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How to kiss

Kissing is usually the first thing you do when you fall in love. But how do you start? And when are you doing it right?

Tongue kissing, sometimes called French kissing, is when you kiss with your mouths open and your tongues touch. You can do this in all sorts of ways.

Don’t worry too much about getting it right – there’s no such thing as kissing lessons. You learn it yourself, from practice.

Tongue kissing often starts with kissing on the lips. You move your lips, and explore the other person's lips gently with your own. Then you turn your head to one side a little, so your noses don’t get in the way. Open your mouth, and slowly let your tongue slip inside your partner’s. Let your tongues glide over and caress each other.

If it feels good, you’re doing it right!

Make sure the other person is also enjoying it. And be clear about what you like. Some people like wet lips, others don’t. Some like kissing gently, others like having the other person’s tongue deep inside their mouth.

Build up slowly. Stop now and then and look each other in the eyes. If you can tell the other person wants to stop, don’t worry – just try again later. Ten minutes of non-stop kissing is pretty intense.

Make sure your breath is fresh

Kissing can be really nice, but it’s not much fun if your breath smells. A lot of people have bad breath sometimes, especially first thing in the morning. Brushing your teeth well and flossing helps. And watch what you eat – strong spices and garlic can make your breath smell. But if you eat the same thing as the other person, you don’t notice it as much.

Kissing and caressing

Some people keep their eyes shut when they kiss. Other people find it exciting to keep their eyes open. Some people make little noises, while others don’t make a sound.

When you’re kissing, you can also use your hands. You can caress each other at the same time, and explore each other’s sensitive places. Kissing can also lead to sex – but it doesn’t have to.

Hi, partner is really a bad kisser and I have been agonizing about how to break this info to him. I am begging to like him kissing with me how can I tell him without hurting his feelings because he thinks he's got it down. We have together for 5 months now.

Hi Shi, kissing is something that partners learn as they do it. With time partners find what is their comfort is and what they enjoy. The same applies to when partners choose or start having sex. The only way to get there is to talk with your partner, find a good time and talk with your partner about what you like and enjoy. Remember to start with what you feel they do well and then go on to talk about what could be better. It is also a good time for them to also let you know what they like and together you can agree on what you both will enjoy. Have a look at this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

Dear Keilah, having sex during your periods has no negative effect, infact it can help relieve some of the pain during periods. There is however, a small chance that one could get pregnant and for this reason it is important to use birth control. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/sex-during-your-period-top-five-facts

Hi Joan, kissing will not get one infected with HIV. Remember, it is the exchange of fluids such as blood, vaginal fluids, semen, breast milk that can expose one to a HIV infection. Have look at the following article for what's safe and what's not;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/sti-prevention/staying-safe

I have a new girlfriend we caress and kiss but we dint have sex. I get a hard erection each time but we stop before going too far. If I dont ejaculate will it have a bad effect on my body?

Hey Charlie, you really don't have to ejaculate every time you get an erection as a result of arousal. Not ejaculating will there not have any effect on you. It is important to consider using protection should you choose to have intercourse. Condoms, can help prevent both Sexually Transmitted Infections and unplanned pregnancies. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/ejaculation

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