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Using condoms: do’s and don’ts

Condoms are a great accessory for sex. Yes, really! But don’t they kill the mood? Well, not as much as worrying about STDs or unwanted pregnancy!

We think condoms can be super sexy if you know how to use them. And only safe is really sexy. So find out how to make condoms a sexy part of foreplay and intercourse and enjoy.

  • … try new things

    Have you ever used a female condom? Why not give it a try! It takes some time to get used to them, but once you got the hang of it, some women even prefer them to a male condom. Because they say they feel their partner more intensely.

    Or try using water-based lubricant with your condom, which also increases your sensation, especially if you use tingling or warming lube. Or use a flavored condom for oral sex – who can say ‘no’ to chocolate after all?

  • … use condoms even if you are allergic to latex

    Condoms are that best way to protect yourself from STDs when you are having sex. They are also pretty effective in preventing pregnancies. But a few people are allergic to regular condoms made of latex. Luckily that shouldn’t stop them from using condoms altogether.

    There are plenty of other options like nitrile and polyurethane condoms. They even have an advantage: you’ll be able to feel your partner’s body temperature much better, which makes sex with a condom even more exciting!

  • … stick to the condom rules

    A bust or ripped condom isn’t sexy. So do stick to the basic rules of how to use condoms safely, and all will be well.

    • Use one condom at a time, not two on top of each other or a female and male condom together. This can cause condoms to slip, and they won’t protect properly.
       
    • Make sure the condom isn’t past its expiry date, isn’t damaged and hasn’t been out in the heat for too long. That can make it brittle. The same goes for keeping condoms in your wallet, or in your pockets for – weeks at a time.
       
    • Don’t use scissors to open the packet, and be careful you don’t damage the condom with your nails.
       
    • Roll the condom down over a fully erect penis while squeezing the air out of the tip, so it won’t burst later. Never unroll the condom before trying to put it on.
       
    • Use a new condom if you switch from anal to vaginal sex.
       
    • Only use a condom once!
  • … let condoms kill the mood

    Some people don’t like using condoms because to them, they kill the mood. But that doesn’t have to be the case. Putting on a condom can be part of foreplay, and you can help your partner put it on. Stroke the penis and then roll it on. Or if you’re more adventurous, use your mouth. To do this, place the condom over the head of the penis with your hands, and then use your lips to roll it over the shaft. You can use your hands to help if it’s too difficult. If you do this, he is unlikely to object to using a condom ever again!

    Some women have even mastered the art of putting a condom between their breasts and having their man thrust his way into the pre-warmed condom. That must take some serious skill though. Who’s up for the challenge?

  • … believe you are ‘easy’ because you carry condoms 

    You have heard the myth that people who carry condoms are easy, cheaters, players, asking for sex and so on? Well, a few people may believe that, but people who carry and use condoms are concerned about their own and their partner’s health.

    So carrying condoms is a really good thing! Plus, nothing is worse than both of you being in the mood and then having to go on a frantic hunt for a condom. Being prepared is a very smart and sexy move!

  • … let it scare away the erection

    Some guys find it hard to keep an erection once a condom is on. If that’s the case, try not to interrupt foreplay with condom-fumbling. Instead, make putting on a condom part of foreplay, or at least continue kissing and stroking each other while putting on a condom. It takes some skills, but learning them will pay off!

    Also, you might want to try different brands and sizes to find a condom that fits well and feels good. Because a good feeling is what sex is all about!

    The guys can also practice getting used to the feeling, like masturbating with a condom. And finally, stop worrying about it – it’s hard to keep an erection if you’re worried about going soft. So focus on the good stuff and enjoy the moment.

     

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Recent Comments (108)

  1. condom is good it on getting
    condom is good it on getting pregnancy and hivAIDS

    1. Hi Nelly,

      Hi Nelly,
      yep, we agree! Use condoms every time you have sex!

    2. yap condoms have and will
      yap condoms have and will always be the best when it comes to preventing stds and ofkox unwanted pregnancies

      1. Hi Salma,

        Hi Salma,
        we couldn’t agree more!

  2. It is wise for a guy 2 use
    It is wise for a guy 2 use double condom in a way of avoiding a burst?

    1. Hi Mee,

      Hi Mee,
      please don’t do that! Using two condoms at once means there is a much bigger chance of them slipping off.
      It’s relatively uncommon for condoms to burst. Make sure they are not beyond the expiry date, and you should be fine.

      1. I have never had sex without…
        I have never had sex without condom but the horror is that I always need to mastarbate after sex to achieve …..

    1. Have never used this female…
      Have never used this female condoms au r they used ,are they save and were can I get them

      1. Hi Winnie, you have asked a…

        Hi Winnie, you have asked a really good question. They are usually not very easy to find but at Government hospitals and Clinics you are bound to find them.

  3. after a shot,can someone
    after a shot,can someone change the condom

    1. Hi David,

      Hi David,
      after you ejaculated, you should hold on to the condom at the base of the penis, and take the penis out of the vagina before it becomes flaccid. And then, yes, you need to change it. You can’t reuse them. If you do, you will have a much bigger chance of it breaking.

  4. IT IS REALLY GOOD TO USE
    IT IS REALLY GOOD TO USE CONDOMS TO AVOID STDS AND UNWANTED PREGNANCIES

    1. Hi Jackline,

      Hi Jackline,
      yes, you are absolutely right. Just make sure you are using them correctly!

  5. CONDOM USE FUCKING ARE NOT
    CONDOM USE FUCKING ARE NOT INTERSTE.

    1. Hi Metun,

      Hi Metun,
      I’m sorry, I’m not sure I understand what you mean.

  6. I did nt use condom on ma
    I did nt use condom on ma first day of havn sex am i likely of gettn pregnant

    1. Hi Spinkii,

      Hi Spinkii,
      yes, actually, if you didn’t use any other form of protection, then yes, there is the chance you can get pregnant.

    1. Hi there,

      Hi there,
      yes, condoms are a great way to protect you and your sex partner from unwanted pregnancies and many sexually transmitted diseases! We <3 condoms!

  7. why is it that condoms cause
    why is it that condoms cause itching to a lady sometyms?

    1. It could be that you are
      It could be that you are allergic to latex. Try some latex-free condoms and see if this works better!

  8. When I uses a condom I finds
    When I uses a condom I finds her complaining since it may take me upto 20-25 minutes before ejaculation.What should I do?

    1. Hi Dickson,

      Hi Dickson,
      spend lots of time on foreplay! The more excited you are when you start having sex, the better, and the faster you may come!

  9. my fiancee and i prefer using
    my fiancee and i prefer using a condom to birth control pills.
    there is nothing good than using a condom.
    i love condoms.

    1. Awww, thanks Mary for this
      Awww, thanks Mary for this love confession!

  10. Condom is the best because,
    Condom is the best because, it has no side effects.

    1. Thanks for sharing your
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  11. does condom,s fluids have
    does condom,s fluids have effect.

    1. Fresy,

      Fresy,
      do you mean the lubricant on the outside of the condom? That’s completely safe.

  12. but they reduces sensation
    but they reduces sensation

    1. Purie,

      Purie,
      try latex-free or extra thin condoms, and use them with a drop of lubricant. That should do the trick!

  13. About the female condom is it
    About the female condom is it also used for one short or several

    1. Just one, just like the male
      Just one, just like the male condom.

    1. Great, that’s good to hear.
      Great, that’s good to hear.

  14. is it true dat condoms tear
    is it true dat condoms tear up whn one of the two had jelly,lotions on da body??

    1. Favour,

      Favour,
      oil near a condom can indeed make it brittle. So if you want to use lubricant, you should be using something water-soluble.

  15. Do i need to add any
    Do i need to add any lubricant when using the condom apart from it’s own?

    1. No, you don’t need to, but it
      No, you don’t need to, but it can feel great to add some water-soluble lubricant.

  16. Ooh thanks…I’ll follow de
    Ooh thanks…I’ll follow de rules always!

  17. condoms aids to prevent
    condoms aids to prevent diseases.

  18. can a condom get out while on
    can a condom get out while on the sex act

    1. Sometimes, they can slip
      Sometimes, they can slip indeed.

  19. i have friends who believe
    i have friends who believe only men are supposed to carry the condoms en ladies who have them the are not principled or immoral…

    1. Nellie,

      Nellie,
      we don’t believe so. We think that ladies who carry condoms value their health, as well as their partners health.

  20. Tips on how to have a hard
    Tips on how to have a hard erection please

    1. Hey there,

      Hey there,
      could you tell us a bit more about your problem?

  21. Thanks for that education.
    Thanks for that education.

    1. You are very welcome!
      You are very welcome!

  22. my erection ends faster in
    my erection ends faster in the first 4-5 minutes, do i have any problem related with me and if yes what is the medicine for that?

  23. i prefer using condom ,

    i prefer using condom ,
    but my
    gal dont want condom

    1. Milton,

      Milton,
      does she tell you why she doesn’t like them?

  24. Ts Not On, Ts Not Save…
    Ts Not On, Ts Not Save…

  25. it good to use but with ho,i
    it good to use but with ho,i have never use b4

    1. You can start practicing
      You can start practicing already!

  26. i use condoms bt i have a
    i use condoms bt i have a problem…wen i erect ma penis it faces left i mean it doesnt erect as those of other men..is there a problem, am so stressed with itz being like that

    1. Hi Alfonce,

      Hi Alfonce,
      it’s quite normal for a penis to face in one direction, don’t worry about it!

  27. ave got a problem of coming
    ave got a problem of coming very fast and i thk ths affect ma sex life negatively coz i don last 4 long in bed,ma girlfrend hax bin complaining about this,pliz advise

  28. using condom reduce da birth
    using condom reduce da birth rate in da country like uganda

  29. Ma chic says she doesnt enjoy
    Ma chic says she doesnt enjoy wen we use condoms and prefers having sex without

    1. Nuverz,

      Nuverz,
      try using extra thin or latex free condoms with a drop of water-based lubricant- that will make it feel like you are not using one.

  30. How can somebody know his own
    How can somebody know his own size.

    1. For condoms? That’s trial and
      For condoms? That’s trial and error. Try different brands and sizes and see what fits best and feels most comfortable.

  31. I find a hard time when
    I find a hard time when putting on a condom it doesn’t roll to my penis due to the size I struggle til I lose my erection pleas assist

    1. Jobu,

      Jobu,
      you might be using a condom that is too small. Try different brands and sizes and see what feels best and most comfortable for you.

  32. r there condoms for big dicks
    r there condoms for big dicks and small dicks or are they on the same size

    1. Shiru,

      Shiru,
      there are different sizes, and also, there are some variations between brands, so it’s really just about trying which one fits you best

  33. After using a condom it has
    After using a condom it has side effects on me since i get some rashes on my private parts. What can do?

    1. Okesh,

      Okesh,
      it could be you are allergic to latex. Try some latex free ones, or another brand and see if it improves your symptoms.
      If it doesn’t get better, please see a doctor.

  34. Hi,

    Hi,
    The condoms we buy from our supermarkets are too small thats to say they end up getting spoilt(burst).
    What should we do???

    1. Mark,

      Mark,
      try different brands.
      Also, some brands have large condoms, try these.
      And if all else fails, try female condoms.

  35. can the male and female
    can the male and female condoms be used at once???

    1. Please don’t try that- having
      Please don’t try that- having two condoms rubbing against each other increases the risk of breaking and slipping.

  36. Condom is alife saver,no
    Condom is alife saver,no stress ,i enjoy.

    1. Big thumbs up for that, Jared
      Big thumbs up for that, Jared!

  37. Thanks for the heads up. I am
    Thanks for the heads up. I am glad this platform addresses issues that we otherwise shy away from in public. I have definitely picked several points myself.

    1. Great to hear that Terryanne.
      Great to hear that Terryanne.

  38. whenever i have sex with my
    whenever i have sex with my hubby my fluid turns solid white instead of white liquid…..am i sick is there a cure for that?

    1. Hi jane. you should consider
      Hi jane. you should consider going for a ceck up.

  39. How can I know that the
    How can I know that the condom is extra thin or latex free with a water based lubricant coz i need one, please help

    1. Hi Ian,

      Hi Ian,

      There a different types of condom companies that offer a variety of condoms. Visit your local pharmacy or shop and find one that suites your need.

    1. You are welcome Brian. 

      You are welcome Brian. 

  40. Do condoms have 100%…
    Do condoms have 100% protection against HIV

    1. Hey Kass, when used…

      Hey Kass, when used correctly and consistently condoms will prevent Sexually Transmitted Infections including HIV. However because of the human factor, which may compromise the correct and consistent use, there is a failure rate. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/stds-stis/hiv

  41. I usually experience a…
    I usually experience a certain discomfort when i use CD

    1. Hey Rubby, sorry about this…

      Hey Rubby, sorry about this. This maybe caused by a lack of sufficient lubrication. When using condoms you can consider using lubricants to supplement and make intercourse easier and enjoyable. Have a look at the following article for more information on using lubricants;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/lubricant-top-five-facts

  42. It’s good to add a drop of…
    It’s good to add a drop of water before using it.

    1. Hello Tobi, thank you for…

      Hello Tobi, thank you for contributing but what evidence do you have to back up your theory? 

  43. Does it matter if the condom…
    Does it matter if the condom is cheap or expensive?

    1. Hi Jojo, 

      Yes and no. It…

      Hi Jojo, 

      Yes and no. It does not matter because as long as the condom has been manufactured through highest quality standards, it should protect against STIs and pregnancy. It matters because pricier condoms tend to come in different textures, different flavors and likely have a nicer scent. 

  44. What if after taking…
    What if after taking unwanted 72 withdrawal bleeding would not occur, if occur but for more than 5 days…?

    1. Hi Samy, 

      We cannot advise…

      Hi Samy, 

      We cannot advise on specific brands of drugs. We advise that you talk to the doctor about this. 

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