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Safe sex is sexy

People sometimes complain that using condoms reduces their sexual sensation. Well, here are some tips to make things wetter, because wetter is better!

If you’re planning to use lubricant, make sure it’s water-based. Oil-based lubricant can damage latex condoms, leaving you vulnerable to sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.

Flesh to flesh?

Before putting on your or his condom, put a bit of water-based lubricant inside it. The squishy lubricant will create a flesh-to-flesh sensation. Don’t use too much though, or the condom could slip off.

A tasty mouthful

Add flavour based lubricant on the outside of the condom to make oral sex tastier.

Why is wetter better?

Plenty of lubrication reduces the risks of small tears that can be the result of too much friction while having sex. These tiny tears around the vagina or the anus provide openings for all kinds of STDs. So, lubrication makes sex not just more fun, but also safer!

Safe days begin from the onset of the periods until the 10th day. and 3days after ovulation. But the truth is they are not the best birth control method since one can still get pregnant at any time of the month. It therefore important for one to consider other methods of birth control.
Hey Joel, Thank you for the feedback. What exactly is the issue/problem with STIs?STDs? If you suspect you could be having an STD the right thing to do is seek treatment at a medical centre. Check out the following article for more information. https://lovematters.co.ke/safe-sex/stds-stis

Hi There, Yes unprotected oral sex can cause one to get infected with an STI. It is important to use protection if you are uncertain of your partners status or whether or not they could be infected with an STI. You can use dental dam-a piece of latex to cover the vagina. Check out the following article for what is safe and what's not;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/sti-prevention/staying-safe

Hey Naomi, dry sex can be painful and it can also lead to small tears inside the vagina or anus which expose one to Sexually Transmitted Infection. It is advisable to use lubrication like KY Jelly which makes penetration easier and pleasurable for both partners. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/dry-sex-women-at-pains-to-please

Hi there, it may happen when partners have intercourse or vaginal sex and the vagina is not sufficiently lubricated before penetration. Sex when the vagina is not lubricated is dry sex and this can cause discomfort or pain for the female partner. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/dry-sex-women-at-pains-to-please

Hi Elias, sex is better when partners talk to each other about it including during sex. Find a good time and talk with your partner about what you want during sex, it just might be she doesn't know what you like or how you like it. Also, getting wet is usually the result of arousal. Again, you need to talk to your partner and get to know what gets her aroused especially because what arouses one person may not arouse another. You can also consider using lubrication which can be purchased at a pharmacy. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/foreplay-dos-and-donts

Tue, 10/23/2018 - 05:01 pm
why is it so that when I meet with my partner I can't wet myself? I found him complaining that i was not in bed psychogicaly may I was thinking of something else....I can't understand because I had missed him for sometime and yet I can't wet myself.

Hi Zippie, getting wet is the result of getting aroused. It helps to get to know what gets you aroused and then share this information with your partner. You could also consider using artificial lubricants which can be purchased at the pharmacy. Remember, arousal is an important part of enjoying sex for both partners. Have a look at the following articles;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/foreplay-turning-up-the-heat


Hi Jeff, having sex without a condom can expose one to Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). If you feel you were expose to the risk of getting infected with an STI including HIV, wait for 14 days and then get test to see if you were infected or not. https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/sti-prevention/staying-safe

Hey Ian, do you mean how do you get your partner aroused and ready for sex? This is known as foreplay and it is an important part of great sex particularly for girls. Foreplay plays an important part in get your partner aroused and ready for sex. It includes activating such as hugging, kissing, caressing, undressing among other activities. Check out the following;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/foreplay-turning-up-the-heat

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