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I want my erection to stay harder for longer

I want my penis to stay erect longer. And I want it to be harder. Like really strong! What do I do?

Why?

The first thing you need to do is to ask you why. Do you think something is wrong and your penis isn’t hard enough, or you can’t go as long as you want?
It could be that there is a problem: you could either struggle with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction.

Penis problems

Erectile dysfunction (ED) means that you either can’t get an erection or your erection doesn’t last long. ED is a sexual dysfunction that people also call ‘impotence’. It can affect men of all ages, even though most men who have problems are older. In recent years, more and more young men have been developing issues in this department.

Premature ejaculation (PE) means that you come earlier than you would like to. It’s really common. PE may result from both physical and psychological problems, though it is usually difficult to find a clearly discernable cause.

There are things you can do with both PE and erectile dysfunction. Check out our tips on overcoming ED and PE.

Want to learn more? Read: Erectile Dysfunction: What To Do

Or is everything normal?

But chances are everything is actually okay. Expectations, and particularly porn, make many men feel insecure about their abilities in bed. Don’t rush through sex: it’s a marathon, not a sprint.

You don’t have to go through four, five, or even more rounds a night to be a good lover.

Men who aren’t quite sure how to be good lovers often look for quick fixes and think that this will make a difference to them, and, even more importantly, to their sex partners.
But here’s a secret: to be good in bed, you don’t need to have the hardest, biggest, longest-lasting boner in the world.

The solution

What really matters are that you are in sync with your partner. Do you understand what they want? Spend time talking about what you both like and dislike and listen!

Take your time during foreplay and look out for your partner’s reactions. Women need much longer to get aroused than men do, so take your time. But regardless of who you are sleeping with, taking it slow is always a good idea. And then, once you are both satisfied and had a good time, don’t just turn around and fall asleep. Have what’s called ‘afterplay’: cuddle, talk, and enjoy each other’s company.

I guarantee you: you and your partner being in sync is far more important than a hard, long-standing erection.


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Recent Comments (355)

  1. Have really liked the…
    Have really liked the explanation,surely its much helpful,wanna apply
    Thank you!

    1. Hey Vincent, you are welcome…

      Hey Vincent, you are welcome. We wish you success as you put this in practice. 

    2. Hahahaha apply for me as…
      Hahahaha apply for me as well dudeb

        1. And what if I’m afraid of…
          And what if I’m afraid of messing up like nkt being able to get to round two really quick. This makes me feel uncomfortable cause never had sex before and there’s this lady who wants to get me laid. I’m really afraid of letting her down like not being able to give my best or even getting to the next round in time. Please help here.

          1. This is completely normal…

            This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.

          2. I happend to experiece this…
            I happend to experiece this twice.. Is it normal or i should seek medical assistance?

          3. Hello Emmanuel, thanks for…

            Hello Emmanuel, thanks for getting in touch and asking a great question. Well, as the article above mentions, erectile dysfunction is common among men and can always be fixed depending on what is causing it so even if it has happened twice, but you have overcome it then it is fine. But if you are worried about it recurring, or if you are still currently experiencing it, visiting a doctor or a counsellor could help you determine the root cause and help you overcome the issue. Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

          4. ok what if u reales within a…
            ok what if u reales within a second what are the way 2 inprove on that issue

          5. Dear Anonymous, what you are…

            Dear Anonymous, what you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety, or even stress. The anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men, it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

            There are a few things you can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other nonsexual things, or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis. 

            In the long term, one can ensure they eat healthily and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

            The following articles provide more information;-

            https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
            https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

            Love Matters Team.

          6. Round one mostly doesn’t…
            Round one mostly doesn’t last….
            After round one wash the banana with cold water and go back to bed cuddle a little bit then when the erection come for the second time my friend you won’t fail her.. drugs are not always the solution

          7. Hi, thank you for your input.

            Hi, thank you for your input.

    3. fucking shity info but might…
      fucking shity info but might actually work

      1. Hi, why do you feel this way…

        Hi, why do you feel this way? What do you disagree with? Or what do you feel does not resonate?

        1. I might prepare my partner…
          I might prepare my partner till he feels to have sex, but immediately l penetrate into, I feel to ejaculate, how can u help

          1. Hello Anonymous, thank you…

            Hello Anonymous, thank you for reaching out to us. This is very common so do not worry, you are not alone. There are some remedies that could help you last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation, you should go see a doctor.
            One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until you almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop, and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response. This should be repeated many times.
            Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. You could also masturbate before having sex.
             

    4. Hey, me and my partner will…
      Hey, me and my partner will are far from each other and sometimes I get it hard to control my desires, so I mustarbate may be ones in a week I fear diseases. With me mustarbating am I help myself or am poisoning myself …?

      1. Hi Kelvin, thank you for…

        Hi Kelvin, thank you for reaching out to us. It is understandable that you would think that masturbation is not right because we are brought up thinking it is a bad thing to do. Almost everyone masturbates – it’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s just part of being a sexual person. This article has some information that you should find helpful.

        https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted

    5. How do I know that my…
      How do I know that my partner got satisfied

      1. Hi David, have you…

        Hi David, have you considered having an open discussion and simply ask her?

    6. Thanks for the advice. God…
      Thanks for the advice. God bless you.

      1. Thank you for your feedback,…

        Thank you for your feedback, we appreciate it.

  2. What is the problem with my…
    What is the problem with my boyfriend because he doesn’t come at all during sex and after

    1. Hello Resty, your boyfriend…

      Hello Resty, your boyfriend is experiencing delayed ejaculation which means ejaculating way later than desired – or even not at all. This is caused by psychological factors. This could include, fear of sex, having been abused, or thinking that sex isn’t good (that it’s, for example, dirty or a sin). Have a look at the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

  3. Why does my penis refuse to…
    Why does my penis refuse to stand after ejaculation of first round?

    1. Dear Seith, it is completely…

      Dear Seith, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where the penis cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. 

          1. My problem is whenever i…
            My problem is whenever i took alcohol i last up to 17 mins but if i didn’t take anything i last 2 to 3 mins what’s d course

          2. Hi Emmanuel, what you seem…

            Hi Emmanuel, what you seem to  be experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation. It means you usually get sexually excited too soon. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or even work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as one gets older and gain more experience, they also become better at controlling their ejaculation. On the other hand, alcohol appears to interfere with your response to sex leading to a delayed ejaculation. Having sex under the influence of alcohol is also risky since you may not be able to effectively use protection and this will expose you to the risk of Sexually Transmitted Infections. Have a look at the following article for more information;-  https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

            https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-and-alcohol-top-five-facts

          3. Am recently experiencing…
            Am recently experiencing fast ejaculation while I still have the strength,please what’s the solution to my problem

          4. Hi Ifeco, what you…

            Hi Ifeco, what you experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation. It means you usually get sexually excited too soon. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or even work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as one gets older and gains more experience, they also become better at controlling their ejaculation. There are a few other things one can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

          5. My wife do complain that she…
            My wife do complain that she’s not satisfied, that she need me to last on her, minimum 30 minutes

          6. Am so super impressed with…
            Am so super impressed with all of what have learnt today, you just made me a super lover…. Gratitude love matters

          7. You are welcome Ambrosino,…

            You are welcome Ambrosino, we are glad you found this article useful. 

      1. I also experience this and…
        I also experience this and it has been giving me inside questions

        1. Hello Jonie, what exactly…

          Hello Jonie, what exactly are you experiencing so we can support appropriately? 

        1. What’s funny Michael?

          What’s funny Michael?

  4. If I ejaculate immediately I…
    If I ejaculate immediately I start having sex what is the reason?

    1. Hello Gideon, what you are…

      Hello Gideon, what you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. There are a few things one can do to overcome this, have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

       

  5. How can you make sure your…
    How can you make sure your sperm is strong and healthy?

  6. When I get a blow job I don…
    When I get a blow job I don’t ejaculate soon but when I insert penis into vagina I ejaculate very soon. Why is this?

  7. My girlfriend feels pain in…
    My girlfriend feels pain in her vagina when we have sex. Is there a way to deal with this?

    1. Hi Eddie, there are a number…

      Hi Eddie, there are a number of reasons that can cause pain during sex. These include, the sex position during sex, the presence of an infection in the vagina, psychological issues like fear or stress, dry sex and in some cases the size of the penis. There are a few things you and your girlfriend can do to address the pain. Have a look at the following article for tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/when-sex-hurts

  8. Recently my girlfriend…
    Recently my girlfriend visited me but I could not erect. She tried to touch me and kiss me but I just could not erect?

    1. Hi, this is something that…

      Hi, this is something that happens to most men at some point in their sex life. There are a number of reasons that may lead to this including stress, performance anxiety among other reasons. If this only happened once it should not be a concern but when it happens often it maybe important to seek medical advice. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

  9. I’m a victim of masturbation…
    I’m a victim of masturbation and every time I have sex within 5minutes my penis won’t stand again. and when it falls it won’t stand until next 5 minutes please tell me the solution and what can I do I need your help

    1. Hey Paulinus, first, it is…

      Hey Paulinus, first, it is normal to loose an erection after ejaculation. Also, it should only be concerning if you ejaculate under two minutes or when it takes longer than 30 minutes to ejaculate. After ejaculation it takes sometime before one can get another erection, this period of time is known as refractory period. It varies from one person to another and there is no real way to reduce how much time it takes before you can gain another erection. All you can do is work with your body, relax and try not to stress about getting another since this may make it even more difficult. In time you will be ready to have sex again. Have a look at the following article;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  10. My partner has the same…
    My partner has the same problem,he normally goes one round ofwch so first leaves me hanging, what shall I do?

    1. Hey Lavyne, what your…

      Hey Lavyne, what your partner is experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. There are a few things he can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation Overcoming this will take practice and time, and for this reason your partner will need your support and understanding. Also, after ejaculation it takes sometime before gaining another erection. This time varies from one person to another, all your partner can do is to work with their own body. 

  11. Hi, am John, I stay long in…
    Hi, am John, I stay long in sex at times, and at time I realize very fast although I engaged in masturbation before

    1. Dear John, masturbation is…

      Dear John, masturbation is one of the safest, easiest forms of sex. It’s about getting to know your body and your likes and dislikes. Actually, you can teach your partner what you enjoy when you have sex. John, there’s nothing shameful or unhealthy about it!

      Ejaculating so fast or taking longer is affected by many things, this includes anxiety, excitement and other psychological factors. Age is also a factor- the less experienced one is, they are likely to ejaculate faster than someone who is more experienced. Perhaps you can observe and see what could be bringing the changes. 

  12. Sometimes I last longer in…
    Sometimes I last longer in bed sometimes I don’t whats wrong with me ,and I’m addicted to porn and masturbation how do I overcome it

    1. Hey Logo, ejaculating sooner…

      Hey Logo, ejaculating sooner than you want or much later than you desire are caused by psychological factors. This could be fear, stress, anxiety including cases where one may have been abused, or thinking that sex isn’t good. There is really nothing wrong with masturbation, it has no medical effects. However, if one is engaged in masturbation to the point they miss out on important tasks like work or school. It is important to identify what is causing you to masturbate, what triggers the masturbation, then begin by avoiding the triggers. Take one day at a time eventually you will be able to have better control. Check out the following articles for more tips;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/i-am-addicted-to-porn-and-masturbation

  13. When I have sex with My…
    When I have sex with My boyfriend, he always ejaculate in 3minutes. What happen?

    1. Hello Charity, what your…

      Hello Charity, what your partner is experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and as he gains more experience he also gets better in controlling ejaculation. There are a few things he can do to to help better control his ejaculation;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation Lastly, overcoming this will take practice and time, and for this reason your partner will need your support and understanding. 

  14. I realize so fast,what is…
    I realize so fast,what is the cause please

    1. Hello Austin, do you mean…

      Hello Austin, do you mean you ejaculate sooner that you want to? This is known as premature ejaculating. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and as he gains more experience he also gets better in controlling ejaculation. There are a few things he can do to to help better control his ejaculation;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  15. My husband finds it…
    My husband finds it difficult to ejaculate sometimes after long thrusting. What could be the reason? Pls

    1. Hey Ey, what your partner…

      Hey Ey, what your partner maybe experiencing experiencing is known as Delayed Ejaculation, where it takes longer than 30 minutes for one to ejaculate. This is something that happens to most men at different times of their sex life. One should concerned when it happens very often. It is caused by psychological factors which may include stress, fear or even anxiety. It maybe important to seeking medical attention if this happens often. Check out the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men 

  16. after a foreplay of about 10…
    after a foreplay of about 10-15 minutes, immediately i penetrate I don’t last more than 2 minutes at first round, from the second round and above I maintain average time of 3.5-4 minutes before ejaculation.but i don’t feel satisfied with the duration, I desire for longer time.
    is’t okay (natural/normal)?
    is there ways of lasting longer than this?
    what are they possible ways without side effect?
    thanks.

  17. I want to get hard long…
    I want to get hard long lasting erection for 2-3hours

  18. can taking too much drink…
    can taking too much drink containing sugar be a reason for Premature Ejaculation. And is PE a permanent situation?

    1. Hi Tony, not really…

      Hi Tony, not really. Premature ejaculation is caused by a number of reasons including psychological issues like fear, performance anxiety and stress. In younger men it could be as a result of sexual inexperience; as one gains more experience they also gain better control of their ejaculation. The following are tips on how you can overcome premature ejaculation;- You could begin by regular exercises, eat healthy – avoid lots of processed foods, relax during sex by taking short breaks and deep breaths. You can also distract yourself by thinking about non sexual things during sex. Always begin with foreplay, you will find that your partner does enjoy an extended foreplay session. Check the article for more tips;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  19. Why does precum starts…
    Why does precum starts coming out from my penis when I’m erect

    1. Hey Collins,  precum, is a…

      Hey Collins,  precum, is a clear fluid that is released when a man becomes sexually aroused, but before he ejaculates. It is also useful for for lubricating during intercourse.

  20. I cant last longer in sex…
    I cant last longer in sex
    Tho i come after 30seconds first round of sex but my boner will stil hard

    1. Hello Emmanuel, you seem to…

      Hello Emmanuel, you seem to be experiencing what is known as Premature ejaculation, which means you ejaculate sooner that you wish. This can be caused by a number of reasons including fear, performance anxiety, stress. In younger men it could be as a result of sexual experience; as one gains more experience they also gain better control of their ejaculation. The following are tips on how you can overcome premature ejaculation;- You could begin by regular exercises, eat healthy – avoid processed foods, relax during sex by taking short breaks and deep breaths. You can also distract yourself by thinking about non sexual things. Always begin with foreplay, you will find that your does enjoys an extended foreplay session. If you still have an erection after ejaculation you can still continue with intercourse. Check the articles;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  21. after 1st round. why my…
    after 1st round. why my penis well not stand to perform another

    one?

    1. Hello Yusuf, it is…

      Hello Yusuf, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. 

  22. What can I do to have a long…
    What can I do to have a long time sex,and what to eat especially before the sex

    1. Hi Tobex, some foods are…

      Hi Tobex, some foods are known to stimulate ones desire for love making, different foods work for different people. These foods may stimulate the desire, there are a few things however one can do to last long during sex. Have a look at the following articles for additional information;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/aphrodisiacs-top-five-facts

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  23. I used to have long sex, but…
    I used to have long sex, but I now come quickly. What is the solution?

    1. Hey Son, what you seem to be…

      Hey Son, what you seem to be experiencing is known as premature ejaculation which can be caused by a number of reasons including fear, performance anxiety or stress. In younger men it could be as a result of sexual experience, but as one gains more experience they also gain better control of their ejaculation. There are a few things one can do to better control their ejaculation. Check this article for tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  24. Why is that after I relist…
    Why is that after I relist my pension won’t go up

    1. Hello Penuel, it is…

      Hello Penuel, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where the penis cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. 

  25. It troubles a lot that…
    It troubles a lot that whenever I want to havecsex my penis will not be strong enough for penetration even after foreplay.Moreover if I manage to get it ererected as soon as I started within few minutes I will come. What should I do? Do I take enhancement pills

    1. Hey Abba, I am not sure what…

      Hey Abba, I am not sure what you mean by strong enough, but if you get an erection and you are able to have intercourse then this is okay. On the other hand, if you ejaculate sooner than you want you could be experiencing premature ejaculation. There are a few things you can do toward better controlling your ejaculation, check our this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation Lastly, only take pills that have been prescribed to you by a professional health care provider. 

  26. immediately a woman start…
    immediately a woman start romancing me,i do cum immediately and I don’t last longer on bed

    1. Hi Emmanuel, it appears that…

      Hi Emmanuel, it appears that you get very excited too soon to the point that you ejaculate. This is known as premature ejaculation, where you ejaculate sooner than you want to. This is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make them ejaculate much earlier or stress from either the relationship or work could also affect how soon they ejaculate. In younger men, it could be the result of sexual inexperience, as one gets older however and also gains more experience they become better at controlling their ejaculation. There are a few things your partner can do to overcome Premature ejaculation, see the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation  

  27. i don’t know why, i cant…
    i don’t know why, i cant last for even 2 minutes, please tell me why and help me please

    1. Hi Lukman, what you are…

      Hi Lukman, what you are experiencing is known as premature ejaculation which can be caused by a number of reasons including fear, performance anxiety or stress. In younger men it could be as a result of sexual inexperience; as one gains more experience they also gain better control of their ejaculation. Check the following article for some tips on addressing premature ejaculation;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  28. It been long I have sex but…
    It been long I have sex but now that I have sex my sperm watery and my penis isn’t coming up I have to force sperm out what can i do

    1. Hi WAAje, what do you mean…

      Hi WAAje, what do you mean by you have to force sperm out? Also, are you unable to gain and keep an erection? Not having sex for sometime does not make one unable to gain or even maintain an erection. However, it is possible for a man to not to be able to gain or even keep an erection for various reasons including stress or anxiety. If it happens all the time you want to have sex, it is important to seek medical advice. Have a look at the following article;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-top-five-facts

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/ejaculation

    1. We appreciate your…

      We appreciate your contribution Wasi. 

  29. What do i do to last longer
    What do i do to last longer

    1. Hi there, if you ejaculate…

      Hi there, if you ejaculate in under two minutes, it means you could be experiencing premature ejaculation. It also means you usually get sexually excited too soon. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or even work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as one gets older and gain more experience, they also become better at controlling their ejaculation. There are a few other things one can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  30. I hardly get erection and…
    I hardly get erection and even when have the erection it doesn’t last.

    1. Hi Don, this could be a case…

      Hi Don, this could be a case of erectile dysfunction especially if it happens each time you want to have sex. It is therefore important that you seek medical advice. Erectile dysfunction is when a man can’t either gain or keep an erection. There a number of reasons that can cause it and this is why it is important to talk to a health care professional to find out what could be causing it and then prescribe appropriate treatment. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-top-five-facts

  31. I also need a long penis…
    I also need a long penis what can I do to make long enough

    1. Hello Bill, there is not…

      Hello Bill, there is not much you can do to make you penis longer or even thicker. Product and gadgets in the market do not provide permanent result and can lead to complications. On the other hand, having a longer or larger penis doesn’t make one a better lover. It maybe useful to get to know what your partner likes and wants during sex. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/six-myths-about-increasing-penis-size 

  32. Hello!my problem which I…
    Hello!my problem which I have, I can last till I and my partner we release but my penis can’t erect that time, it takes hours but before, it took like 20to 30min! what’s a problem my friends?

    1. Hello Celestin, it is…

      Hello Celestin, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. 

  33. My fiance complained of my…
    My fiance complained of my penis size that it doesn’t size her virginal enough she complain of not enjoying sex with me due to the fact that I’m not big enough and her virginal is quite wide for me too,and we are planing to get married. What can i do as regards to this

    1. Hello Femi, first, penises…

      Hello Femi, first, penises come in different shapes and sizes and so do vaginas. There is little you can do to make your penis bigger, however even if you could, a bigger penis doesn’t make one a better lover. Also, intercourse is only one of the activities during sex, there is so much more you can do to enjoy each other. Lastly, vaginal intercourse only will not get a woman to orgasm during sex since this doesn’t give sufficient attention to the clitoris which is one of the most sensitive parts. One would have to lick it or stroke it with a finger. Have a look at the following article for more tips;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/small-penis-its-all-in-the-mind

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms

  34. I am having erectile…
    I am having erectile dysfunction.pls i need solution to it.

    1. Hi Ken, the solution is…

      Hi Ken, the solution is depended upon the cause of the erectile dysfunction. It can be caused by either psychological issues or physical issues. It is important that you consider seeking medical advice and treatment as necessary. Have a look at the following articles for additional information;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-top-five-facts

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do

  35. When me and girlfriend are…
    When me and girlfriend are in bed we do romance I always hard till we finish romance. But this particular day bcos she is a virgin a took a harbal mixture to increase my strength and body painkiller drug but when we start to be having sex I don’t hard again. Pls I need a solution to this

    1. Hi Steve, it is difficult…

      Hi Steve, it is difficult for me to determine what could have happened since you took herbal treatment and its effect on your body. Also, if it only happened when you took the herbal medicine, it is perhaps the herbs that did this. Try not taking the herbs to see what happens.  

  36. For me to statify my virgin…
    For me to statify my virgin babe and to prove to her that am capable, I took a herbalmisture and Ibucap body painkiller. To my surprise I notice that at the first my penis is hard but at some point it just continue to come down. Can it be the painkiller drug I use.

    1. Hi Steve, it is difficulty…

      Hi Steve, it is difficulty to tell what led to this since you took herbs as well. Have you tried having sex without taking the herbs or pain killers?

  37. After sex my penis dont…
    After sex my penis dont usually go down easily is it normal..

    1. Hey Sammy, usually one will…

      Hey Sammy, usually one will loose their erection soon after ejaculating. If this doesn’t happen for your, it means you can continue to have sex. This can be a good thing since you may find that you and your partner will not climax at the same time. If you are however having an erection that last so long that you begin to experience pain, it maybe important that you seek medical advice. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men  

  38. Please how can i increase…
    Please how can i increase the size of my penis thanks

    1. Hi Ayomi, there is little…

      Hi Ayomi, there is little you can do to increase your penis size with permanent results. The products in the market do not work. What might work is getting a surgery done but even this will come with the risk of many complications. Having said that, having a larger penis doesn’t make one a better lover. What is likely to make one a better lover is understanding the needs of their partner  by talking with them about sex. Most women will prefer an extended session of foreplay as opposed to a short one and this makes them enjoy the entire experience better. Have a look at this article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/penis-size-myths-busted

  39. Good day. Please after…
    Good day. Please after aspiration was done to my boyfriend, he didn’t get erection like before. Please please and please what can I do to help him…

    1. Hi Sunny, it maybe helpful…

      Hi Sunny, it maybe helpful to speak to your health care provider for further advice on what could be causing this and how to best address it. 

  40. Hi I love your articles, but…
    Hi I love your articles, but do you guys do hook up for serious singles like me?

    1. Hi Kelvin, sorry to say, we…

      Hi Kelvin, sorry to say, we are not a dating service and cannot assist you in finding a partner. Best thing to do is take some time with yourself, find hobbies, practice things that you love and try to learn how to be happy with yourself. Happiness and confidence is attractive in a person and when you find yourself in a good place people will find you. As always, feel free to ask us any questions about love, sex or relationships if they come up. Best of luck.

  41. y is it that i dont last long
    y is it that i dont last long

    1. Hi there, it appears you are…

      Hi there, it appears you are experiencing what is known as Premature Ejaculation. It means you usually get sexually excited too soon. This is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or even work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as one gets older and gain more experience, they also become better at controlling their ejaculation. There are a few other things one can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  42. My problem is anytime i…
    My problem is anytime i wanted to have sex with my partner i do ejaculate before even inserting my dick, and i usually feel depressed and can’t even make attempt again.
    What can be the cause and what is the treatment please.

    1. Hello Mayor, what you are…

      Hello Mayor, what you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, where you ejaculate sooner than you want to. It also means you usually get sexually excited too soon. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or even work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as one gets older and gain more experience, they also become better at controlling their ejaculation. There are a few other things one can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  43. Please wat could be the of…
    Please wat could be the of this
    If i have first round of sex i will get tired and sleep off
    I won’t have strength to continue the second round

    1. Hi Fred, it is completely…

      Hi Fred, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where the penis cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. 

  44. hello i dont take long in…
    hello i dont take long in bed how can i curb this problem????

    1. Hi Stanley, what you seem to…

      Hi Stanley, what you seem to be experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is when you ejaculate sooner than you want to. This is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. There are a few things he can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation 

  45. Can infection causes weak…
    Can infection causes weak erection and watering sperm?

    1. Hi Pugar, I am not sure what…

      Hi Pugar, I am not sure what you mean by weak erection but when one is unable to get or to maintain an erection, this maybe a sign of erectile dysfunction. Sperm is usually a sticky white liquid, if what you are experiencing is different then it maybe useful to get advice from a healthcare provider. Have a look at the following articles for more information;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-top-five-facts

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/eight-tips-to-keep-your-sperm-healthy

  46. What is the solution for PE…
    What is the solution for PE and ED.. Any solution it Happens to me.. Really tired of that!

    1. Hi Solomon, the first step…

      Hi Solomon, the first step to know what is causing PE or ED is to get to know what the cause. The causes may either be physiological or psychological. Have a look at the following articles for more information on both and their possible solutions;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-top-five-facts

  47. I don’t last long in bed…
    I don’t last long in bed what can I do

    1. Hello Emmanuel, if you…

      Hello Emmanuel, if you ejaculate in under two minutes during sex you maybe experiencing what is know as premature ejaculation. This is a caused a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or even work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. There are a few things he can do to overcome premature ejaculation, have a look at this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation 

  48. What do I do to pls my girl…
    What do I do to pls my girl in terms of sexual need?

    1. Hi David, you could begin by…

      Hi David, you could begin by asking her what would please her. Getting to know what she likes is likely to answer to her need especially because different people want different things during sex. Do find a good time and talk about sex, often times partners need to teach, tell and show each other what they like and enjoy during sex. Have a look at this article for additional tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  49. How can I exactly improve…
    How can I exactly improve from 2mins ejaculation to an average time needed maybe to impregnate?

    1. Hi Richez, if you ejaculate…

      Hi Richez, first, how long sex lasts doesn’t determine if one will get pregnant, even when sex last for less than two minutes, one can still get pregnant. However, if you ejaculate in under two minutes you are experiencing premature ejaculation. Premature Ejaculation is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article for more information on how your partner can try manage this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  50. Please can you help me on…
    Please can you help me on what to do to myself I last just 1-2 Minute and I masturbate..thanks

    1. Hey Willz,  if you ejaculate…

      Hey Willz,  if you ejaculate in under two minutes you are experiencing what is known as Premature Ejaculation (PE). PE is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article for more information on how your partner can try manage this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  51. I want my penis to long and…
    I want my penis to long and big

  52. Why is it Everytime am…
    Why is it Everytime am having sex with my girlfriend,I only last for like 20-30 seconds. What can I do

    1. Hey Ola, you seem to be…

      Hey Ola, you seem to be experiencing premature ejaculation. This is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. There are a few things he can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  53. Sir am 21 years old but when…
    Sir am 21 years old but when getting a bllow job from my GF my sperm drops alitle tho is not whitees in color ??

    1. Hi there, it is normal to…

      Hi there, it is normal to ejaculate when recieving a blow job. On the other hand, when a man is aroused he will also produce a clear fluid before ejaculation known as pre-ejaculate. This clear fluid helps in lubrication during intercourse. This fluid is not semen. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/his-orgasms

  54. thanks for this update is…
    thanks for this update is used full to me because i was trying to buy drug to make me last longer on bed because of my girlfriend, so this is what i think is my problem and u have solve it for me. thanks so much

  55. i never lay with girl…
    i never lay with girl before,but i masturbate alot,can this also affect me when i stated having sex

  56. Good day
    I experience pain…

    Good day
    I experience pain in my penis each time I ejaculate sometimes when my penis is about getting errect again after first ejaculation, I feel this severe pain… What’s it all about, em tired

    1. Hey Carter, to get an…

      Hey Carter, to get an erection blood flows into the penis stretching the veins in the penis. The contracting and relaxing of the vein through the inflow and outflow of blood. This pain or discomfort should only last a short time, if it last for an extended period it may be a sign of an underlying issue. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

  57. I have been masturbating for…
    I have been masturbating for more that 20 years now and this makes me to ignore women or control my involvement with women. Please is this healthy because I feel it could make me impotent ?

    1. Hey Sony, first,…

      Hey Sony, first, masturbation doesn’t cause impotence. Also people in relationships do masturbate as well. Relationships are about more than just sex, they are about companionship, love, friendship among other needs. You have to think about whether you want more in a relationship or just the satisfaction of sex before deciding to get  into a relationship. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted

  58. i av so much anxiety for sex…
    i av so much anxiety for sex what is the courses and also i hadly spent one minute on my wife.

    1. Hello Sunday, anxiety can be…

      Hello Sunday, anxiety can be caused by a number of things including previous sex experiences. One can also have what is known as performance anxiety, where they are anxious about the performance which in turn affects their performance. A person ends up ejaculating sooner than they want to. This is known as premature ejaculation. Have a look at the following article including what you can do to last longer;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  59. My erection is not usually…
    My erection is not usually very hard, though I can penetrate with it, but its not so hard
    It takes a long time before I ejaculate if we are just romancing or having foreplay, but immediately I penetrate I ejaculate

    1. Hi Dengine, has your…

      Hi Dengine, has your erection always been this way or it just started? It is normal for a man to have a weak erection, fail to gain or maintain an erection at some point in their sex life. However, when they experience this consistently it may indicate other underlying physical or psychological issues and it is important to seek medical advice. On the other hand, if you ejaculate as soon as you penetrate, what you are experiencing is known as premature ejaculation. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article for more information on how you to address;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  60. I always have quick…
    I always have quick ejaculated. I have taking different kinds of drugs to see if it will stop. It didn’t. Pls advise me on what to do.

    1. Hey Frank, what you are…

      Hey Frank, what you are experiencing is known as premature ejaculation and to apply the right solution you need to first know what is causing it. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or even work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as one gets older and gain more experience, they also become better at controlling their ejaculation. There are a few other things one can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  61. Himy problem is simply…
    Himy problem is simply premature ejaculation and it makes me feel am not man enough. Is there any kind of medication please because my experience is not everyday,sometimes I do last longer please advice

    1. Hi Jones, a good place to…

      Hi Jones, a good place to start is to figure out why you don’t last long on the days you don’t and then with this try get a solution. Some of the causes are psychological including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or even work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as one gets older and gain more experience, they also become better at controlling their ejaculation. There are a few other things one can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  62. Yes, i come quickly in my…
    Yes, i come quickly in my first-round after sometime my second round last longer though not immediately. i havent taste 3rd or 4th round in my life hope am OK?

    1. Hi there, you may be coming…

      Hi there, you may be coming quickly on the first round because of the sexual excitement. This happens to many me. On the other hand, it’s completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. 

  63. Good day
    I develop this…

    Good day
    I develop this severe pain in my penis when its wanna errect again after the first round, and some times the pain lasts till the end of the day….. So far I had ejaculated whenever it true to errect after that moment it’s hurt so badly… Please help me

  64. My penis fall after sperm…
    My penis fall after sperm comes out why?

    1. Hi Lewis, it is normal for…

      Hi Lewis, it is normal for one to loose their erection after ejaculation. It is also completely normal to have what is called a refractory period, where the penis cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. 

  65. pls help me what can I do…
    pls help me what can I do to stay long on bed

    1. Hi Sammy, what you may be…

      Hi Sammy, what you may be experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out the following article for more information on what you can do to last longer;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  66. Pls , I notice my penis is…
    Pls , I notice my penis is shrinking and getting smaller, wat can be the cause and what is the solution?

    1. Hi Ibramovic, it is not…

      Hi Ibramovic, it is not expected that ones penis will get smaller. Have you gained weight recently? This might be one of the reasons that maybe making your penis look small or shrinking. If however there are no changes in physic do consider talking to your health care provider for a check up. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/penis-shapes-and-sizes

  67. Need to last more up to 1 hr
    Need to last more up to 1 hr

  68. Why do i experience late…
    Why do i experience late come? Its only after the inter course that i come,depite the amount of time we have it.

    1. Hi Zipporah, the key to…

      Hi Zipporah, the key to getting an orgasm during sex is knowing what will get you there and then sharing this information with your partner. Often, you have to tell, show or teach your partner what it is you like or want during sex, sex is better when partners talk about it. Check out the following article for  more tips;-

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-women

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  69. when i was in foreign…
    when i was in foreign country I was being forced to do masterbation from there my penis has now refused to erect what can I do for it to come back normal?

  70. My problem is I always had…
    My problem is I always had this high libido I wake up erect I get erected easily when I I kiss I’m erect it’s not up to two months I met a girl and we had raw sex since then my erections are slow I don’t wake up erect anymore what’s the cause a reply will be appreciated

    1. Hi Divine, men get erections…

      Hi Divine, men get erections when they aroused and sometimes one will get an erection even when they are not aroused. It is also normal completely normal to wake up with an erection, it is part of growing up for a healthy guy. Having sex on the other hand doesn’t affect ones ability to have sex in the future. Have you failed to get an erection or maintain an erection during sex? You should be concerned and seek medical advice should you consistently fail to get an erection or fail to maintain an erection during sex. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/serious-erection-problems

  71. why i take long time for…
    why i take long time for the sperm to out am i normal?

    1. Hello Tyson, what you are…

      Hello Tyson, what you are experiencing is known as delayed ejaculation which means ejaculating happens later than desired – or even not at all. While this mostly affects older men, it can happen to young men as well. It can be caused by psychological factors including fear of sex, having been abused, or thinking that sex isn’t good (that it’s, for example, dirty or a sin). It is important to see a Doctor who will help determine what could be causing it and then advice on what you can do to address it. Check out this article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

  72. I normally come quick in…
    I normally come quick in less than 2 minute, what cause it and how can i get over it

    1. Hey Tosin,  it appears that…

      Hey Tosin,  it appears that you get too excited too soon during sex that makes it challenging to control your ejaculation. This is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article for tips to better control your ejaculation;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation 

  73. why does my penis is not…
    why does my penis is not growing bigger.but it is thick and strong but my problem is that is not growing bigger WHY

  74. Why is it that when i eat…
    Why is it that when i eat enough i take too long than when i just take a small peace of food

    1. Thank you for your question…

      Thank you for your question. The simple answer could be that when you have a good meal you get a boost of energy.

  75. My Husband Release Very Fast…
    My Husband Release Very Fast
    What Could Be The Problem

    1. This is a very good question…

      This is a very good question and a very common one as well. So, do not worry, he is not alone. There are some remedies that could help him last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation, you should go see a doctor.
      One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until you almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response.This should be repeated many times.
      Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. You could also masturbate before having sex.
       

  76. This is really educating and…
    This is really educating and helpful

  77. i get erection easily while…
    i get erection easily while lying down but it goes away as soon as i’m on my feet and so on, i dont understand what’s happening

  78. What’s drugs can be used for…
    What’s drugs can be used for quick ejaculation

    1. Hi Pipper, drugs may not be…

      Hi Pipper, drugs may not be the first thing you want to go for because it depends on what is causing the quick ejaculation. Also known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. There are a few things one can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  79. Ihave a problem with getting…
    Ihave a problem with getting back to erection after the first one or two rounds of sex.Can I use Viagra?

    1. Hello Kawika, it is…

      Hello Kawika, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. 

  80. After my first round, I can…
    After my first round, I can’t seem to get an erection to go the second time and when I get an erection, it goes off when I’m at it,please what is the cause

    1. Hi Williams! This is…

      Hi Williams! This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.

  81. Pls sir am suffering from…
    Pls sir am suffering from premature ejaculation,hw do I come out of this.

    1. Hello Joseph, thank you for…

      Hello Joseph, thank you for reaching out to us. Premature ejaculation is rather common, so do not worry you are not alone.

      There are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis.

      In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

      The following articles provide more information;-

      https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

       

    1. Hello Emmanuel, there are a…

      Hello Emmanuel, there are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis.

      In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

      The following articles provide more information;-

      https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  82. I really feel my penis isn’t…
    I really feel my penis isn’t big enough and it makes me lose sexual urge

  83. My problem is I cum on time…
    My problem is I cum on time most times I cum quickly, what’s the problem nd how can I last longer during sex

    1. This is a very good question…

      This is a very good question and a very common one as well. So, do not worry, you are not alone. There are some remedies that could help you last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation, you should go see  doctor.
      One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until you almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response.This should be repeated many times.
      Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. You could also masturbate before having sex.
       

  84. i have a problem which is…
    i have a problem which is after my first ejaculation my penis relaxes

    1. Hello James, thank you for…

      Hello James, thank you for reaching out to us. This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.

  85. After one round of sex, it…
    After one round of sex, it get so difficult for me to get up for another one untime, what is the cause of that pls

    1. Hi Richard, this is…

      Hi Richard, this is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.

  86. Please my partner complain…
    Please my partner complain about the size of my dick that is small. I want to increase it for what can I do? Thanks.

    1. Hello Sunny, thank you for…

      Hello Sunny, thank you for your question. Unfortunately, the fact is penile size cannot be increased without surgery. While there are a lot of people out there trying to sell you all kinds of products – pills, pumps,  patches, creams, gels, sprays and stretchers – most of it is hocus pocus. And experts say that is because the penis is made of spongy tissue which cannot be lengthened or stretched. Even surgeries offer only a small increase in size.

      If your partner feels that you are too small for them, then try sex styles that maximise penetration like the Pile Driver and the Splitting Bamboo (a Google Search should help you find out what this styles look like) Good luck! and have fun!!

  87. my problem is that when I…
    my problem is that when I have sex it last for a very few minutes I don’t know why….leaving my gal unsatisfied kindly help me know my problem nah

    1. Hello Gramps, thank you for…

      Hello Gramps, thank you for reaching out to us. This is quite common so don’t not worry, you are not alone. There are some remedies that could help you last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation (if you generally orgasm in under two minutes), you should go see  doctor.
      One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until you almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response.This should be repeated many times.
      Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. You could also masturbate before having sex.

  88. Hi, I easily come and when…
    Hi, I easily come and when it happens I get down, after a while I rise to return still come almost immediately. What’s the course of such swift ejaculation?

  89. My problem is that I can…
    My problem is that I can west much time in romancing and kissing with my partner but whence I go down to sex I won’t even last for 2minuts and it has be a burden to me please I really need help and direction on what to do please

    1. Hello Victor, if you orgasm…

      Hello Victor, if you orgasm in under two minutes, then it is likely that you are experiencing Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

      There are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis.

      In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

      The following articles provide more information;-

      https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

      Love Matters Team.

  90. Hello Navid it is likely…

    Hello Navid it is likely that you are experiencing Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

    This article has some pointers on what you could do to help you last longer.

    https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

     

  91. Hi Henry, According to a…

    Hi Henry, According to a study by the British Institute of Urology, the average size of an erect penis is about 5.5-6.2 inches (14-15.75cm), and the average girth is about 4.7-5.1 inches (12-13cm).

    At Love Matters we’re a bit more cautious – we just say an erect penis is usually somewhere between 2.7 and 6.7 inches (7-17cm). When it comes to condom sizes, ‘average’ counts as 4.7-5.9 inches (12-17cm).

    Do you feel you are under 2.7 inches?

  92. The problem i have is that…
    The problem i have is that whenever i climb on my woman my penis just become weak in which i cant penetrate.

    1. Hi Kay, thank you so much…

      Hi Kay, thank you so much for reaching out and opening up to us. What you are describing is known as Erectile dysfunction (ED) which is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Do not worry though, occasional ED isn’t uncommon. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED, however, can be a sign of health problems. It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a medical or psychological professional depending on what you believe might be the root cause. Please check out the link to this article for more information:
      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do

  93. My manhood becomes weak…
    My manhood becomes weak immediately i want to penetrate into my partner

    1. Hello Sunday! Thank you so…

      Hello Sunday! Thank you so much for reaching out and opening up to us. What you are describing is known as Erectile dysfunction (ED) which is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Do not worry though, occasional ED isn’t uncommon. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED, however, can be a sign of health problems. It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a medical or psychological professional depending on what you beleive might be the root cause. Please check out the link to this article for more information:
      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do

    1. Thank you for your positive…

      Thank you for your positive feedback Omosh Papa! We hope you are keeping safe and having a great Easter weekend! Cheers!

  94. Is it good to be…
    Is it good to be masturbating everyday

    1. Hello Emeka, if your sex…

      Hello Emeka, if your sex drive allows you to and that is what you feel like doing, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. In fact it is healthy and is proven to reduce stress, release tension, enhance sleep quality, boost concentration, elevate mood, relieve menstrual cramps, alleviate pain and improve sex. 

  95. Hi, I have never had sexual…
    Hi, I have never had sexual intercourse before. As one who is to go for the first time, what challenges and obstacles should I expect? Will anxiety prevent me from going for long?

    1. Hello Joepoet Brian, thank…

      Hello Joepoet Brian, thank you for reaching out to us and asking such a great question. Anxiety could prevent you from going for long but not to worry, here is some information on what to expect during your first time: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/virginity/first-time-sex-what-to-expect . 

      Furthermore, here is some advice on what and what not to do when going in for the first time: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/virginity/first-time-sex-dos-and-donts

      And lastly, if you’re worried about being anxious and not being able to last, click here to find out just how to make your first sexual encounter an incredible success: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/virginity/how-to-make-first-time-sex-a-big-success

  96. Anytime I am having sex I…
    Anytime I am having sex I don’t spend up to 2 minutes, I don’t know what’s the problem

    1. Hi Christian, what you are…

      Hi Christian, what you are experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

      There are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis. 

      In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

      The following articles provide more information;-

      https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

      Love Matters Team.

  97. I always cum in less than…
    I always cum in less than four minutes. What would be the cause?

    1. Hi Ben, 

      What you are…

      Hi Ben, 

      What you are experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

      There are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis. 

      In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

      The following articles provide more information;-

      https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

      Love Matters Team.

  98. Hi does prelonged…
    Hi does prelonged masturbation weak erection and PE And what about when u have left it will u be normal again

  99. I come fast on first round…
    I come fast on first round why I need help

    1. Hi David,
      What you are…

      Hi David,

      What you are experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

      There are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis. 

      In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

      The following articles provide more information;-

      https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

      Love Matters Team.

  100. Is there a way for…
    Is there a way for preventing premature ejaculation

    1. Hi Samuel,
      There are a few…

      Hi Samuel,

      There are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis. 

      In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

      The following articles provide more information;-

      https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

      Love Matters Team.

  101. Why is it hard for my dick…
    Why is it hard for my dick to penetrate

    1. Hello City, thank you for…

      Hello City, thank you for reaching out to us. Allow us to ask you a few questions, are you usually full erect when you try to penetrate? Also is your partner usually well lubricated when you try to have sex?

  102. my own problem is that. i…
    my own problem is that. i experience quick erection. my penis cant control it self…if i see any sexual picture, video, anything relating to sex my penis will just erect….and is seriously embarrassing me…my girl friend will be talking to me, even if the topic is not related to sex it will erect…

  103. I last 2mint what is the…
    I last 2mint what is the problem

  104. Hi James,
    What you are…

    Hi James,

    What you are experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

    There are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis. 

    In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

    The following articles provide more information;-

    https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
    https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

    Love Matters Team.

  105. No much explanation given on…
    No much explanation given on the treatment of erection dysfunction

    1. Hello Raphael, if a person…

      Hello Raphael, if a person is experiencing erectile dysfunction it is adviseable that they see a medical practitioner for a proper diagnosis and advice on the way forward.

  106. Hello Blessed, thank you so…

    Hello Blessed, thank you so much for reaching out to us and asking a wonderful question. The notion that prolonged masturbation causes PE is a myth. Masturbation is in fact good for you unless it begins to interfere with your normal day life such as skip your chores or daily activities, miss work or school, cancel plans with friends or family or miss important social events. If you suspect that you are suffering from PE, then is may be caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make you ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

    There are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis. 

    In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

    The following articles provide more information;-

    https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
    https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculationa

    Love Matters Team.

  107. Why does my penis refuse to…
    Why does my penis refuse to stand after the ejaculation of first round?

  108. Hello Peter,  this is…

    Hello Peter,  this is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.

  109. I need that drug Will keep…
    I need that drug Will keep my erection for for long time

    1. Hi Kennedy, thank you for…

      Hi Kennedy, thank you for reaching out to us. It is best to see a medical practitioner to prescribe the right strength of the drug and advice on the way forward.

  110. You didnt give no answers to…
    You didnt give no answers to the problems..being in sync Dorset fix PE nor ED. Seems like you just gave answers to “How do i satisfy my woman”

    1. There are some remedies that…

      There are some remedies that could help a person last a little longer. However, a person with premature ejaculation should see a medical professional for a comprehensive diagnosis and advice on the way forward.
      One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until they almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop and squeeze right below the head of their penis. As well as apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming their  ejaculatory response.This should be repeated many times.
      Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. Masturbating before sex is also helpful.
       

  111. You didnt give no answers to…
    You didnt give no answers to the problems ..being in sync doesn’t solve ED nor PE. Seemed like you gave an answer to ” How do I satisfy my woman in bed”

    1. There are some remedies that…

      There are some remedies that could help a person last a little longer. However, a person with premature ejaculation should see a medical professional for a comprehensive diagnosis and advice on the way forward.
      One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until they almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop and squeeze right below the head of their penis. As well as apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming their  ejaculatory response.This should be repeated many times.
      Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. Masturbating before sex is also helpful.
       

  112. What fruit or food contents…
    What fruit or food contents can help against PE and ED

  113. Hello Kelvin,  thank you so…

    Hello Kelvin,  thank you so much for reaching out and opening up to us. Erectile dysfunction (ED) is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED, however, can be a sign of health problems. It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a medical or psychological professional depending on what you believe might be the root cause. Please check out the link to this article for more information:
    https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do

    Premature Ejaculation is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

    There are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis. 

    In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

    The following articles provide more information;-

    https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
    https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

    With regards to foods to contribute towards increasing libido, follow this link to find out more https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/aphrodisiacs-top-five-facts

    1. Hi Keith! Of course you are…

      Hi Keith! Of course you are welcome!

  114. I really lyk this site coz…
    I really lyk this site coz its teaching me more of wat l did not know

  115. I really lyk this site coz…
    I really lyk this site coz its teaching me more of wat l did not know

  116. Hi Cherry, thank you so much…

    Hi Cherry, thank you so much for the positive feedback. We are glad that we are able to provide information and teach you and we promise to continue to do our best to provide you with more 🙂 Keep safe and have a great week.

  117. Before I can last for four…
    Before I can last for four rounds when. Having sex but now I don’t only after some minutes again then I can go for 2nd rounds what cause this

    1. Hello Damilola, thank you…

      Hello Damilola, thank you for reaching out to us. The older you get (especially after 30) you will notice a reduction in your sexual energy. This is perfectly normal.

  118. Hello Dharmie Richie, Thank…

    Hello Dharmie Richie, Thank you so much for reaching out and opening up to us. What you are describing is known as Erectile dysfunction (ED) which is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Do not worry though, occasional ED isn’t uncommon. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED, however, can be a sign of health problems. It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a medical or psychological professional depending on what you believe might be the root cause. Please check out the link to this article for more information:
    https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do

  119. Please am having regular…
    Please am having regular erection, especially when am with a woman I really like her body structure. Just thinking abt her make me get erection. Nd if she with me in same house when I just see her or she touch me I get erection, what’s the course?

  120. Hello Mr Miles, thank you…

    Hello Mr Miles, thank you for reaching out to us and we a re so happy for you and the woman you are with! Be proud that your body is capable of responding this way to her because it shows a genuine physical attraction to her that she will be more than happy to be aware of. Keep in mind that it may seem quite inappropriate for you to get erect every time you come across a beautiful woman and for that reason, you should take time to focus on yourself and learn your body, its physical triggers and learn to become accustom to your sexuality so that you do not become inappropriate every time you meet a woman you feel she is beautiful. If you feel uncomfortable about your bodily relation towards her appearance, have an open and honest conversation with her and let her know just how beautiful you feel she is. Remember to be a gentleman when doing so as women do not appreciate vague and senseless complements but let her know that the mere sight of her ignites your flame. Try not to focus on making the topic about your erection but complement her. Not only will it boost hr self confidence but it will reinforce your connection with her. 

  121. Hello need to know what can…
    Hello need to know what can I do sparm come out when un pluggef

    1. Hello Njeru, thank you for…

      Hello Njeru, thank you for reaching out to us. I’m sorry, I do not understand your question/statement. Could you please explain?

  122. I don’t last long while…
    I don’t last long while having sex what can be the problem

    1. This is a very good question…

      This is a very good question and a very common one as well. So, do not worry, you are not alone. There are some remedies that could help you last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation, you should go see  doctor. Premature Ejaculation, is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform to satisfaction can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

  123. Even with condom on when…
    Even with condom on when making love I still find it hard to quickly get hard for the successive round of sex I am afraid dont know what to do its really getting my relationship heading to the rocks.

    1. Hi Ben, thank you for…

      Hi Ben, thank you for reaching out to us. Do you mean that you cannot go for a second round immediately? Or that you cannot get hard for a successful round of sex?

  124. What can I do to last long…
    What can I do to last long or is it a sickness? If so then tell me the cure. Its really messing me up

    1. This is a very good question…

      This is a very good question and a very common one as well. So, do not worry, you are not alone. There are some remedies that could help you last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation, you should go see  doctor.
      One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until you almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response.This should be repeated many times.
      Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. You could also masturbate before having sex.
       

  125. Why do I cum quick during sex
    Why do I cum quick during sex

    1. Hi Sharon, is this a reccet…

      Hi Sharon, is this a reccet occurence?

  126. My first round cum easily…
    My first round cum easily and my second round takes
    a long time before it pick up

  127. Hello trust, thank you for…

    Hello trust, thank you for getting in touch. What you are going through is completely normal and all men experience it and is called a refractory period. This is where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. 

  128. I love your explanation but…
    I love your explanation but mine is just 1min

    1. Hello musty, thank you for…

      Hello musty, thank you for reaching out and we are glad our platform is able to provide you with the necessary information you require to help you better understand yourself. We are sorry you are going through a hard time but do not stress to much. not being able to last long in bed may be as a result of various mental/ psychological reasons that have led to your current predicament. What I will ask you is do you ejaculate too fast or are you unable to sustain an erection during sexual intercourse? Understanding what you are going through will help us to give you better advice on the steps you need to take moving forward but know that we are here for you! Have a wonderful weekend and stay safe! We look forward to your response. 🙂

  129. Good day like me, I love sex…
    Good day like me, I love sex, I can go up to 4times in a night with 45 minutes or more, but I discovered something about my self to much of stressed in the working place coming back feeling so tried, and my girlfriend is complain that am having affair’s with another woman. I don’t any feeling for sex pls what I do.

  130. Hello Prince, thank you for…

    Hello Prince, thank you for reaching out to us and we are sorry you are going through a hard time. We are currently living in unprecedented times what with the pandemic and what not. Please do not feel stressed more than you should be. What we would advise is to have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Communication is an important part of any relationship. Have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Explain to her what you are going through and that you are just busy as a result of everything that is happening and that you are trying your best for the both of you. Try not to be confrontational because that would put them on the defensive and the resulting conversation would not be productive.  Be ready to listen to their fears and feelings and respond to them as well.
    With regard to not feeling anything sexual, try and reach out to a counsellor and discuss what you are feeling, psychological issues can contribute to lack of sexual performance and consulting a specialist will help you buddy, don’t stress too much, we are here for you okay? Have a wonderful weekend and stay safe!

  131. Why do I come quit during…
    Why do I come quit during sex after my first I become weak to start immediately and the first comes really fast i feel that I can’t satisfy a woman

  132. Hello Benkelly, thank you…

    Hello Benkelly, thank you for reaching out and asking a great question. To answer the first as to why you become weak after your first round is simple.  It is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. Secondly, coming quickly may be a result of inexperience which you will develop over time due to high sensitivity. Alternatively, what you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety, or even stress. The anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

    There are a few things you can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity of the penis. 

    In the long term one can ensure they eat healthily and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

    The following articles provide more information;-

    https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
    https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

    Love Matters Team.

  133. Does premature ejaculation…
    Does premature ejaculation occur during second round of sex?

    1. Hi Vic, thank you for your…

      Hi Vic, thank you for your question. Technically no, it can not. But it also depends on how much time passed between the first and second rounds.

  134. Why do i always come quick
    Why do i always come quick

    1. Hello Somadinho10, thank you…

      Hello Somadinho10, thank you for reaching out to us and we are sorry you are going through a hard time. What you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety, or even stress. The anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men, it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

      There are a few things you can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity of the penis. 

      In the long term, one can ensure they eat healthily and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

      The following articles provide more information;-

      https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

      Love Matters Team.

  135. I had a partner and wen I…
    I had a partner and wen I injected my penis penis into her pussy and with 2min it was over wat my problems

    1. Hello Steve, thank you for…

      Hello Steve, thank you for reaching out to us and we are sorry you are going through a hard time. 

      What you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety, or even stress. The anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men, it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

      There are a few things you can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity of the penis. 

      In the long term, one can ensure they eat healthily and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

      The following articles provide more information;-

      https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

      Love Matters Team.

  136. I have never had sex b4.now…
    I have never had sex b4.now I got a virgin girl..it was difficult to break her since my penis is not strong enough what should I do,?

  137. Hello Anonymous, thank you…

    Hello Anonymous, thank you for reaching out to us and asking a great question. The truth of the matter is that it is that virginity matters do not require your penis to be strong but for you to focus on her and how she feels okay? All over the world people have different ideas and opinions about virginity and the hymen. They vary a lot depending on the country, culture, or religion. Sometimes it can be hard to know what to think about yourself. Learn the difference between fact and fiction here: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/virginity

    Have a wonderful week ahead, wear protection and stay safe okay buddy? 

  138. can daily exercise, some…
    can daily exercise, some pain in testicles and masturbation cause erectile dysfunction.

  139. Hi Kaka, thank you for…

    Hi Kaka, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. Erectile dysfunction (ED) which is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse is fairly common and not something you should get too worked up about. many men experience occasional ED during times of stress however frequent ED can be a sign of health problems.it can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a medical or psychological professional problem depending on what you may think the root cause could be. please check out the link to this article for more: http://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them-/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do

    1. Hello Mark, thank you for…

      Hello Mark, thank you for getting in touch. What about a weak libido would you like to know? Do you have a weak libido?

  140. i have a prblem of…
    i have a prblem of mistarbation how can i quite it

  141. Hi Larry, thank you for…

    Hi Larry, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. If you are absolutely sure you want to stop, you should know that it wont be easy. This is because sex leads to the release of endorphins which is better known as the pleasure hormone. Second, masturbation has now become part of your arousal template which is the total amount of thoughts, activities, stimuli, smells etc. that arouse a person sexually. 

    To stop masturbating, you need to identify the things that lead you to masturbate like seeing something or, just boredom. Also, when you get the urge to masturbate, occupy yourself with another activity. 

    Please note that it could take you 21 days to 6 months to work on this and even then it might not work. If you are really commited, try to find a counsellor or a therapist to help you through. Good luck!

    This article has more information on porn addiction and should be of help: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/porn/porn-addiciton-what-you-can-do-about-it

    Have a wonderful weekend ahead and stay safe!

  142. ED & PE problems are very…
    ED & PE problems are very common in men. How much can it cost one when a doctor’s intervention is necessary.

  143. Hi kingpin, thank you for…

    Hi kingpin, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. Doctors’ consultancies vary from practitioner to practitioner, this is also because it is dependent on whether the issue is psychological or physical, thus the best thing to do is get some research done and find out for yourself. 

    Have a wonderful weekend ahead and stay safe!

  144. Do girls erect like boys?
    Do girls erect like boys?

  145. Hi Waema, thank you for…

    Hi Waema, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. Unlike guys, girls don’t have a penis, so they don’t get erections. However, the clitoral tissue may become firm when sexually aroused. The clitoris has similar nerve endings to the penis and is also very sensitive to touch.

  146. Whow do i cure my ED…
    Whow do i cure my ED parmanently

  147. Four rounds are okey for…
    Four rounds are okey for satisfaction

  148. Hello Base, thank you for…

    Hello Base, thank you for getting in touch and sharing. Although we are happy that you are satisfied with going for 4 seconds, you should know that it isn’t normal to do so for an experienced lover. Ejaculating after 4 seconds means that the individual is probably experiencing premature ejaculation which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety, or even stress. The anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men, it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

    There are a few things you can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non-sexual things, or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity of the penis. 

    In the long term, one can ensure they eat healthily and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

    The following articles provide more information;-

    https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
    https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

    Love Matters Team.

  149. I Broke my virginity 9…
    I Broke my virginity 9 months ago, ever since then have never had sex again!
    my problem now, is i get erect now and then if i’m near my girlfriend. is this normal?

  150. Hi Hudson, thank you for…

    Hi Hudson, thank you for getting in touch and we are so sorry you are going through a hard time. How old were you when you broke your virginity 9 months ago? And to answer your question, getting erect when you are next to your girlfriend is a completely normal biological response especially when you are physically attracted to someone so you need not worry about it being an issue. This happens to all men. 

  151. how can i make my penis large
    how can i make my penis large

  152. Hello Jp, thank you for…

    Hello Jp, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. Penis enlargement methods are nearly all a waste of time and money, according to experts. No matter the approach, so-called penis enlargement techniques don’t work and can even do damage. And anyway, very few penises are much smaller than average. Click here to find out more: https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/penis-enlargement-doesnt-work

  153. i have this prob after am…
    i have this prob after am done sexing with my partner ifeel idont wanna see her again is it normal?,, or what should i do?

    1. Hi Preston, thank you for…

      Hi Preston, thank you for getting in touch and we are so sorry you are going through a hard time. Is she someone you have/ had emotional and romantic feelings towards or is your partner a friends with benefits situation? There could be a variety of reasons as to why you do not want to see her. Do you know what it could be that is making you feel this way? And what do you feel you want to do?

  154. I don’t know what’s…
    I don’t know what’s happening, but I used to erect to 7inchs but nowadays it has reduced to 6inchs what could be possibly going wrong?!….

  155. Hi Bale, thank you for…

    Hi Bale, thank you for getting in touch with us and we are so sorry you are going through a hard time. The length of your penis can decrease by up to an inch or so for various reasons. Usually, changes to penis size are smaller than an inch, however, and may be closer to 1/2 an inch or less. A slightly shorter penis won’t affect your ability to have an active, satisfying sex life.

    The typical causes of loss of length in your penis include, aging, obesity, prostate surgery, or a curving of the penis, known as Peyronie’s disease.

  156. Thanks for the advice is…
    Thanks for the advice is there a problem when I take too long in the first round and it takes me too long to steam up for the second round?

  157. I have learned something…
    I have learned something very important that i didn’t know before, thank you for explanation

  158. Does anger towards your…
    Does anger towards your partner cause the Ed

  159. Hi Benson, thank you so much…

    Hi Benson, thank you so much for reaching out and opening up to us. Erectile dysfunction (ED) is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Do not worry though, occasional ED isn’t uncommon. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED, however, can be a sign of health problems. It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a medical or psychological professional depending on what you believe might be the root cause. Please check out the link to this article for more information:
    https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do

    If you do not mind us asking, yes, ED can be caused due to anger towards your partner but do you mind telling us why you may be experiencing anger towards your partner?

  160. Always pleased to help…

    Always pleased to help Breeze. Feel free to go through more of our content to help you make more informed decisions and do not hesitate to get in touch with us in case you have any questions. Have a wonderful week and stay safe!

  161. My problem is that i gets…
    My problem is that i gets tired very fast when fucking,what can i do?

    1. Hello Peter, thank you so…

      Hello Peter, thank you so much for reaching out and opening up to us. What you are describing is known as Erectile dysfunction (ED) which is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Do not worry though, occasional ED isn’t uncommon. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED, however, can be a sign of health problems. It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a medical or psychological professional depending on what you believe might be the root cause. Please check out the link to this article for more information:
      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do

  162. i just have a question of…
    i just have a question of late i have been having an erection problem that cant last for long what might be the cause and what’s the remedy for that

    1. Hello Avush, thank you so…

      Hello Avush, thank you so much for reaching out and opening up to us. What you are describing is known as Erectile dysfunction (ED) which is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Do not worry though, occasional ED isn’t uncommon. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED, however, can be a sign of health problems. It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a medical or psychological professional depending on what you believe might be the root cause. Please check out the link to this article for more information:
      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do

  163. Does musterbation help…
    Does musterbation help anything when you are faithful to your partner since you are far from him or her

    1. Hi Steve, you have asked a…

      Hi Steve, you have asked a really good question. When you in a long-distance relationship sexual satisfaction may be hard to come by. In which case, yes, you may masturbate to help you stay faithful.

  164. Can masturbation also ed/pe?…
    Can masturbation also ed/pe? And if yes can it be solvable after a very long time?

    1. Hi Gadafi, thank you for…

      Hi Gadafi, thank you for reaching out to us. Masturbation can indeed help you last longer. However, remember that these are both medical issues and you may need to see a medical practitioner for proper medical advice and direction on the way forward.

  165. Me my problem is I only…
    Me my problem is I only prouds x cell all my children r girls plz help I need a boy

    1. Hi Sam, thank you for…

      Hi Sam, thank you for reaching out to us. It can be indeed frustrating when you don’t get the results you desire. Unfortunately, there is no way to ensure that you get a male child unless you use In-vitro Fertilisation which can be quite expensive.

  166. I have learnt something but…
    I have learnt something but still my question is, how about some guys who Ben ejaculate during romance?? What could be there advice to such people. Thank u.

    1. Hello Abbas, thank you for…

      Hello Abbas, thank you for reaching out to us. Ejaculating before you are actually able to penetrate is characteristic of Premature ejaculation. Masturbating does indeed help you last longer during sex especially if you masturbate just before.

  167. I have a personal deep…
    I have a personal deep problem with erection after I once used blue pills I stopped but still disastrous what can I do

    1. Hi Ostin254d, 

      I am so…

      Hi Ostin254d, 

      I am so sorry to hear about your experience. The best thing to do is to visit a doctor so that he/she can conduct tests and prescribe the best medication for you. It is not advisable to take medications without the advice of a doctor since this will not address the problem and may also have serious effects. Sending well wishes to you. 

    1. Glad you found it helpful…

      Glad you found it helpful Lawren! Keep visiting and engaging with Love Matters!

  168. Ist round i take a round…
    Ist round i take a round 1min what can ido

    1. Hi Kang, 

      In addition to…

      Hi Kang, 

      In addition to tips from this article, you can start exercising, eating a healthy diet, trying different sex positions, and relaxing during sex. I would advise you to visit a doctor, or urologist, for tests to establish whether you have any erection-related problems. 

    1. Thank you for your feedback! 

      Thank you for your feedback! 

  169. Hey: Since my wife gave…
    Hey: Since my wife gave birth she has no feelings for sex which has also affected me to an extent tht i can’t feel her and erect, wht can i do?

    1. Hi Mzalendo, 

      This is very…

      Hi Mzalendo, 

      This is very normal. Most women have no desire for sex right after giving birth: they experience low libido. Give your wife enough time to recover and get back her libido. She may also be uncomfortable being intimate with you due to the changes in her body.  In the meantime, there are many other things you can to do to still feel loved and connected with her. Cuddling and kissing will not only feel very nice, but make her feel more attractive and wanted again. Read this article to learn more about how sex is like after childbirth: Sex after pregnancy: top facts

  170. What is the solution for…
    What is the solution for quick ejaculation

    1. Hi Chinex, 

      After how long…

      Hi Chinex, 

      After how long do you ejaculate? Less than a minute? In two minutes? In three … four? etc. Wat is quick to you may actually be normal for most men. The answer to this question could help determine whether you have ejaculation problems or not. In the meantime, visit a doctor for tests. If he/she finds out that there is indeed a problem, he/she will prescribe the best treatment. 

  171. I once exprerienced the…
    I once exprerienced the situation but I was helped. Now I make her satisfied

    1. Hi Nick, 

      I am glad you got…

      Hi Nick, 

      I am glad you got help! What kind of help did you get?

    1. Hi Benson, 

      How can we help…

      Hi Benson, 

      How can we help you? Feel free to ask any question you may have. 

  172. Having being a masturbating…
    Having being a masturbating I’m a little bit worried about my sexual performance I’m even afraid of looking for women to have sex because I fear i will fail them, what should I do

    1. Hi Ken, thank you for…

      Hi Ken, thank you for reaching out to us and sharing. As we pointed out in the article, masturbation will make you last longer in bed so you have nothing to worry about. Growing up we are told many things about masturbation a great majority of which are untrue to discourage us from masturbating. You should not be afraid.

  173. I cant stay long during sex…
    I cant stay long during sex. I know i have masturbated for years,i mean years..

    Please how can i improve this coz i think if go this my relationship will soon end. How can i get back my erection?

    1. Hello Joroge, thing is, it…

      Hello Joroge, thing is, it is possible that the mastirbation is helping you last longer. There are some remedies that could help you last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation, you should go see  doctor.
      One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until you almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response.This should be repeated many times.
      Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. You could also masturbate before having sex.
       

  174. I am married but after first…
    I am married but after first round it takes my penis long to erect for the second round and if it does it goes for a short minutes the am done what could be the problem…

    1. Hi Geoffrey, 

      How long does…

      Hi Geoffrey, 

      How long does it take to erect after the first round? Also, how long do you maintain an erection for the second round? 

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