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Is my partner cheating on me?

Whether you are in a long term relationship or a new one, how can you know that your partner is cheating on you?

That is a million shilling question, isn’t it? Unfortunately, there is no device that can show the telltale signs that your significant other is having an affair.

But before we dwell on that let me make it clear that what I will say next will only work if you know your better half very well. If you have only been dating for a little while, you might not be able to catch all the signs. Otherwise, if you know where he/she lives, works and plays, who they hang out with and how they behave around the opposite sex, then this advice is for you.

  1. Changes in routine or behavior
    The biggest clue is change of behavior without explanation. If your partner has a predictable routine and that routine noticeable changes, then there is reason to be concerned, especially if it’s something you have been doing together. Behavior change could be another indicator. If they start using language they didn’t use before and dressing and acting in a way that is different. 
     
  2. Secrecy
    All of a sudden, your partner becomes very secretive. Their mobile phone suddenly has a password and they never pick calls in your presence. Your partner may even have a second line that you don’t know about. If this is the case, you may need to start asking questions.
     
  3. Too busy
    They become too busy and you know for sure they don’t have new responsibilities or commitments. They might be spending more time on an activity that held little interest for them previously. 
     
  4. Spending quality time
    They don’t spend time with you as usual, and date nights become less and less. The one-on-one time you had before reduces significantly if they are spending time with others. 
     
  5. Social media
    Sudden changes in social media, like removal of your pictures, creating new profiles, or blocking, or putting you on limited access, and then claiming their account has been hacked could be indication of other side activities they don’t want you to find out. 
     
  6. Sex
    New sex moves or sudden interest in a new fetish that is not explained should trigger concern. It could be that they got it from the media, porn or someone else. Have a chat with them to eliminate any suspicions you might have. 
     
  7. Gaslighting
    When your partner tries to manipulate your thoughts, feelings, and actions by twisting the truth as you know it to make you sound crazy. An unfaithful partner will blame his significant other for having an affair. This is a form of psychological abuse.

These are just but a few tips, but the most important one is your intuition.

When you ask questions and your partner brushes you aside and won’t be forthcoming and honest, that’s another red flag.

In an honest, open, and loving relationship, a partner will make their significant other feel safe and secure. In a relationship where one is cheating however, the tendency is to make the partner feel insecure and doubtful of their own thoughts and feelings.

The fact that you have asked this question shows that you have issues that need addressing. So please remember all great relationships are based on trust, which is built on a solid foundation of communication.


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    1. It was a wonderful one
      It was a wonderful one

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  1. am now awear,,,,some of these
    am now awear,,,,some of these have been happening,,,thanks for this

    1. It just happened..she called…
      It just happened..she called someone else n spoke an hour with a guy …n no hugs ,kiss no sex ville

      1. Hi Anonymous, we are so…

        Hi Anonymous, we are so sorry to hear about what you are going through. How are you coping since? We are here for you, please let us know.

  2. Just have a ask i have a
    Just have a ask i have a girlfriend to whom i love very much but they stay to ladies on tha same house tha problem is she has never given me her number she uses tha other girls phone to communicate with me but if i ask why she do complain that her phone as got problem but she do use it to communicate with others so am glazed that she may be cheating on me plz advice what to do

    1. Hi Samuel, do you trust her?
      Hi Samuel, do you trust her? If not then you need to make a choice about the relationship.

  3. I was also cheated by my
    I was also cheated by my girlfriend just recent when i was abroad. But, what i did by the moment i got the information that my girlfriend is being caught readyhanded with someone in my house, i left her because i had no any solution. Because i was abroad for almost ayear and i came back in early january2016. So that’s it, may the almighty bless us and our souls thank you.

    1. Thank you for sharing your
      Thank you for sharing your story with us Ali.

  4. My wife have thz behavior wht
    My wife have thz behavior wht i Dan

    1. Hi there, you need to decide
      Hi there, you need to decide on what you want and then do it.

  5. yes i was cheated on and i
    yes i was cheated on and i did find out when he use to make me feel gulity of any question i asked him like how are you what are you doing and before it was never aproblem then i realized that i was being cheated on before i asked anything he broke up with me

    1. Sorry about the break up and
      Sorry about the break up and thanks for sharing with us.

  6. Thks so much but when or wat
    Thks so much but when or wat time do alady conceive ? Thanks

    1. Hi Mukasa,

      Hi Mukasa,

      Each month inside the ovaries, a group of eggs starts to grow in small, fluid-filled sacs called follicles. Eventually, one of the eggs erupts from the follicle (ovulation). It usually happens about 2 weeks before the next period.

      After the egg is released, it moves into the fallopian tube. It stays there for about 24 hours, waiting for a single sperm to fertilize it. All this happens, on average, about 2 weeks after your last period.

  7. those are the true colors of
    those are the true colors of my patner.he is cheating on me

    1. Sorry to hear that Miriam.
      Sorry to hear that Miriam. But glad we could be of help.

  8. mY man left province he lovez
    mY man left province he lovez me I love hiy
    m… he tel
    me wont cheat! I wont cheat on hIm

    1. Great! good to hear that.
      Great! good to hear that.

  9. Good advice, but Girls are
    Good advice, but Girls are too funny

    1. Thanks. What do you mean by
      Thanks. What do you mean by that?

  10. what about the people who
    what about the people who facebook or whatssap while you are communicating?

    1. That could be just addiction
      That could be just addiction to their phones. Its considered anti social behavior .

  11. those r true point but does’
    those r true point but does’ concerns me

    1. Thanks Alum. What’s your
      Thanks Alum. What’s your concern?

  12. they r factual point…
    they r factual point….infact l blieve am being played on by my 3month gf coz l know her vry well bt what has happened it is real wnting

    1. HI there,

      HI there,
      sorry to hear that. You need to decide on what to do.

  13. yes i think she is cheating
    yes i think she is cheating and I am in a dilemma since my girl shows those signs i told her but she says she is protecting our relation ship by not wanting to associate me with her presence in the social media, while she is so active, she has become so secretive and avoids being seen with me in public but visits me and claims that she loves me with her whole.
    HELP what do i do?:??

    1. You know the truth V. You
      You know the truth V. You only need to decide what it is you want.

    1. Hi Susan, have you done
      Hi Susan, have you done anything about his cheating? If not he will continue doing the same.

  14. He stopped holding hands with
    He stopped holding hands with me whenever with his lady friends saying they should fast go before I touch him

    1. How does that make you feel
      How does that make you feel Sifa? You should talk to him about it.

  15. as if u hv seen me! en way
    as if u hv seen me! en way iwas workn far frm her! so wat idd is iasked 4 transfer right naw am close to her lt me see!

  16. how can one strengthen his or
    how can one strengthen his or her relationship to a long distance partiner????

  17. Hello love matters i am one
    Hello love matters i am one of your follower i have a boyfriend and i love him much but he has a married but he is always told he love loves me than her wife and i believ when told me that.but he is going home with his family he never told me is it cheating on me.

    Thanks love matters and godbless

    1. Thanks for sharing your story
      Thanks for sharing your story Alliya.

  18. trur lovr never ends ata mtu
    trur lovr never ends ata mtu akuchezee ajez bt what hurts most iz to find out dat u r hiv positive without knowing wherr u got it fro guys be careful kama mtu anakucheza tembeza kiatu,

    1. Asante sana Essy kwa mashauri
      Asante sana Essy kwa mashauri yako.

  19. girls a da most cheaters
    girls a da most cheaters

    1. Why do you feel so Vincent.
      Why do you feel so Vincent.

  20. todei my ex cheated on me
    todei my ex cheated on me yesterday told me that she will come to the sides of our home then as i seated somwhere she passed with a motorbike hiding her face after few hours i text her asking her whether she will come only to say that she cannot manage to come

    1. Good thing she’s your ex you
      Good thing she’s your ex you don’t have to worry about what she does anymore.

  21. she cheated on me so many
    she cheated on me so many times i tried talking to her nothing changed
    behavior changed no more kisses and hugs i had to force her we couldn’t go to some places together and nights dates became limited
    atlast i found her with another guy kissing and carelesing I had to move on tiill now its a year but i see girls as the same players i just decided to be single

    1. Sorry that you had to go
      Sorry that you had to go through that. Thanks for sharing.

  22. i av ma bf at cumpus bt i
    i av ma bf at cumpus bt i feel lyk he is cheating on me. bt nikimwuliza ananixhow twe al is well usijali. lkn i am fed up wit it na sijui ntado aje?

    1. Hi Mily you need to take time
      Hi Mily you need to take time and think if that is the kind of relationship you want to be in. Its a difficult decision but its important that you take time and make a wise one. All the best.

  23. I have a girlfriend and she
    I have a girlfriend and she only meets me in the darkness and in a hidden place what might be the problem?

    1. Humphrey you should probably
      Humphrey you should probably ask her that question.

  24. How do i win my best friend’s
    How do i win my best friend’s heart

    1. No matter who you are, it can
      No matter who you are, it can be hard talking about your feelings. However, learning to open up can be both rewarding and therapeutic.

      It is a difficult conversation but one that yo should gather up courage and talk about.

      All the best.

  25. I believe my boyfriend is
    I believe my boyfriend is cheating when been together for 5 years but I haven’t been friends on Facebook with him for 4 of those years. He said it because I’m jealous & crazy but I feel if there’s nothing to see why would I be acting jealous it most be something he doesn’t want me to see …really need sum advice thanks

    1. Hi Starr you are right in
      Hi Starr you are right in thinking the way you do. You should express the same to him and depending on how you like or dislike his response you can make a decision on the way forward.

  26. i got her through the phone
    i got her through the phone calls she used to make…..i had to talk to the guy she used to call and he promised to stop and the lady she is now afraid of me…..

    1. Hi Brian, thanks for sharing.
      Hi Brian, thanks for sharing.

  27. Thanks love matters 4 ur
    Thanks love matters 4 ur advices

  28. I had one she was cheating me
    I had one she was cheating me but i decided to leave her

    1. Thanks for sharing that with
      Thanks for sharing that with us.

  29. I av learn a lot thanks
    I av learn a lot thanks

    1. Thanks Victor for giving us
      Thanks Victor for giving us feedback.

  30. What do I do my boyfriend of
    What do I do my boyfriend of 4 years suddenly said he is leaving but it started with change in his behaviour.but he said he will always love me.he still calls me.what do do

    1. Hi Makus, sorry that you are
      Hi Makus, sorry that you are going through this. if he has decided to end the relationship, there not much you can do unless move on. If you feel like keeping in touch with him is difficult you should think about cutting all ties to enable you to heal.

  31. My Girlfriend Cheated On Me,,
    My Girlfriend Cheated On Me,,,she Became Pregant,,she Is Now Have A Baby And She Still Want Me To Remain As Her Boyfriend..What Do I Do??

    1. Hi Ark, you need to make a
      Hi Ark, you need to make a decision about what you want and then move forward with it.

  32. hi! lov matter I hv a byfrnd
    hi! lov matter I hv a byfrnd ad i lov her bt I nver know whether he has bin cheatng on mi becoz at tym he is too gud to mi bt samtym he change he usually dont txt mi most of tym even to say hi or gd nyt to mi antil i tell her he even dont make call to mi. am. now wonderng anaeza kua ananicheat ama??? pls hlp! thnx

    1. Hi Shaz, Cheating doesn’t
      Hi Shaz, Cheating doesn’t always have to be sexual. Sometimes cheating is on an emotional level. When someone shares intimate thoughts with a person who’s not their partner, it’s called emotional cheating. Cheating of any form can cause a lot of sorrow in relationships and can even lead to break-up or divorce. Find out more about cheating in https://lovematters.co.ke/news/cheating-top-five-facts

  33. Hi I’m 23 yrs I got heart
    Hi I’m 23 yrs I got heart broke last yr but 2 but from there I’m have never feel to love again how i can do so that i can love again

    1. Hi Irene you just need to
      Hi Irene you just need to give yourself time to heal. When you meet the right person you will know. Time is all you need.

  34. All signs of cheating are
    All signs of cheating are present in my marriages. I am trapped because of economic situation. I am not sure whether I love my wife or its not knowing where to go that has created a false hope. I don’t know what to do, committing suicide is present in my thoughts.

    1. Hi Anton, sorry for what you
      Hi Anton, sorry for what you are going through. Its important you speak with someone who can offer you assistance through this difficult period. Kindly call 1190 using your safaricom line to talk to a counselor for free. They will offer you counseling and support.

  35. My boyfriend switch’s off his
    My boyfriend switch’s off his phone when ever we r together,

    1. Hi Lucy, thanks for sharing.
      Hi Lucy, thanks for sharing. What would you like to ask?

  36. ae nko na shda na dem wangu
    ae nko na shda na dem wangu

    1. Shida ni gani Mukhobero?
      Shida ni gani Mukhobero?

  37. I ask for my gf password to
    I ask for my gf password to her social network..She refuse to giv me

    1. Everyone has a right to some
      Everyone has a right to some privacy don’t you think?

  38. hav learnt alot,thnks much
    hav learnt alot,thnks much

  39. I had a bf whom I loved and
    I had a bf whom I loved and am really still in love with him but I don’t what to bcoz I don’t undsterdan him he changed he does not want to me and when I talk about. Meeting him he just says yes what can I do

  40. i feels jelous when shes
    i feels jelous when shes talking with aphne but i lov her n i dont want to let go .

    1. Thanks Joe for sharing that
      Thanks Joe for sharing that with us. a little Jealousy is normal. But you could always talk to her about it.

  41. Hi love matters ,, am a 23
    Hi love matters ,, am a 23 year old . after kcse 2014 I went to Mombasa where I got to fall in love with a girl Whom I could not resist my feelings for her and told her which she definitely accepted,, I happened to request her for some sex which she insisted that I use a CD,,, I did as she wanted but to my surprise on reporting to campus sep 2015 she called me to say that she was pregnant for myself,,,I was confused really and I really had a hard time ,,, she insisted that I should

    1. Hi John kindly finish your
      Hi John kindly finish your question to facilitate assistance.

  42. He cheated on m with m best
    He cheated on m with m best friend but now he z telng mi mbu he loves m so much wat can i do

    1. Hi hope, do you think you can
      Hi hope, do you think you can forgive him and trust him again? Take time and think about that before making your decision.

  43. Hi love matters ,, am a 23
    Hi love matters ,, am a 23 year old . after kcse 2014 I went to Mombasa where I got to fall in love with a girl Whom I could not resist my feelings for her and told her which she definitely accepted,, I happened to request her for some sex which she insisted that I use a CD,,, I did as she wanted but to my surprise on reporting to campus sep 2015 she called me to say that she was pregnant for myself,,,I was confused really and I really had a hard time ,,, she insisted that I should sent sent her some amount that she aborts the child. I refused to give her the amount but Which she promised that she must abort,,, on vacation I visited her but to my surprise she was flat,,, she had already did the crime ,,, I didn’t victimize her but grinned my face to show that I was satisfied with her act which was not the case. I went back to my trend using a CD but again she is claiming she is pregnant again,, sometimes when I call her she doesn’t receive texts she doesn’t reply for almost 2 days or more,,, should I dump her officially from my heart because she is bringing chaos to my life? Please help me!

    1. Hi John, condoms when used
      Hi John, condoms when used correctly and consistently are very effective. You need to take time and think about what you want and how you feel about the relationship before deciding what to do.

  44. hi love matters, i av a
    hi love matters, i av a boyfriend en we av just spent 2months in luv. at first he told m he was single en sme 3 dayz bck he said dt he has a gal friend en they av spent 2yrs in luv en he even told m whre da gal lives mbu he luvz m too. after me saying dt av charked him after like 12hrs, he said dat he just wanted to sée my reaction towards that but i feel i cant believe in him. wat can i do pliz?????

    1. Take time to talk about it
      Take time to talk about it and find out what the truth might be before deciding on what action to take.

    2. hi Siz this not the matter en
      hi Siz this not the matter en the matter is he was to know how much you luv him this is examinable luv stories so be cute an go back to your love en continue enjoying but then if u a not believing just leave en find to via for another life

  45. Have been inlove with alady
    Have been inlove with alady since when we were in form 1,,, but when we departed to different universities its now ayear without the lady receiving nor replying my text,, please help.

    1. What kind of assistance do
      What kind of assistance do you need Collince?

  46. am 24 I have a Boyf who ones
    am 24 I have a Boyf who ones marred,with a daugher,recently,l went in their hom,slept thea bt morning msichana akaja na mimba,akaxema ni yake,bt he waz ready 2 live with me since that was a student,wazazi wake wanasisitiza nikae BT the man hayuko curious he still moves with that lady.I feel pain coz I lu v him.nitadu pliz advice.

    1. Hi flosh, sorry about the
      Hi flosh, sorry about the difficult situation you are in. It seems he’s not decided on what he wants therefore you need to make a decision on what you want for yourself.

  47. Hae,i have a bf n i think he
    Hae,i have a bf n i think he is cheating on me bcoz he neva wnts me to go to his place anasema bado hana job poa na tayari ako na job nikimsho aniambie ka hanitaki nijipange ananisho ananipenda sana na nkimuacha atakufa cjui ntaduaje…plz hlp

  48. hi am jane.was madly in love
    hi am jane.was madly in love with a guy and he ended up leaving me for another gal after 3 years of relationship and having sacrificed alot for him.am in another relationship bt can’t stop following this guy.how will i stop this and concentrate with my new bf and he loves me more than my ex? pls help

  49. thanx 4 dat gret advis
    thanx 4 dat gret advis

    1. You are most welcome Kone.
      You are most welcome Kone.

    1. You are welcome Pepe.
      You are welcome Pepe.

  50. Love Matters kudos to u, hv
    Love Matters kudos to u, hv learnt a lot…Keep it up!!!

    1. You are welcome and thanks
      You are welcome and thanks for the feedback Ayo.

  51. I have this guy I fallen in
    I have this guy I fallen in love with but he’s in Qatar but nowadays I feel like he’s distant with me he dont make fone calls nor texts me as before n when i ask him if i shud move on he says he still loves me but i dont think soo cause he has really changed.

  52. Hi..ave been dating this guy
    Hi..ave been dating this guy for quite sometime now…but the problem is when i call him he doesn’t pick up or chats when he feels like chatting with me.I caught him once chatting with ex-girlfriend whose now married but he told me they just talk nothing more..can he be cheating on me??

  53. he claims he love me, but
    he claims he love me, but still sleep with other girl with condom, and still tell me. he like sleeping with me without condom and we are in distance relationship. Did he love me?

  54. Am learning alot through this
    Am learning alot through this love matters, i now know what i should do

    1. Great to hear that Sylvester.
      Great to hear that Sylvester. Spread the word.

  55. hi love matters,I have been
    hi love matters,I have been in a relationship with my bf for 4years and now am pregnant..he has changed a lot especially now that am 8months pg.i av severally found intimate texts in his phone but he claims that he is not having an affair its only that those girls are oppssed with him since he is very social..if I complain he says am over reacting.I threaten to call off the relationship but he promised to change…am still in campus and am nor that financially stable if I walk out how will my baby survive…plz advice

    1. Hi Emmy, that is a very
      Hi Emmy, that is a very delicate position to be in.

      It sounds as though you are not sure about your relationship. You don’t trust your partner but you feel you still need his support.

      Take time and think about your options, think about the outome of every option, then make an informed decision on what you want.

      Being in unhappy relationship is unhealthy for both you and the child. Talk to a trusted friend or family member to get further support and ideas.

      All the best.

  56. hi,nlikwa na chali bt
    hi,nlikwa na chali bt tunaishi mbali ako na beshtake en he told me nitrust uyo beshtake,1day uyo beshte akaniita nmpikie nkaenda nkapika tukala afta supper 2kaendelea kupga story den the boy wanted to rape me nikafight nkamanage kuepa.imidiatly nkakal chali wangu nkamwambia dat story akanambia ati iyo n plan nlikua nayo na ivo ndo akamaliza istil luv hm bt cez mface tena nmwambie bcoz alinhrt sana wat shld i do?

    1. Niaje Fei, pole ulihave ku
      Niaje Fei, pole ulihave ku undergo hio story yote, Sa zingine inakuanga ngumu kumake watu watutrust ata kama tunawaambia ukweli. Huezi fanya kitu yoyote kama hakutrust coz hio sio makosa yako. Take time ndio uweze kuheal na kumove on. Soma hii article itakuhelp https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/after-the-break-up .

  57. i hav a lover, we’ve luvd
    i hav a lover, we’ve luvd each other 4 da 2yrs. bt am suspecting the guy is cheating on me with a certain girl. am stressed coz ‘ve already introduced him to my family members. plz help!!

  58. hi my ex galfred keeps on
    hi my ex galfred keeps on informing me all the things that are happening around her day in day out..i always ignore her since she is married and i dont want any trouble with her hubby nor with my gf…so is there anything wrong with her telling me all the happenings yet she has a husband who she can share with?

    1. Hi Simon,

      Hi Simon,

      It all depends with the kind of relationship you have with her.

      If you feel she is going to far and you are uncomfortable it would be best to let her know that. If you feel it might affect your current relationship then it is your duty to put up the necessary boundaries.

  59. My man cheats on me through…
    My man cheats on me through phone but when I ask him,he gets angry n walks away..help a friend

  60. My partner is cheating is…
    My partner is cheating is cheating and it hurts so bad. I choose to leave but am thinking of going back I still love him. The worst thing is that this was not the first time…

    1. Hi  Dorine, so sorry about…

      Hi  Dorine, so sorry about this. You need to think about what going back will mean especially if he this was not the first time. Is he sorry about this? Has he committed to not allowing this to happen again? Take sometime and think about what you want in a partner and a relationship, then decide whether the right thing is to go back or break up. We wish you all the best. Check this out;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/knowing-when-to-break-up

  61. How do you deal with a…
    How do you deal with a perennial cheating husband who cheats anytime he has the chance to??

  62. My husband no longer wants…
    My husband no longer wants to have sex with me. He always complains that he is tied, stressed or he is unwell its now more than 3 months! Is this a sign that he is cheating or I should just trust him n give him time?

    1. Hey Lindah, it is not…

      Hey Lindah, it is not possible to tell whether your partner is cheating on your or he is just stressed and tied as he has mentioned. Intimacy is an important part of a relationship, and for this reason it is important that you talk with your partner to try and address the issues that may have led to his reduced sex drive and to also agree on a way forward. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

  63. My partner has not been…
    My partner has not been having sex with me for the past 8 months could he be cheating on me.

    1. Hello there, thank you for…

      Hello there, thank you for reaching out to us. There is no way to know for sure if someone is cheating on you. The best thing you can do is try to communicate with your partner. Be honest with them about your suspicions and your feelings along with your fears. I know this can be scary to bring it up but try to just tell them why you suspect something is wrong and not just accuse them a cheater. Generally if we hold on to our thoughts you might take things the wrong way believe something without knowing if it is real or not. 

  64. mine is when i her, she will…
    mine is when i her, she will never reply xo i dont know the problem

    1. Hi Ken, maybe she needs time…

      Hi Ken, maybe she needs time and space to think about it, then you can try again.

  65. I caught my gf sending…
    I caught my gf sending message to another guy that she wants to come over to his place to spend sometime with him and probably pass the night ….when l confronted her she is telling me there is nothing going on between them and that she can swear that its me she love pls am confused help me

    1. Hello John, thank you for…

      Hello John, thank you for reaching out to us and we are sorry that you are going through such a hard time. There is no way to know for sure if someone is cheating on you. The best thing you can do is try to communicate with your partner. Be honest with them about your suspicions and your feelings along with your fears. I know this can be scary to bring it up but try to just tell them why you suspect something is wrong and not just accuse them a cheater. Generally if we hold on to our thoughts you might take things the wrong way believe something without knowing if it is real or not. 

  66. I met a girl on facebook &…
    I met a girl on facebook & we got talking I told her I love her & she also said that she loves me too, me myself am in love with her she asked me to send her money to come to Lagos , but am scared because a similar thing has happened to me before where sent a girl I met on Facebook ten thousand naira & till tomorrow she never came so I don’t want the same thing to happen to me again, but I really love her plss what do I do?

    1. Hello Emeka, thank you for…

      Hello Emeka, thank you for reaching out to us. We are so sorry to hear that you have had a difficult time in the past. Unfortnately, there is no test to know if someone is being genuine or not. You really need to weigh the pros and cons. What is the worse that could happen if you do not send the cash, what is the worst that could happen if you do.

  67. Am in a long-distance r/ship…
    Am in a long-distance r/ship on valentines I made a surprise visit to my hubby since it was his birthday only to find ladies clothes in his suitcase. I hate being cheated and I love him pls help

    1. Hi Nevin, thank you so much…

      Hi Nevin, thank you so much for reaching out to us and we are so sorry to hear about what you are going trough. Before assuming that he is in fact cheating, have you confronted him regarding who’s clothes they are?

  68. I was with a girlfriend for…
    I was with a girlfriend for four years and was making plans to propose to her. Then one day, she said she wanted to take a break to figure things out. That was about four years ago. She got married about two years after her “break” to a coworker who I later found out through the help of hackgoodnesstech on insta, gram a pro tech guy that she had been cheating on me with the whole time we were together. I was devastated at the time, but now I think it was all for the best. Also, it’s a small world, because her husband is cheating on her with someone I know. Thanks karma!

    1. Well, Peter, I didn’t see…

      Well, Peter, I didn’t see that end coming! The most important thing in this is that you have healed and moved on. Continue focussing on your healing and well-being. 

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