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(C) Love Matters | Rita Lino

Is it love?

Love is a powerful, positive emotion. Like all emotions, you may experience it differently depending on your age, the relationship you're in, and the kind of person you are.

Loving someone isn’t the same as being in love with them.

Being in love is the intense feeling at the start of a relationship, when you only see the positive things about the other person and walk around with your head in the clouds. This feeling can be so intense it actually hurts – especially if the person doesn’t feel the same way about you.

The feeling of being in love develops over time, and becomes a deeper, steadier, tender feeling for the other person – you love them.

Love develops in stages, and doesn't always follow the same pattern. But in most cases love begins with the passion of sexual attraction, then the dreamy, overwhelming 'in love' stage, and finally the deeper attachment that develops over time and can last for years – sometimes for a lifetime.

Read also: 5 signs of healthy love

Are you in love?

When you’re in love, you think about the person you’re in love with all day. You think everything they do is wonderful. Being in love can make you feel on top of the world, but it can also make you nervous and edgy.

You get a strange, restless feeling when you see the person. You might even get stomach ache. You can’t help smiling. You don’t know what to say when you see them – or you talk too much because you’re trying to impress them.

If all this sounds familiar, you’re probably in love!

Scientists have tried to find out what makes us feel this way, and what happens to our brains when we're in love. They found that really does go to our heads: our bodies produce more of certain hormones like oxytocin, commonly known as the 'love hormone'.

Read also: 9 useful tips to talk to someone you like

Making love

Having sex is also called 'making love' because it's such an important part of a romantic or intimate relationship. But love and sex aren't the same thing – you can have one without the other. Many people only have sex with someone they love, but you can also have sex out of lust – just for the pleasure of having sex. Still, most people find deeper pleasure in having sex with the person they love.

Read more about making love.

Did you learn something new?

Tue, 04/14/2015 - 03:19 am
hi love matter how can I forget bad ting my wife did on me; she was hurt me so badly but now she is not with me; she ia with my famly
Tue, 04/21/2015 - 06:35 pm
wow. . there iz a gal wu keeps on sending her friendz to come greet but never got the courage to let her know that i lav her how can i make it to win her??
Fri, 05/29/2015 - 04:49 am
hi,I write becos I need u to advice me ..I read an article on this site an got information abt myself.I hvnt had sex for so long. and do notice discharge fro. ma pennis wen ever I am in d bathroom. You called one name I cnt remember now..however' I'm in a relationship now.And ma gf dnt want sex.she said until we get married.she is her 2nd yr @university.I ended up masturbating..which I dnt like doing.. of course I prefer sex .but dnt wnt to cheat on ma gf..what do I do..I am seriously burning.. dnt wnt to loose her cos I feel cheatingb might make me go for d oda who offer sex...I dnt like to masturbate but find myself doing it when. ever I feel urge for sex...pls what do I do?
Hello there, have you talked to her about this? Maybe the two of you can find a solution together, like mutual masturbation, or outercourse, or oral sex. Talk to her about your concerns. Don't pressure her. But maybe you can find a way together that works for both of you.
hey love matters am in love with a guy.we have date for long time.but he have a kid wid her ex annoy me coz he keep on meantioning name of her ex does it mean he still love her
Rozie, he has a child with her. So he will always have a connection with her, because of the child. Which is great, because it means he cares for his kid. But it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you.
Am i love ds guy bt i feel lyk hes slf-fish cz hes alwys lyng and he nvr keep his promises. Whn i ask hm y he jst say lets leave it
i am 21 nd in a big mess in terms of in luv with a 26 yr old lady who is engaged bt she doesnt have kids .....its been 5 months now nd still seeing each a universty student nd i keep on falling for her despite her marital status...we have had sex a couple of times gone out clubbing spent valentines together.....i cherish her so much...i dnt know wat to do pliz help me
Tue, 06/02/2015 - 04:08 pm
Am 20yrs thea is dis 16yr old gal whom am madly inlove with bt a feel guilty abt it, i feel lyk comtn a crime. i see her very yung, advice me pliz
Thu, 06/04/2015 - 12:39 pm
If you are talked your idea if i talking my idea every night i feellling sad when my wife is absent but when she is present i feeling happy
Tue, 06/16/2015 - 12:07 pm
Hi Love matters, i met a lady in one of ma working places. we had a friendship for abt 2months .as we were mingling together ,I was felt in love for her.openly i expressed and revealed ma luv to her.unfortunately she told me that not ready for anyrlship.what can i do know and i really fell strong love to her surelly Liz help???
Csam Ninho
Mon, 06/29/2015 - 08:05 am
Pliz help me.i only feel love only when a near my lady n i do give up easily even if the mess is equal to an ant.whats wrong with me?
She, sorry dear, we can't tell you what to do. You need to figure out what you want. Take some time to think about what your marriage needs to work again. And if you are willing to risk everything for someone else. Don't make a quick decision. All the best!
hi, am in love with a certain lady that much.. she told me she love me too bt already she has someone. she told me she cnt leave that guy too.. what can i do?? help me..
great excerpts.nice n detailed analysis giving a reliable orientation on love,love matters n love making.kudos
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