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Readers of Love Matters tell of their own experiences – from when they got dumped or when they found a lump. And feel free to share your stories.

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Things to know before you get married

I am not an expert in marriage. I am a married man with expert analysis on my own marriage.

Is Valentine's Day that big a deal?

My life is too short to settle for just one day to show love.

How do queer Christians live with religion and sexuality?

Many queer people are religious in their own right, but there is a clash between their choices, scripture's rejection and other queer people's contempt of organized religion.

What to do when you meet a mansplainer!

By virtue of being a man, one becomes an expert in multiple fields, and must therefore explain all things to women.

Safety first: tips for navigating homophobia

Restrictive laws and cultural norms means African queer reality is rife with cases of psychological & physical trauma. The queer individuals' stories below outline some tips to help you keep safe as you navigate queer-phobia.

Not all men...

We started this rallying call and hashtag to speak out against the rampant sexual and physical abuse of women at the hands of men. It was urgent to call them out because men were and are literally killing us.

The power of 16 Days of Activism

Every year we demand a change and demand an end to violence. But the violence persists.

Would I have an abortion again?

I was an adult fully capable of raising a child. Capable of caring for a child. Capable of bearing a child. But I did not want one.

Dating someone with a mental illness

One in four people you know have struggled or are struggling with one mental illness or the other. These people could be family members, close friends, and even current or prospective partners.

My abortion at 24

When I found out that I was pregnant, I called my friend for lunch and told her my decision. I wasn’t sure how she’d react. We were good friends but would she have my back?

Bisexuality: biology + chemistry?

Life is sometimes like a scratch card, once you dig under the surface, all is revealed. Sexuality is the same in this way as it isn’t always clear cut or apparent. This is why there are so many sexual identities and orientations and why some people, like Terry* discover themselves along the way.

Disabled and LGBT: double the trouble

'Disabled people have no interest in sex, right? And, if they do, they are straight only. A disabled LGBT person? Now that's just crazy talk!' Absolutely not!