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Am I pregnant?

If you’ve had sex without using a contraceptive, there’s a chance you could be pregnant. How can you find out if you’re pregnant? And what can you do if you are?


  • Have you had sex without using any form of contraception?
  • Are you on the pill and you’ve taken antibiotics?
  • Are you on the pill, and you’ve vomited or had diarrhoea within four hours of taking it?
  • If you’ve had sex and the answer to any of these questions is ‘yes’, there’s a chance you could be pregnant.
  • Have you had unprotected sex and worried you might be pregnant? Read more about Emergency Contraception or the morning after pill

If you want to be pregnant: wait and see if you’re in luck! You can buy a pregnancy test from the chemist or drug store.

I am pregnant – now what?

If you were planning to get pregnant – congratulations! Head over to our section on pregnancy where you can find detailed information about what to expect.

For many people, though, pregnancy can come as a surprise. It’s easy to forget about the condom in the heat of the moment. Even if you use contraception perfectly, sometimes it just doesn’t work.

Either way, if you unintentionally get pregnant, you need to decide on what to do.

There are three options:

  • You could keep the baby.
  • You could deliver the baby and give it up for adoption, or to a family member.
  • You could have the pregnancy terminated (an abortion).

Whatever you decide, you need to think carefully about the next steps. Talk to someone you trust. Someone who can give you advice and support; preferably an adult such as your mother, an aunt, a friend, your partner, or your doctor. Someone who won’t judge you for the choices you ultimately make. In the end, you’re the one who has to make the decision.

It’s always best to talk your decision through with someone you trust. The surer you are of your decision, the better you will feel afterwards. Make sure you are the one who makes the final decision and do not settle for anything less. Don’t let anyone pressure you into a decision you don’t feel comfortable with.

Keep the baby

You could decide to keep the baby. This means thinking about the future: what will you have to put into place to ensure you can take care of a dependent? Do you have a plan and a social support system for instance from the baby’s father, or from family? What are the short-, mid-, and long-term implications for your life and plans? What about your education and career? Will you have enough support – from the baby’s father, or your family? Will you have enough resources to live on? If you have a partner, what do they think? Do they want to keep the child? How many children do you have already? Is it safe to have another? Is the foetus healthy? Are you healthy?

And the most important question: do you want this child?

Give the baby up for adoption

You could also have the baby adopted. Again, you need to think carefully, considering all your options. If you decide to take this option, how will you find someone to adopt your child?

You could contact an official adoption agency and have your child safely and legally adopted through the state. They will then take you through the process and explain what happens in adoption cases. They will ask you to sign a consent form and arrange a suitable plan for how you can get the baby to them once it is born. In most cases, adoption centres can make arrangements for you to leave the baby at the hospital, where they will collect it.

If you’re still very young and you live with your family, it helps if you can be honest with your parents. As a minor, you may be limited in some of the options you can consider. They may want to help raise the child or, if not, perhaps they can help you decide what to do. If it’s difficult to tell them, perhaps another family member or family friend could help you break the news.

Under no circumstances should you just abandon a child. Doing this is illegal and it is always better to leave a child with a hospital, adoption agency, or church, so the child can be taken care of.

End the pregnancy (abortion)

The third option is to have an abortion. Like the others, this is not an easy decision to make, and you may need some time to think it over. But don’t let anyone choose for you. This is about you, your body, and your choices, so in the end, you have to decide for yourself. Read more about the different types of abortions.

Your decision

There are no right or wrong answers to these questions. You should decide what feels right for you. If you’re really struggling, try talking through your options with someone you trust.

Did you learn something new?


Hi Gloria, when you become pregnant you stop menstruating. On the other hand there are various reasons that can make ones period to delay including, using birth control, change of environment, excessive exercising, hormonal issues, body weight changes among other reasons. Have a look at the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/menstruation

Hi Pat, Counting safe days is one of the most unreliable ways to prevent pregnancy, as menstrual cycles change constantly. So unless you have an extremely regular cycle, or use ovulation tests, you really can't know for sure when your safe days are. So, yes you can get pregnant. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/birth-control/choosing-the-right-birth-control/11-most-common-contraception-myths
Hey, Everyone respond to changes that come with being pregnant physical, emotional and hormonal. During pregnancy one may experience heightened emotions, both positive and negative. Others feel more depressed or anxious. These drastic and sometimes extreme changes in emotions is what is referred to mood swings. Many pregnant women find that these emotions appear around week 6 to 10, they ease in the second trimester, and then reappear as the due date approaches.
I have not received my periods... I feel nausea but I used condom. Could I be pregnant? If so how do I abort it without surgery? Plz help

Hey Nancy, one can't have their menstrual period while pregnant. A missed period is one of the early sign of pregnancy. Some women do have vaginal bleeding during pregnancy and may seem like a regular period. However Vaginal bleeding during pregnancy is not the same thing as menstruation.It is important to consult your medical provider when one experiences vaginal bleeding during pregnancy. The most sure way to determine if one is pregnant is by getting a pregnancy test do.

Lynee, It is really not possible to tell what could be going on. Since it has been longer than 6 months you need to visit a specialist, a Gynecologist who will carry out tests and be able to advice you and your partner. We wish you well. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts
Hi Nicole, Other than pregnancy there are other causes of a delayed period including; excessive weight loss or gain, low body weight is also a common cause of missed or irregular periods, eating disorders, increased exercise, emotional stress, illness, travel, Medicines such as birth control methods, which may cause lighter, less frequent, more frequent, or skipped periods or no periods at all, hormone problems and changes.
Fri, 11/17/2017 - 04:09 pm
Hi...I just had sex from..1st this month....feeling tired every morning...now since 14 I have been having spotting.....could I be pregnant because my days are not yet..please help
Hi,I had slight bleeding ,abdominal pain some headach but after 3weeks I heard athing coming out from ma stomach and I went to the toilet but thing had shining and looked like achickenliver ,what was that ? but that was my first day to play sex.
Hi,my belly is growing big have being using depo...my breast are tender,I feel baby kicks in my body....have done urine tests shows negative..have gone for the scan shows am OK nt pregnant,..am confused because my stomach becoming and the kicks what could be the problem.....
Hi Cecy, I can't really tell what you test is negative and the scan doesn't show anything yet you feel the kicks. I suggest you seek a second opinion from a different doctor or health facility to see if the tests will agree or give different results. Also, all birth control methods have a failure rate, which means even when you are using a birth control method you could still get pregnant.
I last had sex on 3rd.dec aweek ago,but im feeling contractions in my stomach,hungry all the time,sleepy.but stil waiting for my periods which have not yet passed.im i pregnant?can a 9 day pregnancy be tested.
Hey Zawad, I can't tell whether you could be pregnant or not. Best thing is to wait for your periods and if they don't come you can go on and have a pregnancy test. Typically, tests are done from two weeks but there are those that may detect earlier than this. Talk to your medical provider to see what options they have.
Hi! I last had my periods on 6 Nov ember ( irregular)and I have a feeling I could be pregnant. I badly need a baby and can't consider a pregnancy test because I'm afraid I'll be disappointed
Hi Joy, A test is best option when you are in doubt but you can also choose to wait a little longer before getting a test for purposes of confirmation. we do wish you the best. Have a look at this article on more tips on getting pregnant;- https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts
Hi Mary, have you considered other options aside from abortion including carrying the pregnancy to term and then giving up the baby for adoption? Do visit a Marie Stopes Centre where you will receive further support. You can also call them toll free on this number 0800720005 or WhatsApp them on 0709819000. Check out this article for additional information;- https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/abortion
Jane Karanja
Sat, 01/06/2018 - 08:36 am
I took Postinor 2 one day after my ovulation date and started experiencing brown discharge 9 days later. Then 3 days later I started to bleed, it was mixed with the brown discharge on the first day and on the 2nd day it was heavier with blood clots in it. It lasted for 2 days but 3 days later I am still getting brown discharge. The bleeding started about 1 week before my period was supposed to start. What is going on, am I pregnant??
Hi Joy, a missed period is an early sign that you could be pregnant. If it has already been 14 days since you had unprotected sex, consider taking a pregnancy test to be certain.
Hi Jane, Postinor 2 when taken, as a side effect will alter your cycle where it either comes in early or alittle late. The texture and color are within what normally expected. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/emergency-contraception

Hi Felly, If you have unprotected sex when you are not on any birth control method you could get pregnant. However, it may take a couple of months to get pregnant after one stops using Depo-Provera. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/shot

Hey Lyn, Are you currently using a Birth Control method? A Birth Control method can alter your period, however, if you are not using any method, there are other reasons that can cause an irregular period. These include, change of diet, weigh gain or weight loss, excessive exercises, change in environment among other. 

Hey Tecla, I am not able to tell what the problem could be. If you have been trying for the entire year to get pregnant, it maybe important to visit a specialist for a check up and advice. In the mean time have a look at this article that provides tips to increase your chances of getting pregnant;- https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

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