered from STI is infertile

    1. Hi Deiric, If an STI is left…
      Hi Deiric, If an STI is left untreated for a long time it can affect a person fertility. If one has had an STI in their life time and was treated early enough then it may not have caused damage to once reproductive organs.

  16. hey,I appreciate yo services…
    hey,I appreciate yo services.well,hv on many occasions had questions from my buddies regarding masturbation bt when I hv no idea.
    wht are the side effects ov masturbation?

  17. I erect,have sex,perfect in…
    I erect,have sex,perfect in bed and even ejaculate but no child.what could be the problem?

    1. Hey Ali, your partner is…

      Hey Ali, your partner is likely to get pregnant if you have sex around the time she is fertile and this is around the time she is ovulating. Also, it may take upto 12 months to get pregnant, if you have however been consistently trying for a period longer than the 12 months, it is important that you seek the services of a Specialist Gynecologist. Have a look at the following article for additional tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  18. How about masturating alot…
    How about masturating alot?will it lower fertility?

    1. Hi, No, masturbating will…

      Hi, No, masturbating will not make you infertile or lower your fertility. As long as your sexual organs are healthy, you will keep producing sperm, whether or not you masturbate. If one is trying to get their partner pregnant, it’s actually good to keep the semen flowing. Older sperm that has been hanging around in there for a few days are less likely to be in tip-top condition. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted

  19. Will masturbation lower you…
    Will masturbation lower you fertility?

    1. Hello Abdi, No, masturbating…

      Hello Abdi, No, masturbating will not make you infertile or lower your fertility. As long as your sexual organs are healthy, you will keep producing sperm, whether or not you masturbate. If one is trying to get their partner pregnant, it’s actually good to keep the semen flowing. Older sperm that has been hanging around in there for a few days are less likely to be in tip-top condition. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted

  20. Hi,i have two kids and the…
    Hi,i have two kids and the last born is seven yrs.I have from march this yr tried to get another child in vain.Whats worrying most is that I sometimes take long the ejaculate when ma dick is almost down and sometimes fail even to ejaculate.A’m 45yrs old and my wife is 40.Could I b infertile?

    1. Dear Kenga, so sorry about…

      Dear Kenga, so sorry about this. What you are experiencing is known as delayed ejaculation which means ejaculating way later than one desires including not ejaculating at all. This can be caused by psychological issues or even physical issues. It is not possible to determine whether you are infertile since it may take upto 12 months to get pregnant. You could consider taking a fertility test, but this is still early to be concerned. Check out the following articles for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  21. Hi ,,,I ave low sperm count …
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    1. Hi Geoffrey, was any test…

      Hi Geoffrey, was any test done to determine that you have a low sperm count? Have you spoken to a health provider? It is important you speak to a health provider who will be able to advice on what treatment you can take to address this. 

  22. What can be the problem when…
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    1. Hey Brian, do you mean that…

      Hey Brian, do you mean that you find it difficult to ejaculate a second time? First the first ejaculation maybe ‘violent’ like you put it because of the excitement. The second may not be as exciting as the first and also ejaculation or orgasm happens when one is aroused and sexually excited. When this doesn’t happen then one may not orgasm or ejaculate. Try take sometime after ejaculation to recover before trying again. Lastly, even if you don’t ejaculate you can still enjoy sex. Check out this article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/his-orgasms 

  23. Children are God given gift,…
    Children are God given gift, the issue of not getting children must not worry you that much especially those married one year or less. Maybe your are taking drugs like strong antibiotics that hinder your conceivably. Give time your spouse before you rush to hospital.
    Thank you

    1. Thank you Elmi for your…

      Thank you Elmi for your contribution. If partners have been trying for longer than 1 year, it is important to seek the services of a Gynecologist for check up, advice and possible treatment.

  24. can masturbation lead to…
    can masturbation lead to poor performance in sexual intercourse?

  25. What do the word hypospermia…
    What do the word hypospermia with elevated wbc and 50% motile spermatozoa with adherent particles mean?

    1. Hi Dennis, if this are…

      Hi Dennis, if this are results from tests done, I suggest you talk to your doctor or health provider and have them explain these based on the context of the tests. 

  26. Am 31know married for 5yrs I…
    Am 31know married for 5yrs I can’t get pregnant BT at age of early 20’s I used contraceptive have visited doctor several times BT am not able,,please help

    1. Hey Ivy, so sorry about this…

      Hey Ivy, so sorry about this. Since you have been trying for longer than 12 months, you need to visit a Specialist Gynecologist who will be able to give you and your partner advice. The Gynecologist can also conduct tests and inform you of next steps. Check out the following articlhttps://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-dontse;- 

  27. Does musterbation lead to…
    Does musterbation lead to infertility

  28. How many times should I…
    How many times should I ejaculated during sex

    1. Hi Kevin, during sex two…

      Hi Kevin, during sex two kinds of fluids will come out of your penis. The first is a clear fluid, also known as pre-cum. When one is aroused they may also ejaculate during sex after ejaculation they will loose their erection and cannot get one for sometime. Only after they get another erection and have sex are they likely to ejaculate again. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/ejaculation 

  29. How can I know that my wife…
    How can I know that my wife is pregnant after about 2 weeks

    1. Hi, she could take a…

      Hi, she could take a pregnancy test. There are tests available that one can do at home or get one done at a health facility. 

  30. Hi are pineapples unhealthy…
    Hi are pineapples unhealthy to a pregnant woman.?

    1. Hey JJ, no they are not…

      Hey JJ, no they are not. There is no reason for a pregnant woman to not take pineapples if she wants to. 

  31. Me and my wife having been…
    Me and my wife having been trying to get a kid for so long,few months ago she got pregnant but unfortunately her pregnancy was terminated due to the fact that the baby was not growing in her womb.ever since the time she got pregnant till now she has never received any periods and we always have frequent sex but she doesn’t seem to get pregnant.what could really be the cause????

    1. Hey Kevin, so sorry about…

      Hey Kevin, so sorry about this. It is not possible to tell with certainty what caused the miss carriage and this is why it is important that you seek the services of a Specialist Gynecologist who will be able to advise especially if you have been trying for longer than 5 years. Talk to your partner and together visit a specialist for further advice. https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts All the best.

  32. Can excessive mustarbation…
    Can excessive mustarbation bring about infertility?

  33. I never had wet dreams,what…
    I never had wet dreams,what wrong

  34. i have the same problem with…
    i have the same problem with my hubby, we’ve been together for a while now,we want to get a kid but even if we try no results ave not missed my periods n he is afraid to seek medical attention claiming the results might be negative please help me. am craving for answers, i need to know my situation.i feel like giving up in this rltnshp..

    1. Hey Sharzy, if you have been…

      Hey Sharzy, if you have been trying to get pregnant for longer than 12 months, it is important that you seek the services of a Specialist Gynecologist who will be able to advice. It is important that you seek these services together with your partner. If he is unwilling at this point you need to let him know what this is doing to you and how it makes you feel. It is important that your partner knows that most of the challenges can actually be addressed but the first step is getting to know what could be going on. Have a look at this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  35. I had a testicular tossion…
    I had a testicular tossion and it’s like the pain is still there please advise

    1. Hey Curtis, do visit a…

      Hey Curtis, do visit a medical facility for a check up.

  36. And can regular mustarbation…
    And can regular mustarbation lead to infertility??

  37. Does Masturbation has…
    Does Masturbation has negative effects on Men ?

  38. Can having an STI make you…
    Can having an STI make you infertile? I had a STI sometime ago but I was treated but now I am not able to make my partner pregnant. Please help.

    1. Hi Lennox, some STIs may…

      Hi Lennox, some STIs may affect ones fertility but is likely to happen when the STI is persistent and untreated. If you have been trying to get your partner pregnant for longer than 12 months, it is important that you seek the services of a specialist Gynecologist for a check up. Find a good time and plan to visit a specialist with your partner. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  39. if i have to impregnate my…
    if i have to impregnate my wife does it mean am infertile? if yes where can i get help?

  40. Does taking alcohol affect a…
    Does taking alcohol affect a mans fertility?

  41. Am having problem ….after…
    Am having problem ….after am having sex with my girl,after one shot my penis doesn’t elect again,,can this might couse pregnating??

    1. Hi James, This is completely…

      Hi James, This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where the penis cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you ejaculate in the first short your partner can still get pregnant and if you do not wish to get pregnant then you need to consider using a birth control method. Check out the following articles for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/semen-top-five-facts

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/types-of-birth-control

  42. Morning,i have been smoking…
    Morning,i have been smoking marijuana for the past 5 years,meaning i can’t have a baby?

    1. Hi Ivan, smoking is one…

      Hi Ivan, smoking is one those things that’s likely to lower ones fertility. It is not possible to say for certain that you can’t have a baby, but if you are looking to getting one you may want to begin by adopting a healthier lifestyle which will help improve your fertility. Have a look at the following articles for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/eight-tips-to-keep-your-sperm-healthy

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  43. If somebody have sex end…
    If somebody have sex end eventuary took those p2……4 taking them for long time or short time ..do they have effects

  44. I smoke a lot! of marijuana…
    I smoke a lot! of marijuana so am at risks!

  45. How can l have a baby boy, l…
    How can l have a baby boy, l have 2 daughters and l’m worried for same mistakes
    Coz ma husband need 3rd Born

    1. Hi Gathoni, first having two…

      Hi Gathoni, first having two baby girls is not a mistake. Does your husband want a third child or he want a third child who is a son? I suggest that you speak to your health care provider or Gynecologist for further advice. All the best.

  46. Wat if ukimastarbate na…
    Wat if ukimastarbate na sperm zikatae kutoka

    1. Hi John, this problem is…

      Hi John, this problem is known as delayed ejaculation means ejaculating way later than desired – or even not at all. The problem can also be caused by psychological factors or physical factors. If this happens all the time including when you have sex, it is important that you seek medical attention. Have a look at this article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

  47. My wife get two times…
    My wife get two times ectopic pregnancy what is could be the problem

    1. Hi Charles, so sorry about…

      Hi Charles, so sorry about this? Have you discussed this with your health provider? Ectopic pregnancies are caused by a number of reasons including, sexually-transmitted diseases, scarring from previous pelvic surgeries, history of ectopic pregnancy among other reasons. It is important that you seek the services of a Gynecologist who may conduct tests and advice on steps you can take. We wish you well. 

  48. Am an athletes can these…
    Am an athletes can these interfere with my fertility

    1. Hi Mikal, it appears that…

      Hi Mikal, it appears that your lead a health life style which is a good thing. If your reproductive organs are healthy over and above the exercise, the effect on your fertility should be a positive one.

  49. Hey,,how can I text my…
    Hey,,how can I text my fertility using my sperms without visiting a doctor

    1. Hey Kevin, If you do not…

      Hey Kevin, If you do not wish to see a doctor for this, you can try get home kits to test your own sperm. These kits aren’t as reliable as a proper test in a lab. They only tell you how much sperm there are in your semen, but not how healthy they are. Try checking with the Pharmacy, if such kits are unavailable you may have to settle on getting the test done at a health facility. Check this out;-  https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/fertility-and-infertility

  50. Each time I have sex with my…
    Each time I have sex with my girlfriend she usually told me after that anaumia saaana,,,,, what could be the problem

    1. Hey Eugine, have you talked…

      Hey Eugine, have you talked about what she thinks could be causing this? Sex can at times lead to or cause pain during or after sex especially when partners have dry sex. Dry sex is when intercourse or penetration takes place before the vagina lubricates. It can be addressed by spending more time in foreplay which leads to arousal and lubrication of the vagina. You could also consider using artificial lubrication to supplement vaginal lubrication. Another reason that may cause pain maybe the position during sex; changing the position may help address this. The presence of an infection in the vagina may also cause pain during sex and this should be treated. Lastly, pain maybe the result of fear, anxiety or even stress. It helps to communicate during sex and ensure that one’s partner is ready and relaxed before penetration happens. Check out the following for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/painful-sex-time-to-listen-up

  51. Does mastabation cause…
    Does mastabation cause infitile

  52. Dose mastabation cause…
    Dose mastabation cause someone to be infitile

  53. What is the effect of having…
    What is the effect of having sex almost everyday with your partner and both of you are healthy .is this wastage of sperms???

  54. Can i know if my sperm is…
    Can i know if my sperm is healthy by looking at my semen properties after ejaculation?

    1. Hi Simeon, you can’t tell if…

      Hi Simeon, you can’t tell if your sperm is healthy by just looking at your semen since the sperm in the semen is microscopic and you can’t tell it’s quality by just looking with your naked eyes. One may need to have some tests done to ascertain the quality of their sperm if in doubt. one can however do the following to keep their sperm healthy;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/eight-tips-to-keep-your-sperm-healthy

  55. I have been with my wife 2…
    I have been with my wife 2 years and we don’t have a child does this mean I am infertile? My wife has a child from a previous relationship.

  56. No more comment,,,,,i think…
    No more comment,,,,,i think is true…..bt wat if i have been havin sex and am not getting pregnant even if i risk???

  57. If I musturbate regularly…
    If I musturbate regularly will. It affect my fertility as a man?

  58. What medicine to improve…
    What medicine to improve fertility?

  59. We have been trying to get…
    We have been trying to get pregnant for 3 years we decided to consult a Gyna and I have been taking these fertility drugs but still nothing. We both really want a child.

    1. Hello Zenah, so sorry about…

      Hello Zenah, so sorry about this. However, it was the right thing to do to consult a Gynecologist. I suggest you continue to follow the instructions your doctor has given until they recommend something different. Remember, even in normal situations it may take up to 12 months for one to get pregnant. We wish you all the best. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  60. If you had an STD but you…
    If you had an STD but you got treated can it affect your fertility?

    1. Hi Chege, yes if Sexually…

      Hi Chege, yes if Sexually Transmitted Infections are left untreated they can cause infertility in both women and men. It is however important to note that there are other reasons that can cause infertility including genetic disorders, hormonal issues, stress among others. It maybe important to get checked if one feels they have fertility issues or if they are having challenges getting pregnant. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/male-fertility-problems-top-five-facts

  61. After trying to get my wife…
    After trying to get my wife pregnant for 8 months with no success I secretly went for a fertility test and I was confirmed my sperm is healthy which also meant the problem is on her side. I don’t know how to break the news to her!??

    1. Hi Benja, first, it can take…

      Hi Benja, first, it can take upto 12 months to get pregnant even where there are no problems. Since, it has been 8 months of trying, it is important you continue to try before having to seek the opinion of a specialist. On the other hand, it is important that you seek such help together as opposed to looking for it separately. Take sometime and think about whether you want to disclose your decision and results of the fertility test, remember the intention is not to show that you are okay and she is not, but it is a first step in getting to know if there are underlying reasons that may have delayed your partner from getting pregnant. We wish you all the best. Check out the following article for more information on getting pregnant;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  62. Can masturbation make you to…
    Can masturbation make you to be ome infertile?

  63. Thank you Love matters. How…
    Thank you Love matters. How can I make sure my sperm is healthy?

  64. If you have low libido does…
    If you have low libido does it mean you are infertility? If yes what food can. I use to naturally improve my libido? I am 32 years old man.

    1. Hello, low libido does not…

      Hello, low libido does not lead to infertility. Low libido means one has a reduced sex drive, whereas infertility in men is when one is unable impregnate someone. One can be healthy but have a reduced sex drive as a result of psychological issues like stress or depression. It is important to determine what is causing the low libido to find a solution. Check out the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

  65. Which is the best style to…
    Which is the best style to use to make a woman pregnant with a boy?

    1. Hi Faruk, I suggest you…

      Hi Faruk, I suggest you speak to a Gynecologist or Midwife for advice on this. All the best. 

  66. What if you only have…
    What if you only have testicle are you still fertile?

  67. My wife and I we have been…
    My wife and I we have been trying to have a child for 2 years in vain we are taking fertility medicines to help do they help?

  68. When is a woman most fertile?
    When is a woman most fertile?

    1. Hello Joan, 

      A woman is…

      Hello Joan, 

      A woman is most fertile during ovulation, the process by which the ovary releases a mature egg, which passes into the fallopian tube. Some women may feel a slight pain on one side of their lower back or abdominal area around the time of ovulation. Ovulation takes place about 14 days after the first day of your period. Check out this article for more info: https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/menstruation

  69. if a patient with…
    if a patient with azoospermia v wet dream, Does that mean that he is now fertile and that is sperm count have improved?

  70. I have been with my wife…
    I have been with my wife since January bu we sex but she don’t get pregnant, what’s the problem

    1. Hi Stephen, it can take upto…

      Hi Stephen, it can take upto twelve months for one to get pregnant. You are still within what is the expected period. However, after 12 months, if she is still not pregnant it will be important that you seek the services of a specialist who will advice you further. Check out the following article for more tips to increase your partner’s chances of getting pregnant;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  71. am stressed, what could be…
    am stressed, what could be the problem if I enjaculate inside her and then the sperm flow out of her genital

    1. Hi James, it is normal for…

      Hi James, it is normal for semen to spill out of the vagina after sex. This however doesn’t stop one from getting pregnant. 

  72. I have been having a long…
    I have been having a long time STI since 2011. I have been always going for treatment but the infection lessen for a while and again worsens until my penis has now shrinked.What could be the problem? and can it lead to infertility?

    1. Hi Dante, some STIs can…

      Hi Dante, some STIs can cause infertility unfortunately you didn’t mention what exact infection you have. I suggest you seek a second opinion, see a different doctor to see if the disease will be treated. We wish you all the best. 

  73. When I sleep at the mid of…
    When I sleep at the mid of night I fill so good after I wake up I found i’ve wet my bed do
    Is it means that am ok?

  74. Does masturbation lead to…
    Does masturbation lead to infertility in men

  75. Hi I have been with my wife…
    Hi I have been with my wife for a 6months and we engage in sex everyday but seemingly there is no sign of pregnancy unfortunately we both think its because I have one visible ball can it be the cause of my luck of children or its something g else

  76. Hello Annonymous , thank you…

    Hello Annonymous , thank you for reaching out to us. Having one visible testicle could mean that you may have an undescended testicle which if not treated can affect your firtility by almost Half. . We advise you see a medical professional for a comprehensive diagnosis. 
    Here is a list of health institutions that should be of help
    https://lovemattersafrica.com/get-help/clinics 

    Furthermore, check out our article that talks more about firtility and what you and your partner can do about it 🙂 

    https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/fertility-and-infertility

    https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/what-to-expect

  77. Pls have been married since…
    Pls have been married since 2012 and we have four daughter’s no male child pls what could be the problem? because I have undergoes text and they told me that my sperm was ok but I don’t know what to do again sir.

    1. Hello Done nnam, thank you…

      Hello Done nnam, thank you for reaching out. Not being able to bear a male child has nothing to do with your fertility. In fact, Men determine the sex of a baby depending on whether their sperm is carrying an X or Y chromosome. An X chromosome combines with the mother’s X chromosome to make a baby girl (XX) and a Y chromosome will combine with the mother’s to make a boy (XY).  Biologically, the probability to getting a baby girl is higher than getting a boy because of the chromosome of the parents, with male being XY and female XX. Additionally, the female chromosome in the male sperm cells are more resilient, hence have a higher chance of fertilising the female egg (ovum). According to fertility experts, the male sperm cells carrying the Y chromosomes are smaller, lighter, faster and more fragile than the female sperm cells carrying the X chromosomes, which are thought to be bigger, heavier and slower, but more resilient.
      Though these points are not guaranteed, 

      You are likely have a boy if you do the following:

      Be keen on your ovulation date: Engage in intercourse or use artificial insemination close to the ovulation date or the actual date of ovulation. The closer the date to ovulation (preferably a day or two), the higher the probability of conceiving a boy. Experts say that this will give the male sperm cells carrying the Y chromosome a greater shot to reaching the egg faster than the female sperm cells carrying the X chromosome.

      Avoid acidic foods, instead eat more alkaline foods. According to the pH diet theories, you can shift the pH of your body toward being more acidic or more alkaline based on what you eat. Taking foods that are rich in alkali such as whole fruits and vegetables foods favour the Y chromosome and thus, tend to survive much longer and swim faster.

      You are younger. According to fertility experts, the younger you are the better chances you might have a boy. Younger men generally have a higher sperm cell count, increasing their chances of a male sperm cell reaching the egg. On the other hand, younger women have more copious, alkaline-quality cervical fluid, which also favours the conception of boy.

      Avoid being stressed. Stressful situations such as work or environmental stresses like tight clothes and heat lower the sperm count in males. This reduces the chance of the male chromosome reaching the egg.

      Pre-implantation genetic diagnosis (PGD) is a method developed to help couples who have gone through genetic testing and know they are carriers of serious genetic disorders.

      Used in conjunction with in-vitro fertilisation (IVF), doctors extract one cell from the rapidly dividing embryo fertilised and examine it to determine gender. Only embryos of the desired sex will be implanted in a woman’s uterus.

      Sperm sorting gender selection technique involves separating girl-producing sperm (X-sperm) from boy-producing sperm (Y-sperm) in the lab and then implanting the desired gender sperm into the woman’s uterus via intrauterine insemination (IUI) or using the chosen sperm to fertilise an egg in vitro.

      Boxers vs. Briefs: Lab studies have found that X-carrying sperm cells can withstand slightly warmer temperatures than Y-carrying sperm. Based on this, for those that want to have a boy, men are encouraged to wear boxers. Briefs hold the testicles closer to the body, raising scrotum temperatures. Keep in mind that when you intentionally attempt to increase scrotum temperatures, you are at risk of lowering the overall sperm count.

      All the best buddy!

      P.s Remain proud to be the father of 4 incredible daughters, after all, they are a reflection of you and the love of your life, they will love you all the more for it!

  78. I have mustarbathed for…
    I have mustarbathed for almost ten year three times a week and am fearing i can be impotent is it possible

    1. Hello John, thank you for…

      Hello John, thank you for reaching out to us there is no scientific evidence that suggests that masturbation will affect your fertility. However, for optimal results when trying to get your partner pregnant it is advised that you try to to ejaculate for at least two days prior.

  79. Hi,am Alfred and I would…
    Hi,am Alfred and I would like to ask if am fertile because I have wet dreams but when I did sex I never ejaculate…so do I have a problem?

    1. Hi Alfred, 

      This could be a…

      Hi Alfred, 

      This could be a case of dry orgasm. Dry orgasm occurs when you reach sexual climax but don’t release semen from the penis (ejaculate) — or you release very little semen. Depending on the cause, dry orgasms can simply be a temporary occurrence or last permanently.  This condition can affect your fertility thus impact your ability to have children. If this problem has occurred several times, visit your doctor for tests. Your doctor will conduct a physical exam of your penis, testicles, and rectum.  Sending you well wishes!

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