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Relationship problems: top five causes

Every relationship has its rocky patches. How you tackle issues before they become real problems is key in not letting your love fail.

To help you keep an eye out, here’s a special edition of the top five series on causes of relationship conflicts.

  1. Communication

    Poor communication is the number one relationship killer. Communication isn’t just fighting, or fighting in the right way. Communication is something that happens constantly, both through what you say, the way you talk, and through your body language. It also means to keep talking even when you don’t feel like it. Don’t keep things bottled up until things get out of hand.

    When you are having an important conversation with your partner, switch off your phones and the TV. You can’t talk to someone while keeping one eye on your favourite soap.

    If you can’t seem to talk about issues without yelling at each other, go to discuss your problems in a public place, where you are far less likely to yell at each other.

    Don’t interrupt and be a good listener. Listen to what your partner has to say, and think about it before reacting. If you give it a thought you might realise that your partner is right.

    And, very important: apologise when you realise you have done something wrong. Saying ‘I’m sorry’ will make a world of a difference for your partner.

  2. Trust 

    When you are in a serious relationship with someone, you need to trust your partner, and your partner should trust you.

    Trust isn’t something you gain overnight. It takes time to develop trust and there are some things you can do to make your partner trust you. For example, you should always do what you say you will do: if you promise to call at a certain time, call. Be on time, and let your partner know what your plans are, and who you are with.

    Don’t lie. Not even little white lies. Honesty is the key to having somebody trust you.

    So is respect. Respect your partner’s opinions and don’t be hurtful when you are having an argument.

    These and many other things play a role when it comes to trusting someone. You should also keep in mind that once you loose trust, it’s very difficult to gain in back.

  3. Sex

    Loving each other, unfortunately, doesn’t automatically mean that your sex life will be great. Maybe one of you doesn’t want to have sex until you are married. Or you can’t agree on a contraception method. Or one partner wants to have more sex than the other. Your partner wants to make love in ways that you don’t feel comfortable with. Or you like to masturbate or watch pornography, which upsets your partner.
    Whatever the reason, sex can be a cause for huge relationship issues and even break-ups.

    Talk to your partner about it. You need to try solutions that work for both of you. Talking about sex is often difficult, and can be hurtful if one partner thinks their sexual skills are being criticised, or they are made to feel inadequate. So be very gentle but clear when you are talking about what bothers you, and come up with some suggestions that might make things more acceptable for both of you.

  4. Jealousy

    Almost everyone becomes a green-eyed monster at some point. And a bit of jealousy is quite normal. There may be some insecurity when it comes to your partner’s feeling towards you or other people.

    It starts to get tough when your jealousy starts interfering with your relationship and you don’t trust your partner anymore.

    Your partner’s ex is one of the most common causes of jealousy. Other reasons may be that you are afraid that your partner may leave you, or that you know that he or she cheated in the past. And trust issues can also be a cause.

    If you are jealous, talk to your partner. Explain your feelings and see if you can come up with ways to help you be less jealous. For example, when one of you goes out with friends, agree to call each other or texting every few hours, and especially if you are running late.

    And sometimes, you need to accept that the jealousy is something you have to deal with and that your partner can only help you to a certain extent. If you have been hurt in the past, you need to learn to trust your partner and not let your negative experiences get in the way.

  5. Money

    Last but not least: money. Quarrelling about money is awkward for many of us, but it still happens all the time. When you are married or in a serious relationship, you should at some point sit down with your partner and discuss each other’s finances and the way you spend money. If one of you is a saver and the other is a spender, you will run into an argument sooner than later. Talk about your savings, your debts and your goals, both for the short term and for the long term. If your partner wants you two to save for a house while you want to travel with your hard-earned cash, you will clash.

    As with all other relationship issues, good communication is the key. Be open and clear and give your partner room to do the same thing. 
     

     

How about you? Do these causes for relationship problems sound familiar? Or can you think of another one? Leave a comment or join our Facebook discussion on Love Matters Africa and Love Matters Naija.

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    HI ,am in a relationshp we stay in de same house bt my guy takes alot of alcohol we urgue alot cz of money bt he dsnt change

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    Am married bt without akid with akenyan guy n am from Uganda the problem is that we had a family issue at ug early july n upto now am still there n I fear going back now coz its along time so I dont know if He has changed his mind, pliz help.

    1. Hi Jamila,

      Hi Jamila,
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    Those mentioned issues av ruined two of my.relationships.i will try and put.them into practise with my partner to make this one work.thanks lots.

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  28. I hv a problem wth my
    I hv a problem wth my husband we being trying 2 make a bby 4 years nw nd I hv a daughter bt dis daughter is nt his I being staying wth him 4 7 years nw bt nw we starting fighting all de tym on weekend after he get paid he jst go wth 4rend nd come back on monday late its hapen 1 day we had a huge fight I decide 2 go 2 my father z place mpumalanga I get boyfriend ilove him very much he even make me happy bt de problem I’m pregnant nd its weeks nw nd again its nt my husband child do u tink I hv 2 tel him nd live him plz help

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  30. my gal asks me for money when
    my gal asks me for money when tell i dont she stops communication as usual what shall i do.

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  32. Thanks alot for advice….
    Thanks alot for advice…..will talk to Rita daily because I had lost trust in her since she’s in campus and am a village hustler and this made me cut communication. hope she will love me again. …how will I tell her sorry? help

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  36. i have a lady that we have
    i have a lady that we have been together for four years bahati akatangulia kupata kibarua and when we had settled down to marry she packed everything from our rental house when i was at my home and went to her home without notifying me reason that she was promised to be taken for degree .now she is at university and wants me to pay fr her rent what shall i do? She is too extravagant and asks for money now and then is there really love here?

    1. She doesn’t feel anything for
      She doesn’t feel anything for u but only wnts yo money

      1. Thanks for your input Audrey.
        Thanks for your input Audrey.

    2. Hi Philip, sorry that you are
      Hi Philip, sorry that you are in this confusing situation.

      Relationships and based on love and mutual understanding of each other.

      You can talk to her and point out that you are not comfortable with this arrangement.

      you need to ask yourself what it is that you are getting from this relationship.

      sorry to tell you this but it seems like she is just using you for financial gain.

      you need to take time and think if this is a relationship you want to be in for the rest of your life.

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  38. Thanks for that good
    Thanks for that good enlightenment, all the points have touched me, and i have been having issues with my gf due to her poor communication and lies towards me, each time i requested for her time she would practically show me she has no time,and of recently she told me to walk out of her life that she even has her new someone. now i ask are there chances of her returning?

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  39. i av problems with my husband
    i av problems with my husband of two years n we av a one year old son the problem is each time we av an argument i always opt to get out of the house for some few minutes. but each tym he tells me to come n take my kid and go for good. he never apologises if he does sth he always acts as a victim..please help

    1. Hi Kate,Sorry that you are
      Hi Kate,Sorry that you are going through that.

      Have you tried to talk to him about this? Not just when you arguing but even when you are in good terms.

      You can try point this out to him and how it makes you feel. Good open and honest communication from both partners is key to a healthy relationship.

  40. As for me,, i am finding no 3
    As for me,, i am finding no 3&4 to b ma problems, plzz advice me,,,,,????

    1. What specifically about sex
      What specifically about sex and jealousy is the problem Abel?

  41. no sex complitly i hav tried
    no sex complitly i hav tried to solv it but nothing hav changed

    1. Hi Titus,

      Hi Titus,
      What have you done to try and solve that issue?

  42. That is rht,my byfrnd keeps
    That is rht,my byfrnd keeps telng me ol that,bt av cnfirmed 2dai

  43. I broke up with my ex because
    I broke up with my ex because trust and poor communication.
    I have learnt that now and all keep trust and good communication with my current girlfriend.
    Thanks a lot for that advice.

  44. Hey I have been having issues
    Hey I have been having issues with my guy he asks me for money but never gives back when I ask him to refund he talks badly.just told him the other day that I also have plans with the money he said he was going to me back it has been a while
    He says am materialistic when I ask for the money.
    When I ask him please give me money to go to salon it’s always an issue

    He’s jealous he reads my message reply others and delete so that I can’t see
    He takes my phone and saves his name on the phone the way he wants

  45. I hav devlpd alot of jealousy
    I hav devlpd alot of jealousy on my reltnship wich has made m to lost trust. this dvlpd jst due to sme issues on my relatn, my gal chits nd liers to m most of the tym nd altho I hav tlkd about but sh dnt want to change for a yr nw but I love her and am nt ready to lose her. Wot can I do?

  46. I have a gf en we have been
    I have a gf en we have been in arelationship for ayear but sometimes she beeps my phone en immediately she switches her phone off en I have tried to talk to her about the issue but the habit is continuing pliz wat should I do? thanks

  47. Hi guys the same problem am
    Hi guys the same problem am experiencing in my relationship I tend to spend money according to level of income ,but my woman see it otherwise that am so mean.

  48. Isaac its long overdue to
    Isaac its long overdue to leave her!

  49. hello i hav ma patner bt he
    hello i hav ma patner bt he claims he loves me yet he z nt caring and he over asks 4 sex help me plz

  50. Wooow great n I broke up with
    Wooow great n I broke up with my man whom we’ve been dating for four years….moved on to heal the wound faster but still can’t get him out of my mind… Just love him though we r nolonger together… Plz advice

  51. Hi iam in a relationship with
    Hi iam in a relationship with a man who really loves me back for a couple of years now but am confused because he keeps apologizing for not being perfect. I have never complained though

    1. Thanks for sharing your story
      Thanks for sharing your story Shakirah.

  52. i totally agree with those
    i totally agree with those points

    1. We are glad you do Leny.
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  53. My Gf Had Never Asked Me For
    My Gf Had Never Asked Me For Money, Bt In Fast Day We Use 2 Hv Sex Sometym Bt She Finaly Told Upt Marrige. Now Do U Thnk She Love Me?

    1. Hi, has she given you any
      Hi, has she given you any reason to doubt her? Relationships are about more than just sex.

    1. You are welcome Davis.
      You are welcome Davis.

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  55. Thanks,i have gained alot.
    Thanks,i have gained alot.

  56. The tips are very good. Thank
    The tips are very good. Thank you

    1. You are welcome Gilbert.
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  57. NYC one i have learned

    NYC one i have learned
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    1. You are most welcome Lucy.
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  58. I am in a relationship with
    I am in a relationship with whom at first used to love n understand me though we had a long distance relationship BT sahuzi imekuwa hard kuniunderstand na anaenda kujum kila saa wat shld I do pliiz help

    1. Hi Linnet,

      Hi Linnet,

      Have you tried to talk to him about the changes? what did he say?

  59. Hello love matters thank you
    Hello love matters thank you for that topic me and my partner we are in a long distance relationship we never communicate if i start the communication he tells me to live my life i would really love to be his bestfriend but am stuck please advice

    1. Hi there,

      Hi there,

      For one to be your best friend there has to be mutual understanding and agreement.

      If they are not interest then hat should be a sign to you not to rely on him for that.

      There is someone out there who will love you back and be deserving of your love you just need to keep an open mind and heart.

  60. Thank you for your feedback
    Thank you for your feedback sure i’ll do that am very grateful

    1. We are glad you got the help
      We are glad you got the help you needed.

  61. Am in a relationship with a…
    Am in a relationship with a guy but am scared he is cheating on me he always charts with ma friends serious charts like I admire you….and also he still has her ex photos what can I do…does he love me akiii pliz help

  62. Thanks for the reasons, we…
    Thanks for the reasons, we always argued and honestly these are the reasons

  63. Hi Herdejer, there is no way…
    Hi Herdejer, there is no way to know for sure if your partner is cheating on you. The best thing you can do is try to communicate with your partner. Be honest with them about what you have observed, your suspicions and your feelings along with your fears. I know this can be scary to bring up but try to just tell them why you suspect something is wrong and not just accuse them of cheating. Generally if we hold on to our thoughts you might take things the wrong way believe something without knowing if it is real or not. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/relationship-problems/signs-of-a-cheating-boyfriend

  64. You are welcome Adrian.
    You are welcome Adrian.

    1. You are welcome Maryam.

      You are welcome Maryam.

  65. They are so vital but the…
    They are so vital but the fact is that when it comes to money lafies know its all our responsibility to carter for everything and never to look into their financial matters the moment you do so there everything messes i dont think i can think of joining cash with a lady i run my own life minus involving her

    1. Hey Ssamulai, we appreciate…

      Hey Ssamulai, we appreciate your contribution. Communication plays a vital role toward addressing the issues whether financial, trust issues or even sex. Having and open and honest communication will help clarify the issues and ensure that the decisions you make don’t end up hurting the relationship. Check out the following article for additional tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

  66. Actually I’m having…
    Actually I’m having conversations issue, especially when she asked me to gist her. I always give myself a reason that I’m an programmer, I don’t have time. So i need help with tips to overcome it…

    1. Hi Kaduna, you comment is…

      Hi Kaduna, you comment is not very clear. However, communication in a relationship is very important toward getting to know each other and also making your relationship strong. It is important the partners spend quality time together and also have conversations that help them get to know more about each other. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

  67. I have dated my fiancee for…
    I have dated my fiancee for almost 3years now. And he haven’t asked for sex before. Many of my friend said maybe he wants to marry me is that true?

    1. Hi there, it’s challenging…

      Hi there, it’s challenging to tell what his intentions about your relationship are. Have you spoken about the future of your relationship? You could consider asking him what his intentions are for the future of your relationship. Try find a good time to have this conversation this way you will get know what he plans.

  68. Can I make my Penis bigger…
    Can I make my Penis bigger to reduce this problems? And l cum very soon after starting what can I do to maintain for long?

    1. Hi Kimeli, the only way to…

      Hi Kimeli, the only way to possibly increase your penis size is through surgery. This procedure also comes with risks and it may not be successful. Also, having a bigger penis does not make one a better lover, it is important to talk with your partner to get to know what their needs are. Premature ejaculation is caused by reasons that range from psychological to physical issues. Getting to know what exactly is causing it will help to find the best possible solution. Check out this article;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/six-myths-about-increasing-penis-size

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  69. I really appreciate this
    I really appreciate this

  70. There was this lady I was…
    There was this lady I was dating. I thought she wasn’t meant for me. I thought I wasn’t taking care of her the way she should be taken care of and that she needs a better Man.I love her and I know she does the same for me.
    I forced her to breakup with me against her will. Now she is in another relationship and now, I’m broken hearted.
    Its now that I realise that I loved her more than I thought I do.

  71. Wow nice thanks my cases is…
    Wow nice thanks my cases is my guy is far from me and d communication is poor and I do d calling most and am getting feed up wat can I do

    1. Hey Monica, have you talked…

      Hey Monica, have you talked with your partner about this? Making a long distance relationship can be challenging. It takes the commitment of both partners to make it work. It appears that you feel your partner is not committed to your relationship, and you need to share this with him. Communication is an important part of any relationship and with today’s technology partners can frequently communicate with ease. Find a good time and talk with your partner to agree on how to proceed. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

  72. Am in aserious relationship…
    Am in aserious relationship with the guy whom i found alone but latter on i found out he had awife and has kids from different mothers that dint stop to move on with him but now he changes everyday he keep talking to his Xs when i complain he get annoid when i talk to his x wife she says they are still married and the meet dont know what to do need dome advise plz

    1. Hey Azi, it appears that he…

      Hey Azi, it appears that he didn’t tell you everything when you met. If he has children with his exes it maybe difficult for him not to talk to them if he is involved in the raising of the children he has with his exes. It is however important that you talk about how he is involved in the raising of his children and what this means in terms of he communicates with the mothers to the children. More importantly, you need to decide if you still want to be in a relationship with him knowing what you know right now. Take sometime and think about this before making a final decision. All the best.

      1. Every time I try to talk…
        Every time I try to talk about it he stops and even say let’s end the relationship

        1. The only way to resolve…

          The only way to resolve issues in a relationship, is to talk about them. Communication is important for any relationship, when there is poor or no communication at all partners begin to draw apart which may lead to the end of a relationship. If the issues bother you and he refuses to talk about them to resolve them, you have a decision to make. You need to decide whether you are going to accept this or end things as he has suggested. 

  73. Can someone past affect the…
    Can someone past affect the present relationship? Let’s say what you dis in ur twenties can affect a relationship in the early forties?

    1. Hi Con, It depends with what…

      Hi Con, It depends with what it is-what one did-and what it means to you and to your partner. If there are issues you think are likely to affect your relationship, think about talking about this with your and what the outcome of the conversation before discussing it with your partner. Have a look at the following article with more tips on talking to your partner;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

    1. Hey Olabisi, welcome to Love…

      Hey Olabisi, welcome to Love Matters Africa. What can we do for you?

  74. my spouse has abandoned me…
    my spouse has abandoned me please help me

    1. Dear Sarah, how would you…

      Dear Sarah, how would you like us to help? Have you tried to reach out to him? Do you know the reasons that may have caused him to abandon you? You want to try reach out to him to find out why he has abandoned you and whether you can resolve the issues so that he can come back. We wish you all the best. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems

  75. I and my boyfriend have been…
    I and my boyfriend have been having disagreements about everything. This has made the relationship very hard for me. We make but we go to back to the same thing. Does this mean we are no longer in love? Should we break up or this is normal in relationships?

    1. Hey Flo, all couples have…

      Hey Flo, all couples have disagreements from time to time. How they choose to resolve the differences is what makes the difference. It also doesn’t really mean that partners are no longer inlove, it may just mean there are deep seated issues that the partners need to talk about and resolve. Talking about the differences can help to find out the deep seated issues to be addressed. Have a look at the following article for additional tips;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/good-fights-versus-bad-fights

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

  76. I knew sex had to be one of…
    I knew sex had to be one of those reason. But how can you introduce new things in the bedroom without your partner thinking you a cheater?

    1. Hey Joel, timing is…

      Hey Joel, timing is everything. You have to find the right time and also present this information in such a way that you are improving the experience for you both as opposed to criticizing what your partner doesn’t doesn’t do. It is also important that you also give your partner a chance to also share with you what they like. Sex is better when partners talk about it. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  77. Tnks for your advise, but i…
    Tnks for your advise, but i have a question ..am in a serious relationship but a distance one, my date now behaves as if am now forcing him in the relationship he calls me less,and if i talks to him about it he ll’tell me that he dose’nt have money please what should i do?

    1. Hi there, communication is…

      Hi there, communication is an essential part of any relationship, without it partners begin to grow apart and this negatively affects the relationship. It is important for partners in a long distance relationship to communicate frequently, with either partner initiating the communication. Find a good time to talk with your partner to get to know whether they are still interested in the relationship. If they are you can then agree on how to move forward together including ensuring frequent communication. Check out the following article for additional tips on how to make a long distance relationship work;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  78. My boyfriend is cheating on…
    My boyfriend is cheating on me and embarrassed me each time I pay him a visit. He hide his phone from me since the day I caught him cheating and he does not reply to my questions. He does not want to snap with me. Does that mean he is only using me or cheating?

    1. Hey there. First, so sorry…

      Hey there. First, so sorry about this. If your partner is constantly cheating on you, it means he doesn’t respect you and it is important for you to think about what you and if this is kind of relationship you want moving forward. Take sometime and think about what you want moving forward in a partner and in a relationship. Relationships should be about love and mutual respect. We wish you all the best. Have a look at this article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/what-do-you-do-if-your-partner-constantly-cheats-on-you

  79. Great tips to handle future…
    Great tips to handle future occurrences

    1. You are welcome Juma.

      You are welcome Juma.

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