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Would I have an abortion again?

I was an adult fully capable of raising a child. Capable of caring for a child. Capable of bearing a child. But I did not want one.

Dating someone with a mental illness

One in four people you know have struggled or are struggling with one mental illness or the other. These people could be family members, close friends, and even current or prospective partners.

My abortion at 24

When I found out that I was pregnant, I called my friend for lunch and told her my decision. I wasn’t sure how she’d react. We were good friends but would she have my back?

Bisexuality: biology + chemistry?

Life is sometimes like a scratch card, once you dig under the surface, all is revealed. Sexuality is the same in this way as it isn’t always clear cut or apparent. This is why there are so many sexual identities and orientations and why some people, like Terry* discover themselves along the way.

Disabled and LGBT: double the trouble

'Disabled people have no interest in sex, right? And, if they do, they are straight only. A disabled LGBT person? Now that's just crazy talk!' Absolutely not!

Does sex feel better without a condom?

What if your boyfriend can't orgasm with a condom on? What comes first for you: pleasure or safety? Or can you have both?

Kinda sorta safe-ish days

'Safe days' – the time frame of your cycle when you won't get pregnant, even if you have unprotected sex. At least in theory...

Dating: getting turned down

When you're trying to date, it all begins with the ask. To ask someone if they want to go on a date with you or not, or want to sleep with you or not – after all, it's polite.

The perfect way to ask someone out

You have been admiring her from a distance. Now you just have to ask her out on a date. Easy, right? No, terrifying. But it doesn't have to be...

Knowing yourself – the biblical way

Is masturbation the most unchristian relationship you can have with your body?

We are pro-life – but only when we are ready for kids

I don’t think I’ve met a Nigerian who doesn’t frown upon abortion. But we don't applaud the women who choose to be single mothers either. Either way, the girls are seen as wayward.

Gender norms: silent relationship killers

It’s a different world we’re living in. Women are no longer expected to be superhumans who take care of every task and person in their home while holding down a job.