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Penis shapes and sizes

Penises come in all shapes and sizes. And they all look different: straight, curved, long, thick, thin, circumcised, uncircumcised. One is no better than the other.

When soft, a penis is usually between 6 and 13 centimetres long. An erect one is usually somewhere between 7 and 17 centimetres long. The average erect penis is about 12 centimetres. Smaller penises grow more in size when they become erect compared to large penises.

Some boys and men joke a lot about the size of their penis or other people's penises. It’s often because they feel insecure, or because they want to look tough, or they want to make up for lack of knowledge.

If you want to measure your penis, do it when it’s erect, on the top side – the side closest to your belly.

Bananas in different sizes and shapes arranged vertically

Does size matter?

If you have a bigger penis, it doesn’t make you a better lover, and it doesn’t mean you’ll have better sex.

Girls or women find foreplay, affection and relationship satisfaction as important as their partner’s penis size.

Related: Do Women Prefer Big Penises?

Do condoms come in different sizes?

Yes. When you buy condoms, it’s important to find ones that fit you. Most condoms are made to fit average erect penis sizes (4.7 to 5.9 inches/12 to 17centimetres).

Different condoms in different shapes and sizes

Related: Vagina Shapes and Sizes: Are They All The Same?

Do people from some ethnic groups have larger penises than others?

There is no conclusive evidence to prove that certain ethnic groups have larger penises than others.

However, some organisations such as the World Health Organization’s have reported slight ethnic differences in average erect penis size that men of:

  •     African descent have slightly longer and wider penises
  •     European descent have medium-sized penises
  •     Asian descent have slightly narrower and shorter penises

Can you tell the length of someone’s penis by the size of his hands or feet?

No. There is no relationship between having a bigger shoe size or larger hands and having a larger penis.

Can you make a penis bigger in length or width?

There are no non-surgical techniques that can permanently make a penis bigger.

Other penis enlargement products like pills, weights, and stretching devices don’t usually work in the long term. At worst they can be very dangerous to your health.

Related: Does Penis Enlargement Work?

What is a micropenis?

A micropenis is a penis that measures less than 2.75 inches/7centimetres in length when erect. It happens if the level of the male hormone testosterone is too low when the baby is developing in the womb. Most boys and men who are worried they have a micropenis and who see a doctor don’t actually have the condition.


Most often, the penis looks smaller than it really is because it’s hidden by fat around the genitals. In other cases, if a boy has not reached puberty just yet, his penis may appear smaller compared to his body size. This is not something to worry about, because once puberty starts, the penis will also grow in length and width.

Related: Testicle shapes and sizes: What's Normal?

Did you learn something new?

I have heard of penis sprays that numb the penis to last longer. Just want to know which is the best brand to use. Does it have any effect on the woman, will she become numb also when a man is using?

Hey Jaymo, there are different penis sprays out there and it is important to talk to your health provider about the options in your location and carefully ready the instruction for use. Also, it is useful to talk to your partner when using such a product. Using it correctly will ensure minimal negative effects. 

Hey Kariuki,  What you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. There are a few things one can do to overcome this;- Also, overcoming this will take practice and time, and for this reason your partner will need your support and understanding.  

Hello Joab, this is also known as Monorchism, which means having only one testicle. This is often because the missing testicle is hiding inside the body, and hasn’t or never dropped down into the scrotum. Secondly, having one testicle doesn't mean one is infertile, one can can still produce enough sperm to get a women pregnant. Check out the following article for additional information;-

Hello Joakim, sex is better when partners talk about it. Find a good time and talk with your partner to get to know what she wants and what she likes during sex and also share with her what you like. This way you will both getting to know what you are looking for and what you both enjoy hence the experience will be better. Have a look at the following articles for additional tips;-

Hello Joel, first, there's little you can do to increase your penis size. The only option that is likely to work is surgery and even this options comes with complications. Having said that, having a bigger penis doesn't make one a better lover, however getting to know what your partner likes does. You will find that girls like an extended foreplay session. Do talk with your partner and get to know what they want and like. Check out the following article for more information;-

Hi Ben, you need to begin by finding out what is causing low libido. Many times the cause of low libido is psychological factors including stress or depression. Others causes include relationship problems, low testosterone levels and underlying medical conditions. Knowing what is causing the low libido is the first step toward addressing it. Also, it is normal to not feel like having sex once in a while, but when  this is consistently happening, it is important to take a closer look. Have a look at the following article;-

My penis is 17cm long but its thin am worried bcoz wen I fuck my partner doesn't make any sound and that makes it boring what should I do

Hey Josh, different people enjoy different things during sex and some people will not make a sound and this doesn't mean they are not enjoying the experience. The way to get to know if your partner is enjoying sex is to talk about and get to know what it is they like and enjoy. Find a good time and talk about sex, get to know what your partner likes and have them tell you what they like and want. If you would like for them to respond verbal, do let them know. This will greatly enhance the experience for your both. Have a look at the following articles for more tips;-

Hi David, this is completely normal. Getting night-time erections is a normal part of a healthy guy’s life, and one is not able to control whether they have them or not. The discomfort maybe as a result of the expanding and contracting of the blood vessels in the penis. If this pain persists for longer periods, it maybe important to seek medical advice. Check this out;-

Thu, 08/29/2019 - 05:59 pm
I have been masturbating from when I was 13 years. I am now 23 but I ejaculate when we are still caressing and kissing. What should do to for my erection to last longer?

Hello Ishmael, it seems you get sexually excited to soon and you are unable to control your ejaculation. This is known as premature ejaculation. Controlling your ejaculation and lasting long is something you can learn to do. Sexual inexperience is one of the reasons for premature ejaculation, but with experience one is able to gain better control of their ejaculation. Have a look at this article for some tips on how to address premature ejaculation;-

Hello Joe, having a bigger penis does make one a better lover. So first, you need to talk with your partner to get to know what they like and enjoy during sex. This way you know exactly what they want and enjoy. Sex is better when partner talk about it. Also, you will find that your girlfriend will enjoy an extended session of foreplay. Lastly, there little you can do to increase your penis size, hence, you best bet is to get to know the different things your partner enjoys. Have a look at the following article;-

Wed, 09/04/2019 - 03:27 pm
I mastibate since teenager and now am 28 i observed that my penis dont stand too erect and a lost for sex urge unlike before and I fine it difficult to control pls I need your advice on what to do to restore my dick to former glory ....I have place order for grandex xls

Hello Rayarn, I am not sure what you mean by restoring your penis to its former glory...masturbation has no negative effect speaking from a medical point of view. When masturbating the only goal maybe to ejaculate and overtime one learns to to ejaculate sooner. This is something one can unlearn and learn how to control their ejaculation. If you need to use any medicines, ensure you get a prescription from a health provider to avoid negative effects of the medicines. Have a look at the following article for additional information;-

Wed, 09/04/2019 - 04:04 pm
I heard that you can approximate if a guy has a big or small penis if you look at his height, shoe size or size of his hands. Please confirm if it is true because there is a guy who is into me and I need to know first.thanks.
I have noticed when I masturbate before I ejaculate another fluid comes out that is not sperm. I have never had sex with anyone. Am I ok?
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