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Safe sex: do’s and don’ts

By Steph Haase August 16, 10:53 am
Safe sex sounds a bit boring. Sex should be exciting and satisfying – but safe? Well, if you imagine the kind of stress an STD or an unwanted pregnancy will cause you, being responsible about sex seems like a small price to pay…
Go Double Dutch

Going 'double Dutch' means using two forms of contraception when you’re having sex, for example, the pill and condoms. Condoms are the best way to protect yourself and your partner against STDs during intercourse, but with typical use, 14 per cent of women get pregnant when they use condoms as their only birth control method for a year. So combining condoms with another method is a surefire way of protecting yourself from STDs and unplanned pregnancy.

Talk to your partner about it

If you want to have safe sex, you need to talk to your partner. Talking about condoms and other forms of contraception may seem a bit embarrassing for you, but it's much less awkward than a pregnancy scare or itchy, painful genitals!

Also, you should talk to your partner about their sexual history: how many people did they have unprotected sex with, do they get regular check-ups and STD test and what kind of birth control do they prefer? And just as with talking about condoms, there's nothing embarrassing about being responsible and staying safe and healthy!

Know the basics about STDs

You may have heard some tales about sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Like, as long as someone looks healthy and their genitals look fine, they probably don’t have an STD. Wrong! Or if you wash your genitals before and after sex, it will stop you getting an STD. Wrong!

It helps to know some basics about STDs if you want to make the right decisions. What they are, how you can get them and how you can protect yourself from them. And know what the myths around STDs and safe sex are. That will also help you in case you have to convince your partner to use condoms.

Make condom blunders

Many things can go wrong when you use condoms, so it's important to get it right. Use a condom on a banana or a cucumber first to practice if you’ve never used one before.

Also, remember the basics: never reuse a condom – use a new one every time you have oral, vaginal or anal sex. Never use a male and female condom at the same time, they can slip. Don't use condoms that are out of date (check the date on the pack) or broken. Always hold the condom in place when you pull out the penis.

Upset the vagina

Vaginal irritation removes the normal bacteria that protect the vagina from infection. And that can increase your chances of getting an STD.

Many things can cause vaginal irritation. For example, using lots of soap or douches aren't good for the vagina.

And products that you’re supposed to put in your vagina to dry it out for ‘dry sex’ or 'vaginal tightening' will also irritate the vagina inside and make you more likely to get STDs. A dry vagina isn’t clean, it’s unhealthy.

Don’t switch between anal and vaginal intercourse without cleaning the penis or sex toy, or use a fresh condom. Some of the bacteria found in the rectum can cause irritation in the vagina.

Give up sex because you've got an STD

If you or your partner gets diagnosed with an STD, you may feel you have to stop having sex. But you don't need to. If you use a condom correctly, it will minimize the chances of passing on the STD.

Many STDs are easily treatable, but even if you get treatment, keep using condoms until you get a green light from the doctor. That's because having sex with an STD that isn’t fully cured (or reappears occasionally, like herpes), will increase your chances of getting other STDs, such as HIV.


These are just the basic facts. What essential facts do you think are missing? Leave a comment below or join the discussion on Facebook.

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gud boy
Sat, 02/01/2014 - 01:40 pm
I recently had a bad experience while using condom with a new partner. Kindly advice if there are pant-like condoms (i.e. wearable ) that will be difficult to come off during intercourse?
Hi Gud Boy, could you tell us what the problem was? Did the condom come off? Condoms come in different shapes and sizes, and sizes and fit can even vary between brands. So try different condom brands and see if there is one that fits you better. You can also try to use female condoms- there the condom doesn't need to fit on the penis at all, it sticks to the walls of the vagina. But please let us know what the problem was, maybe we can help you to find a better solution.
Hi Eddy, It sounds as though you have low libido. Libido is another word for sex drive, or someone's desire to have sex. Your libido can be affected by many different factors, for example stress or fear. It's normal for your libido to go up and down at different times in your life, or just at different times in the day. Check out this article to have more insight .
When hvn sex with my galfrd she first enjoys it in first minutes buh after one or two shorts...she complains to b painful what could be the problem....assist plz!!!! YPACA
Hi Dar, After a few rounds she might become dry and therefore sex becomes painful. You might want to think about using lubrication. Check out this article to find out more .
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